Oh my. T&P, @Patience7150!! Have you talked to your OB? I think cat bites and scratches merit a call even without possible rabies because of the bacteria they can spread. "Cat scratch fever." Good luck!
@Patience7150 I'll be thinking of you, hopefully the kitten just had a genetic disorder and was shy and passed on due to that. Prayers that nothing dangerous got to you or your LO.
@Patience7150 Praying for you! Sad as it is, there are lots of things that could have caused the little guy not to make it. Hopefully it was something that only affects cats, and not humans.
Thanks everyone. I am seeing my OB this coming Tuesday anyway, and since I was out of town for work, I didn't call. The bite has healed nicely...I encouraged bleeding, washed it well, saline soak, and then covered with antibiotic ointment and a great bandage. I really don't think it was rabies and trust it was something else but you never know (and that's what scares me).
I appreciate the responses, and will let you know Monday. Fingers crossed!
I just got up to go to the bathroom and close the window because it's started raining. Husband woke up and started complaining that I get up too much in the middle of the night and that I probably slept all day, that's why I'm so wide awake. If it wasn't dark in the room, he would see me glaring at him. First of all, I don't get up because I can't sleep. I get up because I have to pee so often or I need a quick snack. Second, I don't enjoy getting up so much all the time. I'm dead tired and would love to sleep through the night again, as he does. Third, he doesn't even know how often I get up! 90% of the time he's snoring away. In fact, he just slept through some major lightning and thunder that shocked me into almost peeing my pants. We will be having a discussion later today. I hope he was just babbling in his sleep and didn't really mean what he said.
@afkash Just tell him you're preparing him for his future reality and that your baby will be doing much of the same (awake all night, asleep all day). I don't know if we get the best representation of him but he sounds a little immature. He's got a huge responsibility on the way, hopefully he can get his shit together.
So we are getting a few things from ikea for the nursery. However, the closest one is two hours away. Do we devote an entire day next weekend to take the drive down or do we just pay $100 to get it delivered? The economical part of me says drive but the pregnant side of me says pay for delivery!
Agreed w PP that the impression I get of your H is immature and, frankly, spoiled. He needs to figure out what having a baby is like and you should have several extensive convos about how you expect him to help when baby comes. Do it now before you are sleep deprived and at your wit's end.
Agreed w PP that the impression I get of your H is immature and, frankly, spoiled. He needs to figure out what having a baby is like and you should have several extensive convos about how you expect him to help when baby comes. Do it now before you are sleep deprived and at your wit's end.
All of this @AfKash. That's an awful thing to say and I'm glad you're planning to talk to him about it. I'd be telling him what you need in terms of help NOW.
@lfrank12 I would go to Ikea, but I LOVE going to Ikea. I'm a kid on Christmas morning on IKEA days.
+1 to going to ikea! I honestly love that place too. 2 hour drive is a bit much but maybe you and your H could make a day of it. Find 1 or 2 more activities to do while you're there?
************* First BFP: 12/16/13 EDD: 08/23/14 Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
Oh nooo. That's my bad, guys. My husband is actually very caring, that's why I'm hoping he was just talking in his sleep. He's gone now so I'll have to wait until he gets back home to talk to him. He's not perfect but he does try. And his main concern right now is to find himself a job. The provider instinct in him has really kicked in and he feels awful that he still hasn't landed a job.
Although, you guys are partly right that he was spoiled back home. He luckily never had to worry about anything growing up. Living on his own for many years has really made him realize things, though. So while he may sometimes revert back to his spoiled ways, he's mainly a sweetheart. It's my fault that I don't say enough good things about him here. You know how it is, we tend to focus on the negative things sometimes.
@lfrank12 Before I had my daughter, I lived 2 hours from an IKEA also and we definitely drove there, and had a blast looking at everythingggg. Now my closest one is 4 hours but the delivery charge is even worse than yours.
@AfKash I definitely think it's possible for your H to be both a sweetheart and good guy while also needing a bit of a wake up call (no pun intended) about the changes coming his way. I do also realize that unemployment stress can really change a person. We've been through that and it is ROUGH.
So I came home from yoga and grocery shopping to find that H had assembled our stroller! I was so excited that I couldn't wait to thank him, but he was nowhere to be found. Lassie-style, my dog led me to the basement where he was hard at work trying to fix a clogged portion of our washing machine. Please cross your fingers that we can fix this ourselves and don't need a plumber. Ugh. Please also cross your fingers that this won't turn him off of CDing, cause I already have our NB stash ready to go...
