I didn't call anyone hormonal I said don't let the hormones get the best of you. As in we are a bunch of pregnant women with a ton of hormones running through us that we aren't used to and it causes actions and reactions that we wouldn't normally have. Same reason pregnant women cry over things that their non pregnant self wouldn't even think about. My point is that structured threads can be good but insisting on a bunch of huge threads that most people don't have the time or energy to wade through and then policing anytime someone posts their own is not going to contribute to a vibrant and supportive community. It's necessary on a board like ttgp where the people are constantly changing but doesn't need to be so structured in a bmb where we all stay the same. Sure things like u/s don't all need their own threads but if someone has a scary or concerning u/s then there is no reason they can't post their own thread so it doesn't get buried.
Ummm this is literally what I've been saying the entire time regarding my POV on board structure. Shared topics/events get one thread (eg baby shower, ultrasound photos, sex reveal). The example I gave above for my opinion on what constitutes an individual post is what you just wrote in bold. Again, I haven't seen anyone policing. I've seen (as I have also done) members giving a response AND also letting OP know where the question would get more eyeballs as it is already being discussed or was discussed with tons of answers. I consider that helpful. Not policing.
And to the hormone comment - you quite literally said "Chill ladies, don't let the hormones get the best of you and concentrate on getting to know each other instead of getting to be the boss". You're basically of an opposing POV and your retort to "camp organize" is to chill and stop policing with the implication that hormones are causing our opinion and behavior. I can guarantee you that my personal opinion on board structure has nothing to do with my hormone levels. I think, communicate and act the same way when I'm pregnant as I do when I'm not pregnant. That's my personality. That doesn't mean I'm hormonal or abnormal as another poster said.
@wifeinraleigh28 I'm sure I'm just overthinking the whole thing! Lol. I will probably just try to go with the flow, but I really don't want to do the same blood work twice. No extra needles for this mamma!
Just got a call from my doctor's office, HCG levels look good and I just have to go back tomorrow to test again. They did say that my progesterone level is a "low normal". The minimum they want is 15 and I am at 16.5. I am getting a prescription filled for a supplement. Has anyone else experienced this? I guess it would explain my cramping... I am not freaking out. Actually pretty relieved. Just wanted to see what everyone else's experiences were like.
I didn't call anyone hormonal I said don't let the hormones get the best of you. As in we are a bunch of pregnant women with a ton of hormones running through us that we aren't used to and it causes actions and reactions that we wouldn't normally have. Same reason pregnant women cry over things that their non pregnant self wouldn't even think about. My point is that structured threads can be good but insisting on a bunch of huge threads that most people don't have the time or energy to wade through and then policing anytime someone posts their own is not going to contribute to a vibrant and supportive community. It's necessary on a board like ttgp where the people are constantly changing but doesn't need to be so structured in a bmb where we all stay the same. Sure things like u/s don't all need their own threads but if someone has a scary or concerning u/s then there is no reason they can't post their own thread so it doesn't get buried.
Ummm this is literally what I've been saying the entire time regarding my POV on board structure. Shared topics/events get one thread (eg baby shower, ultrasound photos, sex reveal). The example I gave above for my opinion on what constitutes an individual post is what you just wrote in bold. Again, I haven't seen anyone policing. I've seen (as I have also done) members giving a response AND also letting OP know where the question would get more eyeballs as it is already being discussed or was discussed with tons of answers. I consider that helpful. Not policing.
And to the hormone comment - you quite literally said "Chill ladies, don't let the hormones get the best of you and concentrate on getting to know each other instead of getting to be the boss". You're basically of an opposing POV and your retort to "camp organize" is to chill and stop policing with the implication that hormones are causing our opinion and behavior. I can guarantee you that my personal opinion on board structure has nothing to do with my hormone levels. I think, communicate and act the same way when I'm pregnant as I do when I'm not pregnant. That's my personality. That doesn't mean I'm hormonal or abnormal as another poster said.
