Honestly, people are just kinda lame sometimes. They say thoughtless or straight up foolish things. I'm guilty too, although I really try to think before I speak. I heard plenty during pregnancy # 1, about how my body will change, how I'll be exhausted all the time, never wear makeup, quit my job etc. Thankfully none of that happened at all! My body bounced back, I still get (almost) enough sleep, I wear makeup and do my hair and work full time, and still manage to love, discipline, breastfeed, and enjoy my baby. Now I'm pregnant with # 2 (unexpected surprise). And the only thing I'm hearing from the close family I have told is "man, that's going to be really hard" and "don't you know what prevents that"? I just laugh, can't let it get you down.
That's it. Its like my family's favorite saying. No, no I'm not tired as in I need sleep. I tired of you saying random things. Great. Thanks. I just have zero interest in anyone telling me about my appearance. I mean really - are you going to do anything about it? Help me out a bit maybe? No? You're just going to continue to impose upon my hospitality so you can drone on about things I don't really care about while I'd rather be cleaning, or napping, or cooking or running a variety of other errands. Then sit down and shut up.
When I was pregnant with my son I went to shop for maternity clothes. I wasn't sure if TJMax carried them. So I asked a girl working in the store. She told me know and suggested the plus size section
I posted a pic the other day of all my fruits and veggies cut up. A friend commented, "Just you wait. Food aversions will kick in" to which I responded, "Well, this is all I can even think about eating at the moment so I'm already there." Like DUH!!! Really?! *eye*roll*
My worst, which wasn't condescending but that bothered me was ... when we went public, one of DH's Uncle's wrote congrats but first said, "I thought you looked pregnant at X's wedding." I wasn't pregnant yet. Not technically. (FDOLP was Sept 28th / Wedding was Oct 8th / Ovulation day was Oct 14th) The worst part is, I'm really not that overweight. Yes, I'm carrying some extra but not nearly enough for people to think I look pregnant! Not to mention before the wedding, I had lost 20lbs since the last time these people saw me! That's also my favourite maxi dress and I wear it to tons of weddings! I didn't say anything to him, I'm just not that person, and I didn't think it bothered me but I ended up thinking about it for days. *sigh*
I have one friend who is really great. She knows me well enough to not say condescending shit to me because mostly, she knows that I know what I'm getting myself into. She's my rock! And I'm so thankful that I have her to bitch to when other people say stupid shit lol!
Comments that my family constantly dish out to me are things like: you'll never be able to do for your second child what you did for your daughter, it's too much work.
For the record, I don't think I'm THAT mom. Yeah I try to make all of my daughters food myself and make sure it's organic and as healthy as possible. But I'm not killing myself doing it. I'm ridiculed for this all the freaking time. You'd think I was poisoning her.
I literally will throw some meat and veggies into the oven for a few hours and viola! Food. I don't know why they keep making like I do too much. And that's the only area where I may nauseate people with my rules but I'm like this about my own diet. So I wish arseholes would stop telling me to just let her eat a cookie. She loves her fruits and doesn't know the difference ok? I hate how they keep implying that I'm depriving her. "Oh poor thing"...poor thing I'm trying to give her the best start I can?
Otherwise I probably let her watch way too much TV and will admit I am lazy to change wet diapers and let her play with way too many things many people would gawk at. I'm not perfect or putting unmanageable expectations on myself and I hate when anyone implies otherwise.
They also tell tell me how I let her call all the shots and maybe the next time around 'I'll know better"....um I didn't realize I was doing such a terrible job? My kid is happy healthy and I'm not complaining about my life so WTF is everybody's deal?!
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My mom loved to tell me, "One is fun!" (She had two). The whole time my younger sister was pregnant, she would talk crap about how my sister didn't know what she was getting herself into. I didn't tell her (or anyone really) that we were trying for a second. When I told her I was pregnant, she was excited, but she was like, "Oh. Wow. I thought you were done." Foot in mouth, mother?
Actually, a lot of people I've told have said, "Wow!" with raised eyebrows. They then ask how DH's health is, and ask if we were trying. They basically want to know, "How are you going to handle all of this?!" Really, people? Just because we've had challenges doesn't mean we can't want to have another kid!
