"When your friend said she needed boxes and boxes of diapers, what she really meant was to go buy ANOTHER newborn toy or impractical 'cute' outfit with too many buttons on it." #Fail
Literally my daughter did not wear anything but sleepers and onesies for six months, at least.
Oh man that was my first with the sleepers. They were easier for me than onesies and pants! Finally around 5 months daycare was like hey lady, how about pants?
@kns1988 That tight clothes comment reminds me of one of the most surprisingly positive things I heard last time, and from my traditional and uptight grandmother of all people! She said she really admired the comfortable and fitted maternity styles these days because it was so uncomfortable and unflattering trying to hide pregnancies in giant shapeless tents in the 50s.
I read your response @mcvgal and I said NOOO that cannot be already. That person seriously knows nothing about a pregnant women's belly size. @WombThereItIs we did that as well LO was born end of august so as soon as it got cool he was in sleepers . Whats better than a zipper to get in and out so much better than those snaps! My mom goes one day umm joe keeps bringing nicholas in with his pjs on and I was like no mom they are not his pjs. The daycare said I could dress him in them till he started to stand so I took advantage of that during the winter months!
I kept DD in footed pjs until she started crawling (throughout the cold weather months). We never went anywhere so it was like why bother. Even when we went grocery shopping she was bundled up in blankets so it's not like anyone was gonna see her outfit anyway.
DD was a September kiddo so she was in those zip up or snap jammies for at least 6 months! I have no idea how I'm going to handle having a summer baby this time wardrobe wise!
Just yesterday at work a lady asked me if I was due any day now.
That's so ridiculous, but I blame TV. DO NOT GET ME STARTED. They usually put 5 month bellies on women who are giving birth, so no wonder people are surprised. There is not a single show I've watched since getting pregnant the first time and therefore edumacated about pregnancy, that doesn't have at least one glaring inaccuracy. (Seriously, DH told me to stop bitching about it a few months ago. BUT REALLY.)
Me: 35 | DH: 46 MMC: 09/13 (9 weeks) DD: Born 8/22/14 Babies #2 & 3: Due dates 6/9/17 And my other love: writing
I just had an aquantince on facebook message me asking how quickly it took to get pregnant/ did I use any apps? I told her that my story was long(didn't want to get into it), gave her one app suggestion and just said start trying when you're ready with no expectations creating a baby is harder than it looks.
She then continued to prod until I told her about my losses/story.
Today I get a facebook message from her with two articles one about a women who miscarried (not a good story) and the second was about vitamin d deficiency and autism....
why would you send those articles to a pregnant woman you don't even know much about?!
She then ended with her perfect plan on how she wants to get pregnant on a specific day to have a specific Birthday.... as if it works like that?!
I just had an aquantince on facebook message me asking how quickly it took to get pregnant/ did I use any apps? I told her that my story was long(didn't want to get into it), gave her one app suggestion and just said start trying when you're ready with no expectations creating a baby is harder than it looks.
She then continued to prod until I told her about my losses/story.
Today I get a facebook message from her with two articles one about a women who miscarried (not a good story) and the second was about vitamin d deficiency and autism....
why would you send those articles to a pregnant woman you don't even know much about?!
She then ended with her perfect plan on how she wants to get pregnant on a specific day to have a specific Birthday.... as if it works like that?!
@sls YES! I always bitch about this. Ever since DS I cannot handle tv shows' portrayals of pregnant women. I frequently tell people "because of tv no one knows what a 9 months pregnant woman looks like."
@sls YES! I always bitch about this. Ever since DS I cannot handle tv shows' portrayals of pregnant women. I frequently tell people "because of tv no one knows what a 9 months pregnant woman looks like."
Also labor always starts with water breaking, and lasts <30 min. And the mom constantly yells instead of only during contractions.
Two people told me I "can't complain" about symptoms because it's #2 and I "wanted this." Yes, we worked hard and paid a lot of $ to get pg but I think I'm entitled to a little sympathy. Pregnancy is not all cupcakes and rainbows.
Two people told me I "can't complain" about symptoms because it's #2 and I "wanted this." Yes, we worked hard and paid a lot of $ to get pg but I think I'm entitled to a little sympathy. Pregnancy is not all cupcakes and rainbows.
