I am a big wine fan and we live very near a famous wine -producing region and spend a lot of the summer there. Currently, I'm super not interested in wine, which I'm happy about. In the second and third trimester, though, if I want a taste or more, I'm having one. We're attending a friend's vineyard's release party this weekend, and that will likely be a challenge. (It's rose season in Nor Cal!) I figure I can always taste and spit if I'm dying to know what the new releases taste like.
I definitely don't believe in putting any sort of restriction on my husband. He is an adult! If anything, I want him to enjoy it for two now because I can't. He doesn't restrict me or comment about what I'm doing (I eat soft cooked eggs at home all the time). My thinking is that we're about to endure a massive lifestyle change come November... no reason to self-impose strict restrictions now. Plus, he's doing EVERYTHING at home after about 7:30pm, dude deserves some release!
I'm laughing at the idea of "restricting DH" and "setting limits" on his alcohol consumption due to my pregnancy. He's a 37 yo man. If anything, I'm like "lucky bastard- you'll have a designated driver all summer." He's not carrying a fetus.
As for me, I've had several half glasses of wine and beer and I'll continue to, on an occasional basis. For my previous pregnancies, I lived outside the U.S., and let's just say that the attitude toward alcohol while pregnant is much more relaxed in other places. And in general, you aren't made to feel like a crystal vase that's going to shatter at any moment.
Alcohol is just one of those things that each person has to decide for herself what she's comfortable with.
Cheers!
DX PCOS Jan 2012 IUI #1 Feb 2012= DS1 born 11/2012 Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle)=DS2 born 9/2014 Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle again)= EDD 11/2016
Now I feel like the serious drinker of the group! No one else has had a few drinks?! For the record, I'm also still eating sushi and had poached eggs for breakfast last weekend and runny egg in my Ramen for dinner last night.
Now I feel like the serious drinker of the group! No one else has had a few drinks?! For the record, I'm also still eating sushi and had poached eggs for breakfast last weekend and runny egg in my Ramen for dinner last night.
Read the PP's- lots of us have. I almost didn't open the thread b/c I assumed it would be a lot of railing against alcohol but it doesn't appear that O16 has banned alcohol from their vocabulary, on the whole.
DX PCOS Jan 2012 IUI #1 Feb 2012= DS1 born 11/2012 Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle)=DS2 born 9/2014 Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle again)= EDD 11/2016
No, I don't feel comfortable drinking alcohol at all this time. I don't even drink two nonalcoholic beers in one day anymore. During my last pregnancy I had one drink about once a month once I was out of the first tri. The new report from the CDC about FAS spectrum disorders made me feel like there's enough evidence now that even a little isn't safe. I'm pretty bummed about it. I'd love a guiness right now.
No, I don't feel comfortable drinking alcohol at all this time. I don't even drink two nonalcoholic beers in one day anymore. During my last pregnancy I had one drink about once a month once I was out of the first tri. The new report from the CDC about FAS spectrum disorders made me feel like there's enough evidence now that even a little isn't safe. I'm pretty bummed about it. I'd love a guiness right now.
Oh gosh don't get us started on the CDC guidelines. That shit was (and still is) cray! No woman of childbearing age should ever drink?
Im on board with the AAP guidelines, but let me just tell you that there was no pediatrician in that room when that statement was written who honestly thinks that 6 glasses of wine spread out throughout your whole pregnancy is going to dramatically fuck up your child. They just can't definitively tell you without a doubt that it won't. There's no new evidence one way or the other. So until then, they will always err on the side of caution.
No, I don't feel comfortable drinking alcohol at all this time. I don't even drink two nonalcoholic beers in one day anymore. During my last pregnancy I had one drink about once a month once I was out of the first tri. The new report from the CDC about FAS spectrum disorders made me feel like there's enough evidence now that even a little isn't safe. I'm pretty bummed about it. I'd love a guiness right now.
