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June 2017 Moms
ellie111227
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UO Thursday 1/19
ellie111227
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Let's hear it!
Edited because my gif won't work. Ugh, somebody post this for me? I can't figure it out! https://giphy.com/gifs/ad-wants-kmart-WXtccLGTLB1NS
Edited because my gif won't work. Ugh, somebody post this for me? I can't figure it out! https://giphy.com/gifs/ad-wants-kmart-WXtccLGTLB1NS
Re: UO Thursday 1/19
I have spanked my oldest exactly twice, she went through a hellish threenager phase and we tried everything before resorting to spanking. She literally laughed in my face. I felt like shit. It didn't help/work.
It's just not a method we will use ever.
Most kids between the ages of 8 and oh I don't know... 13? Annoy the crap out of me. (And I have a now 9y/o SS). It's like they're old enough to know better but are incapable of thinking 1st. All common sense goes out the window.
I'm really hoping Victoria doesn't end up being one of those kids- that would suck lol
@Stankonia2014 I totally agree. I hold firm boundaries about things and enforce rules consistently, but i just can't square spanking with the values i want to teach my children: peaceful communication, bodily autonomy, etc. This is not a popular view with my in-laws.
My UO is that I irrationally hate baby and kid shirts with cutesy sayings on them. I won't even buy a pack of onsies if one of them says "captain adorable" or "daddy's princess" on it out something like that. (I guess my hatred of calling girls "princess" is a whole other uo.) It's not my style at all. I don't side-eye it on other people's kids usually unless it is something I find sexualizing or sexist: "I
I was reading some old classic bump drama threads and I came across one where the boyfriend was planning on catching the baby (in a hospital with doctors supervising). Everyone jumped all over this like it was the craziest thing ever. So it appears my opinion is unpopular but I see nothing wrong with this. DH caught our son. Everything was going smoothly and the midwife put her hands behind his to aid. The only reason we arent attempting that this time (again if everything is going smoothly) is that I want to do it myself. Unpopular opinion number 2... I think its super cool to deliver your own baby (Kourtney Kardashian style).
My UO is weird because I'm doing it - generally I do not like gender/sex reveal parties. I think it's cheesy. But we are doing one because it's the first grandchild for my inlaws and I'm pretty sure I will be one and done with kids, so I'm kind of over celebrating this one. Basically, I'm doing a gender reveal for them. But my husband and I will be surprised as well so the whole family can find out at once.
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
I absolutely loathed all of the onesies that said things like "princess" on them, but DD is a total princess and daddy's girl so they suit her.
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
My UO? I like folding laundry. It's soothing. I don't have any big dramatic opinions that I feel are unpopular today.
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
@kassyfry, I was adamant about no character clothing, until like @FSUNole31 noted until my kids discovered them. DD3 lives in her Paw Patrol or Peppa Pig shirts, DD1 loved Yo Gabba. It makes them happy, meh, whatever.
I can agree with the saying onesies, like 'I'm a boob man.' Won't be caught dead putting my kid in one.
I will not teach my children because they aren't allowed to do something, we adults aren't allowed to it. They know the difference. Take swearing for example, if I do it, doesn't mean they can do it. And they get it, they will say "we aren't allowed to say that!" When they hear people swearing. My kids will never be taught to believe we are on the same playing field.
I am team parent and discipline your kid how you feel works best, but for the love of God, discipline!!!
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
I do, however, judge aggressive spanking. I was spanked by a babysitter as a child with a wooden spoon. Listen lady, my own parents don't spank me, WTF makes you think you can and use an object at that.
I also have an cousin who will yank her children up by the arm and swat them numerous times for what I deem typical children behavior.
I don't think anyone should be spanking their child extremely often (e.g., daily). I also think if done in a calm manner to demonstrate/provide consequences for poor behavior it can be quite effective. The difference between a child hitting and an adult spanking a child to discipline SHOULD be that the child is impulsive/lashing out where an adult is calm and disciplining yet also still loving.
One of twins loses it when I raise my voice at him after I've asked firmly yet nicely, threatened consequences, and finally go to put him in time out in his room, he will continue to disobey and after a while we figured out he doesn't feel loved when we hand out consequences... now he literally asks for a hug, we give it, and then he will take himself to time out without debate or falling out.
Each kid is different and even with twins we've had to learn to parent and discipline differently. It may seem like we are harder on one vs. the other but we know how they push boundaries and how far they tend to take it.
To each their own, I don't judge spanking unless it is out of anger/frustration in the moment or excessive.