You are getting way worked up over something so small. First I never called you out or said anything about your point of view. My comments were made as a general observation about what I've seen. My POV is that forcing everyone into structured threads is going to prevent building a fun and supportive community. I've seen comments like "I was going to post this but didn't know if it was ok" or "I didn't know where to post". All I'm saying is that there are clearly a lot of ladies who are afraid to post because of all the "this should go on (insert structured thread)" comments. You like all the structure that's awesome but many want a little more freedom. Feel free to move past the individual threads and onto the structured ones if that's your preference. There are definitely some weekly threads that are awesome and necessary. Random "yay I had an u/s here's my pic" should definitely go on a structured thread. "I'm concerned about xyz" should not be directed to a massive weekly thread where things get buried. My comment about chill ladies was not calling everyone hormonal. It was a lighthearted comment meant to point out that everyone needs to calm down and let the board develop organically. If you took it as anything else I'm sorry but perhaps you are being a bit sensitive....that was sensitive not hormonal. This is a new group, everyone is getting to know each other and the board will develop on its own. No need to make people feel like they shouldn't post. Trust me when I say that in a few weeks if everyone relaxes and enjoys getting to know each other we will have a great community. You might think your comments directing people to whatever thread are harmless but in actuality they make those posters hesitate next time they have a question or need support.
I'm at a new practice and the nausea/vomiting has been unreal but they said since they haven't seen me (pregnancy confirmation scheduled for 11/3) they couldn't help me... but then they scheduled a 'problem' appointment yesterday morning so I could get an Rx.
Well, they did an ultrasound and I heard the heartbeat.... all.by.myself!!!
DH was so upset and keeps saying the appointment of 11/3 isn't the same. He doesn't even want to take off work to go, even though I know he really does... he's just sad that he didn't get to experience it with me as 'the first'.
You are getting way worked up over something so small. First I never called you out or said anything about your point of view. My comments were made as a general observation about what I've seen. My POV is that forcing everyone into structured threads is going to prevent building a fun and supportive community. I've seen comments like "I was going to post this but didn't know if it was ok" or "I didn't know where to post". All I'm saying is that there are clearly a lot of ladies who are afraid to post because of all the "this should go on (insert structured thread)" comments. You like all the structure that's awesome but many want a little more freedom. Feel free to move past the individual threads and onto the structured ones if that's your preference. There are definitely some weekly threads that are awesome and necessary. Random "yay I had an u/s here's my pic" should definitely go on a structured thread. "I'm concerned about xyz" should not be directed to a massive weekly thread where things get buried. My comment about chill ladies was not calling everyone hormonal. It was a lighthearted comment meant to point out that everyone needs to calm down and let the board develop organically. If you took it as anything else I'm sorry but perhaps you are being a bit sensitive....that was sensitive not hormonal. This is a new group, everyone is getting to know each other and the board will develop on its own. No need to make people feel like they shouldn't post. Trust me when I say that in a few weeks if everyone relaxes and enjoys getting to know each other we will have a great community. You might think your comments directing people to whatever thread are harmless but in actuality they make those posters hesitate next time they have a question or need support.
First bolded comment: You are the only one who seems to be in a tizzy about a developing format not suiting your personal preference. Second bolded comment: Fascinating since so far most on the poll agree with my POV... sooooo.... Third bolded comment: You continue to reiterate my point. Either you're not bothering to read my comments or you're not understanding them. Fourth bolded comment: I think you're confusing sensitive with decent Fifth bolded commnent: I haven't. AGAIN... try looking at my post history. I would love for you to find one post of mine on this BMB where I was acting in such a manner. (spoiler alert... one doesn't exist). I've been responsive to any thread format as this is a new BMB and I'm trying to be helpful.
You are getting way worked up over something so small. First I never called you out or said anything about your point of view. My comments were made as a general observation about what I've seen. My POV is that forcing everyone into structured threads is going to prevent building a fun and supportive community. I've seen comments like "I was going to post this but didn't know if it was ok" or "I didn't know where to post". All I'm saying is that there are clearly a lot of ladies who are afraid to post because of all the "this should go on (insert structured thread)" comments. You like all the structure that's awesome but many want a little more freedom. Feel free to move past the individual threads and onto the structured ones if that's your preference. There are definitely some weekly threads that are awesome and necessary. Random "yay I had an u/s here's my pic" should definitely go on a structured thread. "I'm concerned about xyz" should not be directed to a massive weekly thread where things get buried. My comment about chill ladies was not calling everyone hormonal. It was a lighthearted comment meant to point out that everyone needs to calm down and let the board develop organically. If you took it as anything else I'm sorry but perhaps you are being a bit sensitive....that was sensitive not hormonal. This is a new group, everyone is getting to know each other and the board will develop on its own. No need to make people feel like they shouldn't post. Trust me when I say that in a few weeks if everyone relaxes and enjoys getting to know each other we will have a great community. You might think your comments directing people to whatever thread are harmless but in actuality they make those posters hesitate next time they have a question or need support.
