We just had our anatomy scan today and everything was great until the doc located a cleft lip. He was very reassuring and said Los Angeles has one of the best surgeons and children's hospitals in the world. Still, we were both a bit bewildered, my DH nearly fainted and he had to lie on the floor for a minute to avoid it. I think he was just so taken aback by any kind of news at all - already in daddy mode. I know it's a small defect but it's a lot to process. The idea of surgery as a baby, concept of baby pictures is different, recovery at such a young age. Does anyone have experience with a baby having a cleft lip?
Thanks for the love everyone. The more I think about the possible outcomes the more scared I get so it's really nice to have the virtual support.
My procedure was postponed until tomorrow morning. Labour and Delivery was crazy busy and they had nowhere to keep me overnight.
The OB told me before I left that I'm 100% not allowed to go back to work for the rest of my pregnancy. I'm at a very high risk for early labour so they don't want to risk anything.
@sweaterboots I'm glad baby checked out fine aside from the cleft lip. Were they able to tell how severe it is? A mama from my last BMB had her baby born with one but she had other complications too so I can't really say if the other issues caused further delays or not but she did have delays in eating solids and speaking. She is making amazing progress now though! You can probably search around for a support group on facebook or whatever with moms that have gone through this so you can know what to expect.
@CherryBananas boo to the delayed procedure. I hope its quick tomorrow! And i hope the dr order to not work is not the worse thing (financially and mentally )
@sweaterboots, I have no experience, but I imagine that is tough to hear. I'm glad everything else looks good though! I'm curious about how certain they are this early?
@CherryBananas, I'm sorry you have to be done with work! I hope you can get long term disability through your company to offset the missed work. My friend had to do that when she went on bedrest with her first set of twins. Did the doctors give you an idea of how long this would help keep baby in?
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@sweaterboots no experience here but I'm sorry that things weren't expected. That must have been startling news! Big, gentle Internet hugs from me.
@pshaortao mentally I'll be ok. Financially we'll have to look into a few things. I'm not sure if I can start claiming my mat leave pay this early (not ideal anyways), or if I can get disability through DH's work.
@KMD1106 they can't say for sure. The procedure isn't even guaranteed to help - it can't hurt things but we won't know if it was beneficial until I go into labour (early labour means it was good we did it, full term labour likely means it wasn't necessary). All they know for sure is that the risk to the baby during the procedure goes up the longer I wait, which is why we decided to go ahead. I still may carry to full term, or I could go into labour next week. All this uncertainty is what's got me on edge.
@CherryBananas I hope that you end up carrying to full term so baby can cook as long as possible. Hopefully the finance part will work itself out and asap so you can relax
@CherryBananas I'm sorry you're going through this but I'm glad your medical team is on it.
@sweaterboots I'm so sorry to hear about this finding although I'm glad everything else is fine. I have known a few kids at my school who had cleft lips at birth. By the time they got to us they had had surgery years before and aside from a very small scar you couldn't tell physically. They were both in speech therapy (one moved away, one still is) but very easy to understand, they just needed some help with a few sounds. They both had cleft palates as well as cleft lips which I believe makes articulation more challenging. I'm not a speech therapist but my understanding is they were expected to need some articulation support for a while, but other than that and a small scar they are very normal kids.
@CherryBananas@sweaterboots im sorry you guys are dealing with these things. I have no information, just support. Thinking of both of you and your families.
@CherryBananas sending good vibes your way. Hoping you have a smooth procedure in the AM and have enough distraction to help with the wandering mind. Also hoping you get to claim disability so you don't have to think about finances. Please keep us updated. It was so nice to read all of the support on here for you!
@sweaterboots and @cheryle418 also sending positive vibes your way. It's hard to grasp or process a "finding" when all you want to hear is everything is "normal." I'm glad you'll both have plenty of support in managing these findings.
Random: one of my favorite times of the week is Saturday morning because I wake up about 2 hours earlier than DH, and I can sit on the couch in the quiet browsing online, reading, or watching shows that he doesn't like. I love my husband but he is the epitome of extrovert and wants to hang out all the time! I need my introvert me-time every once in a while.
