October 2016 Moms

Monday Bitchfest (9 May)

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Re: Monday Bitchfest (9 May)

  • F47F47 member
    I've been in the car since 8. It's now 9. My commute should be 20 minutes. Now, I just got an alert that the highway is closed - alllll lanes - due to a wreck. So....I'll be in here another hour. 
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  • kmtz89kmtz89 member
    I woke up to my neighbor blasting his radio at 6am, when I should have still been sleeping. Now it's 4pm and I just need a nap
    *American in Tanzania, East Africa, since 2013
    DH - Tanzanian
  • My car was deemed totaled due to the floods in Houston just over a week ago. I can't go buy a new car just yet because we are in the middle of buying a home so they said dont even think about it until we close. I am borrowing my dad's 98' Truck that is having difficulty starting. I got the oil changed for him last week and the mechanics told me it was the starter. Dropped the truck off with him on Friday so he could fix it, but said he couldn't duplicate the problem so he didn't do anything to it. Got in the truck this morning (after running up and down 3 flights of stairs twice because of forgetting stuff) and the damn thing wouldn't start. Finally after 10 min of trying, it started. 

    Get to work late, in a pissy mood because of being late, tired, stressed, and the truck and a coworker decides to tell me what to do instead of ask me to do something (at 6:15 am) I snapped at him. I also got an assignment from our Cali branch at 6 pm on Friday after I had already left for the day... that is due at 10 am today. But my plate is already full. So naturally I'm bumping. Ugh. 
  • @mizzkbrat Your dad's truck doesn't happen to be a Silverado does it? If so, the late 90s models have a stupid antitheft security feature that will lock the starter if the key is a bit stripped out or anything because it reads it as the wrong key. In that case, replacing the key itself usually does the trick. If not, replacing the tumbler and rest of the ignition fixes the issue (about $60). 
  • @AllyTheKid YES IT IS!!!! Ah I will let him know of this issue. He seems to think I am cray cray over this so I recorded my trying to start it on video to prove I wasn't! LOL Thanks!!! 
  • These pregnancy headaches can F*CK OFF!! Sorry, but they SUCK!! I couldn't even function yesterday, no matter what I tried.
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  • @von1976 Ugh, mine too. I confronted him in the evening and started crying and he said "oh, I was going to tell you last night but you were already asleep." Meh. And even if he doesn't count the bun in the oven, which he SHOULD because being an oven is hard, I have been mommying our pets and hand feeding our sick guinea pig twice a day for months. Also, not one other person told me Happy Mother's Day, not a text, nothing. =(


  • F47F47 member
    sportiegrl1213 I am on the struggle bus with the headaches, too. My husband is laughing at me because I keep counting the hours one will go on before any sort of relief (that is totally random and not a result of Tylenol or anything). Yesterday I said, "Ugh, I've had this headache for 32 HOURS." 
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  • @F47 sorry you are battling them too! My friends keep telling me to try essential oils... I may just go there. Because caffeine and tylonal aren't helping. Hopefully we get some relief soon! 
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  • Kaessi said:
    My MIL who has not spoken to me in a month (since she threw a giant hissy fit/pity party that she wasn't the first person to find out the gender & then didn't even show up at the family gender reveal I had planned)...gave me a "peace offering" mother's day card. The card, in summary, said, "You hurt my feelings but I guess I'll get over it. But just get ready, because your child is going to disappoint you too." What a nice, thoughtful sentiment...
    OMG... That is not a peace offering and she knows it, it's a blatant attempt to shift the focus back to her and remind you that she's pissed. If I were you, I would continue to ignore her until she can give an actual apology. 


    Me: 32 & DH: 37
    Married: November 2014
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    BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
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  • Okay this going to more whining than bitching but still!

    Hubby last night was snoring so bad he would put a Harley to shame! I would get him to roll over easy enough but within 5 minutes he was back on his back snoring away.  When he finally found another position that was comfortable and he didn't snore, my cat decided it was time to get up and snuggle or play...ya 3:30 in the morning!! My door doesn't close properly anymore so even with a barricade, she is able to get the door open within 5 minutes and back in the room scratching the bed and meowing.  Finally get up this morning, to puke again (when did this start up again?! I thought it was done!!) go to work and start supporting a photography classroom where the teacher is away, only to find out the last class on Thursday left the cameras on so all the batteries are low or dead.  I found 2 chargers, so I have them going for the other classes today, but I have a line up of batteries that need to be plugged in.  Of course we have 3 different models of cameras with 3 different types of batteries so it's not like I can just swap them.   *sigh*  and I have to support a rugby game tonight so I won't be home until late.  I realllllly wanted to call in sick today lol
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  • Kaessi said:
    @MRSCORKER I think she considers that an apology & now expects one from me...and I'm sure is now pissed again because she didn't get one. However, I've much enjoyed the month of silent treatment and hope it continues! Life is much more peaceful these days.
    Yeah, I would not be offering an apology because there is nothing to apologize for. This is not her child and this is not about her. What does you H have to say about all of this?

