My husband is getting on my nerves. He always wants me to tell him everything I ate for the day, how much water I drank, how much physical activity I did. I know he's worried because I've been in the hospital, but he's getting on my nerves!
Here's what just happened today: so sometimes I have weird reactions to BMs, especially if I haven't gone in awhile. About a half hour ago I finally went after almost a week. Well I got dizzy, sweaty, passed out, and hit my head pretty bad. This doesn't happen all the time, but it's definitely not the first time it's happened.
I called him once I got cleaned up and into bed. He sent my son up to give me an ice pack and now he's grilling me while I sit here with it on my skull. Like somehow it's my fault that this happened because I didn't eat enough or something. I wanna smack him so bad right now.
@MRSCORKER My MIL annoys me on the reg, but that put the icing on the cake after the entire weekend!!! I don't really care if my own mother says stuff like that but her saying it....uggghhhhh.
It bothered me when my own mother said it but not on the same level. It was more like, "Hey, I'M your baby, this is MY baby". She giggled and got the hint. My MIL told me that last time I saw her that she so excited that she "gets to be a mother again". It's a miracle I'm not in prison after that one. I told her that's not how it works and walked away.
I have a wonderful MIL, thank goodness, but that sounds exactly like something my husband's grandmother would say to me. She annoys me so so much...asking how much I've gained, telling me I should eat more than I do, asking if I'm still breastfeeding my son, even though I've told her I'm not and she knows it's a sensitive subject with me...and I could go on and on. Seriously I have just gotten to where I walk away from her as soon as I say hi. I leave my husband to deal with her, and I don't even care.
The damnest thing is that there is a manned fire station 200 yards from where the baby was dropped. In Washington state that is a safe haven drop spot, no questions asked.
I really do understand that sometimes giving up your baby is the best option, but THERE ARE SAFE WAYS TO GO ABOUT IT. And by the time you're freaking 18, you should be able to think "hmm, I should put this baby somewhere safe since I can't care for him/her." Not a damn trash compactor.
My sister claimed herself godmother and we talked about it. Well, I talked, she yelled. She's now not speaking to me because I told her my husband and I don't know who the god parents are going to be. She's made a huge deal about it and we literally haven't even discussed anything yet about it! I'm 19 weeks! It's too early! So I said I would put her and my twin sisters name in a hat and pick it that way just like she did with her first child. Apparently that's only acceptable when it's for her kid, not mine.
My husband is getting on my nerves. He always wants me to tell him everything I ate for the day, how much water I drank, how much physical activity I did. I know he's worried because I've been in the hospital, but he's getting on my nerves!
Here's what just happened today: so sometimes I have weird reactions to BMs, especially if I haven't gone in awhile. About a half hour ago I finally went after almost a week. Well I got dizzy, sweaty, passed out, and hit my head pretty bad. This doesn't happen all the time, but it's definitely not the first time it's happened.
I called him once I got cleaned up and into bed. He sent my son up to give me an ice pack and now he's grilling me while I sit here with it on my skull. Like somehow it's my fault that this happened because I didn't eat enough or something. I wanna smack him so bad right now.
@krzyriver That's a vasovagal response. Bearing down can stimulate the vagus nerve, which can drop your HR/BP and cause the symptoms you experienced. Try more water, fiber, and a gentle stool softener so that doesn't happen in the future.
The damnest thing is that there is a manned fire station 200 yards from where the baby was dropped. In Washington state that is a safe haven drop spot, no questions asked.
I really do understand that sometimes giving up your baby is the best option, but THERE ARE SAFE WAYS TO GO ABOUT IT. And by the time you're freaking 18, you should be able to think "hmm, I should put this baby somewhere safe since I can't care for him/her." Not a damn trash compactor.
Did you guys read about a Charlotte mom a few years back that got her kids taken away from her because she went clubbing and left her 2 year old and 4 month old at home alone!?!?!?! Then she said it was her neighbor's fault for calling the police when the 2 year old wandered into the parking lot by herself?
Fast forward to present time.... I saw a lady post this on FB last Sunday, on a mom group on FB I joined (mostly for the entertainment factor):
There were women responding to her post actually consoling her! She said her husband has a dancing addiction and she had to make sure he didn't cheat on her. This is what one dumbass said who keeps sticking up for her: "What's with all the judgemental bitches? You did the right thing by making sure your man didn't cheat on you, because we all know men don't have any self-control especially when dancing. Good for you for ensuring the future of your family."
@von1976 Thanks! Water and fiber are the two things I'm awful about. I've been better since being pregnant, but not so much the last few days since I haven't felt good. I didn't realize it would affect me that much! I'll make a note not to slip up next time I'm feeling sick.
I have another thing to bitch about and feel free to tell me if I'm overreacting. My son was just talking to me about what he did at his friend's house this weekend. Apparently the friend's dad took the friend to practice driving in an empty parking lot.... and my son was in the backseat. My husband and I are pissed.
