I'm excited too @NiceyMeany If anyone is interested, H and I went to a breastfeeding class taught by this guy called "Brian the birth guy". He's a little out there, but he made me really confident. He also teaches a fun class for dads called "rockin' dads". H went to the class and said it was great He posts a lot online and on YouTube. And he's filming a show with TLC, which is pretty cool.
@NiceyMeany I am totally looking forward to it! In sort of the same way I was excited about pregnancy--I mean, a human child is growing inside my body right now. And then I'm going to feed this human child solely with a substance produced by my body. How insane and f*cked up and cool is that? It's almost like science fiction to me, and I think it's so wild. I'm also not stressed if it doesn't work out, so that helps my ability to be excited, I think.
Also, can we return to the fact that BF is FREE?! Minus the few "accessories" you might end up needing, how amazing is it that you don't have spend money on formula? Hell, I could be excited to try BFing based on potential money savings alone.
Me: 34 Husband: 35 Married: June 2007
Son Max born 1/10/17 BFP #2: 10/5/17; EDD: 6/11/18
Also, my cousin refused to try breastfeeding because she thought it was "gross," and I admit that I did side-eye her pretty hard for that. I mean, isn't gross part of the parenting schtick? Am I meant to believe that scraping poop out of my kid's crotch and crack is somehow not gross? Gross is life, as far as I can tell.
Me: 34 Husband: 35 Married: June 2007
Son Max born 1/10/17 BFP #2: 10/5/17; EDD: 6/11/18
@NiceyMeany I am totally looking forward to it! In sort of the same way I was excited about pregnancy--I mean, a human child is growing inside my body right now. And then I'm going to feed this human child solely with a substance produced by my body. How insane and f*cked up and cool is that? It's almost like science fiction to me, and I think it's so wild. I'm also not stressed if it doesn't work out, so that helps my ability to be excited, I think.
Also, can we return to the fact that BF is FREE?! Minus the few "accessories" you might end up needing, how amazing is it that you don't have spend money on formula? Hell, I could be excited to try BFing based on potential money savings alone.
Yes to all of this^!!! I'm really excited about it too. I know it won't be easy but a lot of things in life aren't easy.
@MoonOverGoldsboro my cousin said she didn't want to bother breastfeeding because apparently FF makes babies sleep better that kinda response does make me judgy because Uhm, WUT?
I started FF my baby around 4-5 months old and he only started sleeping through the night at 9 months so....
************* First BFP: 12/16/13 EDD: 08/23/14 Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
The only reason I have apprehension towards BF is because I don't know if I can for medical reasons. I have heard so many sides to my predicament I don't know what to think anymore. I'm epileptic, and currently take carbamazepine for it(seizure free for almost 3 years thank god). Back when I was first talking about getting pregnant I was talking to the wife of one of my husband's friends who has the same condition; she told me when she gave birth she went to BF her child and the nurses basically tore her child from her ams and demanded to know what she was doing. According to her her family doctor said it would be okay to BF, but the doctors in the hospital said absolutely not. My mother is also epileptic and was not allowed to BF my sister and myself also because she was on medication for her condition. When I went to my own doctor to have my pregnancy confirmed I relayed both these stories to her and she assured me I would be able to BF, but I keep thinking of DH's friend's wife and wondering if it will be the same situation with me. I know I have to do a lot more research and definitely get the opinions of a few doctors, but it has me freaked out. I'd love to try BFing, but I'm scared to get info because I don't want to get my hopes up just to be smacked down and be told that what I fear is true, and it just won't be possible for me.
@MoonOverGoldsboro my cousin said she didn't want to bother breastfeeding because apparently FF makes babies sleep better that kinda response does make me judgy because Uhm, WUT?
I started FF my baby around 4-5 months old and he only started sleeping through the night at 9 months so....
Ok you hit the point where I start judging. I've honestly never heard anyone use a reason like that or it being "gross" IRL. Sometimes I don't know what I don't know until you ladies tell me. Everyone I know who exclusively FF and volunteered a reason to me (I would never ask) said it was because either BF did not work well for them or because they were just really uncomfortable with it, for which I assume they have their reasons.
Moms who don't want to try breastfeeding get zero judgement from me. My best friend says that she won't even try when the time comes, because the thought of it grosses her out. I get that it's natural and beautiful and all that, but... it's HER body. Her feelings about that are 100% valid, as are her choices about her body. I think anything else is anti-feminist bullshit. Would men get the side eye if they chose to retain a bit of body autonomy after giving up their bodies to grow and birth another person for almost a year? No way.
I both loved and hated breastfeeding. It was SO hard when baby was EBF and I felt friggin CHAINED to him. It was hard enough transitioning to being a parent... breastfeeding makes them so dependent on only you. It's a lot of pressure. But it got easier and easier as he got older, and i eventually loved it. I cried like a baby when we stopped at 2.
