Beer

laurenlalap · April 2016

God, how I miss it.....

I don't want to start a raging debate here, but who else has a sip or two of their partners drink a few times a week?

I've been in the habit of having a sip or two of my husband's drink a few times per week, but now he's starting Googling and doesn't want me to have ANY.

Is anyone else enjoying the occasional sip (or drink), or am I alone in my guilty pleasure?

shevaCC · April 2016

I dislike beer but last pregnancy I really felt like wine a few times so I had a small glass. This time I haven't felt like it but if I do later on I'll probably partake.

monkey41 · April 2016

I've tasted my husband's beer twice during this pregnancy so far. I don't allow myself more than a small taste.

g8rmama_16 · April 2016

If you haven't read it yet, I recommend reading Expecting Better. It may alleviate some of that guilt.

Amyboxer · April 2016

I had a glass of wine with dinner the other day. It took me 2 hrs to finish it as I was trying to savor it. But I had the occasional glass of wine last time and I think I'll do the same again now. A few sips a week of beer is probably fine IMO.

mrsjlang · April 2016

Personally, as long as I'm not doing it every day and as long as its tiny amounts, I don't see where it's an issue. You're tasting, not getting hammered.

If we followed every single rule I've seen, we would have to live in a bubble for the next few months and not eat.

msu_gal · April 2016

I haven't had any "regular" beer, but I have had a non-alcoholic one once in a while to satisfy the craving. It also helped me not have to fake something with friends that would have immediately noticed if I wasn't drinking. Put a koozie on a non-alcoholic beer and nobody has a clue

jarethinafrock · April 2016

I have had the occasional sip of wine/beer and haven't felt guilty in the slightest. Of course i don't overindulge, especially being in the 1st trimester. I did the same thing my last pregnancy and my daughter came out fine. And in 3 weeks, I'm heading to France to visit family and I can assure you I will be having a bit of wine then.

DunkinDecaf · April 2016

Try O'Douls Amber. For nonalcoholic beer it's really good.

AdmiralKitty · April 2016

I had a 4oz pour of a pineapple ipa yesterday. It took me over an hour to drink it intermittently with a huge glass of water and it was glorious. I don't feel bad in the slightest.

MrsBinPA · April 2016

DH has made himself cocktails and wanted me to taste them a couple of times. I usually just kind of touch it to my lips and then lick them. LOL. I did have 1 sip of wine he wanted me to taste. It didn't taste good to me which is like unheard of, however it actually helped me miss it less.

m6agua · April 2016

DH made a bloddy mary the other day. I had a sip of his and had him make me a virgin one. While it was good, it tastes way better with vodka.

MrsBinPA · April 2016

@m6agua DH has been making himself blood mary's on Sundays. I usually don't want one. Since being KU I LOVE having a virgin one. They taste SOOOo good to me. DH makes his own special elixir to start them. It's the bomb.

hFab14 · April 2016

For the most part I've gone cold turkey but every now and then I try H's drink too. Just enough to remind me how much I miss it.

Keeping a mental note of what I want most come November. A nice heavy stout is currently leading the wish list (planning ahead for November cold weather).

FiancB · April 2016

I've had the tiniest taste of beer, not even a sip really. I have pretty black-and-white thinking here, which is not normally the way I work, but FAS works on a scale and is really ugly. Mild FAS is hard to detect and can closely resemble ADHD, which I have, so any chance I can take to cut down on those kinds of symptoms, I will take. I wouldn't dream of having a serving of anything, especially during first tri. Not worth it. There's some rules that I think are silly and over the top but this isn't one of them. I wouldn't put it in baby's bottle so I'm not going to drink it either.

I don't think anyone in this thread is over the top but eventually someone will come out and say I DRINK EVERY DAY, HERITAGE, MY AUNT DID IT AND IT WAS FINE, BLAHBLAHBLAH, SO WHAT so I'm just putting that out there now.

ShallowSeas · April 2016

All alcohol looks good to me, but the second I smell it I'm instantly grossed out, so no sips over here, although if it ever does start smelling good to me I'm not opposed to a sip or two of H's if he lets me.

kms456 · April 2016

I 2nd Odoul's Amber. Gets the job done.

Thewizardofrhythm · April 2016

I have had a couple of glasses of wine. Not in one sitting, one at a time.

PurpleBrunette · April 2016

I've been having the occasional sip. This weekend my husband bought his grandmother a 6 pack of my favorite Angry Orchard Cider and I seriously considered nursing one with him most likely killing the last half. But, alas, his grandmother is rather judgmental of me and I had already had two non-pregnancy related lectures from her so I decided as much as I love the Cider, it wasn't worth it.

whaat · April 2016

I take sips of his for sure. One or two sips every few days isn't going to kill anyone. We probably absorb more alcohol just using mouthwash.

