@blush64 and @FishyMom we are all so close!!! I stopped getting migraines when I weaned my suppositories and I'm like a new woman. My butt is a bruised and bloody mess though. They did not hurt this much to begin with. My last shot is number 128
MIL VENT AHEAD: My MIL is driving me bananas about a family vacation next April. The grandparents 50th is then and her first suggestion was a party followed by a family cruise. Before we announced I told her I do NOT want to cruise (I have a few random anxieties and cruises are one of them) and actually, this is something I've told her several times before. Then I added that DH doesn't get a ton of PTO. Okay, so now that we announced she texted me yesterday saying "since babies can't cruise until 6 months and the baby will be at most around 10 weeks, we were thinking of going to Mexico or Hawaii instead for a long family vacation." Blink. Blink. You think I want to take a NEWBORN to MEXICO around spring break or on SEVERAL FLIGHTS to Hawaii? And again, with the PTO. DH just switched jobs (good pay, bad benefits, good experience). And I am just so irritated. First of all, she works at a restaurant and her DH is unemployed. She says they are going to pay for it for everyone as a gift to the grandparents (2 grandparents, 4 children+spouses, 9 grandchildren, at least 4 SOs, and 4 great-grandchildren) it is just unrealistic and will probably fall on the grandparents to take the financial burden as so many of her schemes do.
And as I was sitting here thinking about it- she must have looked up the cruise regs and did the math for baby's approximate age after I had already given her a firm no. WTF.
DD1- Aug11 Angel Baby- June13, said goodbye Oct12 DD2- Aug13 DD3- due Feb17
@kswiger06 Obviously, it's not my marriage so what I say doesn't bear any weight but how can you mom even stand to be in a relationship like that? It would be exhausting to second-guess every move my husband made and to constantly follow him around. That's just not healthy.
@peachesnbean That is super annoying but at the same time, kind of sweet that she's so invested in wanting the family to take a nice vacation together. I'd just have a polite conversation with her, again driving home the points that your H has very limited PTO and you aren't sure if taking a vacation will work for you guys at that time but not to hold up the plans for you guys.
@peachesnbean That would be a hard no for me too. Do people really expect you to drag a tiny baby all over creation? They can't push it a few months and/or choose something within a few hours drive?
That's tough @kswiger06, and sad that she feels like she needs to follow him around now. I couldn't do it. My exH cheated on me and there was just no way I could ever get past it!
@BumpasaurusRex - It *is* sweet in theory, but it hurts me to see the grandparents have to take the financial fall for these things. We did a big family vacation with the numbers above in a tourist town that was totally sponsored by the grandparents, including them giving us fun money everyday. She planned a birthday dinner for gpa at a country club and encouraged us to "get whatever-its grandpa's birthday!" ... turned out her planning his party is just getting everyone together in the same place as she passed the tab to him at the end of the night. I was mortified! That was just a 4 day trip in the mountains with 20+ people (she invited her new H's family along)! I am trying to see the positive, but I also don't like feeling like she is manipulating several people.
DD1- Aug11 Angel Baby- June13, said goodbye Oct12 DD2- Aug13 DD3- due Feb17
@peachesnbean That would be a hard no for me too. Do people really expect you to drag a tiny baby all over creation? They can't push it a few months and/or choose something within a few hours drive?
We talked yesterday and I suggested Florida, which is still quite a drive for us- but not Hawaii or Mexico. And she said that sounded do-able and I made the mistake of saying my bro lives down there, he could come by for dinner and meet my kids for the first time... so suddenly we're looking at Gulf Port? It's fine, it's a long way off, and I am not making any promises either way. We are more of a laid back camp and hike and beach read family, not so much the party at a resort kind, which is what everyone else in the family prefers.
DD1- Aug11 Angel Baby- June13, said goodbye Oct12 DD2- Aug13 DD3- due Feb17
@peachesnbean I think any vacation would be hard but it's defiantly possible. I hope you find a good compromise and DH won't have to use too much PTO.
We we plan on being team green. I got my way on the first one and he gets his way on this one. I'm excited and scared but I really want that moment when he tells me while I'm so exhausted. I can't wait! Eek!!