Oh gosh don't get us started on the CDC guidelines. That shit was (and still is) cray! No woman of childbearing age should ever drink?
Im on board with the AAP guidelines, but let me just tell you that there was no pediatrician in that room when that statement was written who honestly thinks that 6 glasses of wine spread out throughout your whole pregnancy is going to dramatically fuck up your child. They just can't definitively tell you without a doubt that it won't. There's no new evidence one way or the other. So until then, they will always err on the side of caution.
I totally agree that their tone was bananas offensive. They basically implied that all women between 12 and 45 are just potential baby carriers. Still, it made me feel like it's not worth the risk. It would make me too nervous to enjoy it anyway.
No, I don't feel comfortable drinking alcohol at all this time. I don't even drink two nonalcoholic beers in one day anymore. During my last pregnancy I had one drink about once a month once I was out of the first tri. The new report from the CDC about FAS spectrum disorders made me feel like there's enough evidence now that even a little isn't safe. I'm pretty bummed about it. I'd love a guiness right now.
Oh gosh don't get us started on the CDC guidelines. That shit was (and still is) cray! No woman of childbearing age should ever drink?
Im on board with the AAP guidelines, but let me just tell you that there was no pediatrician in that room when that statement was written who honestly thinks that 6 glasses of wine spread out throughout your whole pregnancy is going to dramatically fuck up your child. They just can't definitively tell you without a doubt that it won't. There's no new evidence one way or the other. So until then, they will always err on the side of caution.
The day that was published, was anyone else's FB feed full of really irritated women? Erring on the side of extreme caution seems to mostly apply to the "weaker sex"...
DX PCOS Jan 2012 IUI #1 Feb 2012= DS1 born 11/2012 Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle)=DS2 born 9/2014 Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle again)= EDD 11/2016
I have no issue with DH continuing to enjoy cocktails at home or when we're out. He loves barrel aging & craft cocktails. It's like a hobby of his. I'm his favorite mixologist & mix his drinks for him most of the time. He says they taste better when I do it. He's an adult. He can make his own choices. It is funny that he said he thought he would drink much less because I was not drinking with him, but he hasn't cut way back like he expected he would. I do make myself seltzer mocktails every night so maybe he still feels like I am partaking.
@Little+Tiny You're not even legal to drink when you're NOT pregnant! :-P
The struggle is so real when you're used to nearly 10 years of being able to come home after a really rough day at work and unwind with a glass of red wine. I think I'm actually relieved to be pregnant in the warmer season. I feel like there are so many more refreshing alternatives to drinking alcohol (lemonade, virgin frozen drinks, etc.) than in the winter. I love me some red wine in front of the fire on a chilly winter night! *Sigh*
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Me: 35 | H: 40 Married Sept. 2013 DS1: Nov 11, 2016 MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d) CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d) BFP! 8/24/19 DS2: May 10, 2020
I haven't had any drinks yet because the thought of them makes my stomach twirl. But when the time comes I'll definitely be having wine here and there.
Also, like some of the ladies here I still eat sushi, deli meat, hot dogs etc. What is actually a bigger scare is fruit, but they don't tell you not to eat fruit.
@MollySm it's crazy. Last pregnancy I didn't really restrict any food either, but I did freak out when our grocery store had a recall on peaches and plums for listeria. They reimburse me for the plums and peaches I had bought the last 4 weeks without a receipt. I just told them we buy typically 5 of each a week.
I haven't put DH on restriction. If he wants to enjoy a beer or two- go for it! I am a HUGE wino fan. I grew up in an Italian household where wine was/is always on the table. I also love a good beer but I have had ZERO desire to drink. Same thing with coffee the smell gets to me instantly and I can't stomach it. I have a feeling once summer hits and were bbqing I'll probably have a sip or two of some good beer. Two days before I got my positive I celebrated my birthday. I easily had 4-5 glasses of wine. I obviously freaked out to my doctor about it and he put my mind at ease that 1. That early won't affect the baby since it wasn't sharing my blood. 2. A small glass of wine once a week is FINE.