@yellow1daisy your post made me laugh. We did baby led weaning so what we ate ds ate. I do not make him a separate meal. Mil makes him hot dogs or chicken nuggets and then they eat salmon or something decent. I get so irritated like your a good cook just feed it to him. And he pretty much likes everything. Idk why people are so weird about food. Plus in your case I'm sure either you do a big meal prep or it's a tiny child they don't need that much food.
Also I definitely let ds sit in a wet diaper to long cause he throws a fit and kicks and hits when I change him. Dh will be home in half an hour. Wet diaper can wait.
When we told my BIL that we are pregnant, the first words out of his mouth were, "I don't know if I'd have a child in this political climate..." ARE YOU KIDDING ME??? First of all, this happened before the election (and we thought it would go a different way). Second of all, can't you at least feign excitement to my face for your first niece/nephew? We've had our problems in the past, but that was just icing on the cake. I can't believe people sometimes.
Me: 31 DH: 31 DS born 6/2017, became a heart angel 8/2018 CP 3/2019
@stokesm21 I'm a little late to the party here, but I wanted to tell you that being pregnant was the most exhausted I've ever been. I know everyone is different, but for me those last few months I was basically a zombie.
Sure, the newborn months are rough, and completely exhausting. BUT, my body was not growing and carrying a human inside of it, so while I was getting up 5x a night with baby, I wasn't nearly as exhausted the next morning as I was when baby was still cooking.
You will amaze yourself with how adaptable you'll become. I cannot overstate the power of 4 consecutive hours of sleep, a cup of coffee, and sitting in the morning sun. Sounds sappy, I know, but it's the small things you'll find bring you the most joy those first few months!
I can certainly believe this. The first few weeks of my pregnancy were brutal when it came to being tired. While I certainly have a harder time now, I was a night-owl pretty much until my mid 20's. I'd like to think that I can adapt easily so it will be tough but I think I can manage. We don't really have a choice right?! Haha! Then again, I was just recently diagnosed with an anxiety disorder (a little over a year ago) so how all these changes are going to affect that certainly worries me a bit.
When my best friend had her second she said yes, it's tiring and exhausting but you will never get those first few months with baby back. So the second time around, she was pretty committed to cherishing each and every moment regardless of the circumstances. I thought that was a pretty great outlook to have.
@yellow1daisy your post made me laugh. We did baby led weaning so what we ate ds ate. I do not make him a separate meal. Mil makes him hot dogs or chicken nuggets and then they eat salmon or something decent. I get so irritated like your a good cook just feed it to him. And he pretty much likes everything. Idk why people are so weird about food. Plus in your case I'm sure either you do a big meal prep or it's a tiny child they don't need that much food.
Also I definitely let ds sit in a wet diaper to long cause he throws a fit and kicks and hits when I change him. Dh will be home in half an hour. Wet diaper can wait.
We kinda sorta tried the baby led weaning route too. Except I wasn't comfortable letting her 100% feed herself until around 9 months. The problem with our household with just letting her eat what we eat though is that we really only eat 1 meal and it's never ready at a consistent time. And my daughter responds very well to routine so I try to make her mealtimes the same everyday (and she gets 3 a day not just 1 like her lazy bum parents).
If our dinner times happen to cross paths she gets what we eat (or any leftovers) but her dad is such a food monster and I'm so used to prepping for 2 that I never make enough food for the 3 of us lol. So I always have to have extra stuff sitting in the fridge ready to be warmed for her otherwise she wouldn't have anything to eat.
And yeah how is making your kids mac and cheese, chicken nuggets, and hot dogs considered the "normal way" and giving my kid normal adult food that I would be happy to eat somehow ridiculous? Oy.
Yes my husband has definitely caught on and frequently comes home to a diaper starting to sag and he says "you were waiting for me to change this weren't you?" Haha. She goes CRAZY when I change her diapers and I'm not strong enough to keep her from rolling. Half the time I struggle just to get her tush clean if she's done a number 2 and then I'm running around after her naked butt trying to get a clean diaper on her lol. For her dad she just whines until he's done. Doesn't get nearly as much resistance.
