Never say ___ to a pregnant woman 1/7 edition — The Bump
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Never say ___ to a pregnant woman 1/7 edition

Haven't seen this thread in a while. What are some special gems you have heard lately that make you want to say......


motherofdragons-2kjd291wintersong
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Re: Never say ___ to a pregnant woman 1/7 edition

  • Got this one today: "you get fatter and fatter every time I see you.. hopefully you can lose it once the baby is here" ....... greeeaaaaat thanks.
    motherofdragons-2
  • This may not be an outrageous thing, but no one ever comments on my pregnancy out of call, and when they find out I am, every time, without fail, I hear, "but you're so small! I couldn't even tell!" and to this day im not sure if they think I think im fat so they're being nice, or if they really couldn't tell. Even my doctors and nurses. Not sure if I should be flattered or worried that my baby is too small to be noticed at 29 weeks haha
    babyspice
  • My mom... "I don't know how you're going to make it another month and a half" 
    MrsBinPAmotherofdragons-2direwolfmininpaulie
  • You're sure you are having a girl?

    1) You're carrying so low.

    2). You look so normal/decent/glowing.  Girls steal your beauty.  You don't look bad at all.  (Is this like the most terrible backhanded bizarre "compliment" or what?!!)
    ****TW****

    Me: 39 DH: 40
    Married: 12/6/2014

    BFP#1: 1/20/15      MC: 2/14/15
    BFP#2: 10/28/15    MC: 11/24/15
    BFP#3:  3/20/16     MC: 4/26/16
    BFP#4:  7/15/16     DD: 3/18/17
    BFP#5:  5/1/18     EDD: 1/12/19
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    direwolfminimotherofdragons-2
  • Every time I see my neighbor (also DH's closest friend) he says, "What's up Preggo!" I know he's trying to be funny, but it makes me want to break all his windows with my glare. 
    MrsBinPAmotherofdragons-2jrde50eb12Ivorytower2
  • You're definitely having a girl-Your face and hips have gotten so big! 

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    motherofdragons-2babyspiceGators&BoSox
  • DH last night to his friend.  "(Insert my name here) is still SUPER Pregnant"  Ummmm.....Ok - I'm only 30 weeks, and yes I'm pregnant, but #1. How can one be "super" pregnant? and #2.  shouldn't that be when I'm like 1 week away from delivering YOUR baby?  I gave him the worst look.  

    I bet that's what he's telling everyone...my wife is SUPER pregnant.  Man he doesn't even know.
    ME: 33
    DH: 36
    DD: 03/17/17
    TTC Baby # 2: June 2018
    Gators&BoSoxnpauliejrde50eb12Burrberrymum
  • @mecoats He's probably looking for sympathy from his friends.

    Like..."You better be nice to me because my wife is super pregnant." I say that because MY husband has pulled the same shiz :|
    mecoats
  • @direwolfmini  I mean I can't be terribly mad at the man....This is our first child, and if that's the worst he's said about me/to me, then I'll take it.  And maybe he is looking for sympathy, especially since this friend has a 2 yo....but it makes me think....AM I really that bad?  Am I complaining too much?  (I don't really care if I am or not, but it does make me think)
    ME: 33
    DH: 36
    DD: 03/17/17
    TTC Baby # 2: June 2018
    motherofdragons-2direwolfmini
  • If laying or sitting on the couch I'll lift my shirt up so my stomach is showing and rub my belly with lotion. My husband looks over and says, "Nice gut!" Why thank you honey. 
    mecoats
  • A friend of mine is due in a little over a week and someone wrote on her facebook asking if she had the baby yet. A third person chimed in with a comment about how the baby will come when it's ready and not to focus on dates...and she ended the comment with "Just enjoy this time while you can. You never know if this will be your last pregnancy"

    ...what?! Just..why does that need to be said? I was pretty shocked.  
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    Baby Boy: coming March 2017


  • kjd291 said:
    My mom... "I don't know how you're going to make it another month and a half" 
    LOL I may have said this about myself several times.
    It's okay if you say it about yourself ;-)
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    kjd291hippiemama-2LoboandSuperNinja
  • A client of mine asked when I'm due...I told her March and she just replied "God you're gonna be huge by then!" LOL
    Me: 27
    DH: 33
    Furbaby: Walther, 4 year old Rottweiler/Coonhound mix
    EDD: 3/7/17<img
  • A client of mine asked when I'm due...I told her March and she just replied "God you're gonna be huge by then!" LOL
    My dry answer would have been, "Yes, that is generally how it works."
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    kiyamurph
  • I saw a work colleague I hadn't seen in quite awhile (large company with a few different campuses), and he said "Hey! You've gained some weight!" Har Har. Not funny.
  • liepertsm said:
    A friend of mine is due in a little over a week and someone wrote on her facebook asking if she had the baby yet. A third person chimed in with a comment about how the baby will come when it's ready and not to focus on dates...and she ended the comment with "Just enjoy this time while you can. You never know if this will be your last pregnancy"

    ...what?! Just..why does that need to be said? I was pretty shocked.  
    WTF?! I mean...I guess I can understand the intent behind that statement, but just no. Some of these comments just make me do a facepalm. I really wish people would check themselves before they opened their mouths.


  • A lovely middle aged woman asked me when I was due yesterday as I was riding the elevator down from my appointment with the Midwife. I told her March and she said "WOW!!! My daughter is due next month and she's not nearly as big as you are!" Thanks lady! 
    Ivorytower2
  • Co-worker of mine just said as I was going out for errands....'you look so big now!"

