This may not be an outrageous thing, but no one ever comments on my pregnancy out of call, and when they find out I am, every time, without fail, I hear, "but you're so small! I couldn't even tell!" and to this day im not sure if they think I think im fat so they're being nice, or if they really couldn't tell. Even my doctors and nurses. Not sure if I should be flattered or worried that my baby is too small to be noticed at 29 weeks haha
YOU ARE HUGE!!! - At least 5 people at work on Friday
Coworker: I thought you were already on maternity leave Me: Nope, hopefully I have 9 weeks to go Coworker: Until you're due?! Me: Yes Coworker: *looks at my gigantic belly* Seriously?!!?!
This is one of the MANY reasons I prefer to work from home. I suppose I can't blame them, though. I'm having twins and have been measuring full term for a singleton for more than 2 weeks.
2). You look so normal/decent/glowing. Girls steal your beauty. You don't look bad at all. (Is this like the most terrible backhanded bizarre "compliment" or what?!!)
Every time I see my neighbor (also DH's closest friend) he says, "What's up Preggo!" I know he's trying to be funny, but it makes me want to break all his windows with my glare.
Stop talking about how my giant baby is going to ruin my vagina. He's supposedly 4 weeks bigger than he's supposed to be, I get it. But my vagina before, during, and after baby are none of your business. How's your vag looking lately? You want to talk about mine, let's talk about yours.
DH last night to his friend. "(Insert my name here) is still SUPER Pregnant" Ummmm.....Ok - I'm only 30 weeks, and yes I'm pregnant, but #1. How can one be "super" pregnant? and #2. shouldn't that be when I'm like 1 week away from delivering YOUR baby? I gave him the worst look.
I bet that's what he's telling everyone...my wife is SUPER pregnant. Man he doesn't even know.
@direwolfmini I mean I can't be terribly mad at the man....This is our first child, and if that's the worst he's said about me/to me, then I'll take it. And maybe he is looking for sympathy, especially since this friend has a 2 yo....but it makes me think....AM I really that bad? Am I complaining too much? (I don't really care if I am or not, but it does make me think)
I saw a bunch of clients at work this week who I hadn't seen since mid December. Every... single.. one... "WHOA! You got huge!!" Who thinks this is appropriate to say in a work setting to your THERAPIST.
If laying or sitting on the couch I'll lift my shirt up so my stomach is showing and rub my belly with lotion. My husband looks over and says, "Nice gut!" Why thank you honey.
A friend of mine is due in a little over a week and someone wrote on her facebook asking if she had the baby yet. A third person chimed in with a comment about how the baby will come when it's ready and not to focus on dates...and she ended the comment with "Just enjoy this time while you can. You never know if this will be your last pregnancy"
...what?! Just..why does that need to be said? I was pretty shocked.
I saw a work colleague I hadn't seen in quite awhile (large company with a few different campuses), and he said "Hey! You've gained some weight!" Har Har. Not funny.
A friend of mine is due in a little over a week and someone wrote on her facebook asking if she had the baby yet. A third person chimed in with a comment about how the baby will come when it's ready and not to focus on dates...and she ended the comment with "Just enjoy this time while you can. You never know if this will be your last pregnancy"
...what?! Just..why does that need to be said? I was pretty shocked.
WTF?! I mean...I guess I can understand the intent behind that statement, but just no. Some of these comments just make me do a facepalm. I really wish people would check themselves before they opened their mouths.
A lovely middle aged woman asked me when I was due yesterday as I was riding the elevator down from my appointment with the Midwife. I told her March and she said "WOW!!! My daughter is due next month and she's not nearly as big as you are!" Thanks lady!
I've got a good one. Last night I wore a sleep shirt but left the bottom several buttons (belly button down) unbuttoned. This shirt happens to have vertical stripes. My husband said it looked just like a circus tent.
Fortunately I think stuff like that is more funny than anything, so I totally overreacted as a joke and had him in stitches from laughing. I think at one point I said, "It's not funny! You're not supposed to say those things to me when I'm great with child!" To which he replied "Then why am I laughing so hard?"
