So sorry for your loss @floatingelephy losing an animal, especially so suddenly is so hard. I hope you and your family are able to find comfort and rest during such a difficult and heartbreaking time.
@xtatic3333 I'm glad I dragged my butt to the car seat class. My husband REALLY needed it. He tried to get out of it because of the Cubs game and the debate. The instructor was great. She kind of put the dads on the spot by making them strap a baby doll in. None of the fathers knew what they were doing and that really got my husband's attention. I think it was a success!
So sorry to hear about your pup, @floatingelephy. Hope you're doing okay this morning...having lost many beloved pets, I know it's hard to wake up without them. Hugs to you!
Me: 34 Husband: 35 Married: June 2007
Son Max born 1/10/17 BFP #2: 10/5/17; EDD: 6/11/18
So I had one of the scariest experiences of my life yesterday. DH and I were going to a new Italian restaurant downtown because it was our 1 year anniversary. Well because it was new there wasn't a lot of signs and it wasn't obvious where it was located so I turned onto the road it was on kind of slow to make sure I was in the right spot and an SUV pulls up next to me laying on their horn and the woman in the passenger seat was screaming profanities at me. Before I could react they pull in front of me blocking off the street and the man driving gets out and starts coming at me swearing like crazy. I'm so glad DH is there because I froze and he was like put the car in reverse and get out of here so I put the car in reverse and am carefully trying to back up and not hit anyone and the man is still coming at me screaming. I back up as far as I can without getting into traffic and then other cars start coming down the road and the man gets back in his car and leaves. So when he's out of sight I drive away in the opposite direction.
DH thinks it might have been a robbery attempt. I didn't even see it but he said when the guy blocked me from going forward a man not in a car started making a bee-line for my door. The only other thing I can think of is the guy was upset I was driving a little slow but that was a huge overreaction, even if I had cut him off or something who blocks someone in and then gets out to scream at them? Anyways I was pretty shaken and didn't want to go back so we celebrated at Olive Garden instead and I'm just so thankful that we were able to get out of there with no one hurt!
Me: 33 | DH: 34 Married: October, 19, 2015 EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17 EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20 EDD 11/24/23 (Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
Tick update: My PCP wants to take a wait and see approach and only treat me if I develop symptoms. We'll also do a blood test in 6 weeks (earlier ones often have false positives). What she refused to address is whether waiting until 6 weeks would impact the baby if I was infected, so I need to call my midwives today and see what they want to do. It's frustrating to need to wait. I'm just praying that if I do have lyme, I'll develop very obvious symptoms quickly. So many of the symptoms, like joint pain and exhaustion, overlap with pregnancy symptoms, but my H (a forester in New England, so deals with this a ton) says that they will be very obvious and more like the flu if I get them.
We sent the tick to get tested by a lab at UMass Amherst for $50. According to the lab, their results are pretty accurate. According to doctors, however, there can be false negatives. I'm familiar with the testing method they use (PCR for the sciency among us) and do trust it, especially since I got them the tick totally intact. I do think if it comes back negative it will give me a measure of relief, but I'll still do the six week blood test to be safe. They publish their results online by zip code, and of the last 9 deer ticks they've tested from the town where I was, only one has been positive for lyme.
I had my first experience with mom guilt last night, and man, it effing sucks. I hate the feeling that by not checking my lady bits in the mirror after working in the woods Saturday I could have done something that will impact my son's entire life. I couldn't stop crying for a while, and couldn't focus on the debate. My brain hurts. The CDC says lyme can't pass to the baby, but many other reasonably reputable sources (Scientific American, peer-reviewed journals) say it can happen. Ugh. Can't wait to hear about the tick next week.
ETA: If anyone around here has had Lyme, and is comfortable sharing, I'd be grateful to hear what the symptoms were like for you. It's such a poorly studied disease and seems to affect everyone so differently.
