@UnwritteN12 those movements totally freak me out too! It looks like kneading bread. Like the baby's head or bum (something hard) is moving around like a ball and I can watch and feel it. So crazy!!
Does anyone else get a lot of other moms trying to load their old baby crap onto you? I always feel really bad being like "well thanks, but I'd rather get something new..." or "that looks nice, but it's not what I wanted..." I get that they're trying to be helpful, and I'm grateful when i find a free treasure, but for the most part I find it really awkward to decline when they are so excited about passing off their old baby gear!
@PoodleDoodleOoo Yes, I feel ya! I said at work one day I wanted a my brest friend nursing pillow. My coworker was on her local mom swap page on Facebook and kept showing me a bunch saying "oh there's this one. There's this one. You could get this one". I didn't know whether she wanted me to give her money to go get one for me? It was so awkward. I just said "I'd rather get one new but thanks..." And she kept showing them to me even after that! Haha
@PoodleDoodleOoo this happened to me this morning for the first time. My step mom asked if I wanted her friends old bouncer and swing. While I am not opposed to used things, I already have a bouncer and the swing wasn't what i was looking for.
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
@PoodleDoodleOoo yes! My fiancé's older sister is always trying to give me old stuff that she finds. Like it's nice but I don't want old stuff from strangers! And they are smokers. Inside smokers. So all the baby stuff is all smoky. I don't want that.....
I don't mind hand me downs or gently used things, but I don't want broken or totally obviously worn things. My sister, bless her, has been getting free things on some Facebook selling community but a lot has been not so good. I didn't get the chance to look at the one thing - a sit in activity center thing - that is beyond used. It's broken. so now I have to throw it out. We were also given a used crib from someone, but realized none of the hardware was included. I tried contacting the company, but no luck to get replacement hardware so that's landed at the curb now too. Ugh! Moral of the story : make sure the hand me downs are in good condition before bringing them home...
The amazon thing is a scam. I heard about it last night. I ordered one too and then cancelled immediately after finding that out. Why Amazon allows this account to still sell things when their rating is so abysmal is beyond me.
@PoodleDoodleOoo - I don't blame you. Some stuff is ok. We were given a gently used 2nd swing when we had Bert & Elle along with some other gently used stuff. I was ok with that. Especially when you have multiples it's nice not to have to buy 2 of everything. But when MIL found out I was pregnant this time, she sent a box of random clothes to us. The gesture was nice but I have to wonder how much thought she really put into it. I went through the box and a lot of the clothes are older as well as bigger sizes. I don't mind having some stuff around that's 6 months, 9 months or 12 months. But half this box was stuff that the babies won't be able to wear for a good year and it wasn't going to be the right season anyway (long sleeves and pants for summer for example).
PS - I've just been told that they're going to have to start a betting pool at work as to when I'll actually have these two. No one is sure how much more my belly is going to be able to stretch. Me either guys, me either!
My random: my labor buddy from my first BMB had her second baby yesterday... on the outside steps of the emergency area of her hospital!!!
No joke, this is my worst fear! I went from 3.5 to 10 cm in 4 hours with my first. If it's quicker than that, and starts when DH is at work, we could be pushing it to get there on time. I wanted so bad to go into labor before my scheduled induction with McKenna, and I'm actually kind of hoping Layla stays in until the induction for this reason alone.
Barely making it to the hospital is my dream come true! I labored for two days in the hospital last time! Came in at 0 cm dilated. Labored for 4 hours to get 2 cm! Rolling up and spinning out a baby on the spot would be amazing.
On the flip side, our ride to the hospital was totally stress free. We stopped for bagels on the way, so I guess the grass is always greener.
I need to stay off the coming home outfit thread. This is the second time it's turned me into a hormonal mess. While I was reading it today, I realized that while I don't have Layla's coming home outfit picked out yet, I do have McKenna's outfit for the first hospital visit to meet her sister picked. Imagining her in it, coming to visit us as a big sister made me cry.
Anyone having trouble with lack of appetite? I feel like there's no room left in my belly and I'm never hungry! I've had issues getting enough protein throughout this pregnancy (based on the urine tests I take at appointments) so I'm drinking a protein shake each night, but I really need to be eating! It feels like I am just forcing myself to eat every meal.
@camichael84 A photographer I follow posted a photo of a mama in the hospital bed hugging her probably 2 year old so tight and the caption was, "hugging her for the last time as her only baby" and I freaking bawled.
@MrsVoorhees I can imagine. I teared up reading you describing it. I'm so not prepared for McKenna to come in to see us the first time and go from being my baby to being my big girl.
@camichael84 A photographer I follow posted a photo of a mama in the hospital bed hugging her probably 2 year old so tight and the caption was, "hugging her for the last time as her only baby" and I freaking bawled.
@KimmySchmidt No, I get you. If I had to pick, I'd choose hospital steps outside over a long, long labor. (Sorry about your first labor.) She had people freaking out because it all meant she went without an epidural. With things going that fast, I think the epidural would be the last thing on my mind.
