I apologize for the novel below. It's been a very long week!
Hi Everyone,
This past week has been an extremely emotional one for us. On 10/13 I had my first 8 week appointment with my OBGYN. The appt went fine in the beginning where she asked questions about family history. We then moved into the exam room and she did a trans-vaginal US (which she was very rough with). Withing 3 seconds of being in there she asks are you SURE you didn't have a period in September? My heart sinks and I said ''I don't think so but I could be wrong". I wasn't keeping track of my periods because we didn't really officially start trying.
She says "I'm not seeing much in here" and promptly pulls the stick out. She continues to say "this is a bad pregnancy. but i'm going to send you for another ultrasounds just in case i'm scaring you for nothing" and starts writing stuff down!!! My husband and I are in shock and I can't even think of anything to ask her. And she asks what my last period was. I told her from what I remember it was around August 12-15. But then I said I had a blood test on September 26th and my HCG levels were 3,600. While she took my blood, she says "oh, that's good to know. It looks like they were twins but this will be a miscarriage. I'm sorry." Before we knew it, she rushed out of the room! Again, my husband and I just sat there and tried to absorb what just happened.
Of course I was devastated and spent most of that day crying. The next day I called the office 3 times to get my blood results. I was told my HCG levels were 24,211! This was 8 times more than the previous result 2.5 weeks ago. However, my progesterone level was 7.6. The nurse was really sweet and said after i get my ultrasound on Monday, they will know more. Most likely I will go on progesterone suppositories.
The whole weekend went by and on Sunday night I had light spotting. I wasn't concerned because it only lasted half and hour. On Monday we get the ultrasound, and the Radiologist told us there were 2 yolk sacs in the same amniotic sac. So, identical twins! She also said I look about 5 weeks which is why they can't see the babies. My husband and I were overjoyed. She explained that bleeding is common and to not worry.
I called my OB's office again and the nice nurse put me on progesterone suppositories last night. I am bleeding again. off and on spotting and regular bleeding. With small clots. I am very scared but the nurse said not to worry and that if i was miscarrying, the clots would be much bigger. Unfortunately, we are playing the waiting game and I will probably go for a 6 week ultrasound next week and hopefully a blood test this week to see if my progesterone went up. I'm hoping to be back and if I am, it will be in the July 2017 mommy board. I wish all the future mommies the best of luck and will be praying for all of you.
Re: Bad Experience & Very Worried! **really long rant**
Also I had a lot of bleeding with my twins and was told bleeding is never "normal" but is not uncommon in twin pregnancies.
I wish you the best of luck this week with keeping your mind busy and good results!
1/7/2015 Twins born @ 34 weeks
1/7/2015 Twins born @ 34 weeks
I mean, what the hell: "this is a bad pregnancy. but i'm going to send you for another ultrasounds just in case i'm scaring you for nothing"
A better way to say the same thing: "I'll be honest with you--I am concerned by what I am seeing here based off of the dates you're mentioning. I don't want to scare you, but I also don't want to get your hopes up. We'll order another ultrasound so that we can be sure either way. I know this must be very scary for you and I'm sorry you have to go through this."
Ugh, I really hope that you get a positive outcome and I'm so sorry for their terrible bedside manner.
I'll be honest, this is my 2nd pregnancy and with my first, I would've felt adrift at sea if not for the factual info the doc gave me at each visit. My phone's notes app was full of Q&As and I always referred back to that for everything she told me. Having a solid partnership with your doc is really important, and I'm sorry you had to deal with this. It totally blows. Best of luck in the coming days!!
I'm with everyone for maybe finding another practice that are kinder. I think sometimes people who work in the medical field think it's just a job to them and become desensitized to really sensitive information. It's still not an excuse though.
Waiting is the hardest part. Praying that you have a positive outcome. Identical twins, how exciting!