    Me: 32 & DH: 37
    Married: November 2014
    TTC #1 Since: October 2015
    BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP
    BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
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  • @Kaessi I can't believe how ridiculously people can behave, especially when it's family!  Your MIL is acting like a child! I wouldn't have apologized either, and I almost feel like I'd have given the card right back to her.  None of this is about her, it's about you guys! I would keep on remaining distant until she confronts you.  Grrr...that makes me so annoyed! How selfish can a person be - and then give such a crappy apology!
  • von1976von1976 member
    LMNOBaby said:
    @Kaessi I can't believe how ridiculously people can behave, especially when it's family!  Your MIL is acting like a child! I wouldn't have apologized either, and I almost feel like I'd have given the card right back to her.  None of this is about her, it's about you guys! I would keep on remaining distant until she confronts you.  Grrr...that makes me so annoyed! How selfish can a person be - and then give such a crappy apology!
    OMG, that would be some brilliant passive-aggressiveness. Mail the card right back to her! HA! I love it.

                                                                                                           
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  • Can I bitch about what feels like a giant pimple forming INSIDE my ear? Like, not on the rim or even right on the entry way, but it's like all up (down) in there.  Woke me up in the middle of the night when I turned my head on the pillow and hit that side...and it's been sore and slightly throbby all morning.  It's giving me a headache and I swear it's the cause of the dizziness return (after what FINALLY felt like a reprieve this weekend). Now I'm wondering if it's not even a pimple, but some kind of ear ache...and I just so don't feel like dealing with that right now.
  • @mizzkbrat Happy to help! I struggled for months with mine before we figured it out. Also, if you get stranded anywhere and it won't start, there is a security bypass trick- turn the key to the accessories position for 10 minutes, after that time, turn the ignition completely back off for about 5 seconds then start it. It *should* start after that =)

    @kaessi That woman sounds like a real charmer =/
  • @mizzkbrat andplusalso don't try to turn over the ignition more than a few times when it won't start or you can damage the starter
  • Can I continue to complain about my in laws over the weekend? 

    We traveled a couple of hours to celebrate my BIL's graduation. All fine and dandy. But the entire weekend it was like we weren't really there. Friday night I got there before DH due to work travels. I picked up food on the way and the in laws insisted I go sit with them while they ate. I barely finished my food and they were up and ready to go...leaving me alone for a couple of hours until DH arrived. Saturday morning was no problem. But We didn't see anyone but BIL all Saturday afternoon. Then everyone was grumpy at dinner and was rushing to finish (why I don't know). When we got back to the hotel we asked them to come watch tv and hang out in the lounge with us, got no response. My back hurt after a couple of hours there, so DH and I decided to just go upstairs to our room. An hour later, FIL texts to see if we want to go hang out in their condo. Umm no, we waited for them for about 2 hours to hang out. Then Sunday we were rushed once again through breakfast and then they all left. But not before my MIL bent down to my belly to tell "HER sweet baby" goodbye. 
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    Married: May 2011
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    DS: 10/20/2016
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  • Can I continue to complain about my in laws over the weekend? 

    We traveled a couple of hours to celebrate my BIL's graduation. All fine and dandy. But the entire weekend it was like we weren't really there. Friday night I got there before DH due to work travels. I picked up food on the way and the in laws insisted I go sit with them while they ate. I barely finished my food and they were up and ready to go...leaving me alone for a couple of hours until DH arrived. Saturday morning was no problem. But We didn't see anyone but BIL all Saturday afternoon. Then everyone was grumpy at dinner and was rushing to finish (why I don't know). When we got back to the hotel we asked them to come watch tv and hang out in the lounge with us, got no response. My back hurt after a couple of hours there, so DH and I decided to just go upstairs to our room. An hour later, FIL texts to see if we want to go hang out in their condo. Umm no, we waited for them for about 2 hours to hang out. Then Sunday we were rushed once again through breakfast and then they all left. But not before my MIL bent down to my belly to tell "HER sweet baby" goodbye. 
    NOPE NOPE NOPE to the bolded. This makes my blood boil. To be fair, I can't stand my MIL so I might have biased opinions in this area but I CANNOT stand the whole "my baby" thing. I had no idea this was something that people said until I got pregnant. This baby (and yours) has one mother. The person who is GROWING IT INSIDE OF THEM. GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

    Me: 32 & DH: 37
    Married: November 2014
    TTC #1 Since: October 2015
    BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP
    BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
    IT'S A BOY!!!!
    DS Born 10/16/16

  • @MRSCORKER My MIL annoys me on the reg, but that put the icing on the cake after the entire weekend!!! I don't really care if my own mother says stuff like that but her saying it....uggghhhhh. 
    Me:33
    DH: 34
    Married: May 2011
    TTC #1: May 2015
    DS: 10/20/2016
    TTC #2: June 2019
    #2 EDD: 2/20/2020
  • smmatt08smmatt08 member
    edited May 2016
    Does anyone else find it rude when family/friends ask (in person) if you're showing or blatantly looks at your stomach? If I want to flaunt the bump, I will. And if I want to wear an outfit that hides it, I will. 
  • @MRSCORKER My MIL annoys me on the reg, but that put the icing on the cake after the entire weekend!!! I don't really care if my own mother says stuff like that but her saying it....uggghhhhh. 
    It bothered me when my own mother said it but not on the same level. It was more like, "Hey, I'M your baby, this is MY baby". She giggled and got the hint. My MIL told me that last time I saw her that she so excited that she "gets to be a mother again". It's a miracle I'm not in prison after that one. I told her that's not how it works and walked away. 

