Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
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Re: August 2017 BMB Spreadsheet
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Me: 34 / DH: 33
Married: Nov 2011
TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014
TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
Name: Erin
Date Due: 9/3 but c-section scheduled for late August
Age: 34 (35 before delivery so I'm AMA)
Location: Louisville, KY
Baby: Singleton so far as I know
Other Children: Noah (10), Liam (5), and Piper (16 months)
Team: unknown still, will do Panaroma test & find out gender
Labor Buddy: is that supposed to be someone on here? If so, my girls @mrscate88 @dmbfan46835 and @yellow1daisy from the S15 group whom I'm preggers with again!
Baby's Name: undecided
DOB:
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Me: 34 / DH: 33
Married: Nov 2011
TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014
TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
Age 27
Location Ohio
Singleton, twins, more? Singleton
Other Children FTM here
Team Blue/Pink/Green Don't know yet
Labor Buddy Husband, maybe mom also
Baby's Name undecided
Actual Birth Date
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Me: 34 / DH: 33
Married: Nov 2011
TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014
TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
Due Date- 8/11
Age- 30 now 31 at delivery
Location- Washington
Singleton, twins, more? Singleton
Other Children- a 2 year old DD
Team Blue/Pink/Green-
Labor Buddy- my husband
Baby's Name-
Actual Birth Date-
Thanks @Nxy and @bumpybump
Due Date 8@Nxy
Age 33
Location MN
Singleton, twins, more? Singleton
Other Children DD 4 and DD 2
Team Blue/Pink/Green Green
Labor Buddy
Baby's Name
Actual Birth Date
DD 1 10/2012
CP 9/2013
DD 2 6/2014
CP 3/2016
BFP 12/8/2016
Due Date 8/12
Age 30
Location New Jersey
Singleton, twins, more? Singleton
Other Children DS was born 5/21/15
Team Blue/Pink/Green Team Green
Labor Buddy Hubby and my mom
Baby's Name Hailey Rose, undecided on boy
Actual Birth Date
due date: 8/10
age: 32
location: pennsylvania
i hope just one!!!
other Children: two sons- 3.5 and 15 months
team unknown but will find out
labor buddy hubby
babys name tbd
Due Date: August 19
Age: 30
Location: Illinois
Singleton, twins, more? : just one
Other Children : almost 4 year old DD
Team Blue/Pink/Green: unknown
Labor Buddy: my husband
Baby's Name: haha. Who knows.
Actual Birth Date
Age: 31
Location: Illinois
Singleton, twins, more? : Single
Other Children : FTM
Team Blue/Pink/Green: Don't know yet
Labor Buddy: Husband
Baby's Name: Lists are going, but nothing yet
Actual Birth Date
thanks for doing this!!
1 infant loss
8/17: Our daughter was born
8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass
2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old
4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
Age: 26
Location: Ohio
Singleton, twins, more? Singleton
Other Children: FTM
Team Blue/Pink/Green: Team green!!
Labor Buddy: Hubby only
Baby's Name: Still undecided.
Actual Birth Date:
Due Date: 31st
Age: 30
Location: San Diego
Singleton, twins, more? Unk
Other Children: 1
Team Blue/Pink/Green: unk
Labor Buddy: DH
Baby's Name: unk
Actual Birth Date
Age: 26
Location: San Antonio, TX
Singleton, twins, more? Single
Other Children: 1 DD (8 months)
Team Blue/Pink/Green:
Labor Buddy: DH
Baby's Name:
Actual Birth Date:
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
Kade Wayne born July 23, 2015
MC in February 2017
MC in November 2017
Oliver Dean (Ollie) due December 17, 2018
Age: 30
Location: DFW (Azle) Texas
Singleton, twins, more? Don't know yet!
Other Children: Grayson (8) and Tenley (5)
Team Blue/Pink/Green: Not sure yet!
Labor Buddy: nobody yet!
Baby's Name: ?
Actual Birth Date: n/a
August 2
Age
35
Location
Tennessee
Singleton, twins, more?
Singleton
Other Children
2
Team Blue/Pink/Green
Labor Buddy
Baby's Name
Actual Birth Date
M/C #2 - October 2016
MMC #1 - April 2016
August 30
Age
28
Location
PA
Singleton, twins, more?
Singleton
Other Children
First
Team Blue/Pink/Green: DH=blue me=pink
Labor Buddy: husband, mom and maybe mother in law
Baby's Name: Isaac or Paige
Actual Birth Date:
Due Date : 8/22
Age : 29
Location : CA
Singleton, twins, more? : singleton
Other Children : first one
Team Blue/Pink/Green : DH slips that he's team blue, I keep thinking team pink
Labor Buddy : Husband, Mom
Baby's Name :
Actual Birth Date :
Thanks!!
Due Date Aug 19
Age 31
Location MA
Singleton, twins, more? As far as I know only 1
Other Children yes a son who is 2 1/2
Team Blue/Pink/Green team green
Labor Buddy my hubby
Baby's Name not sure
Actual Birth Date not sure
Thank yoj
Due Date August 20
Age 33
Location Vancouver BC
Singleton, twins, more? Twins
Other Children none
Team Blue/Pink/Green green
Labor Buddy my hubby
Baby's Name haven't decided yet
Actual Birth Date mine is Aug 24
On mobile
Due Date- 8/16
Age- 28/29 by delivery
Location- Alberta
Singleton, twins, more? Singleton
Other Children- a 2 year old son, Ryker
Team Blue/Pink/Green-
Labor Buddy-
Baby's Name-
Actual Birth Date-
Thanks!
Age:36
Location:North Carolina
Singleton
Kids: two boys 6 & 4
Age: 30
Location: Long Island
Singleton, twins, more? : Single
Other Children : 18 month son
Team Blue/Pink/Green: Green
Labor Buddy: Husband
Baby's Name: Brooke for a girl- undecided about a boy
thanks!
Due Date 8/2
Age 38
Location Indiana
Singleton, twins, more? Singleton
Other Children 8 & 10 DDs
Team Blue/Pink/Green. Will find out with
MaterniT21 test next week!!!
Labor Buddy Hubby
Baby's Name
Actual Birth Date
Due Date 8/22
Age 36
Location IA
Singleton, twins, more? Singleton
Other Children Hunter 14, Kaitlyn 13, Isaiah 11, Lily 8, Mason 4, Joy, 1
Team Green but hope to find out
Labor Buddy
Baby's Name
Actual Birth Date
Due Date: 8/15
Age: 34
Location: CA
Singleton, twins, more?: Not sure yet
Other Children: 4 year old step daughter
Team Blue/Pink/Green: Green for now
Labor Buddy: Husband
Baby's Name: Lincoln for a boy, undecided for a girl
Actual Birth Date: mine is 7/18
age 28
location-NY
Singleton
other kids-13 month twins
labor buddy hubby
labor buddy-undecided
actual birth date-won't know till August!
can you add me I'm on mobile!
Due Date: August 1st
Age: 27 (28 once I deliver)
Location: Oregon
Singleton
Other Kids: Just our Fur Babies
Hoping for team Blue
Labor Buddy: My husband
Baby's Name: J. Hunter for a Boy and Hannah no middle name yet for a girl
Actual Due date: won't know til it happens
I'm on mobile please add me!