Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Inductions
thank you. I don't know how this became the place to push your home/unmedicated birth agenda.
This is an intensely personal decision. One that we are asked to make after putting a lot of trust in other people and faith that they are doing what is in our best interest. I'm getting to the point where induction might very much be what I have to do. My doctor doesn't let you go past 41 weeks. She mentioned stillbirth and ever since I've heard that I'm team induction if it comes to that point.
I don't need a lecture about how bad artificial hormones are and the like right now. I need support and the space to safely discuss with other people and learn from their experiences.
However, since the topic of the thread was what to expect/support with inductions, I completely agree that pushing a different agenda here is not only poor taste, but has more than a hint of douchebagery to it.
yea but it all depends on where you are getting this knowledge! Be damned if I am going to get it from th internet, I am going to listen to what my doctor says. I don't have a medical degree, but they do! And saying they just want to keep their t-time is the biggest bunch of bullshit I have ever heard. My husbands patients come first and I think it is bullshit for you to make such a blanket statement. I know plenty of doctors that miss events with their families and friends because their patients come first!!
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@puddles03 so, I should've just gone into the home birth thread earlier in our pregnancies and pushed how I thought it's the dumbest idea I've ever heard and there's so much risk, etc?
Just st because a home birth isn't for me doesn't mean that I need to go into the thread that is SPECIFICALLY FOR SUPPORT/INFORMATION/WHAT TO EXPECT OUT OF HOME BIRTHS AND BASH THEM.
The moms on this thread are the ones currently considering it and you appear to not be. And honestly I found your posts to come off as quite judgemental towards those who have chosen to go the induction route.
Call me selfish but if my dr offered to induce me today I would take it even though I may have no "medical necessary " reason for my own sanity I would jump on that in a heart beat. Just like I would never judge a mom for choosing to do a medicated or unmedicated birth, or a home birth vs birthing center vs hospital. These are deeply personal and difficult decisions and I hope you can see how coming in guns blazing in a thread you appear to have no stake in comes off as judgemental.
to all the mommas to be having to make this choice. Take your time, weigh your options and make the choice that is best for you and baby.
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The original point of this thread. ^
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I don't think this is the place to have debates about inductions. If you don't like them, this isn't the place to advocate against them. It's rude and insulting to the mothers who have gotten them, for whatever reason.
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Why? Can someone tell me WHY it makes a difference what day of the week it is? I am in excruciating pain and discomfort and there is NO chance I was wrong on dates and this baby is underdeveloped. Please provide logic so I don't snap at this man again.