@lfrank12 if you're going to the one I assume you're going to, it looks like there's a large Antique center in that area. We love going through Antique stores and often end up in one when we travel somewhere we're not familiar with lol. Did you see that *next* summer though, an IKEA should be opening closer to you?! That will be nice for us too lol. I think our closest is Pennsylvania or down to Cincinnati- ish. I'd turn it into a day thing too just because I love getting out like that.
Do I have a right to be pissed, or should I cool my hormonal jets?
One of my best friends, who was also my college roommate and said a reading at our wedding, just got engaged. Her boyfriend at the time, who is now her fiancé, was also invited to our wedding and attended. I was the first person she called and was SO excited for her... I still am. But she started talking to me this summer about how she didn't want to invite the husband of one and fiancé of the other of two of her best friends. She doesn't like the guys, thinks they're assholes, and was hoping the girls would just be each others dates. From Day 1, I had said that I don't think it's a good idea and that its very difficult to tell your best friends you don't want her husband or finance to attend your wedding, even if you 'don't like them' and she should probably just suck it up. A random boyfriend/girlfriend, sure, don't invite them. But not a spouse of a best friend.
Well, today she told me she talked with the two girls. Their S/O's didn't want to attend anyways so all is good. I told her that worked out well for her and I was happy for her. Then she goes on to ask me if I think that our college roommates and I would all be okay not having 'plus 1's'. I nicely replied "it is your wedding and you can choose to do whatever you want, love!" to be nice.... but do I have a right to be absolutely pissed?!?! I'm 27 years old, we've been best friends for almost 10 years now, and I will have been married to my husband for over 3 years at that point and have a child with him. She loves him, thinks he's great, she just wants to 'keep her numbers down.' They have a list of 50... how did she even think it was decent to ask if I would be okay with that?!?! It would require me to fly from Tennessee to New Hampshire, and then a 6+ hour drive by myself up to rural Maine for her wedding. That my husband isn't invited to. She's not a work colleague or random acquaintance... she's one of my best friends.
Sorry for the rant... I vented to husband but then felt bad continuing on with it since obviously he's the one she doesn't want to invite...
@TeacherMom2517 your friend is being extremely rude. A plus one goes with a single guest-those are optional-but inviting significant others absolutely is not. She should cut her guest list over excluding SOs. I'd be pissed, I wouldn't go, and honestly if we were close enough I'd tell her why.
@TeacherMom2517 I think you definitely have the right to be pissed. I understand the bride wanting to keep her head count down, but I personally think it is rude for someone to outright ask guests not to bring their S/O, especially for people who are married!
@AfKash He sounds like he was just in a mood to me. Especially if this was out of nowhere. I would probably remind him that the baby will be up a hell of a lot more. More a PSA.
@lfrank12 totally go!! I went the other week and got a few items from the decorative section I totally wasn't planning on getting (I went for a coffee table). You may find more when you get there
@TeacherMom2517 That is definitely not ok to only invite one spouse to a wedding. I would not attend if my husband wasn't invited, especially if that much travel was involved!
@TeacherMom2517 In my opinion, you have a right to be annoyed, and upset. Especially because you have to travel for it. My husband and I both decline invites, if the other of us isn't invited. (Not saying you should do that, but just showing that we would think it odd) from my experiences, when someone is tight on people to invite, they count the family (you and your husband) and cut someone else if needed, not invite 1/2 a couple. Like my childhood bestfriend, when she got married she wanted me to be there but she's never met my husband, but she still asked me how many would attend in case she needed to make a cut with someone else. So my husband and my kids went. My mom, who was close to her and her family wasn't invited, as well as other friends from her past. To me, that's just how it goes. I couldn't imagine telling someone not to bring their husband, fiancé, or long term boyfriend. Well in general I wouldn't want to not allow someone a +1... I wonder if this will work out for her, or if people will decide to not attend.
@TeacherMom2517 you have every right to be pissed! She did a reading at you & your husbands wedding, to me thats close enough to your husband to be included. Ultimately if you have to travel so far & will have a small child, i would tell her that its just not possible for you to do on your own much as you would love & want to be there! Her boyfriend (even tho hes her fiancé now, wasnt as serious then) was invited to your wedding & i think its just rude not to invite your husband! Weddings are expensive so understandably she would like to keep costs down but that doesnt excuse rudeness!
Thanks, ladies! I wanted to make sure I wasn't just viewing myself as a 'speshul snowflake' here who everyone needs to love and adore. I will have to fly from Tennessee to New Hampshire, then rent a car and drive 4 hours to a rural location in Maine, plus pay to spend the night or drive my ass back down late at night and fly out. Overall looking at at leaaaaast $500 just for me, with no 6 month old baby or husband invited to say 'this will be our family vacation' or anything out of. I think I'm gonna say something to her... it would literally just never cross my mind to not invite the significant other of a close friend, let alone a spouse!