Me: 29
DH: 30
Happily Ever After: 05-15-2015 TTC since June 2015
Speaking of listeria. I live in Texas, home of Blue Bell ice cream. They recently had this huge listeria recall and BB was pulled from shelves for weeeeeks. (Did that make national news? It made "national" news in Texas ) It's back on the shelves now and I can't imagine a pregnancy devoid of Blue Bell (unfathomable!) but it still makes me a little nervous.
DX PCOS Jan 2012 IUI #1 Feb 2012= DS1 born 11/2012 Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle)=DS2 born 9/2014 Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle again)= EDD 11/2016
@muybueno yup it made national news, at least I heard about it here in NY!
Regarding alcohol - I'm not a big drinker and never have been so I haven't had any alcohol and I'm not planning on it. Before getting pregnant I would have maybe 1 glass a wine a week if we went out to dinner. Before starting IVF I had a bit more, probably because I was a bit depressed but I stopped before stims. Drinking doesn't really appeal to me and I don't see a reason to start drinking now when I'm not supposed to. The only thing I'll miss a little bit this summer are Del's Summer Shandys (not sure if they have these outside of the Northeast.
Speaking of listeria. I live in Texas, home of Blue Bell ice cream. They recently had this huge listeria recall and BB was pulled from shelves for weeeeeks. (Did that make national news? It made "national" news in Texas ) It's back on the shelves now and I can't imagine a pregnancy devoid of Blue Bell (unfathomable!) but it still makes me a little nervous.
Noooooo, for real? I lived in San Antonio for about 6 months in 2002. I loved their Blue Bell ice cream and was so sad to move away from it. I found it in New Orleans on vacay and gorged a couple years ago.
I still think about that damn ice cream 14 years later.
I haven't had a drink. Neither has DH. Not because my restriction. He said if I agreed to a kid he would be sober right along with me. His idea. Not mine. Can you tell how bad he wanted a baby?
Now I feel like the serious drinker of the group! No one else has had a few drinks?! For the record, I'm also still eating sushi and had poached eggs for breakfast last weekend and runny egg in my Ramen for dinner last night.
My DH is the one putting the food restrictions on me, just to be clear, so I think his drink limit is a more than fair trade. I would be totally cool with having eggs benedict or over easy from restaurants, my soft boiled egg in my ramen, and even Subway sandwiches if it were up to me. DH won't allow it. I think once you've had a loss, maybe you're a little more paranoid about everything. My loss affected DH more than he's willing to admit - he's still having trouble getting excited about this pregnancy.
FWIW my parents bought regular mixed nuts from Costco, and my dad got horrific food poisoning from them (this was just a couple of weeks ago). I don't know if that product was recalled and should've been pulled from the shelves or not, but it makes me feel like I can't trust any food anymore.
@grannysmith912 if you're bored, I found this thread on that very topic. I haven't gotten very far yet, but it's 6 pages, so I'm guessing it gets good.
@MissAmeliaPond Fascinating!! I have no real opinions on the topic (or desire to participate myself), but it's interesting to read what people have to say.
@grannysmith912 if you're bored, I found this thread on that very topic. I haven't gotten very far yet, but it's 6 pages, so I'm guessing it gets good.
I've had mini sips here and there... really just enough to wet my tongue. I'm super paranoid about doing anything that could harm our bean, but I do miss my vino and stouts. Our group of friends is heavy in the hang out at wineries and breweries scene, so I definitely miss it on the weekends. I occasionally tell hubs what he's in the mood to drink.
That said... I've found that POM is a great substitute for red wine, ginger ale and oj tastes amazingly like a mimosa and ginger beer with lime is a nice sub for mixed drinks. Oh, and it helps if they're in the appropriate glassware.
