Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Introduction and EDD!
I got a BFP 9/17 when I realized my period was a few days late. We already have a son who just turned a year old yesterday! We are still breastfeeding so my cycles have been all over the place! I was a member of the Sept 15 group and really enjoyed it! Shoutout to @babs02 and @Yiggle09!
My EDD based on my LMP is May 23! My first ultrasound is not until Oct 24 so I have a while to let the anxiety build! Hoping for a healthy baby for all! Looking forward to getting to know all of you!
@ShadeofGreen816 Good to see you over here too!
We got our BFP on the 8th Sept, EDD is 18th May. We have been trying for over a year and so estatic when we got the news. Already having funny symptoms but can't complain lol.
Happy to be on here at last!
Anxiety is starting to set in a little as I wait for my first appointment. I've got a long way to go.
Excited for everyone here!
I live in Ontario, Canada but originally from the US.
BFP: September 19th
EDD: May 27th (3 days before my bday!)
I have a 10 month old son. Kind of crazy- I went off of birth control at the end of July because I didn't like the pill I was taking. We were going to "actively" start TTC in December (tracking, etc). Well, within the first month off of my pill I conceived. It took us 15 months with our son, so to say I'm completely shocked is an understatement! My husband is currently away on a work trip and doesn't know yet. Having our son wear a "brother" shirt when we go pick daddy up from the airport on Friday!
Hi ladies! My fiancé & I have been TTC for more than a decade now! I wasn't sure if I wanted children for some time but in recent years, I have definitely felt the desire. My fiancé has always wanted children. He recently had surgery (similar to a vasectomy reversal but not actually that because he never had a reversal done). It was to fix a blockage from a childhood injury. We are not sure if that worked because we dived right into IVF (after all this time, we didn't want to waste another day!
) and will hope for another naturally down the line. The first cycle worked and I am now 5W5D pregnant! We both feel so blessed but it is hard to really accept until the ultrasound, when we can actually see something (scheduled for 10/5). It feels just surreal right now, almost like it is somebody else. We transferred 2 so twins is also a possibility....we are kind of nervous and excited as this will be our first!
Blessing to all!
EDD: 5/2 (based on what I calculated). I think my dr. was a little overwhelmed on Monday and did not share this information with us. In fact, the only thing he gave me was the wonderful glucose drink that I get to do for my next appointment. I had GD with my first and he wants to go ahead and check it since I'm at risk for having it again.
DD: 1yr 11mths
MC: 8/26/13
Terrified & Excited!
I got my BFP on Monday, 9/20 and have an EDD of May 29th! We're so excited for baby #2! Our first little guy is almost 15 months old now. Excited to be going through this with all of you ladies. Great to meet you all!
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TTC #1: September 2015-January 2016
BFP #1: 1/25/16 - MMC Diagnosed 3/22/16
TTCAL: June 2016
BFP #2: 8/26/16 - EDD 5/9/17
Jackson born 5/6/17 at 8:36 PM - 9lbs 5oz & 21in
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
4w4d today, EDD May 29 according to TB (OB has not given me one yet). I got a very faint BFP a week and a half ago (9/11) and a real, believable BFP 9/12. I have a 4.5 year old and we have been NTNP since she was born, so this BFP is a stunner.
My beta last Thursday was 82 and it was over 2900 yesterday, so I'm feeling more ready to jump in.
I had a loss at 10+ weeks back in 2010 because I had a septate uterus. It was horrible and devastating, but I did have surgery to correct my uterus, and my pregnancy with DD that followed went well. My EDD for my m/c was May 2011 so I'm not so thrilled to be due in May again, but I suppose if that's my worst problem then I'm OK.
I was also a member of March 2012 if anyone else is from that era?
Hi All,
I am moving over here from the TTCAL board. I am a bit hesitant to get involved because I just lost our first baby a month ago. I was involved in the April 17 BMB pretty fully. I miscarried on August 18th. Ovulated around September 6th and here I am. First BFP was September 19th. I had HCG tests Weds and Fri and my levels more than doubled, so I am trying to just stay positive. My EDD based on a positive OPK is May 30th.
Looking forward to getting to know you all!
Married: 06/14/14
Fur Babies: Samara (Lab) & Akiva (Pom)
Foster Parents
MC: 8/18/2016
I'm a SAHM to my 10 month old daughter named Penelope. *TW* I found myself unexpectedly pregnant, due in January '17, but miscarried very unexpectedly at 10 weeks in June. *End TW* I'm hesitantly excited about this pregnancy. My tentative due date is 5/29.
Hi ladies. I got my BFP on the 18th and had a blood test this week to confirm! Due around May 23rd, but unconfirmed as I haven’t yet met with the doc. I have a three-year-old and already this pregnancy feels different! It has truly prompted me to do some soul-searching in this past week. Thinking about Life, the Universe, and Everything… I’ve been watching these boards, too, and I’m really happy for those of you who’ve gotten your u/s already. Jealous! I have to wait a few more weeks, until mid-October. So, playing the waiting game for now… Best of luck to everyone!
Looking forward to getting to know all of you. EDIT due to error
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.