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@sweaterboots my cousin's son was born with a cleft lip and palate. He had a lot of other things going on and it took a while to have his surgery because several other surgeries took priority. I remember she took tons of pictures of him with a pacifier so you could not see it at all and he is such an adorable baby. If that is the only thing they found hopefully they can perform the surgery earlier than later. I've known of several babies that have had various surgeries within the first 2 months of life. Babies are strong and determined, they really amaze me. A friend of mine was born with a cleft lip and aside from a small scar, she has no speech problems as an adult.
@CherryBananas thinking of you this morning! Praying for peace during the procedure and the waiting. Waiting is SO hard!
@sweaterboots I'm so sorry to hear that you had a scare too. I've known several kids who had a cleft lip when they were born, my best friend in elementary school even was, and like others have said, aside from a small scar, you'd never know...and even that you had to really look for! But believe me I know how terrifying it is to think of such a small little defenseless baby having to go through surgery I'm trying not to think about the possibility too much with mine.
Ive got my sonogram scheduled with the high risk specialist for Wednesday morning. My biggest hope is that the blockage they found from the first scan (4 weeks apart) has already started to resolve itself.
Quick question...my anatomy scan (with ultrasound tech only) was on Dec 5, and I just got the call from my doctor alerting me of this problem with the blockage between his right kidney and bladder two days ago, and even had a check up with my dr on Dec 19, and nothing was mentioned. I asked my doctor why the delay and she said it takes 2 weeks usually to process it all, and she was off for Christmas in between...but 2 weeks would have been my check up with her... is it wrong of me to be really offput by that and feel not as comfortable with her as my doctor now? I feel like I was lied to for 3 weeks that my baby was fine and we could have been doing more in the meantime... sorry, rant over!
@CherylE418 my anatomy scan was scheduled for a Friday at the hospital and the doctor expected to have my results by my appointment with her the following Tuesday. It could be a differences in resources/personnel available or level of thoroughness. Take from this what you will
@CherryBananas thinking of you! hope your procedure went well!
@CherylE418 I would not like that either. My a/s was reviewed minutes later by the dr and discussed immediately. I'm not sure why that would take weeks to process...
Super random- all week I've been wanting a specific pastry from a coffee shop in town. I don't like going to this coffee shop because the parking lot is crazy and my toddler is allergic to almost everything there, and gets super tantrum-y when I don't get her anything. Husband has gone three times to try to get it, they are out every time. (They are usually sold out by noon, he doesn't believe me.) So every day he has come home with totally random other pastries that he likes instead. And I feel like a total jerk because he is trying to be nice. But it's just making me mad. He's eating tons of pastries that I don't like and acting like he's doing it to be nice to me. Sigh.
Thank you so much for for all of your kind words and stories from experience. I had a big emotional purge last night of sobbing into my husband. Today we have had pangs of sadness but have really dove into nursery projects today to focus on the positive and to keep distracted. I hope you all have a great night as we enter our babies' birth year. ❤️
@kns1988 Yes, I was just talking about something similar on the Movements thread. I've definitely noticed my belly button is getting more shallow. I think, as things are growing and moving, there's some pressure there for sure. I've always had a bit of what I would describe as a "nerve shock" feeling if I poked my belly button, so I feel a version of that occasionally as it's getting pushed upon from the inside. Also, I do get some RLP that occurs kind of below my belly button. Not sure if either of these things are quite what you're experiencing.
I've started some big-time nesting already. I've been pretty focused on getting the house in order since a few weeks ago. I cleared out 3 bags of clothes and housewares for Goodwill so far, and I'm reorganizing our closets so I can get the one in the nursery cleared out. It feels so good to tackle this stuff early. My husband has also been working on plans to get some stuff done before baby, like getting the rest of our garden plots ready and a few construction projects inside. Now I'm anxious to set a date for him to paint the nursery this coming month (because if I don't, he won't do it) so we can start getting it set up.
