So I have been arguing with my Dr about the NT scan (Nuchal translucency) and I have never been so confused.. He told me I will get it from week 16-20 weeks however everywhere I look it up it says 11-14 weeks?? Does anyone else have experience with this or had an NT scan done later on?
I opted for the NT scan also. It is a 2 part blood work test with a US thrown in there. The first blood draw is taken between 11-14 weeks and then the second is 15-20. I asked if I could go in 2 days early for my second since I had the day off and they said no, it is too time sensitive, sheesh! haha
@AfKash I agree with PP's about overreaction over the chicken and kicking him out of bed BUT I do see where your anger is coming from. I think you should have a conversation with your husband about why he does not always listen to you and respect what you are saying since it seems this has happened multiple times now. Hopefully talking about it can lead to some improvement
Oh drama. Look, I am late, but yeah, the fight wasn't just about chicken. I have these kinds of things with my husband a lot. My interpretation here was that ot was that she talked to him about it, he agreed to do something and then didn't. Not only that, but when she got home, if he wasn't going to pit it back like agreed, he could have made dinner with it.
My H is famous for looking at me like I am crazy if I am stressed and asking him to help with things. Don't worry, I will take care of that, and then he doesn't do it, so the next day I have to do the thing he patted my head and promised he would do.
I'm a little jealous of everyone getting their A/S done already. My due date is 2/6 and my A/S isn't scheduled until 9/29. We did go ahead and schedule an elective U/S for Saturday to find out the sex because the 2 really good consignment sales start on 9/12 and 9/17.
I'm a little jealous of everyone getting their A/S done already. My due date is 2/6 and my A/S isn't scheduled until 9/29. We did go ahead and schedule an elective U/S for Saturday to find out the sex because the 2 really good consignment sales start on 9/12 and 9/17.
Hey, we're EDD buddies! Sorry you have to wait a while. Mine is only so early because I'm travelling for work for the next three weeks. Apparently there's a good chance I'll need to go back again later to get more measurements taken, which is a drag and, with my insurance, will cost me. The elective will be fun, though! Much less stressful than the full A/S. I feel like I can't even get excited about the sex part until I get confirmation the baby is a healthy human.
I'm a little jealous of everyone getting their A/S done already. My due date is 2/6 and my A/S isn't scheduled until 9/29. We did go ahead and schedule an elective U/S for Saturday to find out the sex because the 2 really good consignment sales start on 9/12 and 9/17.
Mine isn't until the 27th But we are also DD buddies as well!
@Xstatic3333 and @BumpasaurusRex Yay for EDD buddies! You'll have to ignore my ticker because I didn't ever take the time to redo it after the dating U/S (it shows 2/7).
True about the elective not having as much stress immediately around it, but I'm still a bit anxious in general because we haven't had any screening done at all. My Dr was planning to have us do the Harmony/Mat21 test because she thought insurance would cover it due to a 1st cousin's child having mental retardation, but when she confirmed it with insurance they rejected it. She was also planning for us to have it done around the 14 week mark, so by the time she found out it was rejected it was too late for the NT scan. I'm big into having as much information as I can get my hands on and this is the first time we haven't had any screening done before the A/S. Odds are with us that everything is fine, but there's something to be said for getting that stuff done and out of the way.
BumpasaurusRex- are you planning to do an elective to find out the boy/girl or are you planning to wait until the A/S?
@AfKash when I read your post it seemed to me like the chicken was just the straw that broke the camels back. From your post it really sounds like your husband has little respect for you or if he does he really isn't good at showing it. Hopefully some of that impression is just gathered from the anger of the latest situation. I couldn't imagine DH telling me he still expects me to cook after I've told him I can't for whatever reason. Some nights yea I'm too tired or I'm running really late and he's the first one to jump in and say that's OK I'll have dinner ready for you when you're home. Likewise I do the same for him. Also it's really rude of him to refuse to see another hair stylist when you can't afford it so he just assumes you won't go now... It sounds cheesy but marriage is about compromise so maybe he needs to not go for a month so you can go or maybe neither of you go and spend that money on something you can do together.