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Comments that my family constantly dish out to me are things like: you'll never be able to do for your second child what you did for your daughter, it's too much work.
For the record, I don't think I'm THAT mom. Yeah I try to make all of my daughters food myself and make sure it's organic and as healthy as possible. But I'm not killing myself doing it. I'm ridiculed for this all the freaking time. You'd think I was poisoning her.
I literally will throw some meat and veggies into the oven for a few hours and viola! Food. I don't know why they keep making like I do too much. And that's the only area where I may nauseate people with my rules but I'm like this about my own diet. So I wish arseholes would stop telling me to just let her eat a cookie. She loves her fruits and doesn't know the difference ok? I hate how they keep implying that I'm depriving her. "Oh poor thing"...poor thing I'm trying to give her the best start I can?
Otherwise I probably let her watch way too much TV and will admit I am lazy to change wet diapers and let her play with way too many things many people would gawk at. I'm not perfect or putting unmanageable expectations on myself and I hate when anyone implies otherwise.
They also tell tell me how I let her call all the shots and maybe the next time around 'I'll know better"....um I didn't realize I was doing such a terrible job? My kid is happy healthy and I'm not complaining about my life so WTF is everybody's deal?!
@yellow1daisy so much this. We don't let DS (2.5) have juice or a ton of junk. He will get a cookie/cupcake at a birthday party or something like that but we don't keep it in the house and all of his snacks are very healthy. He goes to a Montessori School which has the same nutrition guidelines (which I LOVE) but we catch SO much flack for not letting him have juice. It drives me insane. He's already a super active/energetic and very tough child. Why add more sugar than necessary to the mix?!
I'm in the light at the end of the m/s tunnel, and my family keeps saying "you're looking better". Thanks. I didn't know I looked that bad to begin with. How bad did I look?!? I hate people knowing I'm not feeling good, and they are CONSTANTLY asking me how I'm feeling, what I'm eating, and making fun of me for my sudden turn to very unhealthy foods. Which all bothers me. A LOT.
Hubby and Me Friends since 2008 Started dating: July 1st, 2013 Engaged: July 1st, 2014 Married: July 1st, 2016 R born: July 8th, 2017 N born: June 30th, 2019 Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022 (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
We don't give any juice, sugary snacks, no sweets or treats. I figure he loves what he's eating, so why make it more difficult to get healthy stuff in his mouth? We also aren't a big 'sweets' household. We don't buy soda(to keep from drinking it a lot). I still buy the blended organic fruits and veggies because he won't eat peas, beats, spinach, green beans without other flavors mixed in!! So annoying. My mom goal is no hot dogs, chicken nuggets or Mac n cheese for a looooong time!!! Just because once these start, it's hard to stop and they seem to take over. Those can be special meals he had if he ever stays over with grandparents. I just don't want it to become a daily habit or crutch to fall back on when he's being difficult to feed. @yellow1daisy People are very insecure, that's all the comments are about. It is annoying, and I know all to well!
Comments that my family constantly dish out to me are things like: you'll never be able to do for your second child what you did for your daughter, it's too much work.
For the record, I don't think I'm THAT mom. Yeah I try to make all of my daughters food myself and make sure it's organic and as healthy as possible. But I'm not killing myself doing it. I'm ridiculed for this all the freaking time. You'd think I was poisoning her.
I literally will throw some meat and veggies into the oven for a few hours and viola! Food. I don't know why they keep making like I do too much. And that's the only area where I may nauseate people with my rules but I'm like this about my own diet. So I wish arseholes would stop telling me to just let her eat a cookie. She loves her fruits and doesn't know the difference ok? I hate how they keep implying that I'm depriving her. "Oh poor thing"...poor thing I'm trying to give her the best start I can?
Oh wow! I would not want to be a part of your family haha! I feed my cats raw food and the kicker? I make it myself! Yes, it's a lot of work and I haven't quite figured out how I'm going to do it with a newborn yet. Previously I've made month-long batches. I recently lost one of the 3 who was the biggest eater so now it's not so much work. My plan is basically for DH or my parents to just take over for one full day a month while I tag-team baby food and cat food bahaha! I'm committed to feeding the best to both. I don't care what anything thinks about it.
