Baby had me spoiled. Sleeping in his crib 7-9 hours straight a night. His new thing (last 3 nights) is refusing to sleep in his crib longer then an hour and sleeping in my arms feeling ALLL the time. Regression, you win. How do I fix this?!
So I put him down at 9:45 last night and he slept until 3, which is cool - he's been doing some five hour stretches lately so nbd. But after that long stretch he's usually up every two hours to nurse. Last night I put him back in the crib instead of moving him and he slept from 4 to 8!! Holy cow I feel like a new woman! I really hope this becomes a trend and wasn't just a fluke.
Baby had me spoiled. Sleeping in his crib 7-9 hours straight a night. His new thing (last 3 nights) is refusing to sleep in his crib longer then an hour and sleeping in my arms feeling ALLL the time. Regression, you win. How do I fix this?!
This is me too! She sleeps best in my arms. I'm trying to stop that. I thinks it's more about me wanting sleep and that's why I do it. I noticed it seems to occur when she goes through "leaps" (the wonder weeks app). She is going through one now at 7/7.5 weeks.
DD has been sleeping like an adult since we brought her home from the hospital, with only 2 nighttime feeds in the first week or two, moving to only 1 in an 11-12 hour period, so we have been incredibly lucky with this baby that sleeps in huge 6 or 7 hour chunks. I guess technically when they're 7+ she's STTN, which has been truly amazing. It seems like she was born with circadian rhythms, she never sleeps more than 2 hours at a time in the day even though we pull down the blackout blinds in her room for naps. It's crazy. And awesome.
Only problem is I've been dealing with insomnia at night, and since she doesn't sleep long in the day, I don't even bother trying to nap. It's ridiculous. I put her down and regardless of how the day went or how much she ate at her last feed, I am guaranteed 5-7 hours of rest if I go to bed when she does. But I REALLY want an hour or two of awake time without a baby, so I push off bed time. And then 3 hours has gone by, and I'm stressed about if she's going to wake up in 2 hours from then. So that's my predicament at the moment. She went down at 9pm, which means she will be up between 2 and 4. It's 1:30. Ugh. I'm going to be so useless tomorrow. Err, today.
Me: 33 | DH: 34
TTC #1 Oct 2015
BFP Mar 26, 2016 - DD born Nov 2016 TTC #2 since Mar 2017 DX: MF June 2019, varicocele embolization Jan 2020, good improvement (14 mil, low motility) IUI#1 Aug 2020 - BFN IVF #1 Dec 2020 (ICSI) - ER, freeze-all - 15 retrieved, 15 mature, 15 fertilized. 4 embryos frozen, all day 5 blasts! FET #1 Feb 2021 - BFN FET #2 Apr 2021 - BFP 5DP5DT!! Beta #1 13DP5DT (17DPO) = HcG 1,238. Beta #2 17DP5DT (21DPO) = HcG 8,269
I find myself repeating a mantra every time I put myself to bed. "Even five minutes of sleep will be helpful" it's helped me from overthinking how soon daughter wake up from her nap. And I've been pleasantly surprised that I've actually gotten a few multi-hour long naps in that way.
I'm going to say this and I may get flamed for it... Hell, I probably deserve to be flamed for it.
Sometimes I miss my old life. Today has been hard as hell. M cried pretty much non stop from 1:30 - 7 for no apparent reason. He's probably going through a growth spurt or developmental milestone so it's not his fault, poor thing. But I just got off the phone with H who is traveling for work and he was telling me about his trip and all the cool stuff he's doing and I can't help it - I miss my old life. And of course thoughts like this make me feel terrible so now I'm sitting on the couch crying and feeling simultaneously sorry for myself and ashamed. I would never wish this little person away and I'm sure tomorrow will be a great day so I'll probably read this tomorrow and be embarrassed but I am, in this moment, mourning my pre-baby days and the freedom that I used to have.
I'm sure I'm not the only one who has felt like this but I needed to get it out. H doesn't really understand, his life is essentially the same, and I'm embarrassed to speak these thoughts out loud to him anyway. Thanks for letting me vent!
@MrsMaryK2016 that's a completely normal feeling. In my breastfeeding support group, the lactation consultant asked us to raise outburst hands if we felt like that at some point and everyone raised their hand. Babies are hard, especially when they're at t h age where they can't really interact or play with you. It's twice as hard when you're doing it on your own (even temporarily.) Don't feel guilty, just snuggle the little one and make a list of all the times since he was born that he made your heart soar.