First bolded comment: You are the only one who seems to be in a tizzy about a developing format not suiting your personal preference. Second bolded comment: Fascinating since so far most on the poll agree with my POV... sooooo.... Third bolded comment: You continue to reiterate my point. Either you're not bothering to read my comments or you're not understanding them. Fourth bolded comment: I think you're confusing sensitive with decent Fifth bolded commnent: I haven't. AGAIN... try looking at my post history. I would love for you to find one post of mine on this BMB where I was acting in such a manner. (spoiler alert... one doesn't exist). I've been responsive to any thread format as this is a new BMB and I'm trying to be helpful.
we literally never said it was you doing that. Just because it hasn't been you doesn't mean it hasn't happened.
You are getting way worked up over something so small. First I never called you out or said anything about your point of view. My comments were made as a general observation about what I've seen. My POV is that forcing everyone into structured threads is going to prevent building a fun and supportive community. I've seen comments like "I was going to post this but didn't know if it was ok" or "I didn't know where to post". All I'm saying is that there are clearly a lot of ladies who are afraid to post because of all the "this should go on (insert structured thread)" comments. You like all the structure that's awesome but many want a little more freedom. Feel free to move past the individual threads and onto the structured ones if that's your preference. There are definitely some weekly threads that are awesome and necessary. Random "yay I had an u/s here's my pic" should definitely go on a structured thread. "I'm concerned about xyz" should not be directed to a massive weekly thread where things get buried. My comment about chill ladies was not calling everyone hormonal. It was a lighthearted comment meant to point out that everyone needs to calm down and let the board develop organically. If you took it as anything else I'm sorry but perhaps you are being a bit sensitive....that was sensitive not hormonal. This is a new group, everyone is getting to know each other and the board will develop on its own. No need to make people feel like they shouldn't post. Trust me when I say that in a few weeks if everyone relaxes and enjoys getting to know each other we will have a great community. You might think your comments directing people to whatever thread are harmless but in actuality they make those posters hesitate next time they have a question or need support.
First bolded comment: You are the only one who seems to be in a tizzy about a developing format not suiting your personal preference. Second bolded comment: Fascinating since so far most on the poll agree with my POV... sooooo.... Third bolded comment: You continue to reiterate my point. Either you're not bothering to read my comments or you're not understanding them. Fourth bolded comment: I think you're confusing sensitive with decent Fifth bolded commnent: I haven't. AGAIN... try looking at my post history. I would love for you to find one post of mine on this BMB where I was acting in such a manner. (spoiler alert... one doesn't exist). I've been responsive to any thread format as this is a new BMB and I'm trying to be helpful.
Again I will say none of my comments related to board structure were directed at you. I was stating my point of view which is that some structured posts or great but people are being made to feel like everything needs to go on one. I never said you made a comment that made someone feel that way, I have no idea who or which comments made posters feel that way. All I am saying is I see a lot of "I didn't know where to post so didn't" type comments which means that people are feeling that way. The comments in the structured post thread are in line with what I'm saying. Some are good but no need to tell everyone to go to one if they post their own thread. If you would stop being butt hurt about a joking comment I made about hormones that wasn't directed at you, then you would see that my opinion seems to be fairly close to yours.
@abmommy15 and @hjphillips you both came onto an organized thread and complained about organized threads. I'm sorry, but it is kind of funny. I gave my POV on why they're helpful and when you respond with "you"... I'm going to assume you're talking to me. It's also funny to me that you interpret my difference of opinion as being "butt hurt" though. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but a couple of internet strangers are not capable of upsetting me to such a degree. Butt hurt is fun so I'll go with it since it seems to make you both so happy. Seems my sarcasm and snark has been confused as butt hurt. Oh but I do stand by my comment on hormones. There just isn't a need (note: that's me being blunt, not hurt).
@Elyse1384, they came here because this is where I started it, at the time not realizing we now had like 6 different organized threads. The conversation started yesterday and they just decided to continue it here. They didn't just randomly start it. I did.
@BelhurstBride oh I know. I replied to you on here yesterday. You made your point and then I made mine. I thought it was done, but alas... it just kept going.
Came in to mention I had a good appointment, but this is what happened:
Anyway, had my first US at the RE today at 5+6, we got to see the tiny nugget and saw a heartbeat! Given my loss history, it was great to have someone say it was "textbook" for the first time ever!