@floatingelephy so sorry for your loss. We lost a pup three years ago to the day yesterday and while we still miss him, it gets easier to remember him happily with time!
@marriedhamstermom that's terrifying! So glad you're okay. Sounds like you kept a clear head and handled the situation incredibly well!
@Xstatic3333 I don't have personal experience, but my mom had Lyme a few years ago and the symptoms were very obvious. She was ill to the point of not being able to work. I know it's easy for me to say, but please try not to beat yourself up. Especially with it being late in the season and how cold it was last week (I think we live in the same general area), there's no way you could have anticipated this! I'll be thinking of you.
I'm so sorry to hear about your dog @floatingelephy! We had to put my dog to sleep a few years ago, so I totally understand. They are members of the family and it's hard to lose them.
I'm sorry @Xstatic3333! I know it's so stressful waiting. But the good part is that you got the tick and were able to send it to UMass. So if it comes back negative you know you have nothing to worry about! If you lost the tick I'm sure you'd be beating yourself up over it for much longer. Fingers crossed for you!!
@floatingelephy I'm so sorry you're having to go through this! I really can't even imagine and I'm sending lots of hugs and T & P your way!
@marriedhamstermom That is so scary!! I'm so glad you guys are ok! Like your H said, it was probably more than just road rage but seriously, WTF is wrong with people?!? I hate driving because I get so mad when people drive like morons and don't pay any attention.
@Xstatic3333 That whole situation sucks! I hope everything comes back ok and you're able to relax
@Xstatic3333 Please don't beat yourself up. Ticks have become way more of a problem in recent years and I wouldn't have even thought to look there either. FX you're okay.
@marriedhamstermom that is so scary. I'm glad you and H are okay. Happy Anniversary!
@homemake not lame at all! What kind of cake are you making? And happy birthday!!
And @Xstatic3333 don't feel guilty, I know easier said than done. But, it's not like you found a tick and placed it on you or something. At least you are being proactive about it now, that's the most important part!
@Gretchypoo So it's not just for me, we have some guests coming in so I'm doing something simple. Vanilla cake with a vanilla buttercream but then the middle layer is going to be a chocolate ganache with a layer of candy for halloweeeeeen. The tricky part is, I'm super interested in frosting cakes so I'm going to try to make it look cool. If it turns out pretty I'll post a picture. Chances are I won't end up posting a picture though haha
@Xstatic3333 Don't beat yourself up. I know you feel guilty. I felt the same way last week when I stood too close to the stove and heated my tummy. Remember that babies are resilient. Give yourself some peace of mind that at least you FOUND the tick. I mean, that was a pretty ridiculous spot! I would definitely call your MW, though, just to be sure. You're doing all the right things and taking all the proper precautions. You can't go back in time, but at least right now you're doing everything you can. I will be praying for you that you did not contract Lyme disease. Hugs to you.
@marriedhamstermom holy shit! I think your husband is right and that it was a robbery attempt. My God, I would have been scared shirtless! Thank God your husband was there with you to talk you through what to do next! I'm sorry you didn't have the full enjoyment of your anniversary, but the most important thing is that you did end up enjoying it because all three of you (including baby) were safe! I would probably notify the police too, that this happened. If it was truly a robbery attempt, the police should know about it. Just yesterday, I was thinking about how vulnerable I've started to feel ever since I got the BFP. Before, I was totally carefree and felt strong anywhere I went. But now, I've suddenly become afraid to walk at night from the parking lot to my apartment, sleep alone without husband, etc. Baby changes your attitude so much about everything. Now, I'm not such a risk taker anymore. Things like what happened to you would scare the crap out of me. Anyways, end rant. Glad you guys are all okay! And a very happy happy anniversary to you!!
@homemake Happy early birthday to you! And ya, it's totally okay for you to make a cake for yourself! You enjoy the shit out of Thai cake, girl!