I think you and your husband need to sit down and have a conversation about what is expected from each partner in your marriage. Tell him about how it doesn't seem like he listens to you and it's ok to cite some of the situations like you did above but try to keep it more general because I've found that people like to just address those specific situations and then assume everything is all good and they don't actually change. Work out a budget together and determine things like who gets to go get their hair done and when.
Me: 33 | DH: 34 Married: October, 19, 2015 EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17 EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20 EDD 11/24/23 (Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
@AfKash I agree with PPs. it sounds like a plain language, calm conversation is needed. If I remember correctly, your H just moved here-- is he struggling to understand the budget or get used to his new lifestyle? When we 1st got married I had to have a long talk with my Hubs that if this marriage was going to work we needed to respect each other and put each other 1st. so we are a unified front. it sounds like you need that conversation.
I agree with others, it wasn't about the chicken. It was about the total lack of respect. I would have felt very manipulated. It is one thing if he forgot, another if he was like "surprise, now make me a sandwich*". Was it a bit of an over reaction to send him to the couch? I mean, maybe. But we've all had our moments. I hope you guys use this as a learning experience and you'll laugh about it soon.
*Sandwich = chicken
DD1- Aug11 Angel Baby- June13, said goodbye Oct12 DD2- Aug13 DD3- due Feb17
I love these! I was thinking of trying to find a kid's book with a similar kinds of pictures at B&N and framing the pages myself. Animals or Beatrix Potter characters or Winnie the Pooh (classic not modern)... My idea of a nursery is still far from fully formed.
My take on the chicken is the frustration with her H in general. I get it and the chicken was the straw that broke the camel's back. I'm Team If You Want the Chicken, Cook It Yourself.
@poetryandoceans I think a culture of observation is a good thing! It's not about pressure on kids - teachers are the ones being observed; and it shouldn't be any kind of stakes - it's about collaboration and growth, not "gotcha." I don't mean to dismiss your rant - I'm a teacher too and hate those same things - but I'm also an observer and would be happy to talk more about what that's supposed to mean, if you'd like. If you just wanted to bitch about it, feel free to ignore me
I mean, I don't disagree that it has the possibility to be a good thing. I think (and I perhaps didn't elaborate on this in my urge to just spew a rant out) that in order for a culture of observation to be successfully fostered and the focus placed on improving teaching practice, there are some more fundamental school culture things that need to be in place. Our administration already seems to eye the teachers with a healthy amount of distrust (coming around on pro-ds around 10 minutes before the end of day to make sure no one has ducked out early... 10 minutes), so bringing a "culture of observation" into this context seems to read more as "culture of surveillance"; plus I do have concerns about how it will be broached with the students about how it feels from their perspective, but again, those are more school based than a concern with the practice as a whole.
More broadly, I'm just sick of the emphasis on saying the right buzzwords and attending the right workshops over the summer, which is where all our admin is focusing its energy when it comes to teaching excellence. "Collaboration and growth" turns into "let me tell you about this workshop I did at Harvard. Did I mention I did a pro-d at Harvard this summer? Harvard Harvard Harvard" while those same admin then ding department pro-d that we do in the community because it costs more than they want to see.
I understand that for her it was about more than the chicken. Trust me, I'm married and I get frustrated too. I just thought the whole thing was a major overreaction, and I tend to think that many of her posts are overreactions. The language also had a lot to do with it "doing what I TELL him" etc. I guess that was the straw that broke the camels back for me. Can you imagine if all of us whined and complained here that much? It would be a clusterf*ck. I just don't need to see paragraphs of petty whines. This isn't a diary. Or a blog.
Confession: I have never made my husband sleep on the couch. You do whatever works for you, but I've always felt like that was just disrespectful and rude. He has definitely pissed me off ALOT, but I just roll over and go to sleep lol
@Spicyweiner I hope you don't see this as an attack or anything. I'm genuinely curious. Where do you draw the line between normal complaining and excessive complaining?