I haven't even looked at the nursery thread. Now I feel like I've been missing out!
I'm really looking forward to BFing too. Last time I was so misled and so uninformed (no LC in the hospital to start). And this time I'm very determined to make it work!!
If a nurse freaks out, ask them if they still think going outside barefoot is what causes colds too.
That is good to know though! I hadn't really thought about people freaking out. I may mention it during early delivery so I can get my Nuero to push it with them if he needs to.
Also, FFFC: part of the reason I'm excited to BF is that all of my new-mom friends won't stfu about how skinny they are now that they BF. I'm fully preparing to be apparently the only woman in history who can't binge on nachos and donuts daily while BFing, but it's nice to dream for a bit.
@NiceyMeany for me, it was all about the huge tits. I was very excited about them. Looking forward to seeing those again. Wish they'd stick around permanently.
Constant eating is nice too. "My milk supply will suffer if I don't eat this entire pizza! Gotta do it for my baby." Oh, the sacrifices we make.
I think choosing whether or not to BF is a very personal decision. Personally I don't think anyone owes an explanation, but I can definitely see deeply personal circumstances that may make a new mom feel too vulnerable to even attempt. A survivor of sexual assault or abuse owes no one an explanation with what they do with their bodies. So while it may seem outrageous that someone wouldn't even try, maybe there are underlying issues that prevent them from revisiting their trauma. In other cases, I still believe it's the woman's right to choose.
Just like I choose to attempt, and hopefully succeed, at BFing, I would never shame or question another mom's choice. That's why I consider myself in the "fed is best" camp
Perhaps my UO/FFFC is that folks should get used to feeling like a failure, guilty, unsure, disappointed and judged as a mother/parent. Do you Boo, it's friggin Vietnam war out here. And to add a rainbow, it's also terribly beautiful.
Perhaps my UO/FFFC is that folks should get used to feeling like a failure, guilty, unsure, disappointed and judged as a mother/parent. Do you Boo, it's friggin Vietnam war out here. And to add a rainbow, it's also terribly beautiful.
@NiceyMeany add me to the excited to breastfeed club!
Like PPs said, women get to choose to breastfeed or not. I'm not judging or questioning. I'll judge a lot of parenting decisions but not that because there are too many reasons to not breastfeed that are 100% legit.
FFFC: I got my first gel manicure today, and I think I'm in love. I'm not a nails person, but wanted a pedicure so I figured I'd get a manicure while I was there for a baby shower tomorrow. Where has this been all my life!?
FFFC: DH has drill this weekend, so while he's 300 miles away, the pup and I drive 10 mins down the road to my parent's house for a sleepover because I get the creeps at my house alone. So I'm currently sitting in a childhood bedroom watching Desperate Housewives and making snowflake ornaments out of beads and pipe cleaners. No shame here.
I know you're all super jelly and wish you could make dope ass snowflakes out of beads. I also know I am still a child and I think that'll make me a cool mom.
Alright, I'll admit it. I judge people who don't even TRY to breastfeed. Like if you try it, even once, and hate it then hey at least you gave it a shot. But I can't wrap my head around not even trying to do what is medically recommended and free. Of course any medical or physical issues, past experiences etc aren't included in this, but if you just don't want to bother trying I side eye that. Also, while formula is a really great thing for those who CAN'T breastfeed, I think the saying "fed is best" is kinda silly. I mean, my kid won't eat a damn vegetable but I can say that veggies are better for her than her diet of chicken nuggets. ::puts on flame retardant suit::
I am glad you said this because I was thinking the same thing but didn't have the guts!
For those that don't/didn't want to try breastfeeding at all - I'm curious why?
I know one of my aunts never even tried cuz she thought her boobs would sag. I should ask her if she's still happy with her decision. she probably is cuz her boys seem to be healthy.
I'm excited for breastfeeding, and I'm hoping it's as easy as it was with my first 2. I lucked out in that department. Unfortunately I heard the shaming in having 2 c-sections. I hate that people think that's the "easy way out" Ummm... no! Not one bit! And I still gave birth to these children, vag or not!
I'm excited for breastfeeding, and I'm hoping it's as easy as it was with my first 2. I lucked out in that department. Unfortunately I heard the shaming in having 2 c-sections. I hate that people think that's the "easy way out" Ummm... no! Not one bit! And I still gave birth to these children, vag or not!
Honestly, I had a pretty traumatic vaginal delivery and I'd still be less stressed about going through that again than my upcoming scheduled c-section. That's major abdominal surgery. HUGE kudos to c-section mamas. I'll never understand the "getting out of it easy" comment.