We just put an offer in on our first house! exciting and scary all at the same time...kind of like having a baba haha anyway, I'm so excited to be able to start decorating and getting things organized (if all goes well that is). I've been wanting to for a while but there's no where to put the stuff we've gotten for baby yet! We'll definitely start going through things, again, in order to declutter and get ready. I really hope they accept our offer!
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starphish18, yeah, I was thinking it was related to my belly button stretching out. It's also definitely getting more shallow. I don't think it's RLP because it's more of a constant feeling; the RLP that I get is usually a stab around my pelvic area.
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@starphish18 there with you on the whole nesting! Ive completely redone my daughters whole room (moving out any baby items that are needed for this LO) bought her new bedding for her big girl bed and redid her closet organization. I pulled out all DD clothes NB-3/6 months have them separated by size all I need to do is wash them. I've even bought things I'll need for my hospital bag, like toiletries! I feel so productive these days!
Happy 2017 everyone! I came across this New Years 'Revolution' and there were parts that especially resonated with me, and I thought maybe others would like to see it to.
@KMD1106, @squirtgun is right. Don't take more frequently than listed on the package. The "official" max dose is 4grams (4000mg), but it's now recommended to stay under 2-3g. Also watch any other "cold" products to make sure they don't contain any Tylenol/acetaminophen. So if you're finding that you need it more than twice a day, you may want to call your doc. Feel better!!!
@kacdanz, I've kind of noticed that, too. Looks like a lot of people have asked Google if it's a pregnancy symptom, so in my unscientific opinion, it probably is.
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@WombThereItIs I am miserable with symptoms that I didn't get until late 3rd tri already at 23 weeks... I was just thinking about this last night. I have no idea how I'm going to make it about 16-17 weeks... I was almost in tears thinking about it
I had an Ergo for my first, but I won a Tula in a giveaway and overwhelmingly prefer it. Now I have 3 Tulas. I will probably get rid of my Ergo.
I used a Solly wrap for DD's first summer (she was born early May) and loved it. I got my first ring along that winter, and a water along the following spring. Love them both! I have a woven that took so long to get I never used it with DD, but I'm going to start breaking it in so I can use it when this new one outgrows the Solly.
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@Jen_Shoes, late to respond because the holidays have sadly kept me from this board...BUT regarding potential cholestasis--it's still really early so there should be no risk to the baby. Once they run some bloodwork, they will be able to tell you if it's cholestasis. You should call your doctor anyway (you may already have, but I'm super behind on the boards!) and I'm sure they will order the bloodwork immediately just to get the ball rolling. My cholestasis was discovered at 37 weeks with my son and popped up SUPER early this go around at 20 weeks, but that is very uncommon.
@Kipperoo thank you! I called my dr on Friday and the nurse seemed not worried about the poop but more cautious about the itching, and told me to tell the dr this week when we go. She said it was likely nothing as I have zero other symptoms.
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BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w
BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014
BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d
BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017
BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
We just had our anatomy scan today and everything was great until the doc located a cleft lip. He was very reassuring and said Los Angeles has one of the best surgeons and children's hospitals in the world. Still, we were both a bit bewildered, my DH nearly fainted and he had to lie on the floor for a minute to avoid it. I think he was just so taken aback by any kind of news at all - already in daddy mode. I know it's a small defect but it's a lot to process. The idea of surgery as a baby, concept of baby pictures is different, recovery at such a young age. Does anyone have experience with a baby having a cleft lip?
My procedure was postponed until tomorrow morning. Labour and Delivery was crazy busy and they had nowhere to keep me overnight.
The OB told me before I left that I'm 100% not allowed to go back to work for the rest of my pregnancy. I'm at a very high risk for early labour so they don't want to risk anything.
@CherryBananas boo to the delayed procedure. I hope its quick tomorrow! And i hope the dr order to not work is not the worse thing (financially and mentally )
@CherryBananas, I'm sorry you have to be done with work! I hope you can get long term disability through your company to offset the missed work. My friend had to do that when she went on bedrest with her first set of twins. Did the doctors give you an idea of how long this would help keep baby in?
