Feeling done this morning. It's another day of being torn between wanting to cook these 2 as long as I can and wanting them out. I'm just in so much pain. It took everything I had yesterday to help the kids clean up their bedroom. And by help, I mean watch them and tell them what to do so they would actually do it. Well, and I vacuumed. Sorry, just throwing myself a pity party over here.
Anxiety - I have to say I love that you ladies are so open about discussing it. So many times its looked at as shameful and it's really not something to feel that way about! I won't be cutting back on my anxiety medication but it's because I honestly feel that it's better for me to maintain my dosage and feel good rather than succumb to the anxiety. That's just me but I have so much respect for whatever choice you other ladies are making. It's a personal one, that's for sure!
@UnwritteN12 - Props to you for still being up and active while you can. I told my husband yesterday, that at 34 weeks I officially have to start slowing down and taking it a bit easier. Camping was great but my entire pelvis ached all day yesterday - although we still went to the playground and the ocean and played outside in the splash pool and took the toddler/dog for a 1 mile walk in the evening. My husband and I did both doze off for a bit during Emmett's afternoon nap, something I don't think I've ever done.. so that was a start at slowing down.
Lots of love to the ladies dealing with anxiety. It's not something that I've had to deal with prepregnancy but has been a pretty major symptom (for me at least) during this pregnancy and just in my short exposure to it is really unsettling. I can't imagine having to deal with it on a regular basis. You ladies are awesome for advocating for yourselves, taking care of yourselves, and being so open about it!
@AnnaS930 the "How I met your father/mother" is really adorable if you're bored. I have yet to participate. Not sure I have the energy to type more than a paragraph after a night of pregsomnia.
Random: We start baby classes tonight and although I have no idea what to expect going into it (ie the instructor, other classmates, schedule/topics, etc) I'm so looking forward to it!
@LakeR2014 - Ours ends next week and I have to say it's been incredibly informative! I already knew a lot of what was said, but it was all brand new info for DH and I think having the class helped us get on the same page for what we want. He was super insistent that I get an epidural as soon as I walk in the door, but now that we've had the class and he's learned about the pros and cons of an epidural, he's been more receptive and open to a non-medicated labor. Mine was also through the hospital, which I liked, because we were able to get an idea of how they do things, what resources (acupuncture, tubs to labor in, balance balls, etc) they have on site, and when they might suggest interventions and what our options would be if we did need an intervention. The whole class made me feel much more relaxed and prepapred about giving birth in general and in my hospital of choice.
My random: I dreamt there was a friendly neighborhood black jaguar roaming in a our backyard and he was just such good buddies with my dog Fred so he often slept and ate in our house like it was NBD. We also had three very different washer and dryer combos in the house, and yet DH and I always used the jankiest one, and I was so mad at DH for keeping these amazing washer and dryers hidden from me while I was using the junky one.
Also, when DH kissed me goodbye this morning, I was still half asleep and screamed EWWWW out loud because I thought it was his feet and not his face. He was really taken aback!!! Ew? What's Ew about my kiss?! Oops.
I drive by our local high school on my daily commute. The last couple days I noticed a very large sign promoting a mattress fundraiser for the band. What the hell is a mattress fundraiser? Well I googled is and they are actually selling mattresses for your bed a a fundraiser. Seems incredibly weird to me. Since when is this a thing?
I just found out why exactly I might be a little extra annoyed, crabby, stabby - however you want to say it - lately. I've got one kid measuring about 8 lbs and one measuring about 7.5 pounds growing inside me. So that's between 13.5 & 17.5 pounds of just baby (including the +/- one pound for each kid).
Apparently this increases the risk of uterine rupture prior to giving birth and uterine hemorrhage after the fact. And that is even more-so increased for me since I already have an extra incision on my uterus. Honestly, Monday can't come soon enough. I have an appointment with my regular OB (the one who will be delivering me as my MFM doesn't do deliveries) and I'm going to see where this leaves me. Today the MFM suggested that I deliver at 36 weeks vs. 37 so we'll see.