************* First BFP: 12/16/13 EDD: 08/23/14 Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
Both my MIL and one of my grandmothers made it a point to tell me (as I lay in my hospital bed, doped up on pain meds and trying to recover) that they both had babies just as big as mine, but they didn't need csections so they couldn't understand why I did. People will always have something to say no matter what you do or how you do it and whether or not it's a choice won't matter either.
I'm the only one in my family who has breastfed my kids. My family is the opposite of most because they shame you for not using formula. I'm all about the health benefits for the baby gained through nursing, but honestly what appealed to me most is that it's FREE and I'm lazy and like just being able to whip out my boob and be done with it. They just couldn't wrap their minds around it. I didn't love breastfeeding, but I didn't hate it either. I just did it because it seemed the most logical choice for me personally. Not everyone will feel that way though and that's fine. I never understood why people care so much about what others are doing. I'm referring to those I've encountered IRL.
Re: UO & FFFC (11/17-18)
If anyone is interested, H and I went to a breastfeeding class taught by this guy called "Brian the birth guy". He's a little out there, but he made me really confident. He also teaches a fun class for dads called "rockin' dads". H went to the class and said it was great
He posts a lot online and on YouTube. And he's filming a show with TLC, which is pretty cool.
Also, can we return to the fact that BF is FREE?! Minus the few "accessories" you might end up needing, how amazing is it that you don't have spend money on formula? Hell, I could be excited to try BFing based on potential money savings alone.
Husband: 35
Married: June 2007
Son Max born 1/10/17
BFP #2: 10/5/17; EDD: 6/11/18
Husband: 35
Married: June 2007
Son Max born 1/10/17
BFP #2: 10/5/17; EDD: 6/11/18
Yes to all of this^!!! I'm really excited about it too. I know it won't be easy but a lot of things in life aren't easy.
Married: 9/2013
Love my LEO!!
TTC #1: 9/2015
BFP: 2/1/16 MC 2/8/16 @ 5wks
BFP: 5/22/16 RAINBOW BABY
EDD: 1/30/2017 *IT'S A GIRL!!!!*
Kirsten Grace 1/20/17
I started FF my baby around 4-5 months old and he only started sleeping through the night at 9 months so....
First BFP: 12/16/13
EDD: 08/23/14
Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
I both loved and hated breastfeeding. It was SO hard when baby was EBF and I felt friggin CHAINED to him. It was hard enough transitioning to being a parent... breastfeeding makes them so dependent on only you. It's a lot of pressure. But it got easier and easier as he got older, and i eventually loved it. I cried like a baby when we stopped at 2.
I haven't even looked at the nursery thread. Now I feel like I've been missing out!
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3844381/
If a nurse freaks out, ask them if they still think going outside barefoot is what causes colds too.
That is good to know though! I hadn't really thought about people freaking out. I may mention it during early delivery so I can get my Nuero to push it with them if he needs to.
Married: 10/10
EDD: 8/27/16 MMC 1/16
Rainbow Boy: 2/04/17
TTC: 4/18 BFP: 1/2/19
EDD: 9/6/19
Also, FFFC: part of the reason I'm excited to BF is that all of my new-mom friends won't stfu about how skinny they are now that they BF. I'm fully preparing to be apparently the only woman in history who can't binge on nachos and donuts daily while BFing, but it's nice to dream for a bit.
Constant eating is nice too. "My milk supply will suffer if I don't eat this entire pizza! Gotta do it for my baby." Oh, the sacrifices we make.
Just like I choose to attempt, and hopefully succeed, at BFing, I would never shame or question another mom's choice. That's why I consider myself in the "fed is best" camp
And to add a rainbow, it's also terribly beautiful.
Like PPs said, women get to choose to breastfeed or not. I'm not judging or questioning. I'll judge a lot of parenting decisions but not that because there are too many reasons to not breastfeed that are 100% legit.
I know you're all super jelly and wish you could make dope ass snowflakes out of beads. I also know I am still a child and I think that'll make me a cool mom.
TTC #1: 3/2016
Me 39 - DH 44
BFP 5/27/16 EDD 1/30/17
DD born 2/3/17
in having 2 c-sections. I hate that people think that's the "easy way out" Ummm... no! Not one bit! And I still gave birth to these children, vag or not!
First BFP: 12/16/13
EDD: 08/23/14
Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
I'm the only one in my family who has breastfed my kids. My family is the opposite of most because they shame you for not using formula. I'm all about the health benefits for the baby gained through nursing, but honestly what appealed to me most is that it's FREE and I'm lazy and like just being able to whip out my boob and be done with it. They just couldn't wrap their minds around it. I didn't love breastfeeding, but I didn't hate it either. I just did it because it seemed the most logical choice for me personally. Not everyone will feel that way though and that's fine. I never understood why people care so much about what others are doing. I'm referring to those I've encountered IRL.