@annalhaller That thought didn't even cross my mind but you are right! I think since I went through fertility treatments for so long I already feel like a human pin cushion!
***BFP & Child Warning***
Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014 IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17 FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20
Our first U/S was today. So far, so good. We heard the baby's heartbeat! DH got really choked up. He then glazed over a bit when my doctor and I started discussing the prenatal checklist. He did stay up all night though so he could make our morning appointment (he works nights) so I won't hold it against him. Also found out today my gynecologist doesn't do general OB; I'm a little sad because I love her. She's going to give me some recommendations once we figure out where we are delivering.
@michaela0704 Almost the exact same thing happened to me! Even worse... I 100% lied to DH about it.
I was really kind of annoyed at my Dr's office because I called and specifically asked if they would do an US at my first appt so I would know if I should reschedule on one of DH's off days. (I had the appointment scheduled months ago for my yearly exam, so when I called and said I was pregnant, they just kept the appt and changed it from GYN to OB). Anyway, they said no... no US until at least 8 weeks.
So, I went alone and what do you know? My Dr. is the one in that practice that wants early US, so she scheduled one. I didn't actually hear the heartbeat because it was so early, but I did see the little flicker on the screen. I told DH that I didn't even get to see the screen during the US and that all I saw was the same print out I brought home to him. I feel SO bad about it, but he has just been so excited and wanting to be involved in everything. I didn't want him to feel like he had missed something big.
@WorkingOnMyNightCheese yay for a good appointment!! Lol, we've been slammed all morning at work, so when I came on to check the board I kinda felt the same way.
Doctor just called....she said all levels are rising..she said my hcg level was in the 4000s...they think I ovulated later than I thought...she said I have a hypothyroid and prescribes meds and said to come in next Wednesday for another so no.....but she this the empty sac was due to date mix up....please fingers crossed that Wednesday is a good day.
Had my first prenatal appointment this afternoon (I'm 6w4d). I got to have an ultrasound and hear the heartbeat ❤. Baby's only about as big as a grain of rice and already has a heart beating at 131 bpm! So awesome.
Met my midwife for the first time, and she is AMAZING. They are in the process of building a birth center in my town that will be open in March/April. Really hope it works out for me to have the baby there!
The only thing that worried me a bit was that the ultrasound tech said that the baby is implanted a little lower in the uterus than normal. Both the tech and the midwife said that because of the already strong heartbeat that it is nothing to worry about. If they're not worried, I'll try not to worry either.
Me: 26, DH: 31
Married: August 13, 2011
Due Date: June 15, 2017
Fur Babies: Remi (Labrador, 9) and Brutus (Pug, 4)
My appointment just got moved from Friday until next Tuesday (11/1). Its not a huge deal since there's no ultrasound or attempts with a doppler. The only thing that'll happen besides talking is scheduling the 12 week ultrasound. So, that means Friday I can take a nap. Problem is next Tuesday is insane!! Actually, next week is insane. Lets hope I can hang.
@Quippery congrats on the great visit. FYI - I had low lying placenta with DD and it moved up. Odd as this sounds the placenta will move so hopefully this remains a nonissue for you.
I had my first appointment today. It went as best as it could. Based off of a pelvic exam she suspects I am further along then I originally thought. This would push me into May. I will find out friday at the ultrasound. Would you all keep me or will I need to jump ship?
@itsfine I'd say post wherever you feel comfortable.
I had a good first appointment yesterday and I'm so relieved. I'm 8 weeks tomorrow and baby was measuring 7 yesterday which my doc wasn't concerned about. I know I ovulated later than the average so it's only behind by a couple days based on O date. I'm going to keep my due date based on my LMP for now. We didn't get to hear the heartbeat but we saw the little flicker on the screen and it was so awesome. I dreamed about that little white spot and I just keep staring at the picture of my little blob.
@MotherofDragons initally I was hovering around 5/31 or 6/1. If the dating u/s does come back that I am infact a week further along then I will be sitting around 5/24ish.
Re: Appointment Chatter - Week of 10/24
BFP Oct 2011 - DD born July 2012
TTC again since July 2014
First IUI 9/26/16: BFP!
EDD 6/19/2017
It's a girl!
Born 6/26/17, 9lb 5oz
Again, I haven't seen anyone policing. I've seen (as I have also done) members giving a response AND also letting OP know where the question would get more eyeballs as it is already being discussed or was discussed with tons of answers. I consider that helpful. Not policing.