@marajay6 The football team at the school I work at does this. Technically, they are getting a portion of the money from a mattress company who sells it to you (no sketchy mattresses from teens - although, I'm sure you probably already knew that ), but I found it so weird, because they do it every year...and they want each player to get, like, 15 people to buy mattresses. It's not exactly a product with high turnover, so I don't see how it's sustainable.
@LakeR2014 Have fun in your birthing classes! I was so glad we did them with DD - I learned a little but, most of all, just felt so much more at ease with everything afterwards, which was invaluable!
We actually just had our refresher birth class last night. It was just one night so we went through everything really quickly but it was perfect. A quick crash-course refresher and a tour of labor and delivery as well as the mother/baby rooms. I was able to ask questions about hospital policies (to see what has changed in the last three years) and about med-free birth. After last night, I am even more inclined to give it a try! And I'm starting to get excited, finally! We'll all be meeting our babies so soon...a thought that should be simultaneously exciting and terrifying but I'm one of the weird ones that is just excited. If it happens anything like last time, the terror won't set in until about 7cm, haha. (But this time, my goal is to stay relaxed and power through it instead of caving for the epidural...if it happens, it happens but I want to at least give it a fair shot without!)
We also have mattress fundraisers in our town.. can't remember if it's the senior year every year or a certain club/town. I had never heard of it and just can't imagine. I used to hate trying to sell magazine subscriptions because people acted like it was such a commitment.. but a MATTRESS?! No way. I'm all about selling candy bars, those are easy.
@UnwritteN12 that's a whole lot of baby! You really are amazing. I'm only carrying one and feeling crabby, tired and sore all the time and I have no kids running around. Are you feeling okay mentally with 36 weeks? Personally, I think I'd be okay with it, especially for twins, but I'm not in your shoes!
I officially only fit into 3 shirts. They are all the same shirt just different colors. I realllly don't want to buy new shirts with just over one month left to go. Maybe my co-workers won't notice if I switch it up with different necklaces? Haha yeah right.
@UnwritteN12, holy balls! I can't believe the babies are so big! I was whining to my MFM doctor today about how much pain I'm in and he absolutely credited it to having 11 pounds of babies, plus fluid and placentas. I cannot imagine if the babies weighed over 15 pounds. You are amazing! Hang tough, girlie!
I officially only fit into 3 shirts. They are all the same shirt just different colors. I realllly don't want to buy new shirts with just over one month left to go. Maybe my co-workers won't notice if I switch it up with different necklaces? Haha yeah right.
I've been wearing the same four dresses again and again and my co-workers are nice enough to act like they don't notice. Only dresses for me for the next 1.5 months so they're going to see them a lot.
@Sbrown721 - I'm still rotating through a handful of shirts, but my shorts situation is bad. I have 3 pairs of khaki material shorts (different colors) that work great for being in the A/C of work.. but being outside on my days off, I need comfy sports shorts. I have 1 pair with a full panel that are good, but that panel is HOT. I have 2 pairs of non-maternity shorts I can still wear under the bump, but one of the waists is super uncomfortable at this point. WAH! I need to go buy some larger sized non-maternity shorts, but don't want to spend a ton because I'm hopeful that I'll get back into my normal ones next summer... ugh.
I just got done with my appointment and baby has flipped to breech. I know there's time for her to flip again (I'm 34 weeks) but I can't help but to stress a little. Just last week I had an ultrasound and she was head down.
I finished Stranger Things. husband loved it, but tbh it's not really my genre. Good for what it is. Wynona Rider is an ageless unicorn. The child actors were fantastic.
@KimmySchmidt - we recently got into Bloodline.. I love it! Just wrapping up the first season and going to watch the second season ... then onto Stranger Things!
Most Netflix Original series start off great but eventually turn to crap. I like Kimmy Schmidt, but I still haven't seen all of the last season, and I'm not so overly interested in it that I'll make an effort to make it happen. House of Cards was so good, but then it got too complicated in season three and I lost interest in keeping up. Orange is the New Black started off a winner, but 3 episodes into the latest season and I'm so over it. Everyone keeps saying it gets better, but my goodness, at what cost?