@TeacherMom2517 I went through something similar just last month with my cousin's wedding. As I mentioned before, our weddings are three nights. The first night, the cousins who are married were not invited. So it was basically the siblings of my uncle (mom's brother) and their unmarried kids who live with their parents. We all found that to be extremely rude because that is my cousin getting married....not some distant relative. And then the icing on the cake was that they invited my married cousin's who live in Florida. It was extremely rude to cut out the local cousins but invite the far ones. At least they should have been consistent throughout. I understand weddings are expensive as hell, especially if you have a large family like we do. But to cut out close friends and family is very rude. And you remember that shit forever.
Re: Weekly Randoms (10/10)
I appreciate the responses, and will let you know Monday. Fingers crossed!
Husband: 35
Married: June 2007
Son Max born 1/10/17
BFP #2: 10/5/17; EDD: 6/11/18
Three guesses who cleaned that up... oh wait, the dog has a milk mustache.
If it wasn't dark in the room, he would see me glaring at him. First of all, I don't get up because I can't sleep. I get up because I have to pee so often or I need a quick snack.
Second, I don't enjoy getting up so much all the time. I'm dead tired and would love to sleep through the night again, as he does.
Third, he doesn't even know how often I get up! 90% of the time he's snoring away. In fact, he just slept through some major lightning and thunder that shocked me into almost peeing my pants.
We will be having a discussion later today. I hope he was just babbling in his sleep and didn't really mean what he said.
First BFP: 12/16/13
EDD: 08/23/14
Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
@lfrank12 I would go to Ikea, but I LOVE going to Ikea. I'm a kid on Christmas morning on IKEA days.
First BFP: 12/16/13
EDD: 08/23/14
Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
He's not perfect but he does try. And his main concern right now is to find himself a job. The provider instinct in him has really kicked in and he feels awful that he still hasn't landed a job.
Although, you guys are partly right that he was spoiled back home. He luckily never had to worry about anything growing up. Living on his own for many years has really made him realize things, though. So while he may sometimes revert back to his spoiled ways, he's mainly a sweetheart. It's my fault that I don't say enough good things about him here. You know how it is, we tend to focus on the negative things sometimes.
So I came home from yoga and grocery shopping to find that H had assembled our stroller! I was so excited that I couldn't wait to thank him, but he was nowhere to be found. Lassie-style, my dog led me to the basement where he was hard at work trying to fix a clogged portion of our washing machine. Please cross your fingers that we can fix this ourselves and don't need a plumber. Ugh. Please also cross your fingers that this won't turn him off of CDing, cause I already have our NB stash ready to go...
One of my best friends, who was also my college roommate and said a reading at our wedding, just got engaged. Her boyfriend at the time, who is now her fiancé, was also invited to our wedding and attended. I was the first person she called and was SO excited for her... I still am. But she started talking to me this summer about how she didn't want to invite the husband of one and fiancé of the other of two of her best friends. She doesn't like the guys, thinks they're assholes, and was hoping the girls would just be each others dates. From Day 1, I had said that I don't think it's a good idea and that its very difficult to tell your best friends you don't want her husband or finance to attend your wedding, even if you 'don't like them' and she should probably just suck it up. A random boyfriend/girlfriend, sure, don't invite them. But not a spouse of a best friend.
Well, today she told me she talked with the two girls. Their S/O's didn't want to attend anyways so all is good. I told her that worked out well for her and I was happy for her. Then she goes on to ask me if I think that our college roommates and I would all be okay not having 'plus 1's'. I nicely replied "it is your wedding and you can choose to do whatever you want, love!" to be nice.... but do I have a right to be absolutely pissed?!?! I'm 27 years old, we've been best friends for almost 10 years now, and I will have been married to my husband for over 3 years at that point and have a child with him. She loves him, thinks he's great, she just wants to 'keep her numbers down.' They have a list of 50... how did she even think it was decent to ask if I would be okay with that?!?! It would require me to fly from Tennessee to New Hampshire, and then a 6+ hour drive by myself up to rural Maine for her wedding. That my husband isn't invited to. She's not a work colleague or random acquaintance... she's one of my best friends.
Sorry for the rant... I vented to husband but then felt bad continuing on with it since obviously he's the one she doesn't want to invite...
@lfrank12 totally go!! I went the other week and got a few items from the decorative section I totally wasn't planning on getting (I went for a coffee table). You may find more when you get there
I understand weddings are expensive as hell, especially if you have a large family like we do. But to cut out close friends and family is very rude. And you remember that shit forever.