@Xstatic3333 I'm glad your husband seems to be more knowledgeable than the doctors, I'm pulling for you so hard and I'm sorry you even have to deal with this right now! (((Hugs)))
@marriedhamstermom that is SCARY! Thankfully your DH was with you and you're safe and sound now.
@leslie1331 I chuckled to myself when I threw on my nasty stained uggz for my HDBD, but it was chilly and wet out and I didn't want to get my nice boots all yucky. Back in style though? Meh.
@marriedhamstermom that is absolutely terrifying! I'm so happy you guys are safe and you had DH with you! Always a good reminder to keep the doors locked and maybe just keep a baseball bat in the car at all times!
@PerraSucia that is hilarious and totally just made me realize all the the 'penis talk' I'm in for with having a boy... One of my friends was in the bathroom getting ready for the day and her little son walked in and announced "Mom, my penis is growing and I can't stop it!"
Thanks guys! Yea I have a hard time believing it was just road rage. I mean at my angriest on the road I've flipped someone off but I've never screamed at anyone or gotten out of my vehicle, though I guess you never know what people are going through. We did call the police and gave a quick report of it in case it was a robbery but unfortunately we were bad witnesses and didn't catch the license plate or have a real good description of the people. People We are all safe though and that's what is important! I think we learned a lot too like I had left my phone in the backseat as I frequently do, which was pretty dumb because if I had been alone it would have been hard to reach if things escalated further and I needed to call 911. I also wished we'd had something like a baseball bat in the car, though DH was right and the best thing we did was to just get out of there as safely as possible.
@AfKash I definitely feel more vulnerable now that I'm pregnant. I know DH is more protective of me too. I think it's normal and our minds are preparing for us to be responsible for another little being.
Me: 33 | DH: 34 Married: October, 19, 2015 EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17 EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20 EDD 11/24/23 (Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
I would also just like to comment on how much I hate all the advertising pop ups on the web version of this site. All the flash is destroying my work computer.
@Xstatic3333 I've had lyme twice, both when I was living in Pennsylvania. The first time was caught quickly but had an atypical presentation. Most people get the bulls-eye rash at the bite site, mine was diffused and all over--large raised red patches that were warm but not painful, maybe 6" to 8" across. The second time I thought I had caught mono (was in high school and it had been going around). Lyme wasn't diagnosed until a few months later when the joint soreness and headaches didn't get better and all the other tests the doctors did--this time there was no rash so they didn't think to test for it--came back negative. It triggered all sorts of other issues though. I ended up getting Raynaud's syndrome, shingles, and Bell's palsy all in the span of about three months, and all during the beginning of my senior year. Misery. The worst was the shingles, but the palsy hurt like hell too. There were days I quite literally could not get out of bed because my knees hurt so bad, I ended up sleeping in a recliner next to the bathroom until it was all over.
I'm honestly kind of surprised that they are taking a "wait and see" approach, but I guess there has also been a lot of pushing against "unnecessary" antibiotics use since I last had it. (This was in 2005 and 2008)
Best advice I can give is have your H monitor the bite site carefully for any signs of discoloration and keep an eye out for rashes elsewhere. If you start feeling flu-achey I'd recommend seeing the doctor again or seeking a second opinion. I'm sorry you're going through the uncertainty, if you need any other details or want to chat feel free to PM
@Xstatic3333 Ugh, I am sorry you have to wait, I am sure it's stressful! And don't beat yourself up. As you said, the tick was in a really weird spot (who would think to check for ticks there?), and at least you got it out intact. I hope the lab results on the tick come back fast, and negative! I'll be interested to hear what your midwives say.
@floatingelephy I am so sorry about your dog My sister and her H had to put their dog down last year, and she asked me to be there (at their house) for support while it happened. It was SO hard to go through, and it was not even my dog. When I think about having to put my own dog down, it almost makes me cry. I know it's cliche, but it will soften with time. Take care of yourself.