    Yea, thanks.....I don't feel that big...except today i do feel like I'm struggling to get around.  lol

    Now cue self-consciousness....
    ME: 33
    DH: 36
    DD: 03/17/17
    TTC Baby # 2: June 2018
  • My fiance's grandmother has taken to lecturing me about how my family should be helping me more financially (I'm 20, and agree with my family that I'm an adult and can figure things out myself). She has also told me that my fiance and I should have waited longer to have children, knowing full well that this baby was unplanned. I don't care if she's 85 years old. Both were extremely uncalled for.

    Oh, and my future mother in law and my fiance's grandmother keep saying "we" are having a baby, as in the whole family. I am having a baby. They aren't. My fiance and I have already had to have some major arguments with them about boundaries (thank god I found a man that will stand up to his family). That kind of statement shows me that they're going to try to be way too involved in my baby's life. If I hear it again, I'm knocking their blocks off.

    Then of course I was once told that I shouldn't bother to breastfeed because if I do I can't take any meds for my migraines, and I'm "too wimpy" to not be on my meds. My migraines last for weeks at a time and have been known to blind me completely for several days at a time. And of course whether or not I breastfeed is a very personal choice that no one else has a right to an opinion on.

    Can I just say that I hate people?

    Gators&BoSoxmotherofdragons-2kiyamurph
  • A woman (stranger) said to me, "WOW, how far along are you?!?" I told her "8 months...with twins."  Her response was like "oh, yeah, I was going to say.... you're huge!"  She proceeded to tell me I looked great and it was so exciting, but still.

    The key part of this story is that I was in a locker room topless getting dressed when she said this.  WE ARE COMMENTING ON PEOPLES BODIES IN LOCKER ROOMS NOW?????
    motherofdragons-2MrsBinPAkap1988Ivorytower2
  • I get comments at work daily from coworkers or customers about how big I am.
    Yesterday after she had a conversation about me with another coworker that I could overhear, one woman said to me "wait, you're due in MARCH??? I thought you were due in early February?! You sure it's not February?? You look like you could go any day now! I think you're wrong about your due date."
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    Ivorytower2
  • @serenity13 WTAF....we're due the same day.  I've seen your HDBD photos.  We're pretty close to the same size.  Whoever said that is a straight up blind twat.  No one has said anything like that to me,  and when they do I'll be sure to tell them they are rude. 

    So so sorry this is happening to people already.  I know it is just a matter of time for me.  Grrr
    ****TW****

    Me: 39 DH: 40
    Married: 12/6/2014

    BFP#1: 1/20/15      MC: 2/14/15
    BFP#2: 10/28/15    MC: 11/24/15
    BFP#3:  3/20/16     MC: 4/26/16
    BFP#4:  7/15/16     DD: 3/18/17
    BFP#5:  5/1/18     EDD: 1/12/19
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    kjd291serenity13npauliemotherofdragons-2
  • ShannonJ96ShannonJ96 member
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    edited January 2017
    @anonellis
    Well, that's very inappropriate. If she were even slightly pudgy, I think I would have asked her when she was due after that. I will never understand people that feel the need to remark on other people's bodies like that.

    I have thus far been fortunate to not have strangers commenting on my body. But apparently a friend of mine never heard that I'm pregnant and was surprised to find out because I still look "exactly the same." I sometimes steal my fiance's shirts and apparently I don't look pregnant in them (I was a size 16 before I got pregnant and I have lost about 10 pounds during my pregnancy).
    motherofdragons-2
  • @babyspice I cannot stop laughing at that GIF hahaha, fits perfectly!   :D
    babyspicekiyamurphwintersong
  • So this one came from an already semi-awful conversation. We had been making fun of Donald Trump, and my fiance told me that he gave it one week after Trump's inauguration before someone would assasinate him. I replied that it would probably be some angry fat feminist that was offended by something stupid Trump said. My fiance looked me right in the eyes and said to me, "Well, you have fun with that."
    I glared at him for a moment, and then he said while poking my belly, "What? You're kinda angry and well, right now..." 
    He still doesn't get why I didn't see the humor in that.

    motherofdragons-2
  • So this one came from an already semi-awful conversation. We had been making fun of Donald Trump, and my fiance told me that he gave it one week after Trump's inauguration before someone would assasinate him. I replied that it would probably be some angry fat feminist that was offended by something stupid Trump said. My fiance looked me right in the eyes and said to me, "Well, you have fun with that."
    I glared at him for a moment, and then he said while poking my belly, "What? You're kinda angry and well, right now..." 
    He still doesn't get why I didn't see the humor in that.

    I'm pretty sure that's grounds for justified homicide.

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    ShannonJ96sunshine507
  • The last week or so, whenever I say I don't feel well, or I'm tired, DH thinks it's HILARIOUS to reply "well, you wanted this." He smiles afterwards to indicate he's joking, and I know he's excited too. But my god, don't say this to a hormonal, tired, pregnant woman!!!
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    Ivorytower2jrde50eb12serenity13
  • @mmaru it was the same way with me last time concerning the research. I mean I spend weeks researching different vehicles, you think I'm not going to research everything i can about the biggest change in my life?! I like to know as much as I can and feel as prepared as can be expected. yes, sometimes along the way you find something different that works for you, but there is nothing wrong with going in with a solid game plan. I used to get so annoyed when mostly last generation's moms rolled their eyes at my intentions like i was just making crazy stuff up in my head. stick to your guns!
  • From a coworker today: "Ugh, you're belly button is grossing me out. You need to cover it with something, or don't wear shirts that are so tight. It reminds me of a turkey, and it's gross!" 
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  • I told her, I've got enough to worry about and I DO NOT CARE that you're grossed out by my belly button. Are you kidding me? No, I'm not gonna cover it with a bandaid. No I'm not going to buy bigger maternity shirts at this point. You're just gonna have to deal with it.... NOT my problem!!
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    MrsBinPAwintersongsunshine507browneyes88-2
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