Anyone having trouble with lack of appetite? I feel like there's no room left in my belly and I'm never hungry! I've had issues getting enough protein throughout this pregnancy (based on the urine tests I take at appointments) so I'm drinking a protein shake each night, but I really need to be eating! It feels like I am just forcing myself to eat every meal.
I'm headed in that direction. For a long time it's been that my eyes are bigger than my stomach. Now it's that I'm feeling full all the damn time. Everything just feels so crowded in there that I can't stomach thinking about food most of the time, even if I am hungry.
@Sbrown721 - I have a massive appetite but if I eat to my satisfaction it feels like my whole belly is getting ripped at the seam, so I always have to eat less than i want to eat. I tend to snack a lot though instead of eating real meals.
@AmMcc12 ugh, I wish I could do prune juice. The thought of it makes my stomach churn. I'm the one that could seriously vomit just from the thought of it since I had it so much in the first tri. It's probably my biggest aversion.
@LakeR2014 I do some coffee in the morning but not enough to make me go, if it makes sense. I do go whenever I have a hot Starbucks so I can definitely do that today.
@Kimmy717 I've done probiotics religiously for a few years but it's not that effective for me. My IBS is stubborn but it was under control for a few years until I got pregnant and everything I used to do to keep it in check is not working anymore so I'm kind of sucking it up.
All of you are all sentimental and talking about how excited you are to cuddle your babies or see older sister/brother interact with new baby. Meanwhile, I'm dead inside and can only think about how scared shitless I am to have two kids. Mornings have been insane lately with my three year old's shenanigans. How the eff am I going to do it with two?!
@PSUBeck23 I'm somewhere in between. I am so excited to see DD as a Big Sister and am looking forward to introducing her to baby in the hospital. But I am also terrified. My DD and yours seem very similar (I think I've mentioned that before). DD is extremely defiant and independent...but she's also very caring and nurturing when she wants to be. I see her around baby being a very Jekyll and Hyde situation...she's going to be the sweetest big sister when she wants to be and then an absolute terror when she's in a mood (or, God forbid, I don't let her change baby's diaper herself or something like that). On top of the anxiety I have over her interaction with baby, I'm also terrified for the general routine of things. Like you said, how in the world am I going to wrangle a defiant 3yo into getting ready in the morning while also nursing and dressing an infant (let alone myself!) I try not to think about it too much...there's nothing I can do to prepare so I'll just deal when the time comes, I guess!
@Sbrown721 I go from being completely ravenous and insatiable to having no appetite. It goes back and forth. This morning, for example, I had a fiber one bar when I got up which is usually NEVER enough to fill me up but it was fine and I didn't eat again until 11, and even then I had to make myself.
But by 1:00 I was hungry and ate again. I'm just a wild card that way.
I think at this point we have less space in our tums, since it's all mushed from being crowded by uterus, and because our digestive systems are slow (thank you relaxin') maybe some of us are going to experience the "Meh, not hungry" thing closer to term. As long as you're getting ENOUGH food and not skipping meals, I'd say you're good!
@JennM205 they definitely sound similar. Reese is either going to be hugging the baby or running circles around me while I try to nurse baby and simultaneously make Reese's lunch. I guess I have maternity leave to enjoy before that.
DH and I were just having a conversation about who is going to watch DD when this baby comes. My Mom's job prevents her from being super flexible and my Dad hasn't responded to my email yet (I know, weird means of communication but it works for us). My sister plans on being in the delivery room for the birth (she was with DD, too). I told DH that, worst case scenario, we can just bring DD to the hospital with us and, if no one makes it in time, my sister can just watch her. I mentioned that my sister would probably be disappointed to miss out on the birth but would understand and be happy to help in whatever way we need in that moment, if it came to that. The conversation proceeded as follows:
DH: Why would your sister be disappointed? Me: Because she's excited to be there for the birth and wouldn't want to miss it... DH: Oh, I guess. It's just, it's not like I'm super excited to be in the delivery room when the baby is born. Me: Ummmm, why not? Your child will be being born! DH: Because it's nerve-wracking. Me: Ummmm, I'm pretty sure you have nothing to be nervous about!
Seriously!? (Eyeroll.) I mean, I totally get that he would be nervous but come on! We've done this before and, oh, may I mention, I'll be the one doing all the hard work!? I couldn't help but laugh at him a little bit...!
@JennM205 Haha! That is so great! I am going to be birthing without medication and I was talking about how nervous I was about it with fiance and his response was, "You're nervous?! You're going to do amazing! I'm not worried about you at all. I'm super nervous about myself tho!"
@JennM205 That's funny (and maybe a little irritating). My husband surprised me... when McKenna was born and he posted her picture and stats on FB, he followed it with an "I didn't do much work." I thought he was lots of help to me, but nice that he acknowledged the fact that I was the one doing all the hard work.
My DH is very nervous about childbirth but we're both FT parents and I think it's normal for us. All he says is he's worried about seeing me in pain and suffering and that something will go wrong. I'm making him pay attention in our classes so he can learn how to be a good partner since whenever I'm in pain (like when I had contractions with our loss), he just looks at me with pity and constipated eyes. That would make me punch him during childbirth.