DH and I have been having lots of conversations lately about how to set good expectations for our kids as they grow up. Even though LO#1 isn't even here yet, we both have slacker/underachiever youngest siblings who are in the growing pains stage of becoming actual adults right now. We both acknowledge that a lot of this is personality, but there is definitely an influence from the parents. Anyway, I was browsing ScaryMommy today and found a funny article about giving pre-teens/teens exactly what they want when they're being difficult. Made me chuckle, so I thought I'd share here, too. https://www.scarymommy.com/jen-hatmaker-treating-kids-like-adults/
@UnwritteN12 you're amazing mama! It's crazy to think our babies are getting so big!
Anxiety mamas: I think it's fantastic that you are all so open and willing to share your experiences to help others. We need to lose the idea that it's something to be ashamed of, and you are all just incredible!
@AnnaS930 I don't understand when you say that your H and you dozed during E's nap and you hadn't done that before...are you saying you've never napped while he did?!
I just got done with my appointment and baby has flipped to breech. I know there's time for her to flip again (I'm 34 weeks) but I can't help but to stress a little. Just last week I had an ultrasound and she was head down.
I know the stress and you're right that there is definitely time. Check out spinning babies, if you haven't yet. Definitely made me feel better, like I had some control over getting baby to flip.
We loved stranger things! Loved how it seemed to borrow different elements of classic horror movies to create a new idea. Very cool show. Next thing I can't wait for is the Gilmore girls specials on November 25th. My mom and I already made binge watch plans in lieu of Black Friday shopping that I won't be up for this year
@drmh22 - That's what I'm saying! I've probably let my eyes close a few times while he's napped over the past 19 months, but not for more than a few seconds. I'm really not a napper, even running on low amounts of sleep. A short nap doesn't seem to recharge me, but getting up and getting dishes done, vacumming, etc is good for me. I'm just not a "nap when baby naps" person.. and I laugh that that advice comes up daily. Those who say "the dishes can wait" don't understand how my brain/personality work. They can not wait for me.
@mom2doodle - I think the general agreement was if you want a labor buddy feel free to reach out and get one, but if you don't, don't feel bad about it or bother.
I don't think I'll be updating anyone here throughout my labor, so I'm not interested in a labor buddy at all, and just plan to share my birth story once LO is here!
I don't think I'll be updating anyone here throughout my labor, so I'm not interested in a labor buddy at all, and just plan to share my birth story once LO is here!
Same here - I might let you guys knows if I've been admitted and know it's go-time (and need to stalk the bump for some distraction during earlier labor) but otherwise you'll hear from me sometime (hopefully not too long) after the big arrival!
Speaking of labor, anyone else wondering about that twin mom that posted about being in labor? No update since her original post.
Constantly. A part of me is selfish and wants her to come back and update.. also a little scared that she hasn't said anything. I was a creep and clicked on her name this morning to see if maybe she was posting on another board, but nothing..
Thanks for the support ladies. I truly do appreciate it. I'm just having a hard time with wondering how their blood sugars are going to be once they're born, if they're going to have to be in the NICU and how developed their lungs will actually be if I deliver before my planned c-section.
@AlwaysAuntNeverMom - At this point I think I really need to be ok with delivering at 36 weeks. I'm going to see what the OB says on Monday. For twins, 36 weeks is great. I just always worry. We had such great luck with Robert and Elleanore. They were 6 lbs 4 oz and 6 lbs 12 oz, so not tiny but not big, and neither needed NICU time. I worry with these two.
@PSUBecky23 - Yes! I've been checking back in the evenings more often to see if she's updated either thread. I hope they're all doing alright!