    Me: 32 & DH: 37
    Married: November 2014
    TTC #1 Since: October 2015
    BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP
    BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
    IT'S A BOY!!!!
    DS Born 10/16/16

  • @MRSCORKER snxnxnjsje s! Everytime I read what your MIL said I want to claw my own eyes out! She sounds so much like my bio-mother (who I can't stand) and I feel so ragey for you!
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  • I was warned about all the unsolicited advice I would get.... but the same people who warned me about the unsolicited advice are ALSO giving me unsolicited advice... "oh circumcision----it's just so unnecessary."  "i hope you don't spank your child, research proves....."  "no, drinking 4oz of wine is totally not okay, actually NO amount is okay....even if you just do it once in your entire pregnancy"  "well even if the book says it's okay to eat sushi, would you want to risk it still?"  

    Hold your horses ladies!  I haven't said shit and already so many contradictions!  
  • There was an incident a few months back in my city where a newborn (placenta and umbilical cord still attached) was found (alive) in a trash compactor in an apartment complex. It wasn't until a week ago that they found the mother. She's 18, "her parents didn't know she was pregnant" and "got scared" and dumped the baby. People on my local community boards keep making excuses for her and defending her. I'm sorry but no. She dumped her NEWBORN BABY in a TRASH COMPACTOR. Zero sympathy from me. 

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  • kmtz89kmtz89 member
    There was an incident a few months back in my city where a newborn (placenta and umbilical cord still attached) was found (alive) in a trash compactor in an apartment complex. It wasn't until a week ago that they found the mother. She's 18, "her parents didn't know she was pregnant" and "got scared" and dumped the baby. People on my local community boards keep making excuses for her and defending her. I'm sorry but no. She dumped her NEWBORN BABY in a TRASH COMPACTOR. Zero sympathy from me. 
    UGH.
    This is like my daily reality here. Though obviously women in a developing country are much more desperate/feel out of options than those in the west. The local staff I work with ask me all the time if there are women who "throw away" their babies in america and it's so hard for them to grasp that there are. 
    *American in Tanzania, East Africa, since 2013
    DH - Tanzanian
  • @TurtleMomma @kmolleltz This hurt my heart big time... I'll be over at the "why my pregnant self is crying" thread... ;(
  • I'm complaining AGAIN about the customer that came after we were closed and wanted service. My managers "talked" with myself and the other coworker that was there. It was seriously ridiculous. 

    Also can Navient just get their shit together. I've been going back and forth with them about one paper that the mortgage company needs to close. We close in 2 days and I still don't have that paper that I requested last week! I could stab someone. 

    Oh and it's Monday. Ugh!!!
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    The damnest thing is that there is a manned fire station 200 yards from where the baby was dropped. In Washington state that is a safe haven drop spot, no questions asked. 

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  • @Kaessi Oh my goshhh. MILs.... hard to deal with sometimes. Long story, but at one point mine actually said, "So, are you going to apologize now because I'm ready."   WTF it my jaw dropped onto the floor. 

    Anyways, I gotta say that another bitch fest of mine is a certain someone who drops in on the name board......and argues.....a lot............................and isn't even supposed to be there. I'll leave it at that.
  • There was an incident a few months back in my city where a newborn (placenta and umbilical cord still attached) was found (alive) in a trash compactor in an apartment complex. It wasn't until a week ago that they found the mother. She's 18, "her parents didn't know she was pregnant" and "got scared" and dumped the baby. People on my local community boards keep making excuses for her and defending her. I'm sorry but no. She dumped her NEWBORN BABY in a TRASH COMPACTOR. Zero sympathy from me. 
    We talked about this a few months ago (I can't for the life of me remember what thread) but it prompted me to look, and every state has some kind of Safe Haven law that allows overwhelmed and scared mothers to drop off their child to a designated location (or locations, usually a hospital, fire station, etc...) no questions asked. There's even a National Safe Haven Alliance to help with these laws. I'm with you @TurtleMomma, zero sympathy.
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  • This motha effing cold!! Every time I cough, sneeze, or blow my nose I pee a little!! I'm OVER IT!! ALL OF IT!! It's keeping me up at night between the coughing and body aches I'm about to seriously have a melt down. I went to the doctor he said I had a cold and sent me on my way. No labs no nothing but a "im sorry your pregnant you can't take anything. Good luck!"What a dick! 
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