Go ahead and post in June. Most of us left anyways. But the fact is, OP asked a legitimate question and you ladies all jumped at her for not posting it in Randoms, when it's actually a useful question. Also, we were not responsible for the tots winning your poll. But we do appreciate the shout out.
You ladies can rock your mom jeans. We will sport these.....
Well, since this is a public forum and @kwife15 didn't break any rules by posting (other than those made up by a few here), I'm going to reply to OP as well.
I don't think excluding him from the birth is the best idea. As several other posters have mentioned, it is really important to have this conversation with him before you hit the delivery room. True, everyone deals with stress differently, but he needs to know how to support you best and vice versa. This is a dramatic life event for both of you.
Sometime when you're both calm, spell it out. Guys aren't great at the hints we drop. You can say something along the lines of "I know you're just joking, but when it's actually time to pop this kid out, I'm going to need your full support by you doing [x]. What do you need from me?"
OP disappeared, you all can resume being your one-note selves. I will get you started:
OP I would definitely have a talk with him before the big day comes. Open communication can go a long way and maybe he doesn't realize that the constant joking is bothering you. Good luck!!
This is so lame. You're pretending to be helpful when all you're doing is stirring up drama. More than likely the OP is just one of you trolling to begin with. My god, don't you have more to worry about than started childish turf wars in the interwebz?
And we answered the question and made the request that the OP follow OUR bump month community rules. Acting indignant on behalf of your buddy is insulting to her (assuming she wasn't just baiting) and embarrassing for you.
Go ahead and post in June. Most of us left anyways. But the fact is, OP asked a legitimate question and you ladies all jumped at her for not posting it in Randoms, when it's actually a useful question. Also, we were not responsible for the tots winning your poll. But we do appreciate the shout out.
You ladies can rock your mom jeans. We will sport these.....
@sdLindenberg oh hi to our good ole Nanny! So glad that while you can't take care of your own mess in June, you still feel the need to come here and answer this OP who has literally never participated. No we don't like dedicating AW threads to randos who want support but give nothing back. She could have googled this. We don't owe her.
And looking at your board gives me a headache. Sue us for wanting this stuff in randoms.
This is so lame. You're pretending to be helpful when all you're doing is stirring up drama. More than likely the OP is just one of you trolling to begin with. My god, don't you have more to worry about than started childish turf wars in the interwebz?
And we answered the question and made the request that the OP follow OUR bump month community rules. Acting indignant on behalf of your buddy is insulting to her (assuming she wasn't just baiting) and embarrassing for you.
This. I hope that I don't have so much time once I start my leave from work that I trololo other months looking for the sheer mention of the July board. Sunbathing in the backyard sounds like a much better way to spend my time.
This is so lame. You're pretending to be helpful when all you're doing is stirring up drama. More than likely the OP is just one of you trolling to begin with. My god, don't you have more to worry about than started childish turf wars in the interwebz?
And we answered the question and made the request that the OP follow OUR bump month community rules. Acting indignant on behalf of your buddy is insulting to her (assuming she wasn't just baiting) and embarrassing for you.
Therein lies the rub... You don't make the rules. The TOU define them. So sorry.
Also, OP has been gone 24 hours. She could very well be working and not able to check TB regularly like the rest of us. Give me grief when she's been gone long enough to file a missing persons report.
And your "answer" to her question was unwelcoming and downright rude in a lot of cases. I just wanted to offer my support. And I'm not really worried about this "turf war." Seems like you are, though.
This is so lame. You're pretending to be helpful when all you're doing is stirring up drama. More than likely the OP is just one of you trolling to begin with. My god, don't you have more to worry about than started childish turf wars in the interwebz?
And we answered the question and made the request that the OP follow OUR bump month community rules. Acting indignant on behalf of your buddy is insulting to her (assuming she wasn't just baiting) and embarrassing for you.
Therein lies the rub... You don't make the rules. The TOU define them. So sorry.
