The hospital I'm delivering at has flu restrictions right now. I am hoping they are lifted soon. If they aren't my 10 year old won't be able to visit. And if that happens my dh and I decided we do not want *anyone* visiting until he will get to meet his new brother as well. This has been a crazy long flu season this year!
Public inquiry: is there really such a thing as TMI on this board anymore? We've talked about poop, pee, blood, sex, varicose veins in terrible places. I vote that no one needs to preface anything with TMI any further.
@kami09 Samsung also has a do not disturb mode. (On the GalaxyS5) you can select it by going to Settings--> Sound and Notification--> Do Not Disturb. From there, you can set a schedule, allow exceptions if you want, or just set it to plain old DND. I'd imagine that other Samsung models would work the same way, or similarly.
@missnc77 @AdorkablePixie I'm sure it's just people paying me a compliment. I'm not mad about that. It just gets old hearing it 5 times a day. It's just all the dang pregnancy hormones getting to me. I just want all the cake.
I want my SO, Mom, and possibly MIL in the room with me. SO wants it to be just me and him. I see where he is coming from he wants it to be our moment with our new little family. At the same time I'm really close to my mother and she has been dreaming of the day for her first grand child to be here and that is a moment I would like to share with her as well. I want his mom there just because I feel like it'd be unfair to have my mom in there and not his. And I don't mind having her there.
But the main thing is I definitely want him and my mom there. Idk how to explain to it to him though without him getting upset or offended that I don't want it to just be him in there.
His mom already has 2 grandchildren and was in the room with his sister for her first one, so she got to share that experience with one of her children and isn't going to push to be in the room with us.
My mom would respect me if I asked her not to be in there. But not only do I feel like it would hurt her feelings, but I'm also afraid I'll resent SO a little for not allowing her to be in there to share this moment with us. Especially since right after DD is born we are moving away from where we live which is close to my mom and going to be closer to his mom. So I feel like my mom is already going to miss out on a lot of things as DD grows, and I won't have that support system from here that I was hoping since she will be over 4 hrs away now. (Not that his mom isn't great and won't help... it's just that it isn't the same)
What's everyone doing in terms of telling family and friends you are in labor? I really do not want my ILs there until the next day. I've mentioned it to dh and he just says "yeah". He tends to call them immediately about anything in life, so I worry a bit he is going to call them in a panic. I don't want them anywhere near the hospital. But at the same time it's his parents and his day as well. Is it selfish of me to stand my ground on this? I just know how annoying intrusive his mom can be and I don't want to have to deal with it during labor.
We have a very short list for immediate notifications and then next day notifications. We do a group text for both.
Been married since 2009. Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter) Several MCs DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)
Public inquiry: is there really such a thing as TMI on this board anymore? We've talked about poop, pee, blood, sex, varicose veins in terrible places. I vote that no one needs to preface anything with TMI any further.
@AdorkablePixie@Spylon the reason I asked was because I discussed this with my dr and she said she really insists on the bath right away but I can wait on the shot and drops. But towards the end of the convo about the bath she said they do the bath shot and drops all right there while she is "cleaning me up" but I can tell them no bath until later. So I had a discussion with my SO last night about how I need him to make sure when they ask about the bath he says no for me that I want to nurse first. He thinks I'm over the top with some of this stuff but he is willing to go with it lol. I specifically told her I didn't want anything but skin to skin with LO right away, no bath, shot or eye drops until she has nursed the first time. She says she is fine with that but idk if I believe her or if she's just saying what I want to hear.
My birth plan, which I only created for and to help DH advocate for me, lists who he should call and when. Once I go into labor he'll contact my mom who's coming to be his support person (so he can eat, go to the bathroom, and take breaks as needed). Once I'm progressing and things seem like they'll happen within the next couple of hours he can call his parents. The first two hours after birth I would only like it to be the three of us. My mom knows this and has agreed to make sure my ILs are aware and stay in the waiting room. Once I'm in the recovery room they can come visit and more extended family can be notified. It's a lot of detail but I had to make things clear for DH. I didn't want him just giving in to anyone.
@kami09 Samsung also has a do not disturb mode. (On the GalaxyS5) you can select it by going to Settings--> Sound and Notification--> Do Not Disturb. From there, you can set a schedule, allow exceptions if you want, or just set it to plain old DND. I'd imagine that other Samsung models would work the same way, or similarly.
PERFECT!! I have the s5...I didn't teach myself anything about it and always just say "I hate this phone! It sucks!" Lol...so good to know...thanks!!