1. I don't feel like I have ever "spanked" my child, but she has definitely been popped on the bottom (over clothes and diaper) and on the hand when I needed to get her attention immediately.
2. My child is VERY sensitive, so 99% of the time a firm tone and/or time out work more effectively.
3. I was abused as a child (by my mother), and it was called "spanking" so I shy away from it. My mom would spank me out of anger and it would get abusive very quickly. I will NEVER spank my child when I am feeling angry. I have too many of my mother's personality traits unfortunately, that I just don't feel comfortable with that.
My dad ended up halfway tackling him in a neighbors yard ~ 15ft before the main road... I'll never forget him fuming walking back towards the rest of us with my son's hand in his... he passed my son's hand to me and said 'he's your kid... but you need to handle this!'... I'm actually surprised my dad didn't spank my son.
ETA: had they been watching him without DH or I there... I'm sure he would've spanked him.
As far as original UO I'll have to think of something...
Now to think of my own U/O..,
BFP Oct 2011 - DD born July 2012
TTC again since July 2014
First IUI 9/26/16: BFP!
EDD 6/19/2017
It's a girl!
Born 6/26/17, 9lb 5oz
DS is a "hot wire" as I like to call it and can put up some behaviors thay literally make me want to pull my eye balls out, but, we're moving through them without issue and zero spanking.
Also can't stand "cutsie" shirts/onsie with sayings on them. I made it clear with our families before DS was born that those type of clothing gifts would be returned. Character ones I can see becoming difficult to avoid as DS gets a little older and I'm a little less concerned about it now. You wanna wear Mickey Mouse? Cool dude, it's fine.
My UO today: I don't understand the huge push these days for "mommy groups" "mommy play dates" "mommy101" yadda yadda. I suppose TB is an extension of that, but I don't have a desire to seek out making 35 mommy friends because I became a mom. I have a solid amazing group of women and friends in my life...with kids and without...I'm good, mommy-hood.
Maybe my opinion is contradictory because I'm on here but, whatever...It makes sense in my head!
Edit it to say: woah, that was long and, I guess in my experience "mommy get togethers" always end up with people bashing their SO or complaining about life or kids. Just not my cup of tea. Where's the wine and a hilarious game? I'm down for that.
DH: 29
DS: 18 months 4/2/2015
Baby #2 EDD: 6/1/2017
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
DH: 29
DS: 18 months 4/2/2015
Baby #2 EDD: 6/1/2017
I completely agree about stupid bodysuits for babies. It's so hard to find cute clothes, especially for little boys. DS' wardrobe is mostly Baby Gap, Ralph Lauren, and a little Old Navy. I can't stand much of anything from Carter's, Gymboree, or Target. I think it will get a little easier as we head into toddler sizes, though.
Also team no spanking. I've seen it abused waaay too many times and I don't want to be that parent. But want to point out that I don't judge those who appropriately use it as punishment (key word "appropriately"). I get angry too easily and would not trust myself. DH is team "spank if they need it" so I will leave that form of punishment to hus discretion. He is a very gentle person and would never just go off on a child.
Under no circumstances would we tolerate a grandparent spanking one of our children.
I have spanked my oldest a handful of times. She has high functioning autism and would get violent with my youngest when she was about 6m-1 year. I didn't know how to handle it the first time so I hit her butt and said "if you don't want to be hit, don't hit your sister". I felt so guilty. At that time she was only being seen by a psychologist while waiting for insurance to approve her for ABA. Anyways his advice for when she's freaking out and getting violent?
Make her a padded closet and shut her in there until she calms down. Needless to say we did not take that advice and switched Drs. And thankfully started ABA the next week. Her violent outbursts went from 3 a week to maybe once every other month.
Mom to Madison- 5 and Lillian 2....and now surprise baby #3!
I'm with @FSUNole31 and @Stankonia2014 on character clothing. Hate it but DS loooooves Mickey and Minions and Cars and I have a hard time saying no when he gets so excited over a shirt. Some battles aren't worth fighting.
As far as spanking, we decided we were only going to do it in situations where disobeying was dangerous. So far we haven't had to do it and I hope that continues. We were both spanked as kids but never excessively or often so I don't have any negative feelings associated with it.
My UO: I think people are too up other people's butts when it comes to parenting decisions. What works for you and your household may not work for others. If another mom needs to spank her kid at the playground I'm not gonna call CPS on her. And if I trust my kid enough to play in our privacy fenced in back yard by himself I don't think it's anyone else's business. I had cops come do a well check on my kid last summer because he was playing alone in the back yard while I folded laundry in the living room that has windows facing the back yard that were open at the time. I was sofa king pissed off.