My son has no business being in a car that is being driven by someone without a license. This kid doesn't even have a permit, they were just practicing for fun. Why did this have to happen when my kid was over? Why did this man think it was ok to put my kid in this car? And why did he think my son should even be there? A new driver doesn't need any distractions. I felt it was inappropriate and potentially unsafe. He had no business taking my kid, I don't care if it was an empty parking lot.
My husband is planning to sit down with the parents. I think they're too comfortable because they've known my son and his mom for almost 10+ years, but they don't know us and my husband has custody now, so new boundaries clearly need to be set up.
I didn't expect gifts and lavish plans on Mother's Day, since I'm not a mother yet (this is our first). But it really would have been nice if my husband had actually said "Happy Mother's Day". He didn't. Though when I brought it up to him later, he swore he did. HE DIDN'T.
Three of my friends wished me a Happy Mother's Day, as did my sister, my father in law, and a nun at a highway rest stop. BUT NOT MY HUSBAND.
Asshole.
This was us, too His friends texted me, his mother sent flowers and he still kept his mouth shut. The icing on the cake was his FB post, thanking every dang mother he knows, including his sisters and friends, and said nothing about the woman carrying HIS child. He apologized when I started sobbing and he figured out how upset I was, but I'm still pretty hurt.
The damnest thing is that there is a manned fire station 200 yards from where the baby was dropped. In Washington state that is a safe haven drop spot, no questions asked.
I really do understand that sometimes giving up your baby is the best option, but THERE ARE SAFE WAYS TO GO ABOUT IT. And by the time you're freaking 18, you should be able to think "hmm, I should put this baby somewhere safe since I can't care for him/her." Not a damn trash compactor.
Did you guys read about a Charlotte mom a few years back that got her kids taken away from her because she went clubbing and left her 2 year old and 4 month old at home alone!?!?!?! Then she said it was her neighbor's fault for calling the police when the 2 year old wandered into the parking lot by herself?
Fast forward to present time.... I saw a lady post this on FB last Sunday, on a mom group on FB I joined (mostly for the entertainment factor):
There were women responding to her post actually consoling her! She said her husband has a dancing addiction and she had to make sure he didn't cheat on her. This is what one dumbass said who keeps sticking up for her: "What's with all the judgemental bitches? You did the right thing by making sure your man didn't cheat on you, because we all know men don't have any self-control especially when dancing. Good for you for ensuring the future of your family."
OMG. I couldn't.
I CANT EVEN.. IS IT THAT HARD TO CALL A BABYSITTER?! OH MY GOSH
And additionally @TurtleMomma yeah, the firestation thing... some people.. .I just don't even know what she could have thought. A TRASH COMPACTOR. Ugh.
I know Monday is over. However I had the worst day to date..... I got told I'm being over dramatic about my pregnancy and the baby. All because multiple doctors tothe baby has an organ cyst which can start to apply pressure to the heart and leave the baby with multiple complications so I should consider late term termination. If that didn't top the cake the doctor also told me that I have a chromosomal defect that is causing my past four miscarriages,one being full term, where my awesome lovely hates me body decides to throw blood clots into my placenta which cuts off the blood flow to the baby. I just want healthy baby.
I know Monday is over. However I had the worst day to date..... I got told I'm being over dramatic about my pregnancy and the baby. All because multiple doctors tothe baby has an organ cyst which can start to apply pressure to the heart and leave the baby with multiple complications so I should consider late term termination. If that didn't top the cake the doctor also told me that I have a chromosomal defect that is causing my past four miscarriages,one being full term, where my awesome lovely hates me body decides to throw blood clots into my placenta which cuts off the blood flow to the baby. I just want healthy baby.
@MRSCORKER My MIL annoys me on the reg, but that put the icing on the cake after the entire weekend!!! I don't really care if my own mother says stuff like that but her saying it....uggghhhhh.
It bothered me when my own mother said it but not on the same level. It was more like, "Hey, I'M your baby, this is MY baby". She giggled and got the hint. My MIL told me that last time I saw her that she so excited that she "gets to be a mother again". It's a miracle I'm not in prison after that one. I told her that's not how it works and walked away.
This is a great response - I'm totally using it next time my mom makes an 'our baby' comment. My husband thinks I'm overreacting, but it really gets my back up and honestly makes me uncomfortable.
@mommymaggieh@ibabyloveb87@MRSCORKER Your moms are weird. My mom calls it "her grandbaby", which is fine by me as it's a statement of fact. I don't know what I'd say if my mom or MIL said that to me. Probably something along the lines of "if you want the baby to be yours, then you carry it and you give birth to it."
@krzyriverMy husband has been watching me like a hawk, too! When I first found out I was pregnant, I came home to a fridge full of kale, avocados and tonic water. I mean, I'm glad he's into it, and wants a healthy baby, but I need my occasional Diet Coke and cookie to get through life. But, it's still this side eye I get from him every time I eat something sweet or have some caffeine - and then this not so subtle questioning, that's basically checking to make sure I'm not sneaking extra when he's not looking. Finally I just screamed at him, "Do you think I DON'T want to do what's best for the baby? That I DON'T want a healthy baby? Then leave me alone!" I am trying to be as healthy as possible, but there are some days french fries are all I can stomach. He's kind of left me alone since....