Me: 36 DH:35
Married: 7/10/2016
TTC#1 - May 2016
BFP 9/6/2016 - Missed MC 10/20/2016
BFP 5/5/2017 - CP
IVF #1 - June 2017 - Transferred 1 fresh 4 AA embryo. 7/9 Beta #1 - 161
Adam Born on 3/18/18
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
Married 8/27/2011
BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012
BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w
BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014
BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d
BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017
BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
Ok so looking back they are estimating that you ovulated 9/16 and you received your BFP 7DPO and your blood positive 11DPO. This could be correct. Your numbers being high at 11DPO could account for twins and you may be someone who implants quickly. If you had sex with-in 5-6 days of 9/16 this is an extremely possible scenario. Studies have shown that sperm can live in a womens body up to 5-7 days. I was actually in almost the exact same situation except no twins. It turned out I got pregnant with-in 3 weeks of a miscarriage and 5 day after hubby and I had sex. Got my Positive blood test at 9DPO. I know this is seeming very technical for you, but wanted to hopefully ease your mind just a bit. All of the later dates are very possible. I was terrified at my first US and they said I was only 5weeks. Was sure I was farther along and convinced for 10 days that there was something wrong. Sure enough went for my next US at 6wks 3days and baby had grown and had a strong HB. Do they have you coming at 6 wks exactly? You may want to give yourself a few extra days. They say the heart will start beating by 6 wks yes but sometimes at exactly 6wks they still have a tough time seeing it. Would hate for you to go back and they scare you again. My doc suggested I give myself and extra 2-3 days because it really does make a difference. Good Luck!
@vrj0522 Thank you!
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
Me: 26 DH: 28
TTC #1 since 06/2014
BFP #1 09/23/15. MMC discovered 11/24/2015
BFP #2 08/24/16 EDD 05/08/17
No problem. Sometimes for me where I looked at all the calculations it made a bit more sense and made me feel much better. I wish docs would explain it that way too. Good luck and let us know how everything goes.
I have an U/S booked for next Friday the 28th. When I called the doctors office the nice nurse that I speak to all the time asked me how to progesterone was going. I told her I've been taking it but I asked if I should take another blood test next week to see if my levels went up. She didn't seem to concerned and said "I could if I wanted to"... shouldn't I know if the suppositories are working and if my hcg is still going up? I might be acting a little crazy but considering the rocky start we had, I think I have the right to sound worried. I went from being told I was having a miscarriage last week to having twins this week!! gah!!
btw, I've read that progesterone suppositories can sometimes cause bleeding due to irritating the cervix. I'm hoping thats all that is!
Praying you see 2 heathy heartbeats tomorrow. Please keep us posted.
IVF #1 (May 2013): Antagonist Protocol:
24R, 18M, 15F w/ICSI; 5dt of 2 early blasts, no frosties = BFN
IVF #2 (August 2013): Lupron Stop Protocol:
28R, 23M, 15F w/ICSI; 5dt of 1 partially hatched blast, 7 frosties = BFP
EDD 5/23/14, blighted ovum (6w6d), D&C (8w6d)
FET #1 (April 2014): transferred 2 5d blasts = BFP
C.J. born 01/09/15
FET #2 (September 2016): transferred 1 5d blast = BFP
EDD 05/26/17
unfortunately, there was no heartbeat found. I should be around 6 weeks. The radiologist did see a fetal pole but she said there should be a heartbeat by now. Waiting to hear from my doctor tomorrow and probably going to go in for a D&C.
1/7/2015 Twins born @ 34 weeks
Me: 26 DH: 28
TTC #1 since 06/2014
BFP #1 09/23/15. MMC discovered 11/24/2015
BFP #2 08/24/16 EDD 05/08/17
Married 8/27/2011
BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012
BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w
BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014
BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d
BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017
BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
Me:31 DH:32 Married 11/06/10
DD: Born 8/23/13 (clomid+ovidrel+IUI)
BFP 9/9/16 EDD 5/19/17