I am so mad at my husband right now, my head is hurting. I had taken a frozen chicken out of the freezer to thaw because I was going to cook it today. Well since I got stuck at the salon, i texted husband to put the chicken back because by the time I get home I won't have energy or time to cook it today. He texted back saying "ok." Well, about 2 hours later, he picked me up knowing that we still had to run a couple errands and stop by at my parents. We JUST got home. The chicken was still left out!!! I was so mad, I really lost it, for the first time. F words were flying out my mouth like rain. It's one thing if he forgot about the chicken but he didn't..he said he left it out because he still wanted me to cook it today! WTF dude. I told you I won't do it today and you agreed and said you'd put it away. It's not just the chicken that I'm mad about. I'm mad because despite me telling him, he does whatever the hell he wants. He doesn't listen! I mean, I don't just run around telling people to do things because I like to boss them around. I tell them because there is a REASON. Gahhhh! My head feels like it's going to explode, literally, it hurts that bad. He's sleeping in the living room today. And we don't have a couch so he can sleep on the ground.
Yeah, she's by the bookshelf behind the pink tea cart. When I walked in there I almost had a heart attack when I didn't see her! Also, that bedroom started as a super gender neutral nursery; then I got a pink loving super girly toddler.....
No @Spicyweiner . It's the principal. Whenever I ask/tell him to do something, he always argues and does the opposite. Like he went for an interview last week. I told him that he should send a "thank you" note to the interviewers and just point a thing or two to make yourself standout. He thought I was giving him bad advice and insisted you only say thank you when they let you know if you got the job or not. I was just like "whatever." But then, when he talks to my brother in law (who is in the same field) and BIL mentions a thank you note H decides to write one. That's just one example. But there's something everyday. And when it comes to germs or wasting money or health/safety it really pisses me off when he doesn't listen.
Btw, he just snuck into bed. I have no energy to kick him out right now.
I'm really not trying to sound like a dick, but kicking a guy to the floor because you were too tired to cook because you got your hair done, sounds a little silly.
So I have no right to complain or vent because I got my hair done after a VERY long time? Especially when there is plenty of food in the fridge for him to eat AND he has time to cook something himself if he wants to? And I shouldn't complain about it because it's just a chicken? Never mind that the chicken was unnecessarily wasted? Because money is growing on trees, apparently. Or the fact that the apartment stunk real bad making me vomit. I have foregone getting my own hair done for months so he can get his colored and cut because he INSISTS on going to the same stylist I was using before he arrived to the US. Which at that time I was able to afford to splurge on my own hair. But I can't do that for two people now. Yes, I'm a terrible wife because I got mad at my husband for not doing something as simple as putting the damn chicken back in the freezer.
Ya, getting your hair done or not is a completely different topic. And who are you to judge me because I got my hair done? I already felt guilty as it is, I don't need you to rub it in more. And btw, it ended up working out fine because of the whole incident of my colorist not showing up. But that's besides the point.
Lucky for your husband that he doesn't have premature graying!! My husband has a beautiful head of hair, but it's all gray. So he doesn't do it to unnecessarily get highlights or "play" with different colors. Btw, he colors his hair at home. He only goes in for the cuts.
ETA: I just realize I incorrectly wrote that H "colors and cuts" his hair in the previous post. No, he only professionally gets his cut.
Dude, you complain and whine constantly. You are like a gold medalist in the pain olympics. It's really getting annoying.
Ah!!! So that's what it is! Thank you! So please, tell me. How is my whining different from others? Do I just do it too much? Or is it the things I whine about? Would you be happier if I didn't complain anymore? Honestly. I'm asking. I don't know... I mean I really thought that I provided just as much support and positivity to balance it out. Would love your feedback!
Btw, yes I know how to thaw meat. I put it in cold water and had originally asked husband to change out the cold water periodically. That's why when I realized I was going to be late....I asked him to put it back in the fridge. Came back home and it was just sitting there on the counter.....no water or anything. Maybe I should introduce you guys to my H so YOU can explain to him how to handle raw meat.
It doesn't matter what I think, you do you. You do offer a lot of advice and feedback, I don't disagree at all. I think that we have very different personalities and don't really understand each other. No big deal.
@AfKash there has to be stress and an underlying issue to be upset right now. I understand being frustrated but I would be pissed if my H cussed me out and made me sleep on the floor over chicken. I think sleeping it off and thinking about it in the morning would be best.
@AfKash I think it's not about wasted chicken, it's about feeling like your husband doesn't respect or listen to what you have to say, right? Hopefully you can talk it through tomorrow and work things out!
Random clicking through prenatal classes offered in my town...and I find prenatal oriental dance classes. I already signed up for prenatal yoga because I luuuuurved it when pregnant with DD, but this looks like fun. Right? Right? I dance like a broomstick and have no rhythm to speak of, but come on. At the very least I'll have something amusing to talk to SO about after class.
I let chicken thaw overnight and put it in the crockpot by morning #noragrets and I have never gotten food poisoning from it ever. Now Red Lobster? That's a different story.
Ya, getting your hair done or not is a completely different topic. And who are you to judge me because I got my hair done? I already felt guilty as it is, I don't need you to rub it in more. And btw, it ended up working out fine because of the whole incident of my colorist not showing up. But that's besides the point.
Also, @AfKash - I didn't think anyone was judging you for getting your hair colored.. At least I wasn't reading it that way. I get it that you might not agree with some reg posters here but it sounds like you have some misplaced anger towards them.
I was also under the impression that it isn't about chicken. It's just one more thing that he doesn't listen to her about. I'm guessing people here would side eye me because I sent DH to the couch when I came home to a dirty son. I worked long hours complete with throwing up nearly every hour. All I asked is for him to give our son a bath. That's it. Not cook or clean. I was going to do that even after my long rough day. Granted I didn't cuss him. DS was like right there for the argument.