MissAmeliaPond · April 2016

SIL banned her husband from drinking during her entire pregnancy. She said, If I can't drink, you can't drink. Is anyone else doing this?

TBH, for my pregnancy, my DH is being given a 1 beer per week allowance at home, and 4 beer or wine max for work trips (allotted to dinners/events at his discretion). I can't say I feel bad, because he does need to lose 10 or 15 lbs anyway...

As for me, I think I may have had a sip or two of something before I hit 5 weeks, but after that I've not had a sip of anything. First of all, I don't process alcohol like "normal" humans. I have "Asian Glow" which, very simplistically, means I'm missing an enzyme to properly break down alcohol, and ingestion of alcohol causes my entire body to turn red (not just my face - I have a severe reaction), head aches, heart pounding (tachycardia), my whole body gets really warm/hot. On top of this, I read a study that said once mom starts sharing a blood supply with baby, alcohol stays in baby's body twice as long as it stays in mom's body. I don't need to be doing this to myself or baby (especially if s/he is inheriting the asian glow). I quit drinking after my loss at new year's, and I can't say I miss alcohol at all. I may never drink again, for that matter. My dad quit drinking around age 35 because the effects we have are so severe, and I don't blame him. It's not worth it. One benefit from having the asian glow, is that I there is no chance I will ever become an alcoholic.

PS- Like @FiancB, I'm not trying to criticize what anyone else is sipping on. Just sharing my experience.

ShallowSeas · April 2016

@MissAmeliaPond
I haven't restricted the amount of beer H can have. He doesn't drink much any way, usually just when we go out to eat. Once in awhile he'll buy a six pack for home. He has asked if it bothers me and told me that if it started to bother me to let him know and he would gladly not drink around me. I hope it doesn't get to that point but who knows. As of now I want nothing to do with alcohol.

MissAmeliaPond · April 2016

@ShallowSeas That's great that your H is willing to be so supportive! We were drinking A LOT before my loss at New Year's. It might have been because of the holidays, but we were definitely drinking almost every day, and it was just too much. Had to put a lid on that!

Knottie1458416769 · April 2016

I don't believe in putting restrictions on DH's diet/lifestyle just because I can't have any. He should be able to enjoy for all 3 of us

I miss tuna tartare and champagne and soy products, but I even cook separately for him if that will brighten his day.

ShallowSeas · April 2016

@MissAmeliaPond
yeah I don't blame you on that! I think if H was drinking every day I would probably say something. I'm sure when you're not drinking you notice how much someone who is drinking is really drinking. That was a confusing sentence to type, hopefully it makes sense!

MissAmeliaPond · April 2016

@ShallowSeas We used to only drink on weekends (Fri, Sat, Sun) and the occasional Thursday, but all of a sudden it turned into drinks every night. I don't even know how that happened. Definitely noticed weight gain in both of us at that point. I think he feels healthier drinking less, too.

comealongponds · April 2016

The last drink I had was a glass of rosé the day before I turned my first test. Haven't sipped anything since because I really don't miss it (DH likes beer and I *hate* it so there's no temptation there anyways)! DH has put a limit on himself because he wants to get in better shape before the babies come, and because he's been having some reflux issues that are exacerbated by alcohol.

I'm sure at the cottage through the summer I'll be making myself virgin daiquiris/Caesars/margaritas but I don't care enough about alcohol to bother having a few sips.

DunkinDecaf · April 2016

My only restriction on DH's alcohol consumption during my pregnancy is that he drink his whiskey somewhere that I can't smell it!

Justpeachier13 · April 2016

Sips? Absolutely! And I can't wait to have a glass of wine or champs. Bloody Mary sounds good. I don't think I feel comfortable drinking vodka, though.

shamrocandroll · April 2016

I honestly can't handle the smell of beer right now (and I LOVE beer), so I haven't missed it. I've even had to boot DH out of the bedroom a handful of times because he had a beer or two and I could smell it on him.

I did have a sip of my friend's Guinness at about 6 weeks because she asked me if it tasted flat (I'm considered the beer connoisseur of the group) and it would have been suspicious if I was like " No! I can't!" I was drinking mocktails the rest of the night.

I miss wine, and I know people go back and forth on that because the antioxidants are very beneficial, but I'm choosing not to risk it, so I'm just avoiding it completely. I MIGHT have a sip of champagne for the toast at a wedding I'm going to next month, but I won't do anything more than tiny sips that probably can't even be considered actual sips, and very occasionally.

Kimmykins143 · April 2016

So I guess I'm the odd one here, but I haven't had a sip. I'm usually a pretty big rule follower...and it's one thing that I feel like I can control with this pregnancy! That being said, I have no problem with others doing it...and research shows that little bits don't cause harm! I had a few sips of my husbands beer/wine during my 3rd tri last time, and I may do that again! I also wouldn't tell him what he can/cannot drink, but I have exiled tuna from our house!

jstinkz · April 2016

I would never put a restriction on DH. That to me seems very...I don't even know the word I'm looking for. I feel like I have so much to say about this, but not sure if I can compose it properly right now. Let's just say DH is an adult and I will treat him like one.

