There have been some complaints about what a catch-all the "Pregnancy Chatter" weekly thread is and how long it gets so I'm making a thread for randoms and symptoms, too. We haven't done any of them as a weekly thread yet so let's try it out. Hopefully no one minds that I took a shot at this organization all at once on a Monday morning.
This is where we can take the opportunity to chat about whatever you want to talk about with regard to going to see your OB/MW.
Me: 36; DH: 38
DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17!
**TW**
MMC & D&C Aug 2016
Re: Appointment Chatter - Week of 10/24
just going to mostly ask how much is different because I'm over 35 this time. And then its only 3 weeks until my NT scan!! What?!
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Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014
IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs
IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos
FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17
FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN
FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20
Mom to Madison- 5 and Lillian 2....and now surprise baby #3!
@wifeinraleigh28 - That's smart to make 2 appointments! I'm lazy and just went with the OB that was given to me...we used her last time, but she's retiring in March so that will be interesting.
DD2 8.22.13
MMC 1.4.17 at 16w
Expecting #3, EDD 1.29.18
We waited around forever between the ultrasound and the dr appt and then the only thing of substance we talked to the dr about was genetic testing. It was quite a downer. I don't have any risk factors but they still offer the different tests and I hate hearing all the negatives. I wish the appointment could have been more rainbows and sunshine and yay look at my healthy little gummy bear!
Me: 36; DH: 38
DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17!
**TW**
MMC & D&C Aug 2016
suuuurree...
DD2 8.22.13
MMC 1.4.17 at 16w
Expecting #3, EDD 1.29.18
Hm. That's interesting. I was still BFing DD1 when I was first pregnant with DD2 and that was never a concern mentioned and I never had a dating u/s. My OB went with the dates I provided.
DD2 8.22.13
MMC 1.4.17 at 16w
Expecting #3, EDD 1.29.18
I have my first prenatal visit tomorrow and I'm so nervous about hearing the heartbeat. I had an ultrasound at 6+1 and they didn't hear one then so it's just made me more anxious. I feel like I'll be able to really get excited if I can just get that confirmation that they're growing and healthy.
1) it's not loose structure when someone does make their own post and everyone responds with "this should be in the blahblah thread."
2) I don't see it as an "effort to build a community," I see it as a way to force activity- by the first couple of people to head to this board- since we're no longer allowed to say anything that could possible hurt someone's feelings.
DD2 8.22.13
MMC 1.4.17 at 16w
Expecting #3, EDD 1.29.18
TTC #1 since 9/2015
BFP #1 1/14/16, MC 3/23/16
BFP #2 9/21/2016, EDD 5/30/2017
re: appointment: I have my initial first appointment this Friday. No u/s, just getting enrolled into the system. Yay.
Me: 36; DH: 38
DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17!
**TW**
MMC & D&C Aug 2016
I for one @JAGinMI appreciate your effort to try a format appealing to a greater % of the community. I think this will be helpful to many and I like it.
AFM - I have my first ultrasound this Friday and I'm hoping to graduate to my OB.
Ultrasound to check dates and hopefully see a heartbeat.
Im a little nervous, I've never had an appointment this early. I switched ob's because we moved this summer, my ob with my first two didn't see me until 10-12 weeks. This new one I had to come in for a urine test and bloodwork, and gen scheduled my appointment for between 6-8 weeks.
GL to everyone with appointments coming up!
That, I can agree with.
But there didn't used to be a post for every appointment, u/s, intro, ect. It was a lot more discussion about actual things and a lot less focus on the minor details of pregnancy. More in depth. The boards developed more organically. It was less... I don't know the word I'm looking for. Not such a girl scouts and kumbaya feel. You had to have your big girl panties on, but I assure you. It was a fun place.
DD2 8.22.13
MMC 1.4.17 at 16w
Expecting #3, EDD 1.29.18
Basically, I think we're all saying the same thing, but it's not being conveyed or interpreted properly.
I think there's also a sense of not wanting to be told what to do. Not that I really think that's anyone's intention. But the passive aggressive UOs about people not reading the rules or not posting where they should bug me, doing that while saying you're trying to build community strikes me as disingenuous.
Not really anything new though. The BMBs usually get staked out by TTgP folks since they're often testing earlier and more in tune with early pregnancy. It's natural that the board comes with some of the TTGP culture. As more people mix in it balances out. Though people at the end of the month get screwed coming in with questions that have already been discussed several times by an earlier wave of posters.
I love when salty old regs come back and shake things up. They usually end up being some of my favorite posters. I say that in the nicest way possible @BelhurstBride.
Married: June 2014
DS Born 6/22/17
Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014
IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs
IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos
FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17
FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN
FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20
I was on N15 and we did ultimately end up with structure after quite a lot of frustration caused by repeat posts over shared issues/events (eg baby shower, U/S photos, sex reveal) and we had a fantastic board. We had individual threads where it made sense (eg a diagnosis during ultrasound, questions/concerns on a specific test result). I'm part of a FB group with many of them and feel the same way about that BMB as you feel about yours. While your structural experience on A15 sounds different than mine on N15, it doesn't mean we both didn't build strong relationships within our communities. I was also here pre-exodus on M14 (lurked given a late join) and it was the exact opposite of many of the BMBs today. I've seen a pretty wide array of board formats and I genuinely feel that shared threads encourage community. To me it is like having a discussion with friends. I get more opinions and thoughts when I engage in a dialogue with friends. Now if while they're talking about an issue in one room, I walk into a different room and have a monologue about the same issue, both groups lose out. They don't get the extra opinion/experience and I've just missed tons of great info by isolating myself. I just don't see why everyone needs their own "sex reveal" thread or their own "baby shower" thread. No on in camp "do what I want when I want" can seem to give me a valid reason as to why this makes sense other than "I don't want to be told what to do" which in my opinion is merely an unfortunate perception of good intention from many members here.
ETA: also, we are all hormonal. We're pregnant. Don't take it too personally.
ETA: Every human has hormones. Would you call anyone with a different POV than you hormonal? Or do you think that's fine to just reserve for pregnant women? So yeahhhh...
i guess we're blaming hormones because you're refusing to even try to see any point of view but your own, and that kind of ridiculous stubbornness isn't normal.