I think it's great that you haven't let life stop you from feeding your girl the best. My nephew is an amazing eater. Yes, he still get some junk, cookies, chicken nuggets, you name it lol! But I mean the kid eats olives, kidney beans, tomatoes! It's crazy! Even my SS who is 12, is a way pickier eater than my nephew (I think because they don't really do the "fresh" thing in his home. I suspect everything he eats comes out of a box. I'm just used to fresh everything and DH and I have more versatile palettes)
I'm a chemical-free, cruelty-free and as organic-as-possible person. My Mom says, "You don't have to go to the extreme." Yes, I do. It's not a hassle. I can't in good conscience, bring things into my home and put things on my baby that I know is extremely bad for them! I've done the research. I enjoy the research. And yet I don't judge others who don't live their lives the same way. To each ... their own. Honestly.
@yellow1daisy I feel you - my husband's parents on the rare occasion they visit are always oo-ing and ahhhing about what a big deal I make to feed the baby all this fancy stuff - like wow! Fricking drives me nuts because I don't think it's sincere. He's eating strawberries and blueberries and loves salmon and green beans for dinner -- oooh how strange! Sorry not sorry I don't do boxed mac and cheese and hot dogs. My 17 month old is allergic to dairy, eggs, soy, sesame - so all packaged stuff is pretty much out of the question. Plus, he has trouble swallowing so I have to control the texture of his food. I'm also constantly prepping though so the fridge is armed with mason jars of options that we can grab for his meals. His grandmother (husband's side) brought "a little cake for him to try" when we had family over last and I nearly lost my mind - like are you trying to poison him!! He's never had candy, cake, goldfish, chicken nuggets, etc. whatever they expect him and normal toddlers to be eating. (I don't judge how others feed their kids - I just feel strongly about what I feed my kid). I do worry about sending him to school though (we applied to a Montessori school for when he turns 2) - so fingers crossed he outgrows the allergies so at least he won't be that kid eating by himself and I won't have to worry about him accidentally sharing.
That said, I am working on vegan christmas cookies though for xmas morning, cause, cause!
@caribbeanmama and @yellow1daisy so do you purée everything? What do you use to purée it? Sil let me borrow a baby steamer/purée but I wasn't impressed just didn't seem that good of quality and it was $150 brand new. My food processor would work better but it's a lot of work to clean it and so loud, plus steaming first Ds wouldn't eat puréed leading to baby led weaning but I'm wondering in case new baby won't take chunk food.
@caribbeanmama I'm not sure if all Montessori schools are like this, but at my son's, we have to pack his own lunch and there are strict nutrition guidelines we have to abide by. As in, we had to sign a nutrition contract. I love it!
@morgarita my daughter is 16 months old now so I don't do puréed anymore. But when we started out at 6 months I did purée for a little while. I used an immersion blender. It was easiest for me---easiest cleanup.
I would put the steamed food in mason jars, purée with the hand held blender and store in the fridge in the mason jar.
If it was a large batch, I puréed it in a bowl and then transferred to ice cube trays and then popped the cubes into ziplock bags in the freezer for longer storage. I didn't do this for very long. Eventually I just fork mashed everything and stored it the same way. Then I moved on to cutting in bite size pieces and just putting them on her tray for her to pick up and eat. It was a very quick transition.
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@yellow1daisy That answers so many of my questions. I didn't understand the process of puréed to chewed food but your method makes a lot of sense. I figured with ds I would just figure it out and now that I've went another way I'd be nervous to change but all babies are different and I'm expecting this one to be a devil child. Also I've wanted an immersion blender for a while not I have a really justified reason for one.
@morgarita Baby is a die hard nurser and nursed every two hours up until he was 13/14 months old all day all night. When we tried to introduce solids at 5 months on, I started off with soft cooked foods that could be mashed with a fork - avocado, banana, sweet potato, baked pears, etc. I had a cheap food processor and made purées in the beginning to freeze but he wasn't eating very much so I didn't use it a ton. Once he started eating more (13-14 months - this is late compared to most babies), I mostly mashed with a fork soft cooked foods and soups. I was vegetarian before I had him, so I am already in the habit of cooking lentils, beans, veggies which have a softer consistency.