ETA in the same conversation my husband also said, "Your belly's so big, it has its own zip code." So yeah. That's apparently how we roll.
My fiance's grandmother has taken to lecturing me about how my family should be helping me more financially (I'm 20, and agree with my family that I'm an adult and can figure things out myself). She has also told me that my fiance and I should have waited longer to have children, knowing full well that this baby was unplanned. I don't care if she's 85 years old. Both were extremely uncalled for.
Oh, and my future mother in law and my fiance's grandmother keep saying "we" are having a baby, as in the whole family. I am having a baby. They aren't. My fiance and I have already had to have some major arguments with them about boundaries (thank god I found a man that will stand up to his family). That kind of statement shows me that they're going to try to be way too involved in my baby's life. If I hear it again, I'm knocking their blocks off.
Then of course I was once told that I shouldn't bother to breastfeed because if I do I can't take any meds for my migraines, and I'm "too wimpy" to not be on my meds. My migraines last for weeks at a time and have been known to blind me completely for several days at a time. And of course whether or not I breastfeed is a very personal choice that no one else has a right to an opinion on.
A woman (stranger) said to me, "WOW, how far along are you?!?" I told her "8 months...with twins." Her response was like "oh, yeah, I was going to say.... you're huge!" She proceeded to tell me I looked great and it was so exciting, but still.
The key part of this story is that I was in a locker room topless getting dressed when she said this. WE ARE COMMENTING ON PEOPLES BODIES IN LOCKER ROOMS NOW?????
I get comments at work daily from coworkers or customers about how big I am. Yesterday after she had a conversation about me with another coworker that I could overhear, one woman said to me "wait, you're due in MARCH??? I thought you were due in early February?! You sure it's not February?? You look like you could go any day now! I think you're wrong about your due date."
@serenity13 WTAF....we're due the same day. I've seen your HDBD photos. We're pretty close to the same size. Whoever said that is a straight up blind twat. No one has said anything like that to me, and when they do I'll be sure to tell them they are rude.
So so sorry this is happening to people already. I know it is just a matter of time for me. Grrr
@anonellis Well, that's very inappropriate. If she were even slightly pudgy, I think I would have asked her when she was due after that. I will never understand people that feel the need to remark on other people's bodies like that.
I have thus far been fortunate to not have strangers commenting on my body. But apparently a friend of mine never heard that I'm pregnant and was surprised to find out because I still look "exactly the same." I sometimes steal my fiance's shirts and apparently I don't look pregnant in them (I was a size 16 before I got pregnant and I have lost about 10 pounds during my pregnancy).
Backstory: DH hasn't had a haircut since mid-August. Mostly out of laziness, I think. It isn't incredibly long, mostly due to his hair being curly. When he washes his hair and lets it air dry, it has quite a bit of volume.
The following conversation occurred over the weekend Me: Wow, your hair is so fluffy! DH: YOU are so fluffy.
5 seconds later he realized what he had said and apologized. Probably not a good idea to call a pregnant woman "fluffy". But I just laughed because it was funny.
So this one came from an already semi-awful conversation. We had been making fun of Donald Trump, and my fiance told me that he gave it one week after Trump's inauguration before someone would assasinate him. I replied that it would probably be some angry fat feminist that was offended by something stupid Trump said. My fiance looked me right in the eyes and said to me, "Well, you have fun with that." I glared at him for a moment, and then he said while poking my belly, "What? You're kinda angry and well, right now..." He still doesn't get why I didn't see the humor in that.
So this one came from an already semi-awful conversation. We had been making fun of Donald Trump, and my fiance told me that he gave it one week after Trump's inauguration before someone would assasinate him. I replied that it would probably be some angry fat feminist that was offended by something stupid Trump said. My fiance looked me right in the eyes and said to me, "Well, you have fun with that." I glared at him for a moment, and then he said while poking my belly, "What? You're kinda angry and well, right now..." He still doesn't get why I didn't see the humor in that.