Ridiculous. Maybe complaining in front of people who are having fertility problems, losses, etc is not wise, but you can complain to everyone else all you want.
Two people told me I "can't complain" about symptoms because it's #2 and I "wanted this." Yes, we worked hard and paid a lot of $ to get pg but I think I'm entitled to a little sympathy. Pregnancy is not all cupcakes and rainbows.
And besides that, wanting a child and being willing to go through a lot of shit to get one is not the same as wanting TO BE PREGNANT.
Me: 35 | DH: 46 MMC: 09/13 (9 weeks) DD: Born 8/22/14 Babies #2 & 3: Due dates 6/9/17 And my other love: writing
Two people told me I "can't complain" about symptoms because it's #2 and I "wanted this." Yes, we worked hard and paid a lot of $ to get pg but I think I'm entitled to a little sympathy. Pregnancy is not all cupcakes and rainbows.
And besides that, wanting a child and being willing to go through a lot of shit to get one is not the same as wanting TO BE PREGNANT.
Though you're also still allowed to complain when they're born and they have colic, are brats, etc!
I find it so annoying when I mention how exhausted I am and mommas with babies pipe in with the whole "you don't even know exhaustion yet" speech. Yes I know, one day I will look back and laugh at my hilarious self complaining about all the sleep I'm not getting and it will seem like I was complaining about nothing because I will be going on 0 hours of sleep. I get that. But seriously, pregnancy is kicking my ass, I'm tired and I'm sick all the time, which just makes me even more tired. Just let me have my little moment to whine, it's not like I do it 24/7.
I find it so annoying when I mention how exhausted I am and mommas with babies pipe in with the whole "you don't even know exhaustion yet" speech. Yes I know, one day I will look back and laugh at my hilarious self complaining about all the sleep I'm not getting and it will seem like I was complaining about nothing because I will be going on 0 hours of sleep. I get that. But seriously, pregnancy is kicking my ass, I'm tired and I'm sick all the time, which just makes me even more tired. Just let me have my little moment to whine, it's not like I do it 24/7.
People are dicks. Why do they feel the need to win at the game of misery? "You know what, smug mom? You win. Congrats. You are more miserable than I will ever be in my life. Hahahahaha."
Me: 35 | DH: 46 MMC: 09/13 (9 weeks) DD: Born 8/22/14 Babies #2 & 3: Due dates 6/9/17 And my other love: writing
My friend w the first baby would always say that. You wanted this. Over and over I wanted to strangle her. I do my best to never say just wait because honestly my kid slept ttn by 4.5 m and he's never regressed so I'm lucky and maybe that mom will be lucky too
Me: uh yeah I'm finally starting to stick out a little so I guess that's good?
Lol. I just look fat y'all. I never thought someone with whom I work on occasion would celebrate my gut being pushed up and out, but she was so excited she pointed it out to everyone
I find it so annoying when I mention how exhausted I am and mommas with babies pipe in with the whole "you don't even know exhaustion yet" speech. Yes I know, one day I will look back and laugh at my hilarious self complaining about all the sleep I'm not getting and it will seem like I was complaining about nothing because I will be going on 0 hours of sleep. I get that. But seriously, pregnancy is kicking my ass, I'm tired and I'm sick all the time, which just makes me even more tired. Just let me have my little moment to whine, it's not like I do it 24/7.
People are dicks. Why do they feel the need to win at the game of misery? "You know what, smug mom? You win. Congrats. You are more miserable than I will ever be in my life. Hahahahaha."
Agreed. This is so stupid. Everyone is allowed to complain when things suck compared to usual and there isn't some contest over who has it worse. Pregnancy sucks. Having a newborn sucks, too (in many ways.) And even when they sleep through the night, other things suck as they get older (also they might go from sleeping through the night to having nightmares every night). You'll hit terrible twos/threenager, school aged drama, etc. I'm doing it a third time because there are lots of really cool moments as well, and in the gestalt it is SUPER rewarding.
I just had an aquantince on facebook message me asking how quickly it took to get pregnant/ did I use any apps? I told her that my story was long(didn't want to get into it), gave her one app suggestion and just said start trying when you're ready with no expectations creating a baby is harder than it looks.
She then continued to prod until I told her about my losses/story.
