Thanks so much @peachesnbean! That's seriously the most helpful explanation about fundal height measurements that I have heard yet. It's almost like you do this stuff for a living or something
@foxrosy I'm so sorry you and your son are dealing with this. Your story made me really sad, and nobody should have to experience that, let alone on a daily basis. I hope you enjoy your one-on-one time with him today, and that you're able to find another school for him quickly. That definitely doesn't sound like a conducive environment, and I'd trust your gut. Poor kiddo.
Thanks so much @peachesnbean! That's seriously the most helpful explanation about fundal height measurements that I have heard yet. It's almost like you do this stuff for a living or something
Oh... you! And I do it for a living (well, moonlight living) because it is a passion and calling of mine. I am happy to help
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@foxrosy it's always heartbreaking when you see your baby going through a rough time at school. We had some issues with our kids in school too. I was going to describe some, but decided maybe everyone doesn't want to hear about it... if you are interested you could just pm me though. But basically it was a non stop battle. With the accidently wetting himself, My daughter potty trained at 2 years old and never had any accidents. She came home one day from kindergarten (at 5 years old) wearing different clothes because she peed herself in art class. I was very concerned and upset. (I realize your son is having this issue at home during the night) but for us it turned out that my daughter didn't try to go when the class was going but then when she felt the need to go, she wouldn't be excused to go. After that accident we told her to try every time the class went and asked the teachers to let her go if she asked because if she says she needs to go she really does. But I was thinking, maybe you could watch your son at home and see if he's drinking more. It could be similar to where he's not drinking a lot at school and when he comes home he's thirsty and drinks more in the evening. My kids are used to having drinks available whenever they want, but since they are restricted at school, they come home and guzzle down some water quickly. It could be related to the bad experiences at school, and that would be awful. I did talk to a mom once whose son was regressing in school and was having personal issues at home because of it. She ended up giving up the battle with the school and finished the year homeschooling her son. Then her plan was to put him back in the following year. She had requested a teacher change and they declined it, so that was her final straw and she pulled him... I realize this is probably not making any sense I've just rambled some thoughts but in the end, I hope you are able to get your son back to his normal self, and I really hope the school is more helpful. I hope your little man isn't left feeling discouraged from these negative experiences and I'll be thinking of you guys.
@Patience7150 Thank you. I've been feeling pretty sad too. As a parent, you just want your child to be healthy and happy. I actually toured a preschool yesterday that I fell in love with. It's a few freeway stops from my house and costs $200 more a month, but it's all worth it to me. Now I just have to help him get ready for the emotions of changing schools
@foxrosy man this is a slippery slope. 2-4 is a really physically aggressive age. My kid is constantly being pushed or sand thrown at him and there have been weeks where i go to pick him up and he's literally on top of a kid squishing him. We spend a LOT of time working on aggressive behavior and learning empathy. Teachers should never be so singling out a particular child to parents of the other children. That's how pitchfork mentality or whatever starts.
If you dont like the school and feel like they're not communicating well, your child isn't in a safe environment or whatever that's one thing. But finding a preschool where kids aren't hitting each other is going to be rough. Also, your feelings about this school and particular kid are FOR SURE rubbing off on your son and probably making the experience more stressful for him. So it's probably a combo of that and the baby. Just a ton going on in your little guys life.
I think @PerraSucia makes some really good points. When I was a threes room preschool teacher, we would only notify parents about a physical altercation if the child was actually injured. As tough as it is, that sort of behavior at that age is considered "age appropriate". Often it just means that a child is on a different schedule his/her verbal skills and resorts to physical methods of communication out of frustration. Forbidding two kids from playing together is not something we would do, but we would keep an eye on tough personality combos and station a staff member near them if they started an activity together, and then would have them take a break from each other if necessary. Our school had a "positive discipline" only policy, and it sounds like yours does too. Even when a kid was bitten or something like that, we were never allowed to tell the parents which kid did the biting for privacy reasons.
Communication is definitely super important, as is adequate supervision and staffing, and you shouldn't feel like they are shutting down your questions. It still may not be the best fit and there's nothing wrong with that. The things your son is saying are extremely concerning. In any case, I'm sorry your little guy is having a tough time and I hope that things get better soon.
@foxrosy I am sorry to hear that your son is having troubles in school. It breaks my heart when kids aren't able to enjoy their school experience. I hope you are able to find a preschool that is a better fit for him!
@PerraSucia I totally agree that this age group can bring out a lot of physical activity with kids. I'm not looking for an environment where it doesn't occur, as that is unrealistic. What I am looking for is if it's a daily pattern the teachers will communicate with me and be able to identify how they are working with both kids involved to (I.e. keeping a closer eye on them, and making the altercations teachable moments). Like I said before, I don't blame the kids and I don't expect the staff to either, but even if it's my kid who is starting fights or physical altercations, I would like to know that so we can work on it together at home. Before going into nursing I worked with kids for ten years ranging from newborns to teenagers. I don't dislike the little boy, I actually feel for him. At the same time, I don't want my son to have to go to school and fight every day (which did happen all last week) with the same child who is also aggressive with other children. The boy is not the problem, it's the lack of what the staff is doing in terms of communicating with me. I have spoken about this with my god sister who is a kindergarten teacher as well as a good friend who teaches at another pre-school. Both agree the staff should be in communication more with me, as well as focusing a little more on preventing altercations from happening on a daily basis.