@MrsMaryK2016 girl I get it! We have had a hard week as h is traveling out of town this week too. To Aspen, and having a wonderful time. For real?! As I'm sitting here pumping. It's hard work and such a difference now that I can't just go and do the things I'm used to doing! Like you said though, after a hard day or two are bound to be some amazing ones. You've got this!
@mrsmaryk2016 I'm on #2 and still have those moments! It's normal and you should own your feelings and move on from them. About 6 months into our first I remember packing up things to move and finding pictures of what felt like a long forgotten life; I have my pre kids and post kids lives and they are certainly nothing alike but are equally awesome.
What I do find interesting is that DH is just having this experience/feelings now with two LOs. He still very much had his pre kids life with only one baby. Now that there's a balancing act and he has to do things like help make lunches or run bath time, etc he's suddenly overwhelmed and exhausted. So much so that he keeps telling me no to a third kid without my even asking!
I think it's really common to have those feelings.. especially for moms because I think we do most of the work and see most of the change. Outside of dinner and the occasional bath and bedtime routine, my husband has the same life... and this is our 4th! He never took all 3 of our girls anywhere together alone, and outside of when I jump in the shower or walk the dog he never has the 4 kids alone. He sleeps all night since I'm nursing and he can't help so there is no point in waking him.. so when he tells people 4 kids is exhausting or that we are definitely done because he can't handle having to do anything on the weekends outside of "relax" because he thinks I'm on vacation or something during the week (yeah right!), I want to kick him. I look at all my friends still going out whenever they want or just sleeping whenever and I long for it sometimes, but wouldn't trade my life now for anything.
@MrsMaryK2016 preach it sister! I miss it and it is hard to think that it's gone. I know a. Re normal will emerge when he's older but for now it seems so long lost. I also hope that when he's older and in sports or school or something I can make friends with kids his age so we can have social time
Has anyone had heart palpitations postpartum? I've been experiencing them for the last few days, especially while bf. They are seriously anxiety inducing. I've been reading that they can be brought on by low blood volume (need to drink more water), by stress (deep breathing maybe?), or by thyroid issues. Just wondering if anyone else has dealt with this and if you know what made it better for you?
@jsmai I had them after my surgery and up until my c section. It was horrible. I don't have to stop what I was doing and hold my chest for a second becaue my heart rate would just increase out of no where and last about 15-30 seconds. Nothing made it better for me unfortunately.
Thanks everyone! I don't know why but knowing I'm not alone helps. Misery loves company I guess.
@jsmai I've had heart palpitations off and on most of my adult life because of a slight heart murmur. They come and go but almost always are exacerbated by stress and lack of sleep. I've had some since M's birth too, obviously because of long term sleep deprivation. If you're really concerned then talk to your doctor. They'll refer you to a cardiologist who will probably have you wear a monitor for 24 hours to rule out a heart condition. Assuming everything is normal, they'll tell you to get more sleep and exercise.
@jsmai exactly what @mrsmaryk2016 said. I've worn a holter twice now where it monitors your heart rate over 24-48 hours. It just checks for tachycardia etc. My heart rate was high during pregnancy, but was just written off as my body adapting to the blood pressure changes, I wore the holter for 24 hours.
@mrsmaryk2016 I have had that thought a couple of times, especially when scrolling through fb and insta, seeing friends travelling and drinking and laughing. Makes me miss the freedom, even though I've travelled a lot and had my fair share of partying, and haven't done either in years. It might be a subconscious "grass is greener on the other side" kinda thing.
I'm going to be candid here too, I don't think I really loved my DD until she turned 6 weeks. I didn't feel love at first sight when she was born. I thought she was cute but I wasn't overwhelmed with love and I didn't feel a change in my life's purpose. She was just a cute blob, and a lot of hard work, no reward. But then she started with the eye contact, and the cooing, and today for the first time she smiled and giggled a few times and I haven't felt that kind of ecstatic happiness in a long time, it made the first 6 weeks so completely worth it and makes me want a second one already! I think parenthood is a roller coaster of emotions, and you build a relationship with your kids over time.
Me: 33 | DH: 34
TTC #1 Oct 2015
BFP Mar 26, 2016 - DD born Nov 2016 TTC #2 since Mar 2017 DX: MF June 2019, varicocele embolization Jan 2020, good improvement (14 mil, low motility) IUI#1 Aug 2020 - BFN IVF #1 Dec 2020 (ICSI) - ER, freeze-all - 15 retrieved, 15 mature, 15 fertilized. 4 embryos frozen, all day 5 blasts! FET #1 Feb 2021 - BFN FET #2 Apr 2021 - BFP 5DP5DT!! Beta #1 13DP5DT (17DPO) = HcG 1,238. Beta #2 17DP5DT (21DPO) = HcG 8,269
Dear baby, you made a sound so our super sensitive new monitor woke me up. Decided to get up since it was normal feeding time and i wanted to be ready before you got super hangry . You fell back asleep so I pumped and waited. Now I sit here and wait because I want you to sleep to learn to stretch out feedings but I really want to go in and feed you so I can go back to bed myself.
