Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: ***INTRO & EDD THREAD***
I get to find out if we are having having a boy or girl this coming Saturday! Yay!
Can't wait to get to know and grow with you ladies!
Here's my nuggets first picture at 10 weeks
We got our BFP on July 1st and EDD is March 5th. I've been with my husband for 14 years- married for 6. We TTC for a little over 2 years so we are very excited about our future arrival! I am 3 months and 2 days along.
I am a 32 year old housewife so I will be a SAHM. I enjoy reading, crocheting, and am very active in my community.
~Danielle
BFP #3 on 7/23/16 EDD 3/30/16
I'm Jessica, 34, living in Albuquerque, New Mexico. I'm an artist, you can see one of my paintings as my profile picture. My partner, Eric is 41 and we are expecting our first. We got together only about 1.5 years before our (unexpected but wanted) BFP on July 8! This happened earlier and more easily than expected because I have PCOS and had a previous ectopic pregnancy that resulted in losing one of my tubes in 2012, but it's for the best considering our age, I think. This is the first child for both of us.
EDD is March 13, but had an ultrasound last week that said baby is measuring more like a EDD of March 5.
I waited a while to introduce myself because I wanted to get past the first trimester.
Happy to be here.
J
Hi Everyone!!!!
I was on the bump back in January but had a MC. Since then I have been a bit nervous to repost and get excited about this pregnancy, but at this point I am very hopeful and prayerful for a healthy baby(GIRL). I am due March 15th.
This will be my 4th child, my sons are 16, 9, and almost 7. This is my 5th pregnancy though with one lose in January at 8 weeks. Looking forward to continued positive energy, great vibes and the healthy growth of my LO!!
I have been debating to actually participate but then I remember how entertained I was during my first pregnancy in June 2015! Well this is my second baby and I am due March 27! Very exciting
My EDD is May 7. I'm 32 and DH is 31. Our 4th anniversary is next month, and we can't think of a better way to celebrate than announcing to the world our wonderful news.
Congratulations, everyone! I hope these first few months are going well for you all.
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Me: 26 Hubs: 28
Married: 6/6/15
Baby Girl: 3/22/2017
So so excited to get to know you all and watch our bumps and baby grow!! :-)
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My husband, Chuck, and I have been married for 19 years. We TTC for a few years and were told by our RE that we had less than a 1% without IVF with ICSI. And even with it, odds weren't great. We chose adoption instead. We've adopted four children. Our oldest is 14 and our little one is 7. Last Feb, a friend of the family asked us to care for her newborn. It started as a foster situation and now we are his managing conservators (legal guardians). He is the cutest little 8 month old you've ever seen!
Back in July, I was feeling sick and so tired. I just knew I had a UTI. I had skipped my period but with PCOS, I didn't give it much attention. I assumed I was tired because our little man wasn't sleeping through the night. But I was using the bathroom constantly. On a whim, I took a pregnancy test and was absolutely SHOCKED when it came back positive. I took like 8 tests to confirm - seriously. So crazy!
I am due 3/17 with a baby girl. Baby looks fantastic but I've had a rough couple months. I have a large ovarian cyst that is uncomfortable, I've been so nauseous and now I have a hugely swollen face. Despite all these issues, I'm really excited. Never in a million years thought I would get pregnant. And never dreamed we would have six kids.
I've been lurking for awhile, couldn't resist joining. Looking forward to getting to know you better!
I waited a bit before joining as I am notoriously private about my pregnancies, but my first doc appointment is coming up next month and I figured I would jump on in. I'm a two time veteran with DD- Marrin, age 2, and DS- Jesse, age 15mo. Have a hunch that no. 3 (due March 10th) will be a girl and hoping i am right! I have three extra stepsons so myself and my eldest are outnumbered!! Never dreamed of having this many babies so close together, so this pregnancy has definitely been a lesson in humility and gratefulness.
Me - 28, Lean PCOS
DH - 31
Married June 2010, TTC since March 2014
Blog: ourbinarystar.com
FET cycle #3 Transfer July 28th 2016, Triplets born healthy on February 26th 2017 at 33w1d!
Me - 28, Lean PCOS
DH - 31
Married June 2010, TTC since March 2014
Blog: ourbinarystar.com
FET cycle #3 Transfer July 28th 2016, Triplets born healthy on February 26th 2017 at 33w1d!
March 10, a girl as well. Congratulations! Can't wait to get some 3/4ds too!! My best friend was told she was having a girl didn't find out otherwise until her 3rd trimester.
DD 9/19/09, DS 2/18/12
#3 baby girl! EDD 3/29/17
DD1 and DS came at 38 weeks, so I'm hoping for the same this time around! my body has been so different with this pregnancy and I look forward to sharing with you all