I went shopping today and got bagels because they are my life saver as of recent. As I was putting my other groceries away, my cat was chewing into the bag and gnawing on the bagels!!!! Rage filled my entire body!! I was luckily able to save most of them but what the heck, cat?
@gingersnap thinking of you, girlfriend! I will be anxiously awaiting an update.
@peachesnbean I get the side of this that's sweet, too, but mostly I get the side of it that's annoying. I'm going through a similar issue with my sister and it's like uhhhh I'm not trying to make long-distance travel plans when I don't even know what my kid is going to be like at 3 months old.
@jab3 my husband and I are opposites, too. I'm very outgoing and social and aggressive, and he's extremely laid-back and a little bit reserved. It's something I really treasure about our relationship - like you said, we balance each other. We work really hard at cultivating the things we have in common, and that helps us to stay connected. And we're good at giving each other space to do the things that we don't have in common - like sometimes I'll go out to happy hour with girlfriends (obviously, less so lately) and he'll play his stupid video game. Then when we do get to spend time together, it's more fun because we've both had time to do our own things. I think @kswiger06 is right - you have to work toward balance and compromise, but it's totally worth it.
I brought my older kids to the wading pool at one of our local parks. They are really a little big for it, the 7 year olds at least, but they are having fun. There are so many babies and toddlers here and I am totally eying this girl next to me with the sweetest little baby nursing. Hopefully I don't look like a creeper, it is just hitting me that next year I could be back with a little one of my own. We have been doing this since my olders were toddlers. . . How crazy it is going to be to start over again?!?
Married - 7/29/06 Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09 Mia - 6/16/11 Surprise! due 2/23/17
@BumpasaurusRex I completely agree! I've tried talking to my mom about how unhealthy their relationship is now. Of course since they are my parents I'm glad they are "working" on it, but I would love to see it move in a healthier direction. Honestly my parents though not really my business to share with other people, make a good example for why it's worth making compromises and keeping your spouse or significant other a priority. It's sad but I learned a lot from watching their downward spiral.
@Starfish113 I told my husband I'd give up after 4 phones... lol I wouldn't be able to do it either. I think if it's not going to be able to be fully repaired it's best for everyone to move on. Sorry you were cheated on.
Re: Weekly Randoms (7/18)
My MIL is driving me bananas about a family vacation next April. The grandparents 50th is then and her first suggestion was a party followed by a family cruise. Before we announced I told her I do NOT want to cruise (I have a few random anxieties and cruises are one of them) and actually, this is something I've told her several times before. Then I added that DH doesn't get a ton of PTO. Okay, so now that we announced she texted me yesterday saying "since babies can't cruise until 6 months and the baby will be at most around 10 weeks, we were thinking of going to Mexico or Hawaii instead for a long family vacation." Blink. Blink. You think I want to take a NEWBORN to MEXICO around spring break or on SEVERAL FLIGHTS to Hawaii? And again, with the PTO. DH just switched jobs (good pay, bad benefits, good experience). And I am just so irritated. First of all, she works at a restaurant and her DH is unemployed. She says they are going to pay for it for everyone as a gift to the grandparents (2 grandparents, 4 children+spouses, 9 grandchildren, at least 4 SOs, and 4 great-grandchildren) it is just unrealistic and will probably fall on the grandparents to take the financial burden as so many of her schemes do.
And as I was sitting here thinking about it- she must have looked up the cruise regs and did the math for baby's approximate age after I had already given her a firm no. WTF.
@peachesnbean That is super annoying but at the same time, kind of sweet that she's so invested in wanting the family to take a nice vacation together. I'd just have a polite conversation with her, again driving home the points that your H has very limited PTO and you aren't sure if taking a vacation will work for you guys at that time but not to hold up the plans for you guys.
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17
I'm trembling and hardly slept.
ET 9/10 - transferred 1 perfect 5AA blast
7dp5dt BFP ~~ Beta on 9/19 - 77.4 Beta #2 on 9/21 - 357
Low heartbeat on 10/7 86, lower heartbeat on 10/11 76, no heartbeat 10/14/13. D&C 10/15/13
Tests revealed MTHFR c677t mutation, put on Folgard.