@marriedhamstermom WTF? That is REALLY scary. I am sorry you had to deal with that stress, but I am glad you and H were able to avoid a direct confrontation (or being robbed).
Thanks so much @MrsLittleMac! I'm so sorry you had to go through that twice. I am surprised by the wait and see approach too. My situation is currently going up the chain at my midwives' office, and it sounds like they may take it more seriously. The nurse I spoke to this morning said that antibiotics are usually indicated in cases where you know for sure the tick was on for 72 hours, which I do. I'm coded as allergic to amoxicillin due to a very mild rash from penicillin as a child and I think that's what's biting me in the butt (pun intended!) here. The CDC recommends a third choice antibiotic for those who are allergic to amox and symptomatic, but my PCP wouldn't go there just yet. Maybe the midwives will.
*Unnecessary antibiotic use is bad and I don't blame anyone for side eyeing me. I'm just freaking out.
@Xstatic3333 they had me on doxycycline both times. I have no idea if that's safe during pregnancy and correct me if I'm wrong but I believe it's in a totally different drug group from penicillin--might be worth looking into though? I believe I was on it for two weeks the first time, the second time was over a month. It worked for me both times though!
@Xstatic3333 they had me on doxycycline both times. I have no idea if that's safe during pregnancy and correct me if I'm wrong but I believe it's in a totally different drug group from penicillin--might be worth looking into though? I believe I was on it for two weeks the first time, the second time was over a month. It worked for me both times though!
Re: Weekly Randoms (10/17)
@floatingelephy I'm so so sorry about your loss.
Husband: 35
Married: June 2007
Son Max born 1/10/17
BFP #2: 10/5/17; EDD: 6/11/18
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17
EDD 3/8/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09
Mia - 6/16/11
Surprise! due 2/23/17
DH thinks it might have been a robbery attempt. I didn't even see it but he said when the guy blocked me from going forward a man not in a car started making a bee-line for my door. The only other thing I can think of is the guy was upset I was driving a little slow but that was a huge overreaction, even if I had cut him off or something who blocks someone in and then gets out to scream at them? Anyways I was pretty shaken and didn't want to go back so we celebrated at Olive Garden instead and I'm just so thankful that we were able to get out of there with no one hurt!
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17
EDD 3/8/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
We sent the tick to get tested by a lab at UMass Amherst for $50. According to the lab, their results are pretty accurate. According to doctors, however, there can be false negatives. I'm familiar with the testing method they use (PCR for the sciency among us) and do trust it, especially since I got them the tick totally intact. I do think if it comes back negative it will give me a measure of relief, but I'll still do the six week blood test to be safe. They publish their results online by zip code, and of the last 9 deer ticks they've tested from the town where I was, only one has been positive for lyme.
I had my first experience with mom guilt last night, and man, it effing sucks. I hate the feeling that by not checking my lady bits in the mirror after working in the woods Saturday I could have done something that will impact my son's entire life. I couldn't stop crying for a while, and couldn't focus on the debate. My brain hurts. The CDC says lyme can't pass to the baby, but many other reasonably reputable sources (Scientific American, peer-reviewed journals) say it can happen. Ugh. Can't wait to hear about the tick next week.
ETA: If anyone around here has had Lyme, and is comfortable sharing, I'd be grateful to hear what the symptoms were like for you. It's such a poorly studied disease and seems to affect everyone so differently.
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17
@marriedhamstermom Holy crap that sounds super scary! I'm glad your DH was with you, I probably would have panicked. People are such creeps.
But yay for endless bread sticks at OG!
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17
@marriedhamstermom that's terrifying! So glad you're okay. Sounds like you kept a clear head and handled the situation incredibly well!
@Xstatic3333 I don't have personal experience, but my mom had Lyme a few years ago and the symptoms were very obvious. She was ill to the point of not being able to work. I know it's easy for me to say, but please try not to beat yourself up. Especially with it being late in the season and how cold it was last week (I think we live in the same general area), there's no way you could have anticipated this! I'll be thinking of you.