Today I get a facebook message from her with two articles one about a women who miscarried (not a good story) and the second was about vitamin d deficiency and autism....
why would you send those articles to a pregnant woman you don't even know much about?!
She then ended with her perfect plan on how she wants to get pregnant on a specific day to have a specific Birthday.... as if it works like that?!
You have more restraint than I do. After 16 months of trying, I have no filter on educating people.
TTC1: May 2015
Primary IF May 2016; Failed HSG; Scheduled Lap Sept. 2016
Family keeps asking when we're finding out the sex of the baby. When they learn that we're not, they are flabbergasted. How in the world will we ever prepare for a baby without knowing the sex? Well, I'm of the opinion that little girls can wear dinosaur clothes just as well as litttle boys. We will somehow survive.
Family keeps asking when we're finding out the sex of the baby. When they learn that we're not, they are flabbergasted. How in the world will we ever prepare for a baby without knowing the sex? Well, I'm of the opinion that little girls can wear dinosaur clothes just as well as litttle boys. We will somehow survive.
Ha. Last time, we had a hard time finding out the sex. She was in a weird position at 20 weeks and then at 30 weeks (when I had to beg my doctor to send us for another u/s). So even though we really wanted to know, we couldn't be 100% sure she was a she. It is surprisingly hard to find stuff that looks gender neutral, but I did end up getting some onesies and blankets with trucks or whatever on them.
But that made me think of something stupid one of my relatives said. For the shower, we asked people to buy gender neutral clothes (also, reusability factor, hello). Yet my aunt got a size 3m dress, and was like, "I had such a hard time finding a dress that wasn't pink!"
When I was like, "Uh..." she followed up with, "Well, your mother told me that you guys hate pink, so..."
*facepalm*
Both this aunt and my mother are infamous for hearing what they want to hear, so I don't know who got what wrong in that scintillating chain of communication.
Me: 35 | DH: 46 MMC: 09/13 (9 weeks) DD: Born 8/22/14 Babies #2 & 3: Due dates 6/9/17 And my other love: writing
I was recently talking to a parent about some concerns with her child, she mentioned how she doesn't believe her child's teacher should be currently teaching. When I asked her why, she responded with her child has asked for help and she didn't help her. I quickly informed her that the teacher is EXCELLENT at staying late and being available, it most likely was a miscommunication or the teacher did not hear the student (student is often very soft spoken). I strongly urged them to email the teacher asking for help. She then said her child also told her that the teacher is pregnant with her first child and that may be why she didn't hear her.... she also doesn't think it's appropriate that the teacher will tell them if the baby is kicking. She ended with women shouldn't be teaching while pregnant, and she greatly appreciates how I'm always there for her child etc.. Basically saying how I'm a good teacher and the other isn't due to being pregnant....
Personally I have kept my pregnancy a secret, I'm just looking fat not pregnant. The teacher they were criticizing is only about 3 weeks ahead of me, she choose to announce at 13 weeks to her class and is definitely looking pregnant. I didn't know what to say, I just reassured her that the teacher is excellent and very capable regardless of being pregnant.
My MIL just recently told me that I'm really big for 4 months. Then I told her that's probably because I am 5 months and she said "still, I was that size at 8 months when I was pregnant with DH". I was like ummmm, first of all you're a lot taller than me, and second DH was only 4lbs! Then she was like yeah I guess I was under a lot of stress when I was pregnant for him. Urg. Face palm. Anyway, then comes my appointment with my midwife yesterday who confirms that I am in fact measuring a couple weeks ahead. Lol Damn it!
ETA: @Cubslove12 Seriously??? What the heck! I mean I will gladly take a leave while pregnant(ha! Wouldn't that be nice-for non medical reasons of course), but that doesn't mean women can't work while pregnant. It's 2016 for crying out loud!
Bringing this back to the front page for a gem I got yesterday. Luckily, it was a friend of mine who just happens to be a little ditzy.
Friend: "Omg, what's it like having a belly?! You're usually so skinny!" Me: "Well, I usually like it..." Friend: *whispering* "Omg, how do you shower?" Me: "...the normal way?"
Me: 29, DH: 31 Married: October 2014 Began TTC: April 2015 BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w) BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w) BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
Bringing this back to the front page for a gem I got yesterday. Luckily, it was a friend of mine who just happens to be a little ditzy.
