DH and I are very close to our parents and siblings and have no issues trusting them with the secret.
But we have had a loss before and chemical pregnancies.
I'm DYING to tell them and thinking about doing it tomorrow (4w4d) since we will be with them in person but I don't want to be too hasty.
When are you guys sharing with your closest loved ones??
Re: When will you tell immediate family?
We had a loss last year, and part of me does hesitate to say anything too early, I also work with my mom and we're entering a high-stress part of the year during mid-late May, so I do want her to know before then, so she can help ensure I don't overdo things....
BFP: 1/31/15; MMC: 3/31/15
BFP: 4/26/16; Baby Girl Born: 1/3/17
BFP: 10/1/21; EDD: 6/10/22
BFP 04/25/2016, EDD 01/01/2017
We're waiting until Mother's Day. Just went to get my beta blood test today and will get the results from that on Friday morning, so I wanted to at least have it confirmed by a doctor first.
I had a loss last year also at ~10 weeks and hadn't yet told my mom and it was awful having to share that news with her, so I want to let family know sooner this time because it's nice having the emotional support regardless of what happens.
I ordered a couple of these really neat books for both my mom and OH's mom. They have questions in them that they answer about their lives, their childhoods, their families, etc... and then when LO is old enough, they're able to give the books back to him/her.
That is an awesome book. I wanted to do that with my grandma but forgot about it. I will have to send her one for Mother's Day!
My my brother lives on the other side of the country but I'm glad we are still close relationship-wise. We've been through a lot of crap thanks to my parents so I think that's what bonded us despite being almost 6 years apart.
BFP 04/25/2016, EDD 01/01/2017
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37 yr old mama with 4yr old DD and 2 yr old DS
*TW*
TWIN LOSS 7.2.15
BFP 9.7.15 CP
BFP 12.31.15 MC 2.28.16
BFP 10.14.17 CP
BFP 3.10.18 D&C 4.13.18
My husband is leaning towards telling everyone at 12 weeks. If I can keep quiet that long, we'll probably tell both families on Father's Day.
Met 11/1/2013
Engaged 10/14/2014
Married 10/14/2015
BFP 04/24/2016, EDD 1/4/2017
Sawyer Ryanne due Jan 1, 2017
BFP: 4.29.2016 // EDD: 1.2.2017 (IT'S A BOY!) Born 12/26/16
BFP: 2.10.19 // and MC on 3.19.19
BFP: 7.9.19 // EDD 3.16.20
With OH's parents, I was thinking it would be funny to have them over for dinner and have the menu be nothing but "baby" foods (baby carrots, baby back ribs, babybel cheese wheel, etc) and see if they figure it out on their own. I totally stole that idea from an episode of Full House but I still think it's awesome.
My husband and I told my mom on Friday and she was excited for 5 minutes before jumping into full on OB nurse mode. My husband had to sit there and smile while we spoke nurse to each other. She also gave him a list of things to remind me to do since I can be a noncompliant patient.
We've decided that we're telling the rest of the family for sure on Father's Day so that we can tell lots of family at the same time. We are thinking of getting a Warriors onesie and a Giants onesie for my dad and his dad. Just before they open them, we want to tell them that it's a two-part gift and the second part of the gift is on back order until January. Then hopefully they'll get it when they open the onesie.
I'm in no rush to tell them because I'm being resentful (SO not like me, maybe I can blame the hormones?) SIL must have caught on to something while the whole family was eating a big dinner together (before we told ANYONE) and put me on the spot asking if I was preg in front of everyone. But she wasn't even excited about it, she acted super annoyed like it was a hassle instead of a good thing, and like if I was then I was being the rude one for not answering her. I was so mad.
Part of me give no craps when they find out b/c she's obviously not excited and isn't that the point - to share the JOY?? And the other part of me feels like it isn't fair and they should know if the rest of the family does.
My MIL is retiring soon so we're getting her a card that says something along the lines of "We think we found a new job for you...", then a onesie that says "I'm Grandma's Cup of Tea".
We got another onesie for my mom that says "My Grandma is a Hoot" with an owl on it. Still trying to think of the perfect thing to write in the card, but it's got to be something about her lovable, corny humor
We'll wait until father's day after my dad knows to tell work/friends. My close girlfriends and I do a wine night each month, so I think I'll have to tell them in a couple of weeks! Hopefully they can contain their excitement and keep the secret!
I'm so close to my mom and it has been SO hard not telling her this past week because I talk to her like twice a day. We bought a card that says "Only the best moms" on the front and "Get promoted to Grandmas. Happy Mother's Day!" We're giving it to her Friday and going to try and video tape it. After all of our family knows, then we'll tell the rest of our friends and then work.
BFP: 4.29.2016 // EDD: 1.2.2017 (IT'S A BOY!) Born 12/26/16
BFP: 2.10.19 // and MC on 3.19.19
BFP: 7.9.19 // EDD 3.16.20
We will tell hubby's parents in 3 weeks from now (after ultrasound).
Probably won't share with Facebook/everyone else until after 12 week mark (our first baby, so I'm petrified that something will happen...)
We made them each a mug (some say Uncle, or Uncle again... some say Nana or Grandpa and my sister's says "The best sisters get promoted to aunt") Our baby will be the first in my family, but the third in my DH's so they are all a little different.
All that being said, we're so excited that I'm sure one of us will spill the beans long before then!