I'm pretty sure that's grounds for justified homicide.
All the grocery store cashiers look at me with gap mouth whenever I tell them I have 8 weeks left. I'm going to start throwing loose change into gap mouths moving forward.
Meanwhile the sales associate at Sephora told me my bump was perfect and I looked like a pregnant VS model. Lmao, yes I'm a huge ass beast and flattery will get you everywhere right now. I think I spent enough to earn VIB Rogue status in one trip.
I was grumbling about being sick of being pregnant a couple weeks ago to my husband. He asked, "What's so bad about being pregnant, anyway?" as if he has not been hearing me gripe for the last six months already.
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Half an hour later, he finally interrupted me by just giving me a kiss and saying, "Thank you for doing this." He is a wise man after all.
One of my biggest pet peeves that people say are the phrases "A mother always knows" and "you'll change your mind when the baby comes." I feel like giving the answer "a mother always knows" to pretty much ANY question that a pregnant woman asks is not only not even remotely helpful, but then sets you up to feel guilty when you DON'T know. And "you'll change your mind" irks me because I am a research hound, and make decisions based on research and reflection and consideration of my own lifestyle and limitations and abilities, not just by randomly closing my eyes and picking a decision out of a hat. So people, please stop telling me that I'll change my mind just because I plan to do something differently than how you think I should do it. Grr.
The last week or so, whenever I say I don't feel well, or I'm tired, DH thinks it's HILARIOUS to reply "well, you wanted this." He smiles afterwards to indicate he's joking, and I know he's excited too. But my god, don't say this to a hormonal, tired, pregnant woman!!!
@mmaru it was the same way with me last time concerning the research. I mean I spend weeks researching different vehicles, you think I'm not going to research everything i can about the biggest change in my life?! I like to know as much as I can and feel as prepared as can be expected. yes, sometimes along the way you find something different that works for you, but there is nothing wrong with going in with a solid game plan. I used to get so annoyed when mostly last generation's moms rolled their eyes at my intentions like i was just making crazy stuff up in my head. stick to your guns!
From a coworker today: "Ugh, you're belly button is grossing me out. You need to cover it with something, or don't wear shirts that are so tight. It reminds me of a turkey, and it's gross!"
I told her, I've got enough to worry about and I DO NOT CARE that you're grossed out by my belly button. Are you kidding me? No, I'm not gonna cover it with a bandaid. No I'm not going to buy bigger maternity shirts at this point. You're just gonna have to deal with it.... NOT my problem!!
Re: Never say ___ to a pregnant woman 1/7 edition
YOU ARE HUGE!!! - At least 5 people at work on Friday
Coworker: I thought you were already on maternity leave
Me: Nope, hopefully I have 9 weeks to go
Coworker: Until you're due?!
Me: Yes
Coworker: *looks at my gigantic belly* Seriously?!!?!
This is one of the MANY reasons I prefer to work from home.
I suppose I can't blame them, though. I'm having twins and have been measuring full term for a singleton for more than 2 weeks.
1) You're carrying so low.
2). You look so normal/decent/glowing. Girls steal your beauty. You don't look bad at all. (Is this like the most terrible backhanded bizarre "compliment" or what?!!)
Me: 39 DH: 40
Married: 12/6/2014
BFP#2: 10/28/15 MC: 11/24/15
BFP#3: 3/20/16 MC: 4/26/16
BFP#4: 7/15/16 DD: 3/18/17
BFP#5: 5/1/18 EDD: 1/12/19
please note that the other pregnant woman in the office, while tiny and cute, is farther along than I am.
I bet that's what he's telling everyone...my wife is SUPER pregnant. Man he doesn't even know.
DH: 37
DD: 03/17/17
DS: 12/06/19
Like..."You better be nice to me because my wife is super pregnant." I say that because MY husband has pulled the same shiz
DH: 37
DD: 03/17/17
DS: 12/06/19
...what?! Just..why does that need to be said? I was pretty shocked.
