Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: **INTRO THREAD and EDD**
I have one child almost 9 months old. Expecting #2!. EDD February 27th, 2017. I am 8 weeks today.
newbie bumper here - I'm from Toronto, Canada, I'm 39 and 8w1d officially after today's dating US. EDD is Feb 26, 2017! This baby #1 - I did have a MC at 12w about 5 years ago.
Very happy to be here and enjoying this great community so much!
my username is from my bffs wedding like 6 years ago
-cj
I'll be 31 next week, and am from southeast Massachusetts. Husband and I have been married for less than 2 yrs, but together for almost 6. We have a 4 yr old son.
8 weeks and a couple days preggo. Originally my midwife estimated my due date was around Feb 19, but just got pushed back to March 1 based on my ultrasound! ( I had irregular cycles)
I am very excited for baby #2! My LO wants to be a big brother so bad and I can't wait to tell him!
I had an emergency C-section for DS,, due to him trying to swim out arms first, and am hoping for a VBAC this time!
I'm 24 and I'm expecting 3 more additions to my family on February 19 and February 22 but my Dr says I'm surely not going to make it to my due date for triplets. I'm not sure who to talk to about multiples and high risk pregnancies but I have to start somewhere, and I'm 9 weeks with 2 of my babies measuring days ahead and one days behind. If anyone has advice on what I could do about comfort and health, it's greatly appreciated.
TTC since January 2016
BFP - 3/12/16 - MC 4/5/16
BFP - 6/11/16
my edd is 29 jan & being our first baby am fully expecting to run into feb, ive been lurking for a wile & loving the snark of this board & feel more at home here than on the jan board.
anyways, im 33, an electrical engineer from ireland. Been married to my husband (31, general practice doctor) for nearly 2 years.
We had our first ultrasound on wednesday (12.5 weeks) which was very cool
TW: We'd been actively TTC since Jan 2015, and had a missed miscarriage at 11 weeks January 2016. I started spotting with this pregnancy at week 6, but it is a subchorionic hemmorage, not another MC. Scary times!
We've just had our 3rd ultrasound (already! At 9 weeks!) And this baby looks very healthy. 2.44 cm, heart rate 176. Baby is nicknamed tough guy
Married: 10/10
EDD: 8/27/16 MMC 1/16
Rainbow Boy: 2/04/17
TTC: 4/18 BFP: 1/2/19
EDD: 9/6/19
I found out I was pregnant just a couple of weeks after my dad passed away so this is such a blessing for my family.
Praying for you all that we meet our healthy babies next year!!
I am currently 10w4d and due on February 19th!
My husband and I will be married 8 years this year. We were kind of in the talking about a third phase when he came home from deployment and then I ended up getting pregnant only a couple weeks later. So it was a surprise by how fast it happened especially since we considered waiting a couple of years even. But we are really excited for our newest addition to the family!
I hope this doesn't come out as a jumbled mess- this is my first time mobile bumping so I'm going to have to figure it out!
realized I hadn't properly introduced myself - I am 39, from Toronto, DH is 41, baby #1 EDD is 2/26!
TW: Had a traumatic MC about 5 years ago which spun me off my axis, took a while to recover mentally. Thrilled and terrified currently
we call the baby "taco" because I was convinced before the first US that nothing would be there! Solid HB of 163 at 8w so I did a dance at the clinic that day.
Happy to be here - love the twatwaffle Tuesdays!!!
I'm 29 from OKC, hubs is almost 30, and we have a 2 yr daughter that will be 3 just after this babe. EDD is 2/25.
i added my info the spreadsheet
Wanted to introduce myself! I am a first timer, and I am due February 28th!! I'm 31 and my husband is 33. We live in Los Angeles.
We are super excited but still a little shocked it happened on our second month of trying! It's a big mental adjustment!
@MrsP052909 we have the same due date! Welcome!
@mrsgabus
I am a little late to the game!! My name is Lauren, I recently had a MC this past February at about 9 weeks. I was waiting a bit before I introduced myself this time. We are over the moon still nervous, anxious and all those other feelings that come along with this special time! We are due February 5th. Looking forward to meeting and chatting with you all!
I'm 28 and so is DH, we are fur parents to two lovely doggies and are expecting our first baby 2/24. Got my BFP 4 days before missed period (second full cycle TTC), and turns out this baby is my birthday baby
excited to experience this very insane journey with everyone