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thatcma · October 2016

***I have "borrowed" this thread from M17, just so we can get some daily threads happening and get us started. If there's any changes anyone would like to make let me know in the comments and we can discuss them. I did make a few tweaks to everything***

Welcome to the July 2017 Birth Month Board!

Some links that you may find helpful:

For those of you that are new to TB since you got your BFP, the threads below are standard threads to all boards. Anyone can start these threads, just please do not duplicate! Specific threads have volunteers to start (IE: ticker changes, PGAL/FTM/STM+ check ins). Those assigned threads have been volunteered for and have the names of that responsible person next to it.

The community of this board encourages giving support as well as receiving it and prefers threads that benefit the whole rather than the individual. A wide range of topics are covered in our regular weekly threads, and we also have two catch-all threads for questions/comments and discussions/announcements: “Pregnancy Chatter” (pregnancy/childcare) and “Randoms & Spam” (non-pregnancy/childcare).

If you have a specific question please first use the search function if you are looking for specific answers to things to ensure we have not already answered your question. If you cannot find the answer then please post it in one of the weekly topics or the chatter threads. The exception to this is confirmed loss - please update us if you are comfortable doing so in either your own thread (for which you will receive response notifications) or in an existing relevant thread (which you will not unless the responder directly tags you).

If there is a discussion for the community that would be better served in its own thread, feel free to post it! A good example of this may be a GTKY (Get To Know You) question or, as we near July, a thread about what people are planning for their hospital go-bags. Once we all get farther along, we will also have pinned threads for things like gender announcements, nursery pics, and birth announcements.

Daily Threads: (please add the date to the thread title)

Ticker Changes (when your weekly progression changes, you participate in that day. For example, if I will be 10 weeks on Friday, that's the day I participate).

MONDAY

Monday Ticker Change @saphiresweetie88
Weekly Pregnancy Chatter & Questions
Weekly Randoms/Spam
Weekly Appointments
Meal Plan Monday
Monday Bitchfest
Symptoms Thread

TUESDAY

Tuesday Ticker Change @JAM85
Twatwaffle (TW) Tuesday
First Time Mom Check-In @osucma
High Risk Pregnancy Check-In
Moms of Multiples Check-In

WEDNESDAY

Wednesday Ticker Change @osucma
WTF Wednesday
PGAL Check-In @chloe97
Second Time Mom+ Check-In @LuLiLaEv

THURSDAY

Thursday Ticker Change @MelissaM090
Unpopular Opinion (UO) Thursday
TTGP Grad Check-In @saphiresweetie88
What My Pregnant Self is Eating
Why My Pregnant Self is Crying

FRIDAY

Friday Ticker Change @adabyron
Flame Free Friday Confession (FFFC)
Exercise/Fitness Check-In @JAM85

SATURDAY

Saturday Ticker Change @babypi
Why my SO is an A-hole

SUNDAY

Sunday Ticker Change @manillabar
Stupid Question Sunday
Why my SO is awesome

Monthly Siggy Challenge: Up for discussion after the holidays.

thatcma · October 2016

@bumpadmin @bumpcaitlin @bumptara PLEASE PIN

thatcma · October 2016

If everyone is on board with acceping responsibility to post threads I am willing to do:

Tuesday FTM check in, Wednesday ticker change, and stupid question Sunday

MelissaM090 · October 2016

Hi @osucma! Thanks for starting this. I'm ALL for organization.

Do you want to edit your original post with the volunteer names as people sign up?

I'd be willing to do Thursday Ticker Change and FFFC.

AdaByron · October 2016

I'll volunteer for the Friday ticker change

glitterfish-2 · October 2016

I can't post from work so I can't commit to a thread start-up, but my vote is against only super-organization. We can really talk about this when we actually get some members!

AdaByron · October 2016

GlitterFish said:

I can't post from work so I can't commit to a thread start-up, but my vote is against only super-organization. We can really talk about this when we actually get some members!

I'm with you. Sometimes boards go overboard with organization. On my last BMB, someone was in charge of each ticker change, but all the other threads were started by whoever felt like starting them. And (for instance) if nobody had anything to bitch about on a Monday, the Monday Bitchfest never happened. I think that makes for more interesting threads when some starts it because they really have something to talk about, and not just out of obligation.

