October 2016 Moms

Baby Showers!

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  • mizzkbrat said:
    Ugh. So we went to a viewing last night and it was for FI's side of the family. They ALL told me that none of them would make it because my FI's cousin is having her bridal shower that day. That is like 20 people off my guest list. I'm trying not to be a selfish brat about it, but I cried on the way home last night. 
    I would feel the same way. I have a fear that nobody is coming to my shower Saturday. It's all DH's family plus my mom. I'm sure your shower will still be wonderful! 
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  • @mizzkbrat Ugh, I'm sorry his family is bailing on you. I can commiserate; my dad has this little camper at a local marina, and any time there is an event at the marina, it trumps anything I might be trying to do as a family. He missed DD's birthday party this year and is probably going to miss my co-ed shower, all because of "previous commitments" at the marina. It sucks when family does that.
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  • @mizzkbrat Ugh, I'm sorry his family is bailing on you. I can commiserate; my dad has this little camper at a local marina, and any time there is an event at the marina, it trumps anything I might be trying to do as a family. He missed DD's birthday party this year and is probably going to miss my co-ed shower, all because of "previous commitments" at the marina. It sucks when family does that.
    My brother and his wife are like this. They have a beach house that they go to every Thursday-Sunday year round no matter if there is a family event or not. There's not even anything happening at the beach, they just go every weekend no matter what. My SIL was one of my bridesmaids and missed my bridal shower because they couldn't possibly skip a beach weekend or even come back early. It's so annoying. 

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  • mizzkbrat said:
    Ugh. So we went to a viewing last night and it was for FI's side of the family. They ALL told me that none of them would make it because my FI's cousin is having her bridal shower that day. That is like 20 people off my guest list. I'm trying not to be a selfish brat about it, but I cried on the way home last night. 

    This is so shitty of them. They should coordinate and split up between the two showers. Could your FI say something to one of his family members about it? 
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  • MRSCORKER said:
    @mizzkbrat Ugh, I'm sorry his family is bailing on you. I can commiserate; my dad has this little camper at a local marina, and any time there is an event at the marina, it trumps anything I might be trying to do as a family. He missed DD's birthday party this year and is probably going to miss my co-ed shower, all because of "previous commitments" at the marina. It sucks when family does that.
    My brother and his wife are like this. They have a beach house that they go to every Thursday-Sunday year round no matter if there is a family event or not. There's not even anything happening at the beach, they just go every weekend no matter what. My SIL was one of my bridesmaids and missed my bridal shower because they couldn't possibly skip a beach weekend or even come back early. It's so annoying. 
    OMG! What if it had been your wedding? Would they have skipped that, too?! And missed his granddaughter's birthday?? It's not like the beach or the marina won't be there the following weekend.  I just can't believe people sometimes...where are their priorities??
  • LMNOBaby said:
    MRSCORKER said:
    @mizzkbrat Ugh, I'm sorry his family is bailing on you. I can commiserate; my dad has this little camper at a local marina, and any time there is an event at the marina, it trumps anything I might be trying to do as a family. He missed DD's birthday party this year and is probably going to miss my co-ed shower, all because of "previous commitments" at the marina. It sucks when family does that.
    My brother and his wife are like this. They have a beach house that they go to every Thursday-Sunday year round no matter if there is a family event or not. There's not even anything happening at the beach, they just go every weekend no matter what. My SIL was one of my bridesmaids and missed my bridal shower because they couldn't possibly skip a beach weekend or even come back early. It's so annoying. 
    OMG! What if it had been your wedding? Would they have skipped that, too?! And missed his granddaughter's birthday?? It's not like the beach or the marina won't be there the following weekend.  I just can't believe people sometimes...where are their priorities??
    They did actually skip the beach for the wedding. Apparently that is important enough but the bridal shower was not. Even though they were both in the bridal party. We'll see if SIL shows up to the shower. I'm betting she won't. 