Me:31 DH:32 Married 11/06/10
DD: Born 8/23/13 (clomid+ovidrel+IUI)
BFP 9/9/16 EDD 5/19/17
@pshaortao mentally I'll be ok. Financially we'll have to look into a few things. I'm not sure if I can start claiming my mat leave pay this early (not ideal anyways), or if I can get disability through DH's work.
@KMD1106 they can't say for sure. The procedure isn't even guaranteed to help - it can't hurt things but we won't know if it was beneficial until I go into labour (early labour means it was good we did it, full term labour likely means it wasn't necessary). All they know for sure is that the risk to the baby during the procedure goes up the longer I wait, which is why we decided to go ahead. I still may carry to full term, or I could go into labour next week. All this uncertainty is what's got me on edge.
@sweaterboots I'm so sorry to hear about this finding although I'm glad everything else is fine. I have known a few kids at my school who had cleft lips at birth. By the time they got to us they had had surgery years before and aside from a very small scar you couldn't tell physically. They were both in speech therapy (one moved away, one still is) but very easy to understand, they just needed some help with a few sounds. They both had cleft palates as well as cleft lips which I believe makes articulation more challenging. I'm not a speech therapist but my understanding is they were expected to need some articulation support for a while, but other than that and a small scar they are very normal kids.
im sorry you guys are dealing with these things. I have no information, just support. Thinking of both of you and your families.
@CherryBananas sending good vibes your way. Hoping you have a smooth procedure in the AM and have enough distraction to help with the wandering mind. Also hoping you get to claim disability so you don't have to think about finances. Please keep us updated. It was so nice to read all of the support on here for you!
@sweaterboots and @cheryle418 also sending positive vibes your way. It's hard to grasp or process a "finding" when all you want to hear is everything is "normal." I'm glad you'll both have plenty of support in managing these findings.
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DS2 5/7/17
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
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06.2014 - DS2
10.2015 - loss at 12 wks
03.2017 - DD
@sweaterboots I'm so sorry to hear that you had a scare too. I've known several kids who had a cleft lip when they were born, my best friend in elementary school even was, and like others have said, aside from a small scar, you'd never know...and even that you had to really look for! But believe me I know how terrifying it is to think of such a small little defenseless baby having to go through surgery
Ive got my sonogram scheduled with the high risk specialist for Wednesday morning. My biggest hope is that the blockage they found from the first scan (4 weeks apart) has already started to resolve itself.
Quick question...my anatomy scan (with ultrasound tech only) was on Dec 5, and I just got the call from my doctor alerting me of this problem with the blockage between his right kidney and bladder two days ago, and even had a check up with my dr on Dec 19, and nothing was mentioned. I asked my doctor why the delay and she said it takes 2 weeks usually to process it all, and she was off for Christmas in between...but 2 weeks would have been my check up with her... is it wrong of me to be really offput by that and feel not as comfortable with her as my doctor now? I feel like I was lied to for 3 weeks that my baby was fine and we could have been doing more in the meantime... sorry, rant over!
@CherylE418 I would not like that either. My a/s was reviewed minutes later by the dr and discussed immediately. I'm not sure why that would take weeks to process...
Thank you so much for for all of your kind words and stories from experience. I had a big emotional purge last night of sobbing into my husband. Today we have had pangs of sadness but have really dove into nursery projects today to focus on the positive and to keep distracted. I hope you all have a great night as we enter our babies' birth year. ❤️
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
#1 DD Aug 2014 @39weeks via CS
#2 Due May 2,2017 hopeful VBAC
TTC since 7/2015
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Baby Girl BFP 9/10/2016 EDD 5/23/17
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DD: Born 8/23/13 (clomid+ovidrel+IUI)
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May '17 labor memes
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
I used a Solly wrap for DD's first summer (she was born early May) and loved it. I got my first ring along that winter, and a water along the following spring. Love them both! I have a woven that took so long to get I never used it with DD, but I'm going to start breaking it in so I can use it when this new one outgrows the Solly.
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
thank you! I called my dr on Friday and the nurse seemed not worried about the poop but more cautious about the itching, and told me to tell the dr this week when we go. She said it was likely nothing as I have zero other symptoms.