@grannysmith912 if you're bored, I found this thread on that very topic. I haven't gotten very far yet, but it's 6 pages, so I'm guessing it gets good.
Curse you! I got into the thread, didn't see it was from last year, and commented on it. *facepalm*
I have also enjoyed a few glasses of wine, and will continue to. I've read Expecting Better, and a couple glasses of wine a week have been cleared by my OB and MFM Perinatologist.
I also live in Northern CA and grew up just over the hill from Napa. I would have zero social life if I removed myself from wine-centered gatherings, Spring release parties and club member events. If anything this slow-down in drinking is going to age some of our wines much better! HAHA.
As for governing DH's alcohol intake, that's almost laughable to me. I mean he's not the world's biggest drinker to start with, but if the man wants to come home and pour himself some small-batch-cask-strength-1/50-barrel-proof-we-paid-too-damn-much-for-it whiskey, for fucksake, he deserves it.
Me: 31, DH: 31 Married: September 2012 Began TTC: September 2015 BFP #1: 10/12/16, EDD: 06/23/15, (pPROM, 16 wks + emergency D&E 12/31/15) BFP #2: 03/09/16, EDD: 11/16/16
@grannysmith912 I don't have any opinions on it either. I've only tried pot a couple of times and it makes me sick, so not an issue for me... But definitely super interesting to read all of those opinions.
@Little+Tiny ahaha I took a break in the middle of reading that thread and came back and saw your post at the end! Oh noes! Sorry, I was just suggesting some good reading for everyone I thought for sure it would have been closed by now!
I am definitely in the "Expecting Better" book camp- a glass of wine/beer every now and then isn't going to hurt anything. Personally, I'm limiting myself to 1 small glass a week if I feel like it. I've only felt like it 3 times since my BFP and I savor and love those glasses like they're going out of style.
I personally choose not to drink any alcohols during pregnancy, but that's because I drink only a few times a year anyway and I consider long periods of abstinence a good thing for testing myself (alcoholism runs in my family so I'm super cautious.) I don't really judge other women who choose to have a glass now and then. We all decide what risk levels, or uncertainty about risk levels, that we're comfortable with and I'm all for reasonable decision making instead of the body policing that happens with pregnant women.
K.
Son, K, 9 | Daughter, C, 5 | Daughter, M, expected November 7, 2016
Now I feel like the serious drinker of the group! No one else has had a few drinks?! For the record, I'm also still eating sushi and had poached eggs for breakfast last weekend and runny egg in my Ramen for dinner last night.
My DH is the one putting the food restrictions on me, just to be clear, so I think his drink limit is a more than fair trade. I would be totally cool with having eggs benedict or over easy from restaurants, my soft boiled egg in my ramen, and even Subway sandwiches if it were up to me. DH won't allow it. I think once you've had a loss, maybe you're a little more paranoid about everything. My loss affected DH more than he's willing to admit - he's still having trouble getting excited about this pregnancy.
FWIW my parents bought regular mixed nuts from Costco, and my dad got horrific food poisoning from them (this was just a couple of weeks ago). I don't know if that product was recalled and should've been pulled from the shelves or not, but it makes me feel like I can't trust any food anymore.
I'm still trying to understand what's meant by "restrictions" and things not being up to you, and YH "not allowing" it. Sure, marriage is give and take and you make concessions for your spouse, but decisions about your body aren't up to someone else. I'm having a hard time picturing what that dinner scene looks like, when you want something and he won't allow it.
DX PCOS Jan 2012 IUI #1 Feb 2012= DS1 born 11/2012 Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle)=DS2 born 9/2014 Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle again)= EDD 11/2016
Now I feel like the serious drinker of the group! No one else has had a few drinks?! For the record, I'm also still eating sushi and had poached eggs for breakfast last weekend and runny egg in my Ramen for dinner last night.