And to the hormone comment - you quite literally said "Chill ladies, don't let the hormones get the best of you and concentrate on getting to know each other instead of getting to be the boss". You're basically of an opposing POV and your retort to "camp organize" is to chill and stop policing with the implication that hormones are causing our opinion and behavior. I can guarantee you that my personal opinion on board structure has nothing to do with my hormone levels. I think, communicate and act the same way when I'm pregnant as I do when I'm not pregnant. That's my personality. That doesn't mean I'm hormonal or abnormal as another poster said.
DD2 8.22.13
MMC 1.4.17 at 16w
Expecting #3, EDD 1.29.18
I'm at a new practice and the nausea/vomiting has been unreal but they said since they haven't seen me (pregnancy confirmation scheduled for 11/3) they couldn't help me... but then they scheduled a 'problem' appointment yesterday morning so I could get an Rx.
Well, they did an ultrasound and I heard the heartbeat.... all.by.myself!!!
DH was so upset and keeps saying the appointment of 11/3 isn't the same. He doesn't even want to take off work to go, even though I know he really does... he's just sad that he didn't get to experience it with me as 'the first'.
Edit: phone deleted most of my post
Second bolded comment: Fascinating since so far most on the poll agree with my POV... sooooo....
Third bolded comment: You continue to reiterate my point. Either you're not bothering to read my comments or you're not understanding them.
Fourth bolded comment: I think you're confusing sensitive with decent
Fifth bolded commnent: I haven't. AGAIN... try looking at my post history. I would love for you to find one post of mine on this BMB where I was acting in such a manner. (spoiler alert... one doesn't exist). I've been responsive to any thread format as this is a new BMB and I'm trying to be helpful.
DD2 8.22.13
MMC 1.4.17 at 16w
Expecting #3, EDD 1.29.18
TTC #1 since 9/2015
BFP #1 1/14/16, MC 3/23/16
BFP #2 9/21/2016, EDD 5/30/2017
Anyway, had my first US at the RE today at 5+6, we got to see the tiny nugget and saw a heartbeat! Given my loss history, it was great to have someone say it was "textbook" for the first time ever!
Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014
IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs
IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos
FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17
FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN
FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20
Married: June 2014
DS Born 6/22/17
I was really kind of annoyed at my Dr's office because I called and specifically asked if they would do an US at my first appt so I would know if I should reschedule on one of DH's off days. (I had the appointment scheduled months ago for my yearly exam, so when I called and said I was pregnant, they just kept the appt and changed it from GYN to OB). Anyway, they said no... no US until at least 8 weeks.
So, I went alone and what do you know? My Dr. is the one in that practice that wants early US, so she scheduled one. I didn't actually hear the heartbeat because it was so early, but I did see the little flicker on the screen. I told DH that I didn't even get to see the screen during the US and that all I saw was the same print out I brought home to him. I feel SO bad about it, but he has just been so excited and wanting to be involved in everything. I didn't want him to feel like he had missed something big.
DS1 - 7/2011, DD 12/2012, DS2 - 4/2014, MMC - 12/2015
I was excited and he was all quiet, I was confused, ugh, just terrible!!!
They better do one next week when he is there otherwise he is going to be livid... which really means even more hurt.
DS1 - 7/2011, DD 12/2012, DS2 - 4/2014, MMC - 12/2015
Me: 36; DH: 38
DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17!
**TW**
MMC & D&C Aug 2016
Met my midwife for the first time, and she is AMAZING. They are in the process of building a birth center in my town that will be open in March/April. Really hope it works out for me to have the baby there!
The only thing that worried me a bit was that the ultrasound tech said that the baby is implanted a little lower in the uterus than normal. Both the tech and the midwife said that because of the already strong heartbeat that it is nothing to worry about. If they're not worried, I'll try not to worry either.
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K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
I had a good first appointment yesterday and I'm so relieved. I'm 8 weeks tomorrow and baby was measuring 7 yesterday which my doc wasn't concerned about. I know I ovulated later than the average so it's only behind by a couple days based on O date. I'm going to keep my due date based on my LMP for now. We didn't get to hear the heartbeat but we saw the little flicker on the screen and it was so awesome. I dreamed about that little white spot and I just keep staring at the picture of my little blob.
Me: 29 DH: 35
Married: 9/29/12
DS #1: 3/8/15