@marriedhamstermom That sounds terrifying and I don't know what I would have done. So glad you got out of there safely.
@floatingelephy I'm so sorry you're having to go through this! I really can't even imagine and I'm sending lots of hugs and T & P your way!
@marriedhamstermom That is so scary!! I'm so glad you guys are ok! Like your H said, it was probably more than just road rage but seriously, WTF is wrong with people?!? I hate driving because I get so mad when people drive like morons and don't pay any attention.
@Xstatic3333 That whole situation sucks! I hope everything comes back ok and you're able to relax
Married: 9/2013
Love my LEO!!
TTC #1: 9/2015
BFP: 2/1/16 MC 2/8/16 @ 5wks
BFP: 5/22/16 RAINBOW BABY
EDD: 1/30/2017 *IT'S A GIRL!!!!*
Kirsten Grace 1/20/17
@marriedhamstermom that is so scary. I'm glad you and H are okay. Happy Anniversary!
@homemake not lame at all! What kind of cake are you making? And happy birthday!!
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@marriedhamstermom holy shit! I think your husband is right and that it was a robbery attempt. My God, I would have been scared shirtless! Thank God your husband was there with you to talk you through what to do next! I'm sorry you didn't have the full enjoyment of your anniversary, but the most important thing is that you did end up enjoying it because all three of you (including baby) were safe! I would probably notify the police too, that this happened. If it was truly a robbery attempt, the police should know about it.
Just yesterday, I was thinking about how vulnerable I've started to feel ever since I got the BFP. Before, I was totally carefree and felt strong anywhere I went. But now, I've suddenly become afraid to walk at night from the parking lot to my apartment, sleep alone without husband, etc. Baby changes your attitude so much about everything. Now, I'm not such a risk taker anymore. Things like what happened to you would scare the crap out of me.
Anyways, end rant. Glad you guys are all okay! And a very happy happy anniversary to you!!
@homemake Happy early birthday to you! And ya, it's totally okay for you to make a cake for yourself! You enjoy the shit out of Thai cake, girl!
@marriedhamstermom that is SCARY! Thankfully your DH was with you and you're safe and sound now.
@leslie1331 I chuckled to myself when I threw on my nasty stained uggz for my HDBD, but it was chilly and wet out and I didn't want to get my nice boots all yucky. Back in style though? Meh.
@PerraSucia that is hilarious and totally just made me realize all the the 'penis talk' I'm in for with having a boy... One of my friends was in the bathroom getting ready for the day and her little son walked in and announced "Mom, my penis is growing and I can't stop it!"
I've often made cake for the family (myself) for no reason at all! No shame.
First BFP: 12/16/13
EDD: 08/23/14
Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
First BFP: 12/16/13
EDD: 08/23/14
Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
@AfKash I definitely feel more vulnerable now that I'm pregnant. I know DH is more protective of me too. I think it's normal and our minds are preparing for us to be responsible for another little being.
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17
EDD 3/8/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
I'm honestly kind of surprised that they are taking a "wait and see" approach, but I guess there has also been a lot of pushing against "unnecessary" antibiotics use since I last had it. (This was in 2005 and 2008)
Best advice I can give is have your H monitor the bite site carefully for any signs of discoloration and keep an eye out for rashes elsewhere. If you start feeling flu-achey I'd recommend seeing the doctor again or seeking a second opinion. I'm sorry you're going through the uncertainty, if you need any other details or want to chat feel free to PM
@floatingelephy I am so sorry about your dog
@marriedhamstermom WTF? That is REALLY scary. I am sorry you had to deal with that stress, but I am glad you and H were able to avoid a direct confrontation (or being robbed).
*Unnecessary antibiotic use is bad and I don't blame anyone for side eyeing me. I'm just freaking out.