Friend: "Omg, what's it like having a belly?! You're usually so skinny!" Me: "Well, I usually like it..." Friend: *whispering* "Omg, how do you shower?" Me: "...the normal way?"
HOLD. THE. PHONE.
Are you saying that if I take a shower, the baby WON'T drown from water leaking in??
Wow, people at work are gonna be so happy I learned this. I've been getting complaints about my stench since 9 weeks!
Me: 35 | DH: 46 MMC: 09/13 (9 weeks) DD: Born 8/22/14 Babies #2 & 3: Due dates 6/9/17 And my other love: writing
Bringing this back to the front page for a gem I got yesterday. Luckily, it was a friend of mine who just happens to be a little ditzy.
Friend: "Omg, what's it like having a belly?! You're usually so skinny!" Me: "Well, I usually like it..." Friend: *whispering* "Omg, how do you shower?" Me: "...the normal way?"
I don't even understand the implication here... Is it because you're bigger? Like, how do you reach everything? I must be missing something.
@kayemjay2 I've had a few people tell me I MUST be having a girl bc I'm gaining all over. I was already overweight and had previously lost tons of weight. I am having a girl. None of that makes me feel "glowy..." I feel your pain!
My MIL was touching my belly saying how she felt the baby move from one side to the other I'm like "uhmm...no she's not moving right now shes not even in that area..." as she goes on to tell me "no no u just didn't see it I felt her move " (me) "NO she didnt- " (MIL) ohh shhh I know what I felt. I'm just like super pissed and thinking RIGHT...BECAUSE OF COURSE TOTALLY NO I DON'T KNOW WHEN MY CHILD THAT IS INSIDE OF ME IS MOVING OR NOT -_- Most stupid comment I've ever received...
I have gotten countless... COUNTLESS... "well you chose to do this" comments while in the office this week. It's insane.
To be clear im not bitching up a storm or bitching at all! My office is really young and still in the hooooly shit babies would ruin my life right now phase so I shrugged off the first few but wtf, people?
The comments have started rolling in...most frequently I hear some version of "Is it a boy?". And when I tell them "nope, it's a girl", I hear "are you sure? you are carrying it like a boy". Yes, random lady in line at Michaels (among others), I'm going to trust the genetic testing and the ultrasound over your visual assessment of the way my body handles pregnancy!
Re: Stupid Stuff People Have Said Now You Are Pregnant
11.2011 - DS1
02.2013 - loss at 6 wks
06.2014 - DS2
10.2015 - loss at 12 wks
03.2017 - DD
@kns1988 That tight clothes comment reminds me of one of the most surprisingly positive things I heard last time, and from my traditional and uptight grandmother of all people! She said she really admired the comfortable and fitted maternity styles these days because it was so uncomfortable and unflattering trying to hide pregnancies in giant shapeless tents in the 50s.
May '17 labor memes
@WombThereItIs we did that as well LO was born end of august so as soon as it got cool he was in sleepers . Whats better than a zipper to get in and out so much better than those snaps! My mom goes one day umm joe keeps bringing nicholas in with his pjs on and I was like no mom they are not his pjs. The daycare said I could dress him in them till he started to stand so I took advantage of that during the winter months!
That's so ridiculous, but I blame TV. DO NOT GET ME STARTED. They usually put 5 month bellies on women who are giving birth, so no wonder people are surprised. There is not a single show I've watched since getting pregnant the first time and therefore edumacated about pregnancy, that doesn't have at least one glaring inaccuracy. (Seriously, DH told me to stop bitching about it a few months ago. BUT REALLY.)
MMC: 09/13 (9 weeks)
DD: Born 8/22/14
Babies #2 & 3: Due dates 6/9/17
And my other love: writing
She then continued to prod until I told her about my losses/story.
Today I get a facebook message from her with two articles one about a women who miscarried (not a good story) and the second was about vitamin d deficiency and autism....
why would you send those articles to a pregnant woman you don't even know much about?!
She then ended with her perfect plan on how she wants to get pregnant on a specific day to have a specific Birthday.... as if it works like that?!
And besides that, wanting a child and being willing to go through a lot of shit to get one is not the same as wanting TO BE PREGNANT.