Unless there's some sort of urgent medical reason for it, I don't see a problem with waiting until you've had your time to bond and nurse, especially for the bath. My friend had her baby in September and wanted this exact thing, but she did have to insist firmly when the nurses tried to take the baby for a bath first. Their only reason was that her hair would be harder to wash in an hour. I think it's good that you're getting your husband on board with what you want so he can insist for you.
I'm a FTM though, so hopefully some STMs can share their experience with that part of delivery. Maybe I'm wildly optimistic.
Public inquiry: is there really such a thing as TMI on this board anymore? We've talked about poop, pee, blood, sex, varicose veins in terrible places. I vote that no one needs to preface anything with TMI any further.
We are having brunch with DH parents tomorrow so I think I will need to bring up the topic of when they can come. He will call them for their advice on the smallest things- like when the dishwasher broke, called his dad to ask who he should contact. And since he does NOT do well under stress, and I can him calling them to let them know labor started, even if I ask him in advance not to. I don't mind him calling so much, but I think he will have a hard time telling them I don't want them there. The next day, they are more than welcome to come and visit, but just stay away while I am in labor!
It just hit me...my EDD is one month from today!!!! 30 day countdown!!!
Public inquiry: is there really such a thing as TMI on this board anymore? We've talked about poop, pee, blood, sex, varicose veins in terrible places. I vote that no one needs to preface anything with TMI any further.
Nope!
This might be the best exchange ever.
I want to get the joke! I don't know the reference, sadly.
But, seriously, @TXmamatobe...Do you realize the consequences of your actions?!?!? When people are on the verge of posting pics of their MPs!?!?!? Do you know where you are steering us???
@vinerie I'm not talking about the people that have no common sense when it comes to MPs and such. I'm talking about when someone might comment on a post and they'll say something like, "well my DH and I were (tmi) having sex and..." Does the tmi that immediately precedes the statement keep me from reading it? No. Does it make me think twice about reading it? Nope. It's unnecessary to me.
Also, you must watch The Help of you haven't already.
I'm hoping my ILs are away when baby arrives as payback for them being so "non caring" about baby possibly arriving when they're away. Who goes away the week before their grandbaby is due? So annoyed when I found out. Needless to say I won't be in any rush to let them know the minute she's born. They likely won't rush to the hospital anyway. Or at least I hope not. My parents are in another country so not so much of an issue there! My SIL will likely show up pretty soon after she's born though so I will likely hold off the official "she's born" texts until we're ok with people showing up...give us a couple of hours together first is my plan.
I'm going to decline the bath for 12-24 hrs - just my personal preference (bonding, scent, and moisturizing properties). And then I'm going to do the bath myself. DH was grossed out - and I was also secretly hoping maybe people would not visit just then because they baby still had amniotic fluid on it. hahaha
Which brings up the visitor issue - again. I told him in ... maybe December that I would be ok with brief visits from large, local immediate ILs, but maybe extended family would wait until we are home I figured visitors at home would be more fun for our daughters and hopefully they would bring food(!). Two days ago I brought this up again to make sure we are still on the same page, and he says, "it would be nice to have visitors in the hospital and aunts/uncles/cousins will come again when we get home." I kinda wish we could enjoy the 2 days as a family, but it seems he likes the distraction of visitors.
Mama to Three Girls: Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!
(Stuck in a quote box!) so my due date is May 9th, which would be my 40th week, but aren't due dates usually in the 39th week? Anyone else's due dates in their 40th week?
@Maybaby0519 just learned my hospital doesn't even give baths to newborns. They'll wipe them off and clean gunk out of the hair, but said they've learned that putting newborns in water can mess with their temperature regulation. They also leave all the waxy coating on (I forget what it's called) and encourage you to rub it into the skin because it acts as an anti microbial blanket. And yeah, they put baby in your chest immediately when it comes out and give you an hour of bonding while the baby is still surging with oxytocin and adrenaline and then give them treatments and medications once the baby passes out (for two days apparently)!
(Stuck in a quote box!) so my due date is May 9th, which would be my 40th week, but aren't due dates usually in the 39th week? Anyone else's due dates in their 40th week?
If your EDD is in your 40th week then I believe you have your EDD wrong. EDD's are always 40 weeks from your LMP until a dating US is done (per the doctor because of the "normal" cycle length). Then the doctor may change your due date with a dating US, in which case you can assume about 38 weeks before that new due date is when you ovulated. Due dates definitely are not an exact science. I think technically my EDD with my first was in my 43 week from my LMP.
Anyway, my point is the standard due date is the date of your LMP plus 40 weeks, not 40 weeks +/- 1, 2, 3 days. Until the dating US, then it will be based on the size of your baby at that time, if it is very far off from your LMP.