@georgiawife6912 When we toured, they told us that parents pack individual lunches and then they are assigned snacks to bring for the week for the whole class. I wouldn't be surprised if there is a nutrition clause up for signing lol. The school is nut free. My neighbor is on the board for the school, I'm going to ask her because now I'm curious.
We JUST moved to montana, away from my family in California. My son is 14 months old. I told my mom that I was pregnant, still shaking with the stick in my hand. You know, expecting her to ease my shock/worry/fear... Her response was "OH NO! With Chris? Well, congratulations..." Chris is my husband of 4 years and he is a good man, just an introvert and doesn't like to socialize with my family... I was just like, wow. Thanks.
We JUST moved to montana, away from my family in California. My son is 14 months old. I told my mom that I was pregnant, still shaking with the stick in my hand. You know, expecting her to ease my shock/worry/fear... Her response was "OH NO! With Chris? Well, congratulations..." Chris is my husband of 4 years and he is a good man, just an introvert and doesn't like to socialize with my family... I was just like, wow. Thanks.
Ugh, this makes me so sad. I hope you have other family and friends who will come alongside and support you and your husband. I'm sorry you have to go through this kind of thing, especially having just moved away. *hugs*
We JUST moved to montana, away from my family in California. My son is 14 months old. I told my mom that I was pregnant, still shaking with the stick in my hand. You know, expecting her to ease my shock/worry/fear... Her response was "OH NO! With Chris? Well, congratulations..." Chris is my husband of 4 years and he is a good man, just an introvert and doesn't like to socialize with my family... I was just like, wow. Thanks.
Ugh, this makes me so sad. I hope you have other family and friends who will come alongside and support you and your husband. I'm sorry you have to go through this kind of thing, especially having just moved away. *hugs*
@kat0607 Thank you. He has a large family here and the cat is out of the bag because his grandma has a big mouth but I am only at 7 weeks 3 days, so that makes me nervous. The ones that know are happy and excited, though I barely know them, so I have their support at least. I was just shocked and hurt by that.
We JUST moved to montana, away from my family in California. My son is 14 months old. I told my mom that I was pregnant, still shaking with the stick in my hand. You know, expecting her to ease my shock/worry/fear... Her response was "OH NO! With Chris? Well, congratulations..." Chris is my husband of 4 years and he is a good man, just an introvert and doesn't like to socialize with my family... I was just like, wow. Thanks.
I'm sorry, that sucks! I hope you have some support in Montana
I am starting to get tired of the "Just you wait!" comments from everyone. I am fully aware this is going to completely change our lives and it's not going to be easy. Also, prefacing a story with "You should..." is not helpful. As much as I like advice, I like figuring things out on my own, too.
Married: 10/13/2013
TTC #1: Mirena removed 5/26/2015; DH - normal SA, me - diagnosed with PCOS 8/4/2016 - on Metformin; BFP - 10/29/2016!!!, EDD - 7/8/2017; DD born 6/29/2017
This morning I was eating a yogurt. My MIL said that better be chobani light! I said nope just regular. She then went into this whole discussion about sugar content and what I should be eating right now. My theory is if it is something I can keep down I'm eating it..
@mrs35 the ONLY way I survived the last month was eating whatever I could keep down. Ignore the haters, if it's food and it goes in, eat it.
Hubby and Me Friends since 2008 Started dating: July 1st, 2013 Engaged: July 1st, 2014 Married: July 1st, 2016 R born: July 8th, 2017 N born: June 30th, 2019 Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022 (maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
This morning I was eating a yogurt. My MIL said that better be chobani light! I said nope just regular. She then went into this whole discussion about sugar content and what I should be eating right now. My theory is if it is something I can keep down I'm eating it..
I get comments like that too from people and it's so frustrating. Like the other day I got a mini Twix bar at work as a prize and when I started to open it, someone (who I think needs a strong reality check about many many things) proceeded to tell me "your baby doesn't want that and it definitely doesn't need that".
Me:35 | DH: 32 Married: 06-2024 TTC #1: Since November 2015 Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016 due to previous issues. ***TW*** BFP: 11/4/2016 BFP: 07/17/2024
@SaphireSweetie88, THAT one would have pissed me off. No, baby doesn't "want" or "need" this, but I, as a functional adult woman sure do! Last time I checked, there was more to me than a uterus that is currently incubating.