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  • I wish there was a "Don't Love It" button @MRSCORKER - cuz that's just crappy.  :( I'm all for a weekend at the beach, but family should always trump some beach chilling time... I hope she comes!!
  • MRSCORKER said:
    My brother and his wife are like this. They have a beach house that they go to every Thursday-Sunday year round no matter if there is a family event or not. There's not even anything happening at the beach, they just go every weekend no matter what. My SIL was one of my bridesmaids and missed my bridal shower because they couldn't possibly skip a beach weekend or even come back early. It's so annoying. 
    I HATE people like this. We have some friends who have designated date and family nights and won't cancel them for anything. I realize making time for both of those things is very important, but they take it way too far. Tuesday night is their family night, so they both turn off all electronic devices so they can give full attention to their two young daughters. Sounds sweet... until someone DIES on a random Tuesday and they're completely oblivious for hours. And Friday night is their date night. Need them to come to a wedding rehearsal because they're IN the wedding? Forget it. They ain't coming! DH and I learned that the hard way.
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  • omg @CopperBoom86, that is so ridiculous. The worst part about Bro and SIL is that they own the damn house, they can literally go whenever they want. It's not like they're missing something there if they skip. They ARE missing things here at home though and they just don't get that. It's every birthday, fathers/mothers day, showers, baptisms, you name it. 

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  • I had a friend ask when my shower for this babe is. I'm not opposed to having a shower/sprinkle but nobody has offered so I've never brought it up. Is there a way to say as much without sounding like I'm fishing for someone to do it?

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  • @MRSCORKER - People like that need to realize they're shooting themselves in the foot. One day, they're going to need somebody... and no one will be there. 
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  • mizzkbrat said:
    Ugh. So we went to a viewing last night and it was for FI's side of the family. They ALL told me that none of them would make it because my FI's cousin is having her bridal shower that day. That is like 20 people off my guest list. I'm trying not to be a selfish brat about it, but I cried on the way home last night. 

    This is so shitty of them. They should coordinate and split up between the two showers. Could your FI say something to one of his family members about it? 
    We are waiting until after the funeral to tell his mom about it. She is completely oblivious but the firecracker of the family so will definitely say something. 
  • Kaytee1087Kaytee1087 member
    edited July 2016
    My shower is August 13 and my mom said to me today, "Oh and you have to have copies of the ultrasound photos! People just love that." Is that a thing? I don't remember showing off any ultrasound photos at my shower for DD. I feel like those are mine and I'll show them to people who I really want to see them, and that'll be that. 

    (Edited for clarity)
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  • I can't believe I have to wait another 4 weeks for my shower.... not because I'm anxious for it to happen already.... but because I don't know how much more uncomfortable I'll get being so big! :(:(  I should have planned for it to happen LAST month when I was at 24- 26 weeks pregnant and still able to walk normal and breathe normal.  
  • My shower is August 13 and my mom said to me today, "Oh and you have to have copies of the ultrasound photos! People just love that." Is that a thing? I don't remember showing off any ultrasound photos at my shower for DD. I feel like those are mine and I'll show them to people who I really want to see them, and that'll be that. 

    (Edited for clarity)
    I was actually thinking of putting my latest US picture in a frame and on the gift table.  I'm planning on putting the pictures up as decoration in my nursery so it's like a pitstop before being put up.  I might put my first and recent - not sure yet :smile:
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  • @mizzkbrat - I'd be upset about it too. I'm sorry they're bailing on you :(

    @MRSCORKER - I tried on one of pink blush dresses I told you about the other day and they're fitting much better now that I have a bump! Hope that helps :)
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  • I can't believe I have to wait another 4 weeks for my shower.... not because I'm anxious for it to happen already.... but because I don't know how much more uncomfortable I'll get being so big! :(:(  I should have planned for it to happen LAST month when I was at 24- 26 weeks pregnant and still able to walk normal and breathe normal.  
    I was just thinking the same today @annabenanna . My feet and ankles are SO swollen. I can only imagine how bad they'll be 3.5 weeks from now!
  • I just found out today that my MIL won't be coming to the shower. We ran the dates by her first, but apparently money is tight (they recently moved and retired to another state) and she can't afford the airfare. We offered to pay her way, even though money is tight for us, too, but she refused. On top of that, she also won't be coming after the baby is born like we thought. They are expecting us to travel to them in January instead. This is their first grandchild!! I'm extremely hurt and so disappointed. 