My DH is the one putting the food restrictions on me, just to be clear, so I think his drink limit is a more than fair trade. I would be totally cool with having eggs benedict or over easy from restaurants, my soft boiled egg in my ramen, and even Subway sandwiches if it were up to me. DH won't allow it. I think once you've had a loss, maybe you're a little more paranoid about everything. My loss affected DH more than he's willing to admit - he's still having trouble getting excited about this pregnancy.
FWIW my parents bought regular mixed nuts from Costco, and my dad got horrific food poisoning from them (this was just a couple of weeks ago). I don't know if that product was recalled and should've been pulled from the shelves or not, but it makes me feel like I can't trust any food anymore.
I'm still trying to understand what's meant by "restrictions" and things not being up to you, and YH "not allowing" it. Sure, marriage is give and take and you make concessions for your spouse, but decisions about your body aren't up to someone else. I'm having a hard time picturing what that dinner scene looks like, when you want something and he won't allow it.
Well... it's not really making decisions about my body at this point. I don't live on an island or in a vacuum by myself. My husband and I make decisions about OUR baby, OUR life together, OUR relationship with one another. We've been planning for this LO for years now, we both tried very very hard to make it, and suffered a miscarriage on the way, just a few months ago. If I ran around deliberately doing things I know DH is uncomfortable with, thinking that I'm putting our fetus at risk, I would be hurting our relationship, wouldn't I? Pregnancy is short in the grand scheme of things. It's not a big deal for me to give up a few comestibles for 9 months. I mean, I guess I would love to have the undercooked eggs, but I prefer not to make DH upset with me. Pick your battles, you know?
Additionally, DH is the cook in our house, so I'm kind of at his mercy... I literally cannot remember the last time I cooked dinner. Thankfully, due to the 974653 food aversions I have right now, the discussions about dinner have turned into him asking "What will you eat today?"
***lurker**** for those missing runny eggs, there such thing as pasteurized egg available at the grocery (a little bit more $$) they are totally safe (well as safe as food in general can be!)
Re: Beer
I definitely don't believe in putting any sort of restriction on my husband. He is an adult! If anything, I want him to enjoy it for two now because I can't. He doesn't restrict me or comment about what I'm doing (I eat soft cooked eggs at home all the time). My thinking is that we're about to endure a massive lifestyle change come November... no reason to self-impose strict restrictions now. Plus, he's doing EVERYTHING at home after about 7:30pm, dude deserves some release!
As for me, I've had several half glasses of wine and beer and I'll continue to, on an occasional basis. For my previous pregnancies, I lived outside the U.S., and let's just say that the attitude toward alcohol while pregnant is much more relaxed in other places. And in general, you aren't made to feel like a crystal vase that's going to shatter at any moment.
Alcohol is just one of those things that each person has to decide for herself what she's comfortable with.
Cheers!
IUI #1 Feb 2012= DS1 born 11/2012
Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle)=DS2 born 9/2014
Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle again)= EDD 11/2016
IUI #1 Feb 2012= DS1 born 11/2012
Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle)=DS2 born 9/2014
Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle again)= EDD 11/2016
Im on board with the AAP guidelines, but let me just tell you that there was no pediatrician in that room when that statement was written who honestly thinks that 6 glasses of wine spread out throughout your whole pregnancy is going to dramatically fuck up your child. They just can't definitively tell you without a doubt that it won't. There's no new evidence one way or the other. So until then, they will always err on the side of caution.
IUI #1 Feb 2012= DS1 born 11/2012
Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle)=DS2 born 9/2014
Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle again)= EDD 11/2016
Me: 39 DH: 40
Married: 12/6/2014
BFP#2: 10/28/15 MC: 11/24/15
BFP#3: 3/20/16 MC: 4/26/16
BFP#4: 7/15/16 DD: 3/18/17
BFP#5: 5/1/18 EDD: 1/12/19
The struggle is so real when you're used to nearly 10 years of being able to come home after a really rough day at work and unwind with a glass of red wine. I think I'm actually relieved to be pregnant in the warmer season. I feel like there are so many more refreshing alternatives to drinking alcohol (lemonade, virgin frozen drinks, etc.) than in the winter. I love me some red wine in front of the fire on a chilly winter night! *Sigh*
Married Sept. 2013
DS1: Nov 11, 2016
MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
BFP! 8/24/19
DS2: May 10, 2020
Also, like some of the ladies here I still eat sushi, deli meat, hot dogs etc. What is actually a bigger scare is fruit, but they don't tell you not to eat fruit.
