Weekly Randoms (7/18)

fourPsinapod

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fourPsinapod

Yesterday, DD was a beast. Nothing we did with her made her happy. We went to the zoo. We went to D&B. We got ice cream. Nothing appeased her. I can't deal with another day like that. 

BumpasaurusRex

fourPsinapod said:

Yesterday, DD was a beast. Nothing we did with her made her happy. We went to the zoo. We went to D&B. We got ice cream. Nothing appeased her. I can't deal with another day like that. 

Ugh, those type of days are the worst.  DS was in a similar mood Saturday and bedtime couldn't come fast enough.

BumpasaurusRex

We had DS' 3rd birthday party yesterday at the zoo and it was a hit!  While the cost of having birthdays at outside vendors is always expensive, this year it was so worth the price.  All we had to do was show up with cupcakes and they took care of everything!

We don't plan on having actual parties every year, though, because expensive.

Gingersnap

We did big parties for 1 & 2. 
I think we will only do big parties for 5, 10, 13, 16, 18. If she isn't too cool for us then 

poofwok

The first and soon to be second party are done at our place and we're inviting family only. We use the backyard, do BBQ, water games and cupcakes. 

I think next year we will take DS somewhere for his party and invite friends from the daycare. I just seem to lack ideas on where to go and the prices always seem to be a little intimidating.... But I still wanna treat him to it!

Momma0528

I feel somewhat stuck having parties outside the home. My daughter's birthday is in November, and where we live it's too cold then for an outdoor party. Her bedroom is on the first floor. Even when we have playdates with 1 or 2 kids, her bedroom gets trashed. I'm a neat freak- the thought of 20 3 year olds (there are 15 in her preschool class and five in ballet) in her bedroom gives me hives! 

poofwok

@Momma0528, I know you mean well but I would never allow 15-20 kids in my house. Like not for any reason. That sounds like a nightmare!! 

I'll always tell DS to invite 6-8 of his closest friends. Don't think I could handle more than that.

Momma0528

@concreteangell neither would I! Ha! Hence the parties outside the home, always! 

BumpasaurusRex

concreteangell said:

@Momma0528, I know you mean well but I would never allow 15-20 kids in my house. Like not for any reason. That sounds like a nightmare!! 

I'll always tell DS to invite 6-8 of his closest friends. Don't think I could handle more than that.

I believe, at least in my area, that schools/daycares request that if you're going to invite any classmates, you must invite all of them.  Or if you choose not to invite all of them, invites cannot be brought to school, they must be mailed directly to the individual.

Momma0528

@BumpasaurusRex the preschools in our area have that same policy as well. 

bdesterhouse

 @fourPsinapod, I would have gone home and just called it a day. 

FishyMom

All I have is that I'm finally back at work today after the building being closed since the Dallas shootings. It was hard to drive over the spots where I know such brave men lost their lives.  It just feels wrong. 

On on the flip side I have so much work to do.

fourPsinapod

BumpasaurusRex said:

We had DS' 3rd birthday party yesterday at the zoo and it was a hit!  While the cost of having birthdays at outside vendors is always expensive, this year it was so worth the price.  All we had to do was show up with cupcakes and they took care of everything!

We don't plan on having actual parties every year, though, because expensive.

We are doing the same at a bounce house this year. It's expensive but they LITERALLY do everything! Food, cake, entertainment, set up and clean up, decorations, party favors, the works! And honestly, I probably spent the same just on food and decorations when I did it myself. I just want to enjoy the party this time. 

fourPsinapod

bdesterhouse said:

 @fourPsinapod, I would have gone home and just called it a day. 

I would have but we were already an hour away ugh.

PerraSucia

I'm trying to find a dentist for DS because i'm a terrible mother and haven't brought him in for a checkup ever. 

this is so hard.. they all have terrible reviews. 

bdesterhouse

fourPsinapod said:

bdesterhouse said:

 @fourPsinapod, I would have gone home and just called it a day. 

I would have but we were already an hour away ugh.

That's the worse. My patience lately is zilch - thankfully my dh is great about dealing with our sons mouthiness when I'm in my "not dealing with your bs mood". 

annewheeler2

They found our car seat and should be here today! I got my blood work back and it said I have +1 protein in my urine and I have no idea if that is bad. 

PerraSucia

raptormomma said:

They found our car seat and should be here today! I got my blood work back and it said I have +1 protein in my urine and I have no idea if that is bad. 

you could have a minor UTI

poofwok

BumpasaurusRex said:

concreteangell said:

@Momma0528, I know you mean well but I would never allow 15-20 kids in my house. Like not for any reason. That sounds like a nightmare!! 

I'll always tell DS to invite 6-8 of his closest friends. Don't think I could handle more than that.