DD slept longer stretches than she typically has last night. Both long stretches I found myself waking up before her and starring at her, simultaneously hoping she'd stay asleep longer and hoping she'd wake up so I could sleep again.
Over here we were wide awake and yelly from 3am-11am and are back up at 12:15 to eat yet again. It's insane how much more he is nursing. This has got to be another growth week.
@kvruns Why don't you get a video monitor? That way you can quickly see if he's waking up or if he's just shifting position.
@SandNStarsNJ Same over here! For the first time ever M nursed from and emptied both breasts last night and he still wanted more. I weighed him on Thursday before this all started and he was 14lbs. I can't wait to weigh him again in a few days to see if it is in fact a growth spurt.
I didn't even think about comparing weights before and after! Although he seems to always be gaining weight... like a lot. We're at 15 lbs and it's only been 7 weeks.
@MrsMaryK2016 we have a Nest video monitor. We use the audio to alert and then check out video to see what he is doing. I had wanted just a normal video monitor but my H didn't like any of them and wanted it on his phone. It is nice to just get an alert when he's really crying which is what our old monitor did but it kept losing connection and waking me up middle of the night. I can't win haha
While I'm very glad my little guy has been sleeping at night pretty well his naps are crap these past 4-5 days, and especially the last 2 days. He fights during nap time and then zonks out when I like him to have awake time.
My LO sleeps 10-11 hours a night but nevvvvver takes naps longer than 15min in my arms. I try to put him down or even keep holding him and he always wakes up. Normal?
@anne11716 I don't know if it's normal, but my LO has stopped napping if we're home. At this point he's either nursing or playing. Then again he is not sleeping at night like yours so there is a difference. I say enjoy the good night's rest!
Once again B broke out of swaddle and I soothed him back but I couldn't fall asleep. Finally had him eat 2.5 hours later and right when he finished he started massive sharting so I'm holding him til it's all done and I can change him. Of course I just changed him 15 min ago before feeding. Fml.
My LO sleeps 10-11 hours a night but nevvvvver takes naps longer than 15min in my arms. I try to put him down or even keep holding him and he always wakes up. Normal?
Mine has been the same lately, she's 8 weeks today and basically quit napping in the day. She takes 15 min cat naps in her swing or crib. Unless we are out, because she always sleeps in the car and stroller.
Me: 33 | DH: 34
TTC #1 Oct 2015
BFP Mar 26, 2016 - DD born Nov 2016 TTC #2 since Mar 2017 DX: MF June 2019, varicocele embolization Jan 2020, good improvement (14 mil, low motility) IUI#1 Aug 2020 - BFN IVF #1 Dec 2020 (ICSI) - ER, freeze-all - 15 retrieved, 15 mature, 15 fertilized. 4 embryos frozen, all day 5 blasts! FET #1 Feb 2021 - BFN FET #2 Apr 2021 - BFP 5DP5DT!! Beta #1 13DP5DT (17DPO) = HcG 1,238. Beta #2 17DP5DT (21DPO) = HcG 8,269
@kvruns If b is breaking out of his swaddle, have you thought about the merlin's magic sleepsuit? A has hated having her arms swaddled since birth (even when they're swaddled next to her face). She was startling herself awake every 2-3 hours. We started using the sleep suit last week and she's been sleeping 6-7 hours per night, even last night when she's coughing and congested.
Anyone else have a stomach sleeper? I've given in for naps, bc otherwise it's cat naps all day, but I'm too scared for nighttime so we're up every hour pretty much. I know we all slept on our stomachs but it still scares me. We have a doctors appointment tomorrow so I'll ask there but anyone have experience with the oxygenater or movement monitors? Thinking about getting one, but don't know if it's reliable enough to let him sleep on his stomach still
The Merlin's Magic Sleepsuit is amazing!! My LO has been a pretty good sleeper once he hit two months but at about 11 weeks we wanted to move him into his crib thinking it would take a while for the transition and he has slept 10-11 hours almost every night since with his suit on. I swear by them now!
We swaddle tightly for sleep which helps. She goes sometimes 3 hours, but up to 6 hours at a time, though 6 is still rare.
During the day she does best swaddled, and if we put her down extremely drowsy. If we rock to sleep, it's hard to put her down. If she's too awake, she often can't relax enough on her own to fall asleep.