My "revenge" for lukewarm Mother's Day celebration is to go all out for Father's Day this year. A card/note with what a great dad he'll be, a small gift, a fun activity planned, morning sex, basically raising the bar really high for Mother's day next year.
Both our dads were in the "she's not my mother" camp and rarely helped with Mother's day celebrations. Sorry father-of-my-child, that attitude is not gonna fly.
I looked all over for this post and realized today's Tuesday... therefore it wasn't toward the top. Anyway, on to the bichfest. Last Monday I took my car to the shop to get fixed. It idles like an old time car at cedar point (for the midwesterners) or like a go kart for those that don't know cp and the check engine light was on. Anywho, picked it up on Tuesday after handing over $482. Pulled out of the parking lot and the problem was still there. It still idled like a diesel engine. So, I took it back Wednesday and said it wasn't fixed, so they said maybe my engine mounts were loose and put some sealer on them that expands to stiffen the mount. Still didn't fix thebprblem. Friday my engine light came back on took it back and said "fix it". Yesterday they called and said it needs to be taken to the dealership as its a cylinder that needs to be replaced and that's covered under my powetrain warranty. Off to the dealership it went. Today the dealership calls and says my intake manifold is cracked and that the original place is likely the culprit for that. So basically I paid them $500 to not only not fix it, but to make the damn problem worse!
I know Monday is over. However I had the worst day to date..... I got told I'm being over dramatic about my pregnancy and the baby. All because multiple doctors tothe baby has an organ cyst which can start to apply pressure to the heart and leave the baby with multiple complications so I should consider late term termination. If that didn't top the cake the doctor also told me that I have a chromosomal defect that is causing my past four miscarriages,one being full term, where my awesome lovely hates me body decides to throw blood clots into my placenta which cuts off the blood flow to the baby. I just want healthy baby.
I'm so sorry, that is absolutely devastating There's really no "good" answer. I know this isn't what you want to hear right now, but if this is a regular occurrence due to genetics (which won't change), have you considered adoption? There are hundreds of healthy babies in the US whose sole dream is having a loving family. It seems like maybe you guys could save each other. Best of luck to you no matter your choice.
Re: Monday Bitchfest (9 May)
Here's what just happened today: so sometimes I have weird reactions to BMs, especially if I haven't gone in awhile. About a half hour ago I finally went after almost a week. Well I got dizzy, sweaty, passed out, and hit my head pretty bad. This doesn't happen all the time, but it's definitely not the first time it's happened.
I called him once I got cleaned up and into bed. He sent my son up to give me an ice pack and now he's grilling me while I sit here with it on my skull. Like somehow it's my fault that this happened because I didn't eat enough or something. I wanna smack him so bad right now.
So I said I would put her and my twin sisters name in a hat and pick it that way just like she did with her first child. Apparently that's only acceptable when it's for her kid, not mine.
@krzyriver That's a vasovagal response. Bearing down can stimulate the vagus nerve, which can drop your HR/BP and cause the symptoms you experienced. Try more water, fiber, and a gentle stool softener so that doesn't happen in the future.
Baby GIRL born 9/16/201
BFP! EDD 8/1/2019 CP 4w2d
Here's the news article: https://www.crimeincharlotte.com/woman-leaves-children-alone-to-go-to-club/#.VzETBmQrI18
Fast forward to present time.... I saw a lady post this on FB last Sunday, on a mom group on FB I joined (mostly for the entertainment factor):
There were women responding to her post actually consoling her! She said her husband has a dancing addiction and she had to make sure he didn't cheat on her. This is what one dumbass said who keeps sticking up for her:
"What's with all the judgemental bitches? You did the right thing by making sure your man didn't cheat on you, because we all know men don't have any self-control especially when dancing. Good for you for ensuring the future of your family."
OMG. I couldn't.
My son has no business being in a car that is being driven by someone without a license. This kid doesn't even have a permit, they were just practicing for fun. Why did this have to happen when my kid was over? Why did this man think it was ok to put my kid in this car? And why did he think my son should even be there? A new driver doesn't need any distractions. I felt it was inappropriate and potentially unsafe. He had no business taking my kid, I don't care if it was an empty parking lot.
My husband is planning to sit down with the parents. I think they're too comfortable because they've known my son and his mom for almost 10+ years, but they don't know us and my husband has custody now, so new boundaries clearly need to be set up.
Baby GIRL born 9/16/201
BFP! EDD 8/1/2019 CP 4w2d
IS IT THAT HARD TO CALL A BABYSITTER?!
OH MY GOSH
And additionally @TurtleMomma yeah, the firestation thing... some people.. .I just don't even know what she could have thought. A TRASH COMPACTOR. Ugh.
Baby GIRL born 9/16/201
BFP! EDD 8/1/2019 CP 4w2d
Both our dads were in the "she's not my mother" camp and rarely helped with Mother's day celebrations. Sorry father-of-my-child, that attitude is not gonna fly.
DS#2 due 25 April 2019