                                                                                                           
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  • @annabenanna I'm right there with you. Mine is Aug 21st and I'm so worried about whether or not I'll even be up for it.

    Long story: My coworker's were originally going to throw me one and it would've been way earlier, probably let June, early July. But when they heard my family was planning one, they axed it. (Which I was ok since I'm not super close with them anyway. They were only doing it because they were horrified I might not have one.)

    So then we were planning it for Aug 7th. But out of the blue my dad books tickets to CA for the 6th and he'll be gone for two whole weeks. So I voiced my concerns to my mom and she decided she'd pull it together for the 31st of July. Well when my husband heard this, he went off on me, saying I can't ask mom to put it together in 3 weeks just because I didn't want to do it mid-August.

    So now it's going to be 21st. And while I'm super grateful for everything that everyone is doing, I'm worried that the heat, my back ache, my exhaustion, and the fact that I'll be 33 weeks will make me a horrible guest-of-honor.  :s

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  • @sportiegrl1213 and I have the same dress... I love how it fits! 
    I found out today my sister just started planning my shower and I'm more than likely getting induced in 7 weeks. All I know about my shower from what my Mom said is invited went out this week and it's definitely going to cut it close. She wants to do the shower alone so my Mom and twin sister started getting on her case and now they are involved. They know what I would like because she didn't want to do anything I said I liked so I'm glad they are involved now.
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  • @krzyriver I feel the same way! I'm more than likely getting induced at 38 weeks and the invites just went out this week. I'm feeling like the baby will be here before the shower at this point! I'm so greatful for one but now it's stressing me out because it's so late!
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  • @bnsmith85 @krzyriver @mrsb627, I guess at least we've got each other to commiserate with. Omg, I would not want any pics of me at that point taken/posted on social media. Ugh. 

    @von1976, I'd be very hurt too. I'm so sorry. :(

    @mizzkbrat, I'm sorry about your family. It's so hard with family, because usually they are the ones who end up disappointing us the most. :(
  • @MrsB627 I hear ya! I'm high risk for preterm labor, so it makes me more than a little nervous that things might not be ready in time. I'm a planner, I need things ready NOW. Lol

    @annabenanna Oh man, definitely not! Can I ban cameras from my shower??? Lol

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  • I'm so sorry, I would be very hurt. @von1976

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  • Awwww @von1976 I'm so sorry about your MIL. I would be hurt too. My Dad isn't coming up from FL till Thanksgiving. I was a little hurt when I heard that, but I get it, since my Mom will be here in Oct and not leaving to the week of Christmas. They have a dog, that doesn't get along with our dog, so this is the issue. 