Confession: I have never made my husband sleep on the couch. You do whatever works for you, but I've always felt like that was just disrespectful and rude. He has definitely pissed me off ALOT, but I just roll over and go to sleep lol
^^ This! We've been married almost 3 years (this month actually) and even when he's made me mad right at bed time and I just want to ignore him, I still want him in bed with me. Plus now he works half the nights so I'm alone a lot
anyway, back to talking about getting our hairs did.. I had my hair cut and dyed July of 2015, I think somewhere around there. It was teal and neat.. and now my hair is silvery green and a hot mess. I mean some of you have children younger than my haircut.
I don't know what to do.. do I just leave it and am like whateves? I think I need to get it thinned out because it's a blanket and wearing it up is giving me headaches. I historically like to get nicified for my birthday, but I'm spending this one on single mom duty anyway.
We've had our moments of sleeping on the couch after fights and I've never viewed it as disrespectful. Sometimes we just needed some space from each other and it's helped us come back more clearheaded.
Granted, it's only happened a handful of times but I don't view it as a huge deal in the end.
@poetryandoceans I think a culture of observation is a good thing! It's not about pressure on kids - teachers are the ones being observed; and it shouldn't be any kind of stakes - it's about collaboration and growth, not "gotcha." I don't mean to dismiss your rant - I'm a teacher too and hate those same things - but I'm also an observer and would be happy to talk more about what that's supposed to mean, if you'd like. If you just wanted to bitch about it, feel free to ignore me
I mean, I don't disagree that it has the possibility to be a good thing. I think (and I perhaps didn't elaborate on this in my urge to just spew a rant out) that in order for a culture of observation to be successfully fostered and the focus placed on improving teaching practice, there are some more fundamental school culture things that need to be in place. Our administration already seems to eye the teachers with a healthy amount of distrust (coming around on pro-ds around 10 minutes before the end of day to make sure no one has ducked out early... 10 minutes), so bringing a "culture of observation" into this context seems to read more as "culture of surveillance"; plus I do have concerns about how it will be broached with the students about how it feels from their perspective, but again, those are more school based than a concern with the practice as a whole.
More broadly, I'm just sick of the emphasis on saying the right buzzwords and attending the right workshops over the summer, which is where all our admin is focusing its energy when it comes to teaching excellence. "Collaboration and growth" turns into "let me tell you about this workshop I did at Harvard. Did I mention I did a pro-d at Harvard this summer? Harvard Harvard Harvard" while those same admin then ding department pro-d that we do in the community because it costs more than they want to see.
Sounds like bullshit; rant away. Sorry about your crappy school culture
@Spicyweiner I hope you don't see this as an attack or anything. I'm genuinely curious. Where do you draw the line between normal complaining and excessive complaining?
That's a fair question, and there isn't a definitive answer. I guess for me it's when I see a post and I'm like "oh lord, here we go again" I consider that excessive.
Not going to lie, if I'm so angry at my husband that I can't sleep next to him, I move to the couch. I don't feel like I should be able to tell him what to do.
I am also the one who ends up on the couch when DH and I fight... Mostly because he can fall asleep no matter what is going on. If I'm upset and try to go to bed with him, I either start crying or get seething mad. So, I leave. Ironically, we have a guest room that is always made up and I never think to go sleep in there.
going back to speaking about what really matters in my life.. my birthday. My FH scheduled to teach his class on Wednesdays instead of Tuesdays because he couldn't miss election night television. So now on my birthday I get to be on single working parent duty. One of my friends thinks I should play hooky and grab my son to come hang out with her kids, but spending my birthday fighting with my toddler doesn't seem better than being at work and pretending the day isn't happening.
@PerraSucia I loved that when I saw birthday before reading the rest. Please consider it a sympathetic lovetit. It sucks that your state doesn't just make election day a holiday. My new home state does and it makes life so much easier.
I missed a lot because I had a busy day yesterday... so I'm going to sail past and post this instead of trying to comment on all the many randoms. Because tiny dinosaur clothes.
Just target! We were there looking at maternity tops and OF COURSE I had to stop in the baby section of every store now.
I have a shopping for baby stuff addiction now.
I'm so disappointed that we no longer have targets here. They had a lot awesome stuff.
