*American lady living in Tanzania, East Africa, since 2013
DH - Tanzanian
BFP #1 - MC Dec 2, 2015 (@ 9weeks)
BFP #2 - Feb 2, 2016 --EDD 10/10/16 --Abigail- October 6, 2016. Heart warrior- OHS at 7 months old
October 2017- Began fostering to adopt T, (DOB: November 19, 2013)
March 2021 - Bonus daughter, N, moved in with us (DOB: June 6, 2014)
BFP #3 - April 25, 2024 -- EDD January 2, 2025
Re: Monday Bitchfest 11/14
One of the things my mom and I decided was I was going to keep one of her cats because we had a theory that the older cat ('my' cats mom) wouldn't let her get close to anyone in the house (ex: my mom was trying to get the kitten to come to her and as she crept forward the older cat got in the middle and batted her away) so if we separated them, the kitten could actually become affectionate...
my dh was against this. He loves cats but really didn't want a pet. I had always had cats growing up and wasn't allowed to have one for the last 11 years because of living in an apartment. So I made the decision to keep her without him, in turn I have to buy the food and litter, feed her and change the litter.
I'm kind of over it. I would never bring her to a shelter but I would consider giving her away.
The bf is that i feel horrible about everything: it was my choice, I love her but she is a lot of work and won't even let you look at her (and not just in that asshole cat way but in a 'I'm scared and hate everyone' kind of way), and worse my dd has gotten use to feeding her and keeping an eye out and announcing when she sees her.
I should have just made my mom take her!
Bonus: my dh is still pissy about that cat but there is a stray that had become an outside cat when my parents lived here and my dh tries to catch that cat so we can bring him to the vet so he can come inside! So the cat we have he doesn't want but the cat that is a outside stray, he wants.
Sorry that was super long, it's just frustrating and sad!
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
Ps on top of making me mad that he thinks he is suffering as much/worse, it makes me sad because I can't be there to comfort/take care of my dd.