I am intrigued by the Merlin suit I'm just too cheap to buy one and the resale ones on my FB page are always the bigger size.
Aside from these recent seaddle breakouts B will be down from 7pm until anywhere from 1-3am to eat. He will fuss and need soothing sometimes a decent amount from 7-730 or 8 but then is often quiet
I think I've got a comfort sucker who just won't take a pacifier and chooses to continually eat. There is no way he's hungry enough to be waking every 90 minutes to 2 hours all day and night. Right? He's 7 weeks and has gained 6 lbs as of last Wednesday. That's ridiculous.
I really need at least a 3 hour stretch at some point soon.
My little guy just went 10.5 hours between feedings?! He woke up just after 1 though not really crying just being noisy cuz his hands were partially out. I tucked them and soothed thinking he'd be up soon. I was able to fall back asleep and he didn't wake me again til just before 5. Wow! Guessing he will be extra hungry during the day though
Re: Middle of the Night Musings
Regression, you win.
How do I fix this?!
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019Only problem is I've been dealing with insomnia at night, and since she doesn't sleep long in the day, I don't even bother trying to nap. It's ridiculous. I put her down and regardless of how the day went or how much she ate at her last feed, I am guaranteed 5-7 hours of rest if I go to bed when she does. But I REALLY want an hour or two of awake time without a baby, so I push off bed time. And then 3 hours has gone by, and I'm stressed about if she's going to wake up in 2 hours from then. So that's my predicament at the moment. She went down at 9pm, which means she will be up between 2 and 4. It's 1:30. Ugh. I'm going to be so useless tomorrow. Err, today.
TTC #2 since Mar 2017
DX: MF June 2019, varicocele embolization Jan 2020, good improvement (14 mil, low motility)
IUI#1 Aug 2020 - BFN
IVF #1 Dec 2020 (ICSI) - ER, freeze-all - 15 retrieved, 15 mature, 15 fertilized. 4 embryos frozen, all day 5 blasts!
FET #1 Feb 2021 - BFN
FET #2 Apr 2021 - BFP 5DP5DT!! Beta #1 13DP5DT (17DPO) = HcG 1,238. Beta #2 17DP5DT (21DPO) = HcG 8,269
Sometimes I miss my old life. Today has been hard as hell. M cried pretty much non stop from 1:30 - 7 for no apparent reason. He's probably going through a growth spurt or developmental milestone so it's not his fault, poor thing. But I just got off the phone with H who is traveling for work and he was telling me about his trip and all the cool stuff he's doing and I can't help it - I miss my old life. And of course thoughts like this make me feel terrible so now I'm sitting on the couch crying and feeling simultaneously sorry for myself and ashamed. I would never wish this little person away and I'm sure tomorrow will be a great day so I'll probably read this tomorrow and be embarrassed but I am, in this moment, mourning my pre-baby days and the freedom that I used to have.
I'm sure I'm not the only one who has felt like this but I needed to get it out. H doesn't really understand, his life is essentially the same, and I'm embarrassed to speak these thoughts out loud to him anyway. Thanks for letting me vent!
Babies are hard, especially when they're at t h age where they can't really interact or play with you. It's twice as hard when you're doing it on your own (even temporarily.) Don't feel guilty, just snuggle the little one and make a list of all the times since he was born that he made your heart soar.
What I do find interesting is that DH is just having this experience/feelings now with two LOs. He still very much had his pre kids life with only one baby. Now that there's a balancing act and he has to do things like help make lunches or run bath time, etc he's suddenly overwhelmed and exhausted. So much so that he keeps telling me no to a third kid without my even asking!
Welcomed baby girl: 06.10.14
Second pregnancy EDD: 06.16.16 MC: 10.29.15
Welcomed baby boy: 11.25.16
Nothing made it better for me unfortunately.
On on another note... I NEED SLEEP!!!
@jsmai I've had heart palpitations off and on most of my adult life because of a slight heart murmur. They come and go but almost always are exacerbated by stress and lack of sleep. I've had some since M's birth too, obviously because of long term sleep deprivation. If you're really concerned then talk to your doctor. They'll refer you to a cardiologist who will probably have you wear a monitor for 24 hours to rule out a heart condition. Assuming everything is normal, they'll tell you to get more sleep and exercise.
@mrsmaryk2016 I have had that thought a couple of times, especially when scrolling through fb and insta, seeing friends travelling and drinking and laughing. Makes me miss the freedom, even though I've travelled a lot and had my fair share of partying, and haven't done either in years. It might be a subconscious "grass is greener on the other side" kinda thing.