Married 25 May, 2013 William Alexander born 18 September, 2015 Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017 Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017 Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
This morning I was eating a yogurt. My MIL said that better be chobani light! I said nope just regular. She then went into this whole discussion about sugar content and what I should be eating right now. My theory is if it is something I can keep down I'm eating it..
I get comments like that too from people and it's so frustrating. Like the other day I got a mini Twix bar at work as a prize and when I started to open it, someone (who I think needs a strong reality check about many many things) proceeded to tell me "your baby doesn't want that and it definitely doesn't need that".
Yeah...I ate a bag of mini twix bars at the movies yesterday.
We're telling our family and friends next weekend (at Chridtmas), and although I'm excited to share, I'm worried about all the unwarranted "advice." I'm pregnant and grumpy, and I don't think I'll be able to keep my mouth shut. Hopefully people will just be supportive
This thread is the reason I really don't want to shout it from the rooftops lol. I have enough social anxiety as it is, I don't need help from stupid people!
@SaphireSweetie88, THAT one would have pissed me off. No, baby doesn't "want" or "need" this, but I, as a functional adult woman sure do! Last time I checked, there was more to me than a uterus that is currently incubating.
@ktewart - Right!! I just smiled at her as I ate the twix lol.
This morning I was eating a yogurt. My MIL said that better be chobani light! I said nope just regular. She then went into this whole discussion about sugar content and what I should be eating right now. My theory is if it is something I can keep down I'm eating it..
I get comments like that too from people and it's so frustrating. Like the other day I got a mini Twix bar at work as a prize and when I started to open it, someone (who I think needs a strong reality check about many many things) proceeded to tell me "your baby doesn't want that and it definitely doesn't need that".
Yeah...I ate a bag of mini twix bars at the movies yesterday.
@Xath - Now I want a bag of Twix instead of my pretzels lol
Me:35 | DH: 32 Married: 06-2024 TTC #1: Since November 2015 Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016 due to previous issues. ***TW*** BFP: 11/4/2016 BFP: 07/17/2024
We're telling our family and friends next weekend (at Chridtmas), and although I'm excited to share, I'm worried about all the unwarranted "advice." I'm pregnant and grumpy, and I don't think I'll be able to keep my mouth shut. Hopefully people will just be supportive
While I've already gone public, I am dreading Christmas dinner with my Mom's family. They are very gossipy, condescending and ... not very supportive?! Although all my cousins with kids have been great thus far. I know they are going to ask if we have names and although we do, I think we're just going to lie and say no. I don't really want opinions on my name choices.
Difference is, my family knows I won't keep my mouth shut if they say something that pisses me off (which would explain why I'm the black sheep. I don't let them walk all over me) so I really hope that they would think twice before saying stupid stuff to me
Re: Condescending Crap People Say to You ...
That's it. Its like my family's favorite saying. No, no I'm not tired as in I need sleep. I tired of you saying random things. Great. Thanks. I just have zero interest in anyone telling me about my appearance. I mean really - are you going to do anything about it? Help me out a bit maybe? No? You're just going to continue to impose upon my hospitality so you can drone on about things I don't really care about while I'd rather be cleaning, or napping, or cooking or running a variety of other errands. Then sit down and shut up.
Met: 08/2001 ~ Dating: 07/2004 ~ Engaged: 11/2009 ~ Married: 06/2011
TTC: Since 09/16 ~ BFP 10/28/16 ~ EDD 7/5/17
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My worst, which wasn't condescending but that bothered me was ... when we went public, one of DH's Uncle's wrote congrats but first said, "I thought you looked pregnant at X's wedding." I wasn't pregnant yet. Not technically. (FDOLP was Sept 28th / Wedding was Oct 8th / Ovulation day was Oct 14th) The worst part is, I'm really not that overweight. Yes, I'm carrying some extra but not nearly enough for people to think I look pregnant! Not to mention before the wedding, I had lost 20lbs since the last time these people saw me! That's also my favourite maxi dress and I wear it to tons of weddings! I didn't say anything to him, I'm just not that person, and I didn't think it bothered me but I ended up thinking about it for days. *sigh*
I have one friend who is really great. She knows me well enough to not say condescending shit to me because mostly, she knows that I know what I'm getting myself into. She's my rock! And I'm so thankful that I have her to bitch to when other people say stupid shit lol!
