I guess I'm writing this as a reminder to all of us who use/read this board and also for some advice too. Sunday is Father's Day and it's going to be rough. I know it will be for me, thinking about how my dh should've been getting a card from me and my adorable baby bump that would've been forming
but it will be rough for our dh's/ partners too. Men usually internalize until they explode or have a nervous breakdown. We have two houses to go to that day. How can I tell if it is bothering my dh? How can I make it an easy day for him? I feel bad because I know the discussion of pregnancy and babies and miscarriage depresses him. How do I make this at least a tolerable day?
Me: 28 DH: 29
Married: 4-25-2014
TTC: March 2015
BFP: 2-18-16
Confirmed MMC: 3-31-16
D&C: 4-2-16
TTCAL: May 2016
IUI: 5/13/17-Femara and Trigger, POAS 5/27/17 BFP 5/27/17
Re: Father's Day
/loss mentioned/
TTC#1 July 2014
dx: MFI (morphology)
IUI #1 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Sept. 2015 ~ BFN
IUI #2 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Halloween 2015 ~ BFN
IUI #3 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Thanksgiving 2015 ~ BFP!!
hb 146 bpm at 7w5d
1/28/16 ~ began to say goodbye to our beautiful baby at 11w
d&c, followed by cytotec
TTCAL April 2016
IUI #4 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Apr. 2016 ~ BFN
IUI #5 w/Clomid + Ovidrel ~ CP
IUI#6 w/Clomid + Ovidrel ~ BFN
I'm sorry you're struggling the same way. Hugs.
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
Aannnd now I'm crying. I can't do that to him what would he actually think??
Type 1 Diabetes since 2001, MTHFR hetero A1298T
Dogs: Raider 4 yrs, Dex 4 yrs
BFP #2 7/6/16 SCH, D&C 8/4/16
BFP #3 12/26/16 EDD: 9/6/17
My Chart / My Diabetes/Pregnancy Blog
My Type 1/TTC/Pregnancy Podcast:
Juicebox Podcast Episode 118
A1Cs:
1/12/16 6.7%
5/25/16 6.0%
11/2/16 6.1%
3/22/16 5.8%
4/27/17 5.4%
6/13/17 5.3%
"Sugar Fancy Tutu"
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
DH made the decision to stay off Facebook today and so I can tell he's hurting too. I did get him a card from our puppy. I didn't even think to get him a card from our angel babies. I think that probably would have been more painful. Focusing on the good things in our life is helpful right now. Im lucky enough to still have my father, but he battles so many health conditions. I tried to focus on celebrating him today knowing that once we get our baby whether it be in a year or 5 years, I will have plenty of time to celebrate DH, but I can't get these years with my dad back.
I was pregnant on Mother's Day and my first pregnancy due date was 6 weeks later, so I didn't feel nearly as sad that day as I do today.
@Sugargirl1019 a few months after our loss, we were at my BIL's and his wife's for a christening, and they had ultrasound photos on their fridge. It occurred to me that maybe I should put our u/s pict on our fridge from when our baby still had a strong hb. I hear you.
/loss mentioned/
TTC#1 July 2014
dx: MFI (morphology)
IUI #1 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Sept. 2015 ~ BFN
IUI #2 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Halloween 2015 ~ BFN
IUI #3 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Thanksgiving 2015 ~ BFP!!
hb 146 bpm at 7w5d
1/28/16 ~ began to say goodbye to our beautiful baby at 11w
d&c, followed by cytotec
TTCAL April 2016
IUI #4 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Apr. 2016 ~ BFN
IUI #5 w/Clomid + Ovidrel ~ CP
IUI#6 w/Clomid + Ovidrel ~ BFN
Me (39) DH (40)
From my first marriage DD: 03/04 CP:01/06 DS:12/06
DH- no kids
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TTC: since 2/15, RE Consult 9/15
IUI #1 10/15: Letrozole = BFN
IUI #2 11/15: Letrozole + trigger = BFN
1/08/16: Surprise- BFP!! 2/16/16: MMC @10w 2days, D&C: 2/17/16
TTCAL: May 2016
IUI #3 5/27/16: Letrozole+trigger=BFN
IUI #4 06/24/16: 7.5mg Letrozole+trigger= BFN
IUI#5 08/24/16 Menopur+trigger = BFN
IUI #6 09/19/16 5 mg Letrozole +Menopur + Trigger= BFN
**10/2016: No more medicated cycles, TTCAL on our own**
12/03/16: BFP!! EDD: 08/12/17 It's a girl!!
Eleni was born on 8/14/17!!
@roxgibbons Sorry your day isn't going well ether. Major hugs to you. I really didn't think it would hit me this hard since it's not 'my' holiday, but I think it actually hit me worse because I want so badly to be able to celebrate my DH and feel almost like I let him down. In reality I know I didn't. But it sucks. Bingewatching Netflix sounds way better than in laws especially since our trip to the in laws made things worse. There was a lot of conversation about my SIL and her fiancé having kids after they get married and I think DH and I were both struggling through it since they don't know we were TTC let alone that we had a loss. My SIL does but she doesn't seem to understand how difficult it is for me to talk about things like that right now.
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
A friend on fb announced she is due the same day I was due. I didn't expect it and started crying to my mom. I have done a really good job of not crying and being okay, but it got me! Plus DH is being really sweet and loving, so emotions.
Type 1 Diabetes since 2001, MTHFR hetero A1298T
Dogs: Raider 4 yrs, Dex 4 yrs
BFP #2 7/6/16 SCH, D&C 8/4/16
BFP #3 12/26/16 EDD: 9/6/17
My Chart / My Diabetes/Pregnancy Blog
My Type 1/TTC/Pregnancy Podcast:
Juicebox Podcast Episode 118
A1Cs:
1/12/16 6.7%
5/25/16 6.0%
11/2/16 6.1%
3/22/16 5.8%
4/27/17 5.4%
6/13/17 5.3%
"Sugar Fancy Tutu"