I believe, at least in my area, that schools/daycares request that if you're going to invite any classmates, you must invite all of them.  Or if you choose not to invite all of them, invites cannot be brought to school, they must be mailed directly to the individual.

Whaaaat? Wow, that's insane! It's not like that around here. Not in daycare anyway. I'm not sure what the policy for school is but I'll eventually find out. It just seems crazy to me that you have to invite everyone. I guess I understand why they have that policy as to not exclude kids but still... 

Xstatic3333

concreteangell said:

BumpasaurusRex said:

concreteangell said:

@Momma0528, I know you mean well but I would never allow 15-20 kids in my house. Like not for any reason. That sounds like a nightmare!! 

I'll always tell DS to invite 6-8 of his closest friends. Don't think I could handle more than that.

I believe, at least in my area, that schools/daycares request that if you're going to invite any classmates, you must invite all of them.  Or if you choose not to invite all of them, invites cannot be brought to school, they must be mailed directly to the individual.

Whaaaat? Wow, that's insane! It's not like that around here. Not in daycare anyway. I'm not sure what the policy for school is but I'll eventually find out. It just seems crazy to me that you have to invite everyone. I guess I understand why they have that policy as to not exclude kids but still... 

We had that policy when I taught preschool because, frankly, we didn't want to deal with the fallout from excluded parents. It was NBD to only invite some, we just asked that the invites not distributed at school in that case. There was a directory with everyone's mailing addresses, so I think it was reasonable enough. 

poofwok

@Xstatic3333 that does seem very reasonable! 

peachesnbean

I took last week off work. And I have these really great tweezers I keep at my desk for those random chin hairs, they work like a charm. Guess what the first thing I did this morning was?

PerraSucia

peachesnbean said:

I took last week off work. And I have these really great tweezers I keep at my desk for those random chin hairs, they work like a charm. Guess what the first thing I did this morning was?

I keep them in my car because 1. your car is a fortress where no one can see you when you're doing stuff and 2. the lighting is the best to find those fuckers.

MrsDramaK

PerraSucia said:

peachesnbean said:

I took last week off work. And I have these really great tweezers I keep at my desk for those random chin hairs, they work like a charm. Guess what the first thing I did this morning was?

I keep them in my car because 1. your car is a fortress where no one can see you when you're doing stuff and 2. the lighting is the best to find those fuckers.

I was getting my eyebrows waxed the other day and without any announcement or indication, the girl started tweezing my mustache and chin.  I was momentarily humiliated then just relieved I didn't have to do it myself later.

Starfish113

Yes my daughter's kindergarten class had that rule last year - you must invite the whole class! And you can't even mail separate invites because at that age kids talk. We went to th American Girl store so unfortunately she couldn't include her BFF from the class and we stuck to other friends. 

blush64

I loved birthday parties for my sons. We always had a minimum 25 kids plus some adults. (Including the whole class and some family) The at-home parties when they were younger were fun but really busy. We usually spent way more on the in home parties. I still enjoy the parties but I am not sure what will happen as my daughter goes through school. There is a good chance most or all of her parties will be out of the home once she is in school. I prefer inviting the whole class for many reasons.

I have Pokemon Go and it is fun. My sons were into Pokemon when it came out and they have grown up with it. It was fun to play together when they were young and it's fun to share now. (Although I am not taking it too seriously) Edit I had started playing it before it was officially available but it was already everywhere. 

MommaBean

Starfish113 said:

Yes my daughter's kindergarten class had that rule last year - you must invite the whole class! And you can't even mail separate invites because at that age kids talk. We went to th American Girl store so unfortunately she couldn't include her BFF from the class and we stuck to other friends. 

Let's give everyone a trophy, while we're at it. Major eye roll at these policies - kids need to learn to deal with disappointment sometime! 

I'm not hosting 25 kids! Especially not at the pool (my dad's, where we've done DS's parties for the last several years). DS is told to pick his favorites and we just send the invites with him to school (K last year and 1st this year). I did talk to him about being discreet so no one would get their feelings hurt, but that's a life lesson too. 

Patience7150

Minnesota daycare. WTF. More expensive than gold and can't even got a top choice due to lack of availability. 

tentacular

MommaBean said:

Let's give everyone a trophy, while we're at it. Major eye roll at these policies - kids need to learn to deal with disappointment sometime! 

I'm not hosting 25 kids! Especially not at the pool (my dad's, where we've done DS's parties for the last several years). DS is told to pick his favorites and we just send the invites with him to school (K last year and 1st this year). I did talk to him about being discreet so no one would get their feelings hurt, but that's a life lesson too. 

I agree with this. It's sad to think of kids being excluded, but we can't --and shouldn't-- protect our children from every little hurt. Social interaction is a complicated thing, and they need to learn to navigate it. Though I'd never let my son exclude just a few kids, because teaching him empathy and kindness is part of my job.