LikeICantEven · April 2016

I actually am not a drinker, it just never got to be my thing. I'll enjoy a glass of wine a couple times a year, couple beers every summer but it's not something I endeavor for. I am only posting here because for some reason, when I hit 6 months pregnant with my son I was DYING for a glass of white wine. It was the oddest thing. I would daydream about it. Cravings are odd. I don't see the harm in a few sips, really.

MollySm · April 2016

I have tasted a tiny sip of a beer H was trying. Later in pregnancy I will likely have a half glass here or there, but not in the first trimester.

H did cut down on drinking for this pregnancy. But we are big drinkers, so it's a big lifestyle change for me. We agreed on one drink is always fine, but no more than that unless we are out or at a special event or something. He didn't make any changes with my first two pregnancies, but this will be my last pregnancy if all goes well, and before it happened I talked about how sad I was going to be to be done. He's being extra careful to show me he cares I think.

Care84 · April 2016

My doc says a really small glass once a week or so is fine. Haven't missed it so far though so haven't had any, but maybe later on in the 2nd I'll have a tiny bit. I feel like it's a slippery slope though for sure! Wouldn't want to risk more than a few sips I think.

doraleigh35 · April 2016

I haven't had any alcohol (even sips) since my BFP. I'm doing fine without it so far. I'm sure it will be harder this summer during football and patio season, but I think I'll be good with my virgin drinks. I may have a glass or two of wine in the future, but I haven't had any desire to so far.

I am definitely not restricting H's alcohol consumption. He's an adult. I don't have a problem if he wants to drink. He mostly drinks socially anyway. I'm not going to prevent him from eating sushi, soft cheeses or deli meat either.

MissAmeliaPond · April 2016

My DH hasn't complained once about the lower alcohol limits. He also has been suffering from acid reflux and thinks he's getting an ulcer, so like another poster said, the drinking less has actually been really good for him. I think he would have an actual problem if he couldn't eat the things I can't eat. He still eats sushi all the time, orders fried eggs with runny yolks, steals my soft boiled eggs when we get ramen (real, fancy Japanese ramen, not Top Ramen), sandwiches, and everything else. I really miss eggs with runny yolks...

hFab14 · April 2016

Y'all I reached a real low point this week. Bought black cherry juice and put it in a wine glass. If you squint and dim the lights it can pass for wine.

shevaCC · April 2016

I haven't restricted DH from drinking, but we're not big drinkers anyway. I have asked him to please go eat his flavored chips somewhere else since they were making my stomach turn. I also haven't let him cook bacon for the last month since he's horrible about leaving messes in the kitchen for several days and I find the smell overpowering/nauseating. With my first pregnancy, he cooked bacon and left the greasy smelly pan out overnight. I woke up MOTN and had to run to the bathroom gagging. The next morning I left and refused to come home until he cleaned up.

chloe97 · April 2016

I haven't put DH on any restrictions, but he stopped drinking around me for the most part. I guess after I go to bed at night at 8:30 (you ladies know what I'm talking about), he may pour himself a glass of whiskey, but I think he feels back drinking around me.

As for my drinking- I had 2-3 glasses of wine the day I was told I was miscarrying at 6 weeks. I feel really bad about that, but my dr is not too concerned. Assuming I can make it to the 3rd trimester, I'm going to be much more relaxed then. I will probably have a glass of champagne in our anniversary (August) and maybe a glass of wine here or there. No more than one a week. I work on FASD as one of my work issues and am intimately familiar with the AAP recommendations. Having it in my face all the time makes it hard for me to ignore, even if I do know the reccommendations are overly cautious.

Side note- my aunt thought she had had a MC and ended up just losing a twin. She didn't find out that she was still actually pregnant until well into her 2nd trimester. She always felt guilty for "pickling" my cousin because she drank so much those months after she thought she'd miscarried. He's always had major ADHD and impulse control issues and as time went on, it became clear that he has FASD. She always felt terrible about it and I've always tried to remember her story every time I hear another story about someone who drank during pregnancy and said their kid was fine. Sure it's possible, but not worth the risk to me!

juliehollz13 · April 2016

Haven't restricted DH at all. I don't feel comfortable drinking liquor at this point but I foresee myself breaking down and having a small margarita or pina colada sometime this summer. I have had sips of wine but that's about it. I enjoyed the book Expecting Better and don't feel it condones drinking, just gives you actual data and facts vs. scare tactics. But as of right now i am not comfortable having an actual drink, and even a sip of wine gives me real bad heartburn. I DO like non-alcoholic and ginger beer! It's the bomb!

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