I also think everyone should feel welcome to start a thread if they have an idea. And perhaps having too many "set in stone" threads could make someone feel uncomfortable starting something different?

thatcma · October 2016

I don't mind threads being started that don't quite fit in but I do prefer to have the organization of daily threads. I think it makes it easier to commit to them versus hoping someone picks it up. I don't think everyone needs to commit to doing it, it's totally volunteer. That's why I did 3 of them because I don't mind.

@adabyron I can change the wording to this thread to say something about "if you want to post and it doesn't fit in a thread feel free to start a new one" to maybe help deter feeling uncomfortable.

I think it helps to come to a general consensus since we will be with each other for sometime Should we post a poll on it?

ETA words

glitterfish-2 · October 2016

I think "theme threads" are awesome!

Maybe we should eventually do a poll, but I also don't think it's fair if we set the rules for the whole BMB as we are the first 5 or so to join! lol

Although....

MelissaM090 · October 2016

We can definitely be open to others opinions and vibes as they join, but I think it's good to set some gentle standards right from the very beginning before we get influxed with post-and-ghosters that use us as Google but never actually contribute anything.

I think the Tickers are great to have certain people start them, but I agree that some of the other theme threads can be started by anyone. I volunteered to start FFFC, and I'm happy to do it for the first couple until we get into the swing of things and then anyone can jump in with the thread-starting. I think most of them would benefit from someone who knows TB starting them at the beginning until we get a routine established.

thatcma · October 2016

MelissaM090 said:

We can definitely be open to others opinions and vibes as they join, but I think it's good to set some gentle standards right from the very beginning before we get influxed with post-and-ghosters that use us as Google but never actually contribute anything.

I think the Tickers are great to have certain people start them, but I agree that some of the other theme threads can be started by anyone. I volunteered to start FFFC, and I'm happy to do it for the first couple until we get into the swing of things and then anyone can jump in with the thread-starting. I think most of them would benefit from someone who knows TB starting them at the beginning until we get a routine established.

I totally agree, especially with bolded parts. I think it might be very helpful for the first 2 weeks to have structure like this.

AdaByron · October 2016

I don't think a poll is necessary, and I don't think you need to change anything in your post above. As long as nobody is jumping in saying "This thread doesn't belong on Tuesdays" or "Only so-and-so is allowed to start the whatever thread" then I'm fine with it.

From my experience, if someone is annoying starting a bunch of dear diary threads, they just get called out in the UO or something, and that's the end of it. We don't need a whole bunch of rules from the beginning.

MelissaM090 · October 2016

@osucma I think we might just get along

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manillabar · October 2016

I could do the Sunday ticker change thread!

thatcma · October 2016

I guess for the time being I will list the names of who volunteered until we come to a more clear decision. I am not trying to step on toes, or take control. Just trying to get everything going.

thatcma · October 2016

@bumpadmin @bumpcaitlin @bumptara please sticky this

MelissaM090 · October 2016

We're on mobile now so predict it's going to start getting busy around here soon!

JAM85 · October 2016

@MelissaM090 I know I was so excited!!

glitterfish-2 · October 2016

Hey @osucma if these 2 are going to be sticky-ed do you think there's a way to shorten the titles? These 2 threads take up 75% of the real estate in the mobile format lol

thatcma · October 2016

@glitterfish I am on it

glitterfish-2 · October 2016

Thanks! I even have a Samsung Note, and the threads are giant on my mobile! Haha

JAM85 · October 2016

I'll do the Exercise/Fitness check-in on Friday

JAM85 · October 2016

I legit cannot figure out how to get my ticker in my signature despite the links and much googling. I have tried both formats and click <> to make the box yellow before I paste and then save but noting except the code text

(see below)

thatcma · October 2016

@JAM85 make sure you are using the code that looks like this: (not the url one)

kghusker1003 · October 2016

I could do meal plan monday!! I live for my meal plans.

manillabar · October 2016

Would stupid question Sunday be where we can ask STM+ for their experiences and sage advice? Because my sister had already been like a lifeline for me lol

kat0607 · October 2016

I could do the symptoms thread on Wednesday's for the time being! I agree with the posts above about board organization. I think it's good to have a more rigid structure at the beginning while things get rolling, but later on if someone gets to creating the thread before me, that'd be totally fine!

thatcma · October 2016

@manillabar I think that would be a fine place for that question.

Also everyone is noted that has volunteered, thanks!

abmommy15 · October 2016

AdaByron said:

I don't think a poll is necessary, and I don't think you need to change anything in your post above. As long as nobody is jumping in saying "This thread doesn't belong on Tuesdays" or "Only so-and-so is allowed to start the whatever thread" then I'm fine with it.