They took away your Target? That's horrible! Target is one of our happy places. Even if we can manage to get through the store without buying something (which rarely happens) it's just a nice place to browse. Last weekend I asked the kids if there was anywhere special they wanted to go and they didn't answer with the park or anything like that, they picked Target!
Alright fellow Team Green mama's I need your strength! I am starting to doubt my decision but only because we cannot agree on any boy or girl names! We have never had this much trouble. I realize that we still have a ways to go but I'm pretty sure DH wants to find out. I just feel like it would be easier if I gave in...
Re: Weekly Random (9/4)
My H is famous for looking at me like I am crazy if I am stressed and asking him to help with things. Don't worry, I will take care of that, and then he doesn't do it, so the next day I have to do the thing he patted my head and promised he would do.
Drives me nuts.
But anyway @AfKash , I do get it!
Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09
Mia - 6/16/11
Surprise! due 2/23/17
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17
True about the elective not having as much stress immediately around it, but I'm still a bit anxious in general because we haven't had any screening done at all. My Dr was planning to have us do the Harmony/Mat21 test because she thought insurance would cover it due to a 1st cousin's child having mental retardation, but when she confirmed it with insurance they rejected it. She was also planning for us to have it done around the 14 week mark, so by the time she found out it was rejected it was too late for the NT scan. I'm big into having as much information as I can get my hands on and this is the first time we haven't had any screening done before the A/S. Odds are with us that everything is fine, but there's something to be said for getting that stuff done and out of the way.
BumpasaurusRex- are you planning to do an elective to find out the boy/girl or are you planning to wait until the A/S?
I think you and your husband need to sit down and have a conversation about what is expected from each partner in your marriage. Tell him about how it doesn't seem like he listens to you and it's ok to cite some of the situations like you did above but try to keep it more general because I've found that people like to just address those specific situations and then assume everything is all good and they don't actually change. Work out a budget together and determine things like who gets to go get their hair done and when.
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17
EDD 3/8/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17
*Sandwich = chicken
I mean I get annoyed with my husband for not doing shit or doing shit differently than I would all the time but hey he's my husband not my employee.
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17
More broadly, I'm just sick of the emphasis on saying the right buzzwords and attending the right workshops over the summer, which is where all our admin is focusing its energy when it comes to teaching excellence. "Collaboration and growth" turns into "let me tell you about this workshop I did at Harvard. Did I mention I did a pro-d at Harvard this summer? Harvard Harvard Harvard" while those same admin then ding department pro-d that we do in the community because it costs more than they want to see.
I guess that was the straw that broke the camels back for me. Can you imagine if all of us whined and complained here that much? It would be a clusterf*ck.
I just don't need to see paragraphs of petty whines. This isn't a diary. Or a blog.
ME: 25, DH: 27
TTC #1 since 09/2015
Miscarriage @ 10 wks 02/28/2016
BFP 05/28/2016!
^^ This! We've been married almost 3 years (this month actually) and even when he's made me mad right at bed time and I just want to ignore him, I still want him in bed with me. Plus now he works half the nights so I'm alone a lot
Married: 9/2013
Love my LEO!!
TTC #1: 9/2015
BFP: 2/1/16 MC 2/8/16 @ 5wks
BFP: 5/22/16 RAINBOW BABY
EDD: 1/30/2017 *IT'S A GIRL!!!!*
Kirsten Grace 1/20/17
I don't know what to do.. do I just leave it and am like whateves? I think I need to get it thinned out because it's a blanket and wearing it up is giving me headaches. I historically like to get nicified for my birthday, but I'm spending this one on single mom duty anyway.
Granted, it's only happened a handful of times but I don't view it as a huge deal in the end.
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17
I guess for me it's when I see a post and I'm like "oh lord, here we go again" I consider that excessive.
Also @Xstatic3333 Good luck on your A/S today!!
I have a shopping for baby stuff addiction now.
First BFP: 12/16/13
EDD: 08/23/14
Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
First BFP: 12/16/13
EDD: 08/23/14
Baby BOY born: 08/29/14