MMC: 09/13 (9 weeks)
DD: Born 8/22/14
Babies #2 & 3: Due dates 6/9/17
And my other love: writing
Me: 26 DH: 28
TTC #1 since 06/2014
BFP #1 09/23/15. MMC discovered 11/24/2015
BFP #2 08/24/16 EDD 05/08/17
People are dicks. Why do they feel the need to win at the game of misery? "You know what, smug mom? You win. Congrats. You are more miserable than I will ever be in my life. Hahahahaha."
MMC: 09/13 (9 weeks)
DD: Born 8/22/14
Babies #2 & 3: Due dates 6/9/17
And my other love: writing
really people should treat pregnant women like goddesses because really, we're growing people! Literally!
Me: uh yeah I'm finally starting to stick out a little so I guess that's good?
Lol. I just look fat y'all. I never thought someone with whom I work on occasion would celebrate my gut being pushed up and out, but she was so excited she pointed it out to everyone
DS - January 2014
TTCAL | April 2016
CP | June 2016
CP | July 2016
Ha. Last time, we had a hard time finding out the sex. She was in a weird position at 20 weeks and then at 30 weeks (when I had to beg my doctor to send us for another u/s). So even though we really wanted to know, we couldn't be 100% sure she was a she. It is surprisingly hard to find stuff that looks gender neutral, but I did end up getting some onesies and blankets with trucks or whatever on them.
But that made me think of something stupid one of my relatives said. For the shower, we asked people to buy gender neutral clothes (also, reusability factor, hello). Yet my aunt got a size 3m dress, and was like, "I had such a hard time finding a dress that wasn't pink!"
When I was like, "Uh..." she followed up with, "Well, your mother told me that you guys hate pink, so..."
*facepalm*
Both this aunt and my mother are infamous for hearing what they want to hear, so I don't know who got what wrong in that scintillating chain of communication.
MMC: 09/13 (9 weeks)
DD: Born 8/22/14
Babies #2 & 3: Due dates 6/9/17
And my other love: writing
"oh wow you really are showing." Uh yeah...I'm half way through my pregnancy...again MIL
"New house...new baby." I think I hate that one the most. Stop.
Personally I have kept my pregnancy a secret, I'm just looking fat not pregnant. The teacher they were criticizing is only about 3 weeks ahead of me, she choose to announce at 13 weeks to her class and is definitely looking pregnant. I didn't know what to say, I just reassured her that the teacher is excellent and very capable regardless of being pregnant.
ETA: @Cubslove12 Seriously??? What the heck! I mean I will gladly take a leave while pregnant(ha! Wouldn't that be nice-for non medical reasons of course), but that doesn't mean women can't work while pregnant. It's 2016 for crying out loud!
Me: 26 DH: 28
TTC #1 since 06/2014
BFP #1 09/23/15. MMC discovered 11/24/2015
BFP #2 08/24/16 EDD 05/08/17
Friend: "Omg, what's it like having a belly?! You're usually so skinny!"
Me: "Well, I usually like it..."
Friend: *whispering* "Omg, how do you shower?"
Me: "...the normal way?"
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
HOLD. THE. PHONE.
Are you saying that if I take a shower, the baby WON'T drown from water leaking in??
Wow, people at work are gonna be so happy I learned this. I've been getting complaints about my stench since 9 weeks!
MMC: 09/13 (9 weeks)
DD: Born 8/22/14
Babies #2 & 3: Due dates 6/9/17
And my other love: writing
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
Me: "I'm only about half way there..." while looking at her like she's a jerk.
DS1 7/24/15
DS2 5/7/17
I'm just like super pissed and thinking RIGHT...BECAUSE OF COURSE TOTALLY NO I DON'T KNOW WHEN MY CHILD THAT IS INSIDE OF ME IS MOVING OR NOT -_-
Most stupid comment I've ever received...
To be clear im not bitching up a storm or bitching at all! My office is really young and still in the hooooly shit babies would ruin my life right now phase so I shrugged off the first few but wtf, people?
May '17 labor memes
"Congratulations! Little girls bond well and are deeply affected by their fathers. Moms have little to no affect."
What?! Why would you text that? I so wanted to punch this dude.