Met: 08/2001 ~ Dating: 07/2004 ~ Engaged: 11/2009 ~ Married: 06/2011
TTC: Since 09/16 ~ BFP 10/28/16 ~ EDD 7/5/17
Team Pink * Canadian Bumpie
Comments that my family constantly dish out to me are things like: you'll never be able to do for your second child what you did for your daughter, it's too much work.
For the record, I don't think I'm THAT mom. Yeah I try to make all of my daughters food myself and make sure it's organic and as healthy as possible. But I'm not killing myself doing it. I'm ridiculed for this all the freaking time. You'd think I was poisoning her.
I literally will throw some meat and veggies into the oven for a few hours and viola! Food. I don't know why they keep making like I do too much. And that's the only area where I may nauseate people with my rules but I'm like this about my own diet. So I wish arseholes would stop telling me to just let her eat a cookie. She loves her fruits and doesn't know the difference ok? I hate how they keep implying that I'm depriving her. "Oh poor thing"...poor thing I'm trying to give her the best start I can?
Otherwise I probably let her watch way too much TV and will admit I am lazy to change wet diapers and let her play with way too many things many people would gawk at. I'm not perfect or putting unmanageable expectations on myself and I hate when anyone implies otherwise.
They also tell tell me how I let her call all the shots and maybe the next time around 'I'll know better"....um I didn't realize I was doing such a terrible job? My kid is happy healthy and I'm not complaining about my life so WTF is everybody's deal?!
BFP September 2013 - MMC at 12 weeks
BFP February 2014 - early loss/CP at 4.5 weeks
BFP May 2014 - MMC/ complete molar pregnancy at 11 weeks
BFP December 2015 - DD born 8/18/2015
BFP November 2016 - pending...
Actually, a lot of people I've told have said, "Wow!" with raised eyebrows. They then ask how DH's health is, and ask if we were trying. They basically want to know, "How are you going to handle all of this?!" Really, people? Just because we've had challenges doesn't mean we can't want to have another kid!
Also I definitely let ds sit in a wet diaper to long cause he throws a fit and kicks and hits when I change him. Dh will be home in half an hour. Wet diaper can wait.
CP 3/2019
When my best friend had her second she said yes, it's tiring and exhausting but you will never get those first few months with baby back. So the second time around, she was pretty committed to cherishing each and every moment regardless of the circumstances. I thought that was a pretty great outlook to have.
Met: 08/2001 ~ Dating: 07/2004 ~ Engaged: 11/2009 ~ Married: 06/2011
TTC: Since 09/16 ~ BFP 10/28/16 ~ EDD 7/5/17
Team Pink * Canadian Bumpie
If our dinner times happen to cross paths she gets what we eat (or any leftovers) but her dad is such a food monster and I'm so used to prepping for 2 that I never make enough food for the 3 of us lol. So I always have to have extra stuff sitting in the fridge ready to be warmed for her otherwise she wouldn't have anything to eat.
And yeah how is making your kids mac and cheese, chicken nuggets, and hot dogs considered the "normal way" and giving my kid normal adult food that I would be happy to eat somehow ridiculous? Oy.
Yes my husband has definitely caught on and frequently comes home to a diaper starting to sag and he says "you were waiting for me to change this weren't you?" Haha. She goes CRAZY when I change her diapers and I'm not strong enough to keep her from rolling. Half the time I struggle just to get her tush clean if she's done a number 2 and then I'm running around after her naked butt trying to get a clean diaper on her lol. For her dad she just whines until he's done. Doesn't get nearly as much resistance.
BFP September 2013 - MMC at 12 weeks
BFP February 2014 - early loss/CP at 4.5 weeks
BFP May 2014 - MMC/ complete molar pregnancy at 11 weeks
BFP December 2015 - DD born 8/18/2015
BFP November 2016 - pending...