Gotta say... 25 kids in my house? No friggin way. Ever. We do family-only parties until my son is old enough to actually request other kids.

My random is that I was feeling so good and un-nauseous this morning, I ate a pile of the blueberry pancakes my husband made for breakfast. Just when I finished, I started to realize I'd made a mistake... Ran to the bathroom and threw up so much pancake with so much force that toilet water splashed in my eyes and mouth. Fml. Maybe I'll get pink eye. That'd be fun. 

SweetT

At DD's preschool they won't distribute invites in class unless they are for everyone so I contacted the parents of the ones she wanted last year.
No way would I feel obligated to invite an entire class of 25 kids. I don't see how they could possibly enforce such a policy and I'd just invite whoever she wanted regardless. 
Not everyone is going to be included in everything. Kids need to understand that and the earlier the better. 

Xstatic3333

MommaBean said:

Starfish113 said:

Yes my daughter's kindergarten class had that rule last year - you must invite the whole class! And you can't even mail separate invites because at that age kids talk. We went to th American Girl store so unfortunately she couldn't include her BFF from the class and we stuck to other friends. 

Let's give everyone a trophy, while we're at it. Major eye roll at these policies - kids need to learn to deal with disappointment sometime! 

I'm not hosting 25 kids! Especially not at the pool (my dad's, where we've done DS's parties for the last several years). DS is told to pick his favorites and we just send the invites with him to school (K last year and 1st this year). I did talk to him about being discreet so no one would get their feelings hurt, but that's a life lesson too. 

Yeah that's bull. I'd probably complain. Inviting all but one or two would be awful, but adding a few close friends needs to be ok. Where do you draw the line between that and a play date?

I think when I was K-3ish, we'd usually just invite all the girls. I had small classes, though. 

bdesterhouse

I'm a more the merrier type person. I over cook and over invite for everything, I'm pretty sure it drives my husband batty. I've always left it up to my son. He never talked about his classmates from pre- k so we'll see what he says this year. His birthday lands on the weekend that we would be bringing baby home, so I am not sure how his birthday will go this year. I'm actually kind of
nervous because I always want his birthday to be special and never shadowed by someone else. It's his one day, which I believe everyone should get one days year to be center of attention.

Xstatic3333

@bdesterhouse I'm sure you can find a good way to make it special! Any chance they'll share a birthday or is your current pregnancy going to be a scheduled delivery?

bdesterhouse

We were cutting it close! Thankfully his birthday lands on a Sunday so no scheduled c sections that day. I am due the 15th, so our c section date would be the 8th and my son's birthday is the 12th. If I was doing a vbac there could have been a chance of them sharing. That's as long as all goes as planned/ hoped for. 

I'm sure my mom and MIL along with my best friend will help plan something fun for his birthday.

MrsDramaK

Just a random vent.  I'm annoyed with my brother and his GF because he told my mother he thinks I'm pregnant and now has made it his mission to prove it.  I get speculating, I've done it about my SIL, but even when I thought she was pregnant I wasn't going around announcing I suspected anything to anyone, he hasn't said anything to me, but I know he's said something to my parents.  It's my uterus, it's my business and he and his GF should let me announce to them when I am ready and not sooner.  **TW** Because of a loss less then 6 months ago, I'm just not comfortable telling anyone until I'm closer to 12 weeks.  Maybe it's the heightened emotions, but I am seriously so annoyed about this right now.

It's probably petty and stupid, but I needed to get it off my chest.

MommaBean

@MrsDramaK can you confide in him and ask him to plz STFU?

MrsDramaK

@MommaBean if I tell him to STFU it will just confirm his suspicions, I only have to avoid him for 3 weeks, DH and I had decided a while ago that since my Birthday is right near the 12 week mark, we would tell our siblings at my birthday dinner.  Fortunately, he said something to my mom and dad who have known since I was 4 weeks so they basically told him to mind his own beeswax and that time would tell.  They pretended like they knew nothing, so maybe that threw him off.  Regardless I'm worried he's going to run his mouth to other people and therefore people are going to find out before I'm ready to tell them, it's customary in Judaism to not tell anyone outside of immediate family until the 16 week mark and DH and I really want to abide by that, we also really want to tell people ourselves and not have them hear it from my siblings.

MommaBean

@MrsDramaK that's what I'm saying - tell him your preg and to please stfu 1.until you're ready and 2. to not steal your thunder. Is he just an asshole? Bc if not, I would think that would work! Either way, best of luck with the situation!!

MrsDramaK

@MommaBean he's not intentionally an asshole, but he's sort of socially inept and I don't want him being a nosy brat to steal our thunder over the big birthday announcement.  He's the baby so he thinks he can sort of say or do whatever he wants.  Thanks for the advice  

Starfish113

Oh I'm just saying what th rule was in her class last year. I def think it's stupid and was NOT hosting 20 kids!