Re: July Randoms Thread
Anxiety - I have to say I love that you ladies are so open about discussing it. So many times its looked at as shameful and it's really not something to feel that way about! I won't be cutting back on my anxiety medication but it's because I honestly feel that it's better for me to maintain my dosage and feel good rather than succumb to the anxiety. That's just me but I have so much respect for whatever choice you other ladies are making. It's a personal one, that's for sure!
I can't imagine trying to cope with that plus normal pregnancy aches and pains. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
@LakeR2014 we start ours on Monday and I can't wait!!
Today is our four year wedding anniversary and we are planning on doing exactly nothing!!!
DS1 -- 9/30/2016
I found that I pretty much knew all the information but it just lessened my anxiety about the whole thing.
I did learn to swaddle!
My random: I dreamt there was a friendly neighborhood black jaguar roaming in a our backyard and he was just such good buddies with my dog Fred so he often slept and ate in our house like it was NBD. We also had three very different washer and dryer combos in the house, and yet DH and I always used the jankiest one, and I was so mad at DH for keeping these amazing washer and dryers hidden from me while I was using the junky one.
Also, when DH kissed me goodbye this morning, I was still half asleep and screamed EWWWW out loud because I thought it was his feet and not his face. He was really taken aback!!! Ew? What's Ew about my kiss?! Oops.
Apparently this increases the risk of uterine rupture prior to giving birth and uterine hemorrhage after the fact. And that is even more-so increased for me since I already have an extra incision on my uterus. Honestly, Monday can't come soon enough. I have an appointment with my regular OB (the one who will be delivering me as my MFM doesn't do deliveries) and I'm going to see where this leaves me. Today the MFM suggested that I deliver at 36 weeks vs. 37 so we'll see.
I need a nap now.
@LakeR2014 Have fun in your birthing classes! I was so glad we did them with DD - I learned a little but, most of all, just felt so much more at ease with everything afterwards, which was invaluable!
We actually just had our refresher birth class last night. It was just one night so we went through everything really quickly but it was perfect. A quick crash-course refresher and a tour of labor and delivery as well as the mother/baby rooms. I was able to ask questions about hospital policies (to see what has changed in the last three years) and about med-free birth. After last night, I am even more inclined to give it a try! And I'm starting to get excited, finally! We'll all be meeting our babies so soon...a thought that should be simultaneously exciting and terrifying but I'm one of the weird ones that is just excited. If it happens anything like last time, the terror won't set in until about 7cm, haha. (But this time, my goal is to stay relaxed and power through it instead of caving for the epidural...if it happens, it happens but I want to at least give it a fair shot without!)
Edit TB ate my post
I've been wearing the same four dresses again and again and my co-workers are nice enough to act like they don't notice. Only dresses for me for the next 1.5 months so they're going to see them a lot.
@UnwritteN12 you are a freaking rockstar!
Where do I pick up my trophy?
ETA: This was supposed to be a UO.
https://www.scarymommy.com/jen-hatmaker-treating-kids-like-adults/
Anxiety mamas: I think it's fantastic that you are all so open and willing to share your experiences to help others. We need to lose the idea that it's something to be ashamed of, and you are all just incredible!
@AnnaS930 I don't understand when you say that your H and you dozed during E's nap and you hadn't done that before...are you saying you've never napped while he did?!
I know the stress and you're right that there is definitely time. Check out spinning babies, if you haven't yet. Definitely made me feel better, like I had some control over getting baby to flip.
So did we ever decide if we were going to do Labor Buddies or not?
I don't think I'll be updating anyone here throughout my labor, so I'm not interested in a labor buddy at all, and just plan to share my birth story once LO is here!
@AlwaysAuntNeverMom - At this point I think I really need to be ok with delivering at 36 weeks. I'm going to see what the OB says on Monday. For twins, 36 weeks is great. I just always worry. We had such great luck with Robert and Elleanore. They were 6 lbs 4 oz and 6 lbs 12 oz, so not tiny but not big, and neither needed NICU time. I worry with these two.
@PSUBecky23 - Yes! I've been checking back in the evenings more often to see if she's updated either thread. I hope they're all doing alright!