I've had several concerns about this school since his first week, but have been trying to give things a chance to smooth out and they haven't. And now this change in him wetting himself daily and dreading school is new. My intuition tells me the school could have something to do with it. And I don't mean abuse or neglect or anything that extreme, it just doesn't seem like the best fit for him and that's my main reason for looking to switch schools.
I appreciate all all the input from you ladies. It's good to get multiple opinions.
I'm concerned about my three year old son. Four school days in a row he has peed in his pants and last night he wet the bed. He has been potty trained for several months now, and has wet himself at night maybe 2 times since he was about a year old. He would always wake up with a dry diaper. He recently transitioned to a preschool in Sept and has not been enjoying it. I am in the process of moving him to a different preschool because the teachers haven't been the greatest with communication and I no longer feel it's a space that welcomes my questions or concerns. A main concern is a boy who I have witnessed hit multiple children, and for about two weeks now he and my son have gotten into some sort of physical altercation daily. Mind you, the staff never told me this, my son does. I asked the teacher what was happening with this situation and she did acknowledge it was happening but blamed both kids. The only intervention is to remind them to keep hands and feet to themselves, but nothing to prevent it. This worries me as I do not want him to go to school and fight on a daily basis. And this kid punches him in the eyes and face. I don't blame the other kid. I hear he comes from a troubled home and has some emotional issues. I just want the staff to support him as well as ensure the safety of the other students, especially my son who is getting into it daily with him. Now my son says his teachers are mean and hit him, which I don't believe necessarily, but I wonder why he is suddenly saying these things. He also has had a mild stuttering problem since age 2.5 and is starting speech therapy twice a month. Last night his stutter was so bad, it broke my heart. I don't know if this new peeing on himself is due to stuff going on at school or maybe the pregnancy? I'm keeping him home today to take him to the doctor to rule out infection or any physical problems and then taking him to an indoor playground for some one on one time. Im so worried about my boy feeling afraid or sad about something and not being able to express it to me.
Just needed to vent.
ETA: just realized I posted this in the wrong Randoms thread.
I would be livid. Have you talked to the center director too? I was having issues at DDs daycare a while back where she kept getting bitten. First, I reached out to the teachers. When nothing happened, I sat down with the director and demanded something be done. They finally moved my daughter into the older (and appropriate for her age at the time) classroom but I did not budge. I am one of those moms that you do not want to cross. They probably hate me but oh well. I was at the point of confronting the parent in the parking lot when she got scratched in the face so bad that it has permanently left a scar.
Then again, I'm kind of crazy so maybe you don't want to take my advice! Hahaha
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@foxrosy it's always heartbreaking when you see your baby going through a rough time at school. We had some issues with our kids in school too. I was going to describe some, but decided maybe everyone doesn't want to hear about it... if you are interested you could just pm me though. But basically it was a non stop battle. With the accidently wetting himself, My daughter potty trained at 2 years old and never had any accidents. She came home one day from kindergarten (at 5 years old) wearing different clothes because she peed herself in art class. I was very concerned and upset. (I realize your son is having this issue at home during the night) but for us it turned out that my daughter didn't try to go when the class was going but then when she felt the need to go, she wouldn't be excused to go. After that accident we told her to try every time the class went and asked the teachers to let her go if she asked because if she says she needs to go she really does. But I was thinking, maybe you could watch your son at home and see if he's drinking more. It could be similar to where he's not drinking a lot at school and when he comes home he's thirsty and drinks more in the evening. My kids are used to having drinks available whenever they want, but since they are restricted at school, they come home and guzzle down some water quickly. It could be related to the bad experiences at school, and that would be awful. I did talk to a mom once whose son was regressing in school and was having personal issues at home because of it. She ended up giving up the battle with the school and finished the year homeschooling her son. Then her plan was to put him back in the following year. She had requested a teacher change and they declined it, so that was her final straw and she pulled him... I realize this is probably not making any sense I've just rambled some thoughts but in the end, I hope you are able to get your son back to his normal self, and I really hope the school is more helpful. I hope your little man isn't left feeling discouraged from these negative experiences and I'll be thinking of you guys.
child to be healthy and happy. I actually toured a preschool yesterday that I fell in love with. It's a few freeway stops from my house and costs $200 more a month, but it's all worth it to me. Now I just have to help him get ready for the emotions of changing schools
If you dont like the school and feel like they're not communicating well, your child isn't in a safe environment or whatever that's one thing. But finding a preschool where kids aren't hitting each other is going to be rough. Also, your feelings about this school and particular kid are FOR SURE rubbing off on your son and probably making the experience more stressful for him. So it's probably a combo of that and the baby. Just a ton going on in your little guys life.
Communication is definitely super important, as is adequate supervision and staffing, and you shouldn't feel like they are shutting down your questions. It still may not be the best fit and there's nothing wrong with that. The things your son is saying are extremely concerning. In any case, I'm sorry your little guy is having a tough time and I hope that things get better soon.
I have spoken about this with my god sister who is a kindergarten teacher as well as a good friend who teaches at another pre-school. Both agree the staff should be in communication more with me, as well as focusing a little more on preventing altercations from happening on a daily basis.
I've had several concerns about this school since his first week, but have been trying to give things a chance to smooth out and they haven't. And now this change in him wetting himself daily and dreading school is new. My intuition tells me the school could have something to do with it. And I don't mean abuse or neglect or anything that extreme, it just doesn't seem like the best fit for him and that's my main reason for looking to switch schools.
I appreciate all all the input from you ladies. It's good to get multiple opinions.
Then again, I'm kind of crazy so maybe you don't want to take my advice! Hahaha