Also, OP has been gone 24 hours. She could very well be working and not able to check TB regularly like the rest of us. Give me grief when she's been gone long enough to file a missing persons report.
And your "answer" to her question was unwelcoming and downright rude in a lot of cases. I just wanted to offer my support. And I'm not really worried about this "turf war." Seems like you are, though.
@JunerTot you are really not getting it. OP has never posted anything, ever. She never once participated in one of the bazillions of theads we have for everyone. When one of us had a question, she didn't reply. She doesn't care about us, she is frustrated with her husband. So she logged on and without lurking one bit went ahead and posted her own thread about her issue.
I find her to be unwelcoming.
No we don't make the TOU rules but we have every right to tell someone to post in randoms or not answer. She wants support and answers? Do one freaking thing to earn it. It isn't hard.
@mandyjulie then don't offer your support. But don't get all hot and bothered because someone else chose to.
And no, you still don't have the right to tell someone where the can or cannot post. Public forum, and all.
@JunerTotWho was hot and bothered, exactly? Someone suggested we just stop replying to randos. No one got hot or bothered when others kept replying. Except you guys. Your white knighting isn't even needed. It's just... Sad.
Read your last two sentences back to yourself. Public forum. Yep -- we can reply every single time that they should have posted in randoms.
@mandyjulie then don't offer your support. But don't get all hot and bothered because someone else chose to.
And no, you still don't have the right to tell someone where the can or cannot post. Public forum, and all.
@JunerTotWho was hot and bothered, exactly? Someone suggested we just stop replying to randos. No one got hot or bothered when others kept replying. Except you guys. Your white knighting isn't even needed. It's just... Sad.
Read your last two sentences back to yourself. Public forum. Yep -- we can reply every single time that they should have posted in randoms.
Edited because TB ate my post: As can we when we'd like to offer support.
@mandyjulie then don't offer your support. But don't get all hot and bothered because someone else chose to.
And no, you still don't have the right to tell someone where the can or cannot post. Public forum, and all.
@JunerTotWho was hot and bothered, exactly? Someone suggested we just stop replying to randos. No one got hot or bothered when others kept replying. Except you guys. Your white knighting isn't even needed. It's just... Sad.
Read your last two sentences back to yourself. Public forum. Yep -- we can reply every single time that they should have posted in randoms.
The real question is: how many screen names does @sdLindenberg have?
I have one, thanks. I have better things to do than be on TB all day and stir up trouble. I don't want to cause trouble, and it wasn't my intention to get you ladies all riled up over trying to stand up for someone. But in case you were curious, no, the OP isn't me. I don't have time for those kinds of shenanigans nor do I want to. Life with a week left of pregnancy is stressful enough, thanks.
Ill leave y'all to your ways. Thanks for letting me play. Happy last few weeks of pregnancy ladies.
@JunerTot cool we'll send all the randos your way for support from here on. Sounds like a plan!
By all means, keep creating an unwelcoming environment on your BMB. Just please quit acting so puzzled as to why The Bump Gods are out to get your regs.
My response was HONEST. Not rude or unwelcoming. If my personal experience and advice is unwelcome, that's for the OP to decide, not you, and she should not have asked for it.
I then directed her to a more appropriate location to seek advice, according to our month's community rules, established and understood by (I'll repeat it) OUR community here in July. There were no threats or "or else's" if she doesn't oblige. So I fail to see how I've done anything other than answer her question and help maintain the norms of our community.
If you don't like it, leave. But please do not show up here, guns blazing and defecate on us for doing exactly what is asked and expected of us. I don't sugarcoat honest answers in person, and I won't online.
Otherwise, feel free to jump in and join the conversation and offer support to this fabulous group of mothers. I'm sure you have a lot to contribute other than your incessant barking once you stop trying to mother the defenseless Bumpers out there. Save your energy, you're gonna need it once LO arrives.
@JunerTot cool we'll send all the randos your way for support from here on. Sounds like a plan!