BFP 3.8.16 EDD 11.20.16
TTC since June 2015
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IUI #1 Feb 2012= DS1 born 11/2012
Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle)=DS2 born 9/2014
Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle again)= EDD 11/2016
Regarding alcohol - I'm not a big drinker and never have been so I haven't had any alcohol and I'm not planning on it. Before getting pregnant I would have maybe 1 glass a wine a week if we went out to dinner. Before starting IVF I had a bit more, probably because I was a bit depressed but I stopped before stims. Drinking doesn't really appeal to me and I don't see a reason to start drinking now when I'm not supposed to. The only thing I'll miss a little bit this summer are Del's Summer Shandys (not sure if they have these outside of the Northeast.
I still think about that damn ice cream 14 years later.
ETA If he wanted to drink I would never object.
My DH is the one putting the food restrictions on me, just to be clear, so I think his drink limit is a more than fair trade. I would be totally cool with having eggs benedict or over easy from restaurants, my soft boiled egg in my ramen, and even Subway sandwiches if it were up to me. DH won't allow it. I think once you've had a loss, maybe you're a little more paranoid about everything. My loss affected DH more than he's willing to admit - he's still having trouble getting excited about this pregnancy.
FWIW my parents bought regular mixed nuts from Costco, and my dad got horrific food poisoning from them (this was just a couple of weeks ago). I don't know if that product was recalled and should've been pulled from the shelves or not, but it makes me feel like I can't trust any food anymore.
That said... I've found that POM is a great substitute for red wine, ginger ale and oj tastes amazingly like a mimosa and ginger beer with lime is a nice sub for mixed drinks. Oh, and it helps if they're in the appropriate glassware.
Love this the most....
Married 7/2012
DS born 11/2013
Ectopic , right tube removed 8/2015
BFP 3/2016
I also live in Northern CA and grew up just over the hill from Napa. I would have zero social life if I removed myself from wine-centered gatherings, Spring release parties and club member events. If anything this slow-down in drinking is going to age some of our wines much better! HAHA.
As for governing DH's alcohol intake, that's almost laughable to me. I mean he's not the world's biggest drinker to start with, but if the man wants to come home and pour himself some small-batch-cask-strength-1/50-barrel-proof-we-paid-too-damn-much-for-it whiskey, for fucksake, he deserves it.
Married: September 2012
Began TTC: September 2015
BFP #1: 10/12/16, EDD: 06/23/15,
(pPROM, 16 wks + emergency D&E 12/31/15)
BFP #2: 03/09/16, EDD: 11/16/16
@Little+Tiny ahaha I took a break in the middle of reading that thread and came back and saw your post at the end! Oh noes! Sorry, I was just suggesting some good reading for everyone
Son, K, 9 | Daughter, C, 5 | Daughter, M, expected November 7, 2016
IUI #1 Feb 2012= DS1 born 11/2012
Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle)=DS2 born 9/2014
Unmedicated BFP (first post-weaning cycle again)= EDD 11/2016
Additionally, DH is the cook in our house, so I'm kind of at his mercy... I literally cannot remember the last time I cooked dinner. Thankfully, due to the 974653 food aversions I have right now, the discussions about dinner have turned into him asking "What will you eat today?"
for those missing runny eggs, there such thing as pasteurized egg available at the grocery (a little bit more $$) they are totally safe (well as safe as food in general can be!)