But it was the principle. He was off all day and DS had been playing outside and swimming so he was stinky. It's just one of those where you try to explain why the one thing you've asked them to do is important over and over again. Then that one final thing (stinky chicken or stinky children) pushes you too far. I'm not saying DH is a bad husband. He's great 90% of the time. That other 10% he listens as well as my toddler.
@AfKash I think you had a right to be upset with your husband but I think kicking him out of the bed for it was exaggerated. It's really not that big of a deal.... I know you're pissed that he didn't listen but if this is something that happens regularly, maybe you should aim for a calm discussion on that issue.
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Also to clarify we use sleeping on the couch as kind of a pause button. If we're disagreeing and can't come to a conclusion, one of us sleeps on the couch and we revisit with calm heads in the morning. It works for us.
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@AfKash wasting of food pisses me off so I would have been mad too and I get where you're coming from. At the same time, kicking H out of bed is something I've never done, ever, so that part is tough to wrap my mind around. I probably would have just made him cook it. I definitely am a proponent of fridge-thawing, in part because it gives you a day's grace period if something comes up, but NBD.
So I have no right to complain or vent because I got my hair done after a VERY long time? Especially when there is plenty of food in the fridge for him to eat AND he has time to cook something himself if he wants to? And I shouldn't complain about it because it's just a chicken? Never mind that the chicken was unnecessarily wasted? Because money is growing on trees, apparently. Or the fact that the apartment stunk real bad making me vomit. I have foregone getting my own hair done for months so he can get his colored and cut because he INSISTS on going to the same stylist I was using before he arrived to the US. Which at that time I was able to afford to splurge on my own hair. But I can't do that for two people now. Yes, I'm a terrible wife because I got mad at my husband for not doing something as simple as putting the damn chicken back in the freezer.
I don't think anyone was judging you for getting your hair done. I agree with pp that you do complain a lot... everyday. And in this specific case I feel like you were overreacting and being completely dramatic! But hey... You do you right?
At the end of the day it's just freaking chicken. Is that really worth getting this mad about and kicking your husband out of bed for? It's just chicken.
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It's one thing if he forgot about the chicken but he didn't..he said he left it out because he still wanted me to cook it today!
WTF dude. I told you I won't do it today and you agreed and said you'd put it away.
It's not just the chicken that I'm mad about. I'm mad because despite me telling him, he does whatever the hell he wants. He doesn't listen! I mean, I don't just run around telling people to do things because I like to boss them around. I tell them because there is a REASON. Gahhhh! My head feels like it's going to explode, literally, it hurts that bad.
He's sleeping in the living room today. And we don't have a couch so he can sleep on the ground.
When I walked in there I almost had a heart attack when I didn't see her!
Also, that bedroom started as a super gender neutral nursery; then I got a pink loving super girly toddler.....
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I think you may need to take a breath here ;-)
Btw, he just snuck into bed. I have no energy to kick him out right now.
When I exclaimed "there you are" she said "mooommmmyyyyyyy, I'm trying to read my book! Can you go out of here??"
I have foregone getting my own hair done for months so he can get his colored and cut because he INSISTS on going to the same stylist I was using before he arrived to the US. Which at that time I was able to afford to splurge on my own hair. But I can't do that for two people now. Yes, I'm a terrible wife because I got mad at my husband for not doing something as simple as putting the damn chicken back in the freezer.
But that's just us.....
ETA: my husband has never in his life had his hair colored.
I already felt guilty as it is, I don't need you to rub it in more. And btw, it ended up working out fine because of the whole incident of my colorist not showing up. But that's besides the point.
ETA: I just realize I incorrectly wrote that H "colors and cuts" his hair in the previous post. No, he only professionally gets his cut.
You are like a gold medalist in the pain olympics.
It's really getting annoying.
Fridge or cold water.
#foodsafetyya'll
What's morning chicken?
You do offer a lot of advice and feedback, I don't disagree at all.
I think that we have very different personalities and don't really understand each other. No big deal.
I'm sorry about your chicken. I hope it rests in piece(s).
I already signed up for prenatal yoga because I luuuuurved it when pregnant with DD, but this looks like fun. Right? Right? I dance like a broomstick and have no rhythm to speak of, but come on. At the very least I'll have something amusing to talk to SO about after class.
Also, @AfKash - I didn't think anyone was judging you for getting your hair colored.. At least I wasn't reading it that way. I get it that you might not agree with some reg posters here but it sounds like you have some misplaced anger towards them.
But it was the principle. He was off all day and DS had been playing outside and swimming so he was stinky. It's just one of those where you try to explain why the one thing you've asked them to do is important over and over again. Then that one final thing (stinky chicken or stinky children) pushes you too far. I'm not saying DH is a bad husband. He's great 90% of the time. That other 10% he listens as well as my toddler.
@AfKash I think you had a right to be upset with your husband but I think kicking him out of the bed for it was exaggerated. It's really not that big of a deal.... I know you're pissed that he didn't listen but if this is something that happens regularly, maybe you should aim for a calm discussion on that issue.
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@AfKash wasting of food pisses me off so I would have been mad too and I get where you're coming from. At the same time, kicking H out of bed is something I've never done, ever, so that part is tough to wrap my mind around. I probably would have just made him cook it. I definitely am a proponent of fridge-thawing, in part because it gives you a day's grace period if something comes up, but NBD.
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EDD: 08/23/14
Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
At the end of the day it's just freaking chicken. Is that really worth getting this mad about and kicking your husband out of bed for? It's just chicken.
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