Me: 33 DH: 33
Married: 6.9.12
DS born: 4.9.14
DD born 7.27.17
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
I think it's great that you haven't let life stop you from feeding your girl the best. My nephew is an amazing eater. Yes, he still get some junk, cookies, chicken nuggets, you name it lol! But I mean the kid eats olives, kidney beans, tomatoes! It's crazy! Even my SS who is 12, is a way pickier eater than my nephew (I think because they don't really do the "fresh" thing in his home. I suspect everything he eats comes out of a box. I'm just used to fresh everything and DH and I have more versatile palettes)
I'm a chemical-free, cruelty-free and as organic-as-possible person. My Mom says, "You don't have to go to the extreme." Yes, I do. It's not a hassle. I can't in good conscience, bring things into my home and put things on my baby that I know is extremely bad for them! I've done the research. I enjoy the research. And yet I don't judge others who don't live their lives the same way. To each ... their own. Honestly.
Met: 08/2001 ~ Dating: 07/2004 ~ Engaged: 11/2009 ~ Married: 06/2011
TTC: Since 09/16 ~ BFP 10/28/16 ~ EDD 7/5/17
Team Pink * Canadian Bumpie
That said, I am working on vegan christmas cookies though for xmas morning, cause, cause!
Me: 33 DH: 33
Married: 6.9.12
DS born: 4.9.14
DD born 7.27.17
I would put the steamed food in mason jars, purée with the hand held blender and store in the fridge in the mason jar.
If it was a large batch, I puréed it in a bowl and then transferred to ice cube trays and then popped the cubes into ziplock bags in the freezer for longer storage. I didn't do this for very long. Eventually I just fork mashed everything and stored it the same way. Then I moved on to cutting in bite size pieces and just putting them on her tray for her to pick up and eat. It was a very quick transition.
BFP September 2013 - MMC at 12 weeks
BFP February 2014 - early loss/CP at 4.5 weeks
BFP May 2014 - MMC/ complete molar pregnancy at 11 weeks
BFP December 2015 - DD born 8/18/2015
BFP November 2016 - pending...
@georgiawife6912 When we toured, they told us that parents pack individual lunches and then they are assigned snacks to bring for the week for the whole class. I wouldn't be surprised if there is a nutrition clause up for signing lol. The school is nut free. My neighbor is on the board for the school, I'm going to ask her because now I'm curious.
Let's give her the validation she needs. Cheers to you, Cool Girl!
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
I get comments like that too from people and it's so frustrating. Like the other day I got a mini Twix bar at work as a prize and when I started to open it, someone (who I think needs a strong reality check about many many things) proceeded to tell me "your baby doesn't want that and it definitely doesn't need that".
Married: 06-2024
TTC #1: Since November 2015
Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
due to previous issues.
***TW***
BFP: 11/4/2016
BFP: 07/17/2024
William Alexander born 18 September, 2015
Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017
Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017
Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
DS1 - 7/2011, DD 12/2012, DS2 - 4/2014, MMC - 12/2015
@mrs35 light yogurt (and cheese and etc) mean more sugar, less fats. You want to eat the full fat stuff!
I still havent told many people we're expecting but am fully expecting a few "again?" from some more career driven friends. (I only have one, btw)
@Xath - Now I want a bag of Twix instead of my pretzels lol
Married: 06-2024
TTC #1: Since November 2015
Restarted TTC "count" Oct. 2016
due to previous issues.
***TW***
BFP: 11/4/2016
BFP: 07/17/2024
While I've already gone public, I am dreading Christmas dinner with my Mom's family. They are very gossipy, condescending and ... not very supportive?! Although all my cousins with kids have been great thus far. I know they are going to ask if we have names and although we do, I think we're just going to lie and say no. I don't really want opinions on my name choices.
Difference is, my family knows I won't keep my mouth shut if they say something that pisses me off (which would explain why I'm the black sheep. I don't let them walk all over me) so I really hope that they would think twice before saying stupid stuff to me
Met: 08/2001 ~ Dating: 07/2004 ~ Engaged: 11/2009 ~ Married: 06/2011
TTC: Since 09/16 ~ BFP 10/28/16 ~ EDD 7/5/17
Team Pink * Canadian Bumpie