From my experience, if someone is annoying starting a bunch of dear diary threads, they just get called out in the UO or something, and that's the end of it. We don't need a whole bunch of rules from the beginning.

All of this! Weekly threads are great as long as we don't get a bunch of "this belongs on the weekly ____ thread" when someone starts their own. Eventually the format works itself out and people posting ridic individual threads get flamed and figure it out. Besides sometimes a good flaming is entertaining and we don't want to miss out on that haha.

caribbeanmama-2 · November 2016

I really like the introduction post, the general board guidelines, and the helpful links. I find the list of weekly threads and volunteer assignments too rigid of a structure though. Somehow it always gets done with the community creating the threads if someone else hasn't already and things seem to evolve organically that way. I think especially for those that join later, because they are due later and other new members, it may seem as if there is some governing body in charge. It may be a bit much to be expected to keep track of who volunteered for what and which threads are 'taken'. I'm for a bit more freedom. Am not advocating chaos by any means just prefer to think of the titles above as suggestions versus structural rules.

@manillabar A thread completely dedicated to asking STM questions normally does quite well on its own.

I'm wondering why we have to wait until Wednesday to get the symptoms thread started? I'm dying to see how everyone is doing and commiserate accordingly. Now I'm sitting on my hands trying to not step on toes because there is an assignment pending.... Sigh ...

thatcma · November 2016

@caribbeanmama we can move the symptoms thread to Monday that's not an issue if no one has an issue with it.

In regards to board structure (who starts threads and what not) that can be flexible. Some people volunteered so I put their names there. I don't think it's a bad idea to have the ticker changes, FTM/STM/PGAL check ins to be one dedicated person to make sure they do not get missed.

I am happy to change any wording in the intro to match how we want the board to go, just need more input from everyone on here so far.

manillabar · November 2016

My understanding was that the point of assigning people is so that it doesn't get missed. I personally would never be offended if someone started the Sunday ticker change before I got the chance to. I think we're worried too much about being too rigid. I agree that we need some gentle structuring, as it seems everyone else does, but as far as I can tell no one's jumping down anyone's throat so I think we'll be ok

WorkinWeezel · November 2016

I can take on WTF Wednesday!

Can I do a WTF Thursday today? My WTF today is how much this board has changed!! And I have to figure out how to make a profile again LOL! This was a HUGE surprise pregnancy, and my kids are 3.5 and 6.5 so it's like starting over. I may need help

Cynth0104 · November 2016

@WorkinWeezel I felt the same way! Hadn't been on a board since I had my son in April 2012!

thatcma · November 2016

Now that we have more people I am going to post a poll on if we want assigned, some assigned, or no assigned threads since we have pretty mixed opinions on if we want them.

cheriep3 · November 2016

I like the idea of having people volunteer for a board. That way it's consistent and is done every week. I'm happy to start one!

star_beagle · November 2016

I'll take Tuesday Ticker Change.

BabyBuckWay · November 2016

I'm really having a hard time figuring out this ticker thing.... :-\

thatcma · November 2016

@babybuckway when you did it in your signature did you clikc the </> button first before pasting <a href="https://lilypie.com/"><img src="https://lmtf.lilypie.com/lIzkm5.png" width="400" height="80" border="0" alt="Lilypie Maternity tickers" /></a>?

theglitteredpterodactyl · November 2016

@caribbeanmama I agree with you.

I don't tend to post a lot in general but I still like coming here--I guess in more of a "post and ghoster" but this level of structure is off putting. That being said, if it's not really enforced then meh, I'll probably still occasionally pop in but after reading this I'll pretty much never start a thread. I'll also never remember that I'm supposed to go on sundays for my ticket change. To be clear, I'm not necessarily against the organization--I just know I won't be able to keep up. Insert awkward Buffy gif ( hopefully, I'm mobile and terrible at navigating forums on my phone)

SaphireSweetie88 · November 2016

I am willing to be responsible for any of the following. Just let me know which one :

MONDAY

Weekly Appointments
Monday Bitchfest

TUESDAY
Twatwaffle (TW) Tuesday

THURSDAY
Unpopular Opinion (UO) Thursday
TTGP Grad Check-In
What My Pregnant Self is Eating

SATURDAY
Why my SO is an A-hole

SUNDAY
Why my SO is awesome

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