Baby Boy: coming March 2017
It's okay if you say it about yourself ;-)
DH: 33
Furbaby: Walther, 4 year old Rottweiler/Coonhound mix
EDD: 3/7/17<img
Yea, thanks.....I don't feel that big...except today i do feel like I'm struggling to get around. lol
Now cue self-consciousness....
DH: 37
DD: 03/17/17
DS: 12/06/19
Fortunately I think stuff like that is more funny than anything, so I totally overreacted as a joke and had him in stitches from laughing. I think at one point I said, "It's not funny! You're not supposed to say those things to me when I'm great with child!" To which he replied "Then why am I laughing so hard?"
ETA in the same conversation my husband also said, "Your belly's so big, it has its own zip code." So yeah. That's apparently how we roll.
Oh, and my future mother in law and my fiance's grandmother keep saying "we" are having a baby, as in the whole family. I am having a baby. They aren't. My fiance and I have already had to have some major arguments with them about boundaries (thank god I found a man that will stand up to his family). That kind of statement shows me that they're going to try to be way too involved in my baby's life. If I hear it again, I'm knocking their blocks off.
Then of course I was once told that I shouldn't bother to breastfeed because if I do I can't take any meds for my migraines, and I'm "too wimpy" to not be on my meds. My migraines last for weeks at a time and have been known to blind me completely for several days at a time. And of course whether or not I breastfeed is a very personal choice that no one else has a right to an opinion on.
Can I just say that I hate people?
The key part of this story is that I was in a locker room topless getting dressed when she said this. WE ARE COMMENTING ON PEOPLES BODIES IN LOCKER ROOMS NOW?????
Yesterday after she had a conversation about me with another coworker that I could overhear, one woman said to me "wait, you're due in MARCH??? I thought you were due in early February?! You sure it's not February?? You look like you could go any day now! I think you're wrong about your due date."
So so sorry this is happening to people already. I know it is just a matter of time for me. Grrr
Me: 39 DH: 40
Married: 12/6/2014
BFP#2: 10/28/15 MC: 11/24/15
BFP#3: 3/20/16 MC: 4/26/16
BFP#4: 7/15/16 DD: 3/18/17
BFP#5: 5/1/18 EDD: 1/12/19
Well, that's very inappropriate. If she were even slightly pudgy, I think I would have asked her when she was due after that. I will never understand people that feel the need to remark on other people's bodies like that.
I have thus far been fortunate to not have strangers commenting on my body. But apparently a friend of mine never heard that I'm pregnant and was surprised to find out because I still look "exactly the same." I sometimes steal my fiance's shirts and apparently I don't look pregnant in them (I was a size 16 before I got pregnant and I have lost about 10 pounds during my pregnancy).
The following conversation occurred over the weekend
Me: Wow, your hair is so fluffy!
DH: YOU are so fluffy.
5 seconds later he realized what he had said and apologized. Probably not a good idea to call a pregnant woman "fluffy". But I just laughed because it was funny.
Me: Death Glare.
Meanwhile the sales associate at Sephora told me my bump was perfect and I looked like a pregnant VS model. Lmao, yes I'm a huge ass beast and flattery will get you everywhere right now. I think I spent enough to earn VIB Rogue status in one trip.
I was grumbling about being sick of being pregnant a couple weeks ago to my husband. He asked, "What's so bad about being pregnant, anyway?" as if he has not been hearing me gripe for the last six months already.
...
Half an hour later, he finally interrupted me by just giving me a kiss and saying, "Thank you for doing this." He is a wise man after all.
One of my biggest pet peeves that people say are the phrases "A mother always knows" and "you'll change your mind when the baby comes." I feel like giving the answer "a mother always knows" to pretty much ANY question that a pregnant woman asks is not only not even remotely helpful, but then sets you up to feel guilty when you DON'T know. And "you'll change your mind" irks me because I am a research hound, and make decisions based on research and reflection and consideration of my own lifestyle and limitations and abilities, not just by randomly closing my eyes and picking a decision out of a hat. So people, please stop telling me that I'll change my mind just because I plan to do something differently than how you think I should do it. Grr.