I'm going to be candid here too, I don't think I really loved my DD until she turned 6 weeks. I didn't feel love at first sight when she was born. I thought she was cute but I wasn't overwhelmed with love and I didn't feel a change in my life's purpose. She was just a cute blob, and a lot of hard work, no reward. But then she started with the eye contact, and the cooing, and today for the first time she smiled and giggled a few times and I haven't felt that kind of ecstatic happiness in a long time, it made the first 6 weeks so completely worth it and makes me want a second one already! I think parenthood is a roller coaster of emotions, and you build a relationship with your kids over time.
TTC #2 since Mar 2017
DX: MF June 2019, varicocele embolization Jan 2020, good improvement (14 mil, low motility)
IUI#1 Aug 2020 - BFN
IVF #1 Dec 2020 (ICSI) - ER, freeze-all - 15 retrieved, 15 mature, 15 fertilized. 4 embryos frozen, all day 5 blasts!
FET #1 Feb 2021 - BFN
FET #2 Apr 2021 - BFP 5DP5DT!! Beta #1 13DP5DT (17DPO) = HcG 1,238. Beta #2 17DP5DT (21DPO) = HcG 8,269
and waited. Now I sit here and wait because I want you to sleep to learn to stretch out feedings but I really want to go in and feed you so I can go back to bed myself.
DD slept longer stretches than she typically has last night. Both long stretches I found myself waking up before her and starring at her, simultaneously hoping she'd stay asleep longer and hoping she'd wake up so I could sleep again.
Sincerely,
Your sleepless sister in solidarity
Welcomed baby girl: 06.10.14
Second pregnancy EDD: 06.16.16 MC: 10.29.15
Welcomed baby boy: 11.25.16
@SandNStarsNJ Same over here! For the first time ever M nursed from and emptied both breasts last night and he still wanted more. I weighed him on Thursday before this all started and he was 14lbs. I can't wait to weigh him again in a few days to see if it is in fact a growth spurt.
Welcomed baby girl: 06.10.14
Second pregnancy EDD: 06.16.16 MC: 10.29.15
Welcomed baby boy: 11.25.16
Welcomed baby girl: 06.10.14
Second pregnancy EDD: 06.16.16 MC: 10.29.15
Welcomed baby boy: 11.25.16
Welcomed baby girl: 06.10.14
Second pregnancy EDD: 06.16.16 MC: 10.29.15
Welcomed baby boy: 11.25.16
because she always sleeps in the car and stroller.
TTC #2 since Mar 2017
DX: MF June 2019, varicocele embolization Jan 2020, good improvement (14 mil, low motility)
IUI#1 Aug 2020 - BFN
IVF #1 Dec 2020 (ICSI) - ER, freeze-all - 15 retrieved, 15 mature, 15 fertilized. 4 embryos frozen, all day 5 blasts!
FET #1 Feb 2021 - BFN
FET #2 Apr 2021 - BFP 5DP5DT!! Beta #1 13DP5DT (17DPO) = HcG 1,238. Beta #2 17DP5DT (21DPO) = HcG 8,269
Those of you with these awesome nighttime sleeping babies, what's your secret? I'm up every 90 minutes to 2 hours and it's killing me.
Welcomed baby girl: 06.10.14
Second pregnancy EDD: 06.16.16 MC: 10.29.15
Welcomed baby boy: 11.25.16
TTC #2 since Mar 2017
DX: MF June 2019, varicocele embolization Jan 2020, good improvement (14 mil, low motility)
IUI#1 Aug 2020 - BFN
IVF #1 Dec 2020 (ICSI) - ER, freeze-all - 15 retrieved, 15 mature, 15 fertilized. 4 embryos frozen, all day 5 blasts!
FET #1 Feb 2021 - BFN
FET #2 Apr 2021 - BFP 5DP5DT!! Beta #1 13DP5DT (17DPO) = HcG 1,238. Beta #2 17DP5DT (21DPO) = HcG 8,269
During the day she does best swaddled, and if we put her down extremely drowsy. If we rock to sleep, it's hard to put her down. If she's too awake, she often can't relax enough on her own to fall asleep.
BFP 3.8.16 EDD 11.20.16
This is not fair.
Welcomed baby girl: 06.10.14
Second pregnancy EDD: 06.16.16 MC: 10.29.15
Welcomed baby boy: 11.25.16
Aside from these recent seaddle breakouts B will be down from 7pm until anywhere from 1-3am to eat. He will fuss and need soothing sometimes a decent amount from 7-730 or 8 but then is often quiet
I really need at least a 3 hour stretch at some point soon.
Welcomed baby girl: 06.10.14
Second pregnancy EDD: 06.16.16 MC: 10.29.15
Welcomed baby boy: 11.25.16