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  • @annabenanna my shower isn't until Aug 28. My Mom and MIL were worried about doing it sooner, it being summer, and everyone on vacations. They wanted to make sure people could make it. I really hope I'm not too uncomfy by then. 
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  • @krzyriver My shower is also on the 21st! I'm definitely going to be huge lol, but I think this month is going to fly by and it'll be here before I know it.  I also made sure I have a hair appointment that week so if I feel like a whale, at least I'll have nice hair lol.
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  • @annabenanna @krzyriver You guys do you, but I regret not having more pictures of myself during my pregnancies. I had similar feelings as you guys at the time about it, but looking back, it was absolutely silly to be insecure about my appearance, and if I could go back in time I'd pose for the camera any chance I got! I feel like I wasted my chances for precious memories because 'I felt gross' or 'my face was too fat'. 
  • @annabenanna @krzyriver You guys do you, but I regret not having more pictures of myself during my pregnancies. I had similar feelings as you guys at the time about it, but looking back, it was absolutely silly to be insecure about my appearance, and if I could go back in time I'd pose for the camera any chance I got! I feel like I wasted my chances for precious memories because 'I felt gross' or 'my face was too fat'. 
    This is exactly why I did maternity pictures. I love having pictures of everything and didn't feel like I was taking as many with myself in them while pregnant, so this way I'll have some good ones and the photographer knew how to make me look the best! I can't wait to see them. I probably won't display them much, but at least I'll have them to look back on. 
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  • @annabenanna @krzyriver You guys do you, but I regret not having more pictures of myself during my pregnancies. I had similar feelings as you guys at the time about it, but looking back, it was absolutely silly to be insecure about my appearance, and if I could go back in time I'd pose for the camera any chance I got! I feel like I wasted my chances for precious memories because 'I felt gross' or 'my face was too fat'. 
    This is exactly why I did maternity pictures. I love having pictures of everything and didn't feel like I was taking as many with myself in them while pregnant, so this way I'll have some good ones and the photographer knew how to make me look the best! I can't wait to see them. I probably won't display them much, but at least I'll have them to look back on. 
    I will be having my maternity pictures done on Tuesday, not that I feel so great about myself right now, but this is a once in life time experience (only having one baby) and I wanted to have this memory captured. I would regret it if I didn't. Even after seeing the horrible pics of me at my surprise shower the other day. LOL 
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  • @MRSCORKER I am having THE HARDEST TIME not buying anything, so I still am lol. I'm just keeping the tags on it all in case we get duplicates or if I need to take any of it back. Mine's on the 13th, so only 2 weeks now, thank goodness!
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  • MRSCORKER said:
    @krzyriver My shower is also on the 21st! I'm definitely going to be huge lol, but I think this month is going to fly by and it'll be here before I know it.  I also made sure I have a hair appointment that week so if I feel like a whale, at least I'll have nice hair lol.
    Another for the 21st! They wanted to do it in September and I vetoed that real quick. I'm going to be HUGE and I don't want to wait that long to nest. Everyone keeps telling me not to buy anything until after the shower, it's killing me. 
    One of my friends made me feel like my shower is way too early for my due date (10/16 and the shower is 8/6). It was partially because of scheduling issues with my mom but also because I go back to teaching the end of August, and the beginning of the year is so hectic that I don't want to try and squeeze all the nesting into a few weekends. But I also thought I'd be bigger by now, so now I am having second thoughts, but what can I do about it at this point?

    As for purchases...I've made some. Actually, we bought all the nursery furniture back in June (all in one Ikea trip). I figured there were other big items I'd rather put on a registry and I'm okay with $90 crib in lieu of a $500 crib. I have picked up some clothing and receiving blankets when I see a really good deal, but otherwise, I have to sit on my hands. The struggle has been real. 
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  • My mom is doing my family/friends coed shower on the 13, but my friend at work is hosting a work one on Sept 17.  People are guessing I'm going into labour as early as Sept 20 (due 10/10).  I was hoping she was going to do it in June, but she felt that was too early and since we work at a school she didn't think she could rally everyone over the summer, so September it is.  At least it's at her house so I can just sit :)
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  • @missteacherlady16 We've basically got out nursery put together with the exception of the glider. It's the most expensive piece so I put it on the registry so I can use completion coupons to buy it! I've also gotten a few items of clothing but not much. Every shower I've ever been to (with the exception of one) has been about 2 months before the due date. The one exception, they planned it for the month before she was due and she went into labor early and it had to be rescheduled so the baby was at the shower. I don't know why people think 2 months prior is too early, that's crazy. 

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  • @missteacherlady16 we got all of our nursery furniture from Ikea for our first so that's what we'll be using again. I love it. I just am not one to spend a lot of money on some things (wedding dress was same way- $200 as opposed to the thousands a few friends of mine spent). And not that you were complaining at all about it, but it's one of the top 5 cribs on consumer reports. The only reason it isn't considered a 'best buy' on there is because they make you buy their mattress because that's the only mattress that fits properly. 
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