DH and I were just having a conversation about who is going to watch DD when this baby comes. My Mom's job prevents her from being super flexible and my Dad hasn't responded to my email yet (I know, weird means of communication but it works for us). My sister plans on being in the delivery room for the birth (she was with DD, too). I told DH that, worst case scenario, we can just bring DD to the hospital with us and, if no one makes it in time, my sister can just watch her. I mentioned that my sister would probably be disappointed to miss out on the birth but would understand and be happy to help in whatever way we need in that moment, if it came to that. The conversation proceeded as follows:
DH: Why would your sister be disappointed? Me: Because she's excited to be there for the birth and wouldn't want to miss it... DH: Oh, I guess. It's just, it's not like I'm super excited to be in the delivery room when the baby is born. Me: Ummmm, why not? Your child will be being born! DH: Because it's nerve-wracking. Me: Ummmm, I'm pretty sure you have nothing to be nervous about!
Seriously!? (Eyeroll.) I mean, I totally get that he would be nervous but come on! We've done this before and, oh, may I mention, I'll be the one doing all the hard work!? I couldn't help but laugh at him a little bit...!
I can definitely see it being more nerve wracking for my DH than it was for me. In the moment I was focused on pushing the baby out and listening to my body on how to do that as well as follow the directions of moving from side to side for each push. Meanwhile, DH is watching baby's heart rate drop which is why they are having me change position and I had no idea. He was freaking out internally for sure, not knowing what it meant and if everything would be ok. I am so thankful it was never translated to me until after the fact because I surely would have been freaking out quite vocally.
Finally bought something for this baby! Super useful artwork from Etsy. Meanwhile the crib is still in pieces in the basement and the car seat and clothes are...somewhere. I keep saying 30 weeks is when I'll start to get my ass in gear. And I'm now 29 weeks. Good planning.
@AlwaysAuntNeverMom My DH will probably also be worried about me being in pain. Generally I am the tough one so anytime I get hurt or say I am in pain he is always really concerned. I tripped going up some stairs a few weeks ago and now he always insists on holding my hand and having me hold the hand rails everytime! It is going to be really hard for him to just sit there and not be able to do anything.
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
@AlwaysAuntNeverMom My DH will probably also be worried about me being in pain. Generally I am the tough one so anytime I get hurt or say I am in pain he is always really concerned. I tripped going up some stairs a few weeks ago and now he always insists on holding my hand and having me hold the hand rails everytime! It is going to be really hard for him to just sit there and not be able to do anything.
Exactly this. He says he feels helpless when I'm in pain because I never complain about anything. With him, there were a lot of unknowns that made him nervous and learning more has opened him up a bit (he used to say he wanted me to just have a c-section so it didn't hurt, no thank you). We'll see how he does on d day
Re: June Randoms Thread
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
Like it's nice but I don't want old stuff from strangers!
And they are smokers. Inside smokers. So all the baby stuff is all smoky. I don't want that.....
But when MIL found out I was pregnant this time, she sent a box of random clothes to us. The gesture was nice but I have to wonder how much thought she really put into it. I went through the box and a lot of the clothes are older as well as bigger sizes. I don't mind having some stuff around that's 6 months, 9 months or 12 months. But half this box was stuff that the babies won't be able to wear for a good year and it wasn't going to be the right season anyway (long sleeves and pants for summer for example).
On the flip side, our ride to the hospital was totally stress free. We stopped for bagels on the way, so I guess the grass is always greener.
July: Patriotic Fails
@LakeR2014 I do some coffee in the morning but not enough to make me go, if it makes sense. I do go whenever I have a hot Starbucks so I can definitely do that today.
@Kimmy717 I've done probiotics religiously for a few years but it's not that effective for me. My IBS is stubborn but it was under control for a few years until I got pregnant and everything I used to do to keep it in check is not working anymore so I'm kind of sucking it up.
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Obama (flaming liberal alert) so I'm going to think he really was 
But I am really dead inside. Sentimental is the last word anyone would use to describe me.
But by 1:00 I was hungry and ate again. I'm just a wild card that way.
I think at this point we have less space in our tums, since it's all mushed from being crowded by uterus, and because our digestive systems are slow (thank you relaxin') maybe some of us are going to experience the "Meh, not hungry" thing closer to term. As long as you're getting ENOUGH food and not skipping meals, I'd say you're good!
DH: Why would your sister be disappointed?
Me: Because she's excited to be there for the birth and wouldn't want to miss it...
DH: Oh, I guess. It's just, it's not like I'm super excited to be in the delivery room when the baby is born.
Me: Ummmm, why not? Your child will be being born!
DH: Because it's nerve-wracking.
Me: Ummmm, I'm pretty sure you have nothing to be nervous about!
Seriously!? (Eyeroll.) I mean, I totally get that he would be nervous but come on! We've done this before and, oh, may I mention, I'll be the one doing all the hard work!? I couldn't help but laugh at him a little bit...!
WHAT?! Haha I had no idea he thought that.
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
Edit - never mind...looked it up! I'm lame