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FET #1 1/6/14 - 4BB blast - BFN
We we plan on being team green. I got my way on the first one and he gets his way on this one. I'm excited and scared but I really want that moment when he tells me while I'm so exhausted. I can't wait! Eek!!
ET 9/10 - transferred 1 perfect 5AA blast
7dp5dt BFP ~~ Beta on 9/19 - 77.4 Beta #2 on 9/21 - 357
Low heartbeat on 10/7 86, lower heartbeat on 10/11 76, no heartbeat 10/14/13. D&C 10/15/13
Tests revealed MTHFR c677t mutation, put on Folgard.
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FET #1 1/6/14 - 4BB blast - BFN
** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32
TTC Since 11/2015
#1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
ET 9/10 - transferred 1 perfect 5AA blast
7dp5dt BFP ~~ Beta on 9/19 - 77.4 Beta #2 on 9/21 - 357
Low heartbeat on 10/7 86, lower heartbeat on 10/11 76, no heartbeat 10/14/13. D&C 10/15/13
Tests revealed MTHFR c677t mutation, put on Folgard.
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FET #1 1/6/14 - 4BB blast - BFN
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17
I may or may not be stalking for an update!
ET 9/10 - transferred 1 perfect 5AA blast
7dp5dt BFP ~~ Beta on 9/19 - 77.4 Beta #2 on 9/21 - 357
Low heartbeat on 10/7 86, lower heartbeat on 10/11 76, no heartbeat 10/14/13. D&C 10/15/13
Tests revealed MTHFR c677t mutation, put on Folgard.
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FET #1 1/6/14 - 4BB blast - BFN
@peachesnbean I get the side of this that's sweet, too, but mostly I get the side of it that's annoying. I'm going through a similar issue with my sister and it's like uhhhh I'm not trying to make long-distance travel plans when I don't even know what my kid is going to be like at 3 months old.
@jab3 my husband and I are opposites, too. I'm very outgoing and social and aggressive, and he's extremely laid-back and a little bit reserved. It's something I really treasure about our relationship - like you said, we balance each other. We work really hard at cultivating the things we have in common, and that helps us to stay connected. And we're good at giving each other space to do the things that we don't have in common - like sometimes I'll go out to happy hour with girlfriends (obviously, less so lately) and he'll play his stupid video game. Then when we do get to spend time together, it's more fun because we've both had time to do our own things. I think @kswiger06 is right - you have to work toward balance and compromise, but it's totally worth it.
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Started TTC #1 November 2015
BFP 6/10/2016 - EDD 2/22/2017
First BFP: 12/16/13
EDD: 08/23/14
Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
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Started TTC #1 November 2015
BFP 6/10/2016 - EDD 2/22/2017
ET 9/10 - transferred 1 perfect 5AA blast
7dp5dt BFP ~~ Beta on 9/19 - 77.4 Beta #2 on 9/21 - 357
Low heartbeat on 10/7 86, lower heartbeat on 10/11 76, no heartbeat 10/14/13. D&C 10/15/13
Tests revealed MTHFR c677t mutation, put on Folgard.
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FET #1 1/6/14 - 4BB blast - BFN
Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09
Mia - 6/16/11
Surprise! due 2/23/17
ME: 25, DH: 27
TTC #1 since 09/2015
Miscarriage @ 10 wks 02/28/2016
BFP 05/28/2016!
Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09
Mia - 6/16/11
Surprise! due 2/23/17
ET 9/10 - transferred 1 perfect 5AA blast
7dp5dt BFP ~~ Beta on 9/19 - 77.4 Beta #2 on 9/21 - 357
Low heartbeat on 10/7 86, lower heartbeat on 10/11 76, no heartbeat 10/14/13. D&C 10/15/13
Tests revealed MTHFR c677t mutation, put on Folgard.
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FET #1 1/6/14 - 4BB blast - BFN
@Starfish113 I told my husband I'd give up after 4 phones... lol I wouldn't be able to do it either. I think if it's not going to be able to be fully repaired it's best for everyone to move on. Sorry you were cheated on.
@Partyof6? I found it fun to start over too. I loved getting back in to all of it.