By all means, keep creating an unwelcoming environment on your BMB. Just please quit acting so puzzled as to why The Bump Gods are out to get your regs.
Give it up, seriously. That doesn't even make sense. Bump gods don't care if we answer a rando's speshul snowflake question.
The real question is: how many screen names does @sdLindenberg have?
I have one, thanks. I have better things to do than be on TB all day and stir up trouble. I don't want to cause trouble, and it wasn't my intention to get you ladies all riled up over trying to stand up for someone. But in case you were curious, no, the OP isn't me. I don't have time for those kinds of shenanigans nor do I want to. Life with a week left of pregnancy is stressful enough, thanks.
Ill leave y'all to your ways. Thanks for letting me play. Happy last few weeks of pregnancy ladies.
Thanks. In all honesty, and I truly mean this with no hint of sarcasm, this is a great response. Way to keep things in perspective and best of luck to you in your last week.
@LadyFleck if you feel you did nothing wrong, why assume I was referencing your response specifically?
It's a little dramatic to say I came here with "guns blazing" or in any way "defecated" on you for offering my support to OP. No, there weren't threats, but it was made very clear that she should not have come here for support in any other way aside from the specific template this BMB has tried to force on everyone.
As for my "incessant barking" - quit telling me to leave, and I won't have anything to respond to. For now, I'm going to continue calmly responding each time I'm addressed.
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Re: Dad in the delivery room?
Also, we were not responsible for the tots winning your poll. But we do appreciate the shout out.
You ladies can rock your mom jeans. We will sport these.....
And we answered the question and made the request that the OP follow OUR bump month community rules. Acting indignant on behalf of your buddy is insulting to her (assuming she wasn't just baiting) and embarrassing for you.
And looking at your board gives me a headache. Sue us for wanting this stuff in randoms.
This. I hope that I don't have so much time once I start my leave from work that I trololo other months looking for the sheer mention of the July board. Sunbathing in the backyard sounds like a much better way to spend my time.
Also, OP has been gone 24 hours. She could very well be working and not able to check TB regularly like the rest of us. Give me grief when she's been gone long enough to file a missing persons report.
And your "answer" to her question was unwelcoming and downright rude in a lot of cases. I just wanted to offer my support. And I'm not really worried about this "turf war." Seems like you are, though.
I find her to be unwelcoming.
No we don't make the TOU rules but we have every right to tell someone to post in randoms or not answer. She wants support and answers? Do one freaking thing to earn it. It isn't hard.
And no, you still don't have the right to tell someone where the can or cannot post. Public forum, and all.
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Read your last two sentences back to yourself. Public forum. Yep -- we can reply every single time that they should have posted in randoms.
Ill leave y'all to your ways. Thanks for letting me play. Happy last few weeks of pregnancy ladies.
My response was HONEST. Not rude or unwelcoming. If my personal experience and advice is unwelcome, that's for the OP to decide, not you, and she should not have asked for it.
I then directed her to a more appropriate location to seek advice, according to our month's community rules, established and understood by (I'll repeat it) OUR community here in July. There were no threats or "or else's" if she doesn't oblige. So I fail to see how I've done anything other than answer her question and help maintain the norms of our community.
If you don't like it, leave. But please do not show up here, guns blazing and defecate on us for doing exactly what is asked and expected of us. I don't sugarcoat honest answers in person, and I won't online.
Otherwise, feel free to jump in and join the conversation and offer support to this fabulous group of mothers. I'm sure you have a lot to contribute other than your incessant barking once you stop trying to mother the defenseless Bumpers out there. Save your energy, you're gonna need it once LO arrives.
It's a little dramatic to say I came here with "guns blazing" or in any way "defecated" on you for offering my support to OP. No, there weren't threats, but it was made very clear that she should not have come here for support in any other way aside from the specific template this BMB has tried to force on everyone.
As for my "incessant barking" - quit telling me to leave, and I won't have anything to respond to. For now, I'm going to continue calmly responding each time I'm addressed.
Youre so pretty
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