Also, I'm sorry if I completely misunderstood your question and you can ignore my answer if I did
TTC#1 January 2013, BFP 7/4/13 MC 8/7/13 D&C 8/22/13
BFP 5/20/14 CP 5/26/14
BFP 12/6/14 DD Born an Angel on 7/17/15 at 35 weeks
Is anyone else planning on BF before the baby gets the initial bath/vitamin k shot/eye drops?
The hospital I am giving birth at puts baby skin to skin immediately and he/she stays there for an hour to an hour and a half before bath, vitamin K, etc.
Same. And my hospital also allows you to decline a bath for as long as you want.
Argh...just went on the April board and saw all these STMs needing to be induced. This thought didn't realllly cross my mind until right now. I'm starting to freak out a bit.
I have to give birth in my foot/leg boot the epidural is starting to look like a really good option. I really wanted to try the unmediated route but... I'm not even sure I can make it to May at this point.
Honestly, I'm surprised (and glad) there hasn't been more birth announcements for this BMB but yay for keeping babies in longer!
Just had the most frustrating experience at buy buy baby trying to buy our car seat and use our registry completion discount. The staff was insanely unhelpful ("oh sorry we don't have the car seat in black, but we have it in gray and blue." - end of conversation) then when I finally found someone else to help me order the one we wanted, the woman at the register told me to use my $5 off and 20% off coupons instead of my 10% registry completion discount because she said it would save me more money, and then when I get home and look at the receipt realize she didn't apply a coupon to the car seat! Which is probably because it was an exclusion from the coupons but wouldn't have been from the 10% registry completion discount. So I'm home fuming and wondering whether it's worth going back there to complain over a net loss of probably $20 when it's all said and done. Ahh so annoyed though.
Dh and my ILs are getting their tdaps and we have learned that insurance doesn't cover it. Why? How annoying. And the average cost is $60. Now I'm wondering if I'm going to get a bill from my ob office or if it was covered as my office visit. Anyone else have insurance that doesn't cover the shot? For the health of my daughter, I'll pay it, it's just annoying that it's not covered, especially when it is so important for babies that can't get their vaccines yet.
@yogahh DH and I are both on his insurance and I didn't receive a bill from my dr's office when I got the TDAP but when we went to Walgreens for him to get the shot we paid $65. Hoping I don't get a surprise bill in the mail but it's been several weeks so I think I'm in the clear.
@yogahh DH and I are both on his insurance and I didn't receive a bill from my dr's office when I got the TDAP but when we went to Walgreens for him to get the shot we paid $65. Hoping I don't get a surprise bill in the mail but it's been several weeks so I think I'm in the clear.
@yogahh DH and I are both on his insurance and I didn't receive a bill from my dr's office when I got the TDAP but when we went to Walgreens for him to get the shot we paid $65. Hoping I don't get a surprise bill in the mail but it's been several weeks so I think I'm in the clear.
That our situation exactly!
That's crazy! My DH is on his own insurance and we went to Walgreens and he didn't pay one penny out of pocket!
My neighbor invited me over for breakfast this morning and when I get there she had this "baby sprinkle" planned for me. I really don't have many friends in the area but there were 6 of us girls total and it was just super sweet, I seriously started tearing up when I saw it.
Then, the other day I was complaining about how the HR Block guy online was messing me up on my taxes (he did) so I was like F*ck it, I'll just go in and pay someone to do it for me. I went to the HR Block in my town and the people there were so rude. All they were concerned about was me paying them the estimated $600+. They mentioned it 3 times in my 15 minutes of being there. I'm like I've been going through HR block (used to be a receptionist at an office) since I was 18 and I know it's going to be expensive because it's a complicated return this year. The tax lady (who seemed pretty new to the tax scene) kept saying I didn't have all my paperwork and I needed to get it together before going in there blah, blah, blah. Ok, I had ALL my paperwork together including the past 3 years of my tax returns with me. I ended up grabbing my paperwork and telling them I'm going to deal with it myself. After researching and discussing it with different online reps, I figured it out (my mom and her friends, ex HR Block ladies, double checked it and said I did it all correctly). So today I find out that my return was accepted and instead of paying $600+, I paid $180. Hell yes!
Epidurals are the devil. They are great in the moment but omg the intense itching after it wears off is insane and doesn't come all at once. It comes in little bursts over the course of a few days. Okay random rant over
Has anyone else received really creepy dolls or stuffed animals from family? We got a suppppeerrrr creepy cat stuffed animal yesterday that I want to throw out but I can't. Should I just hide the demon cat?
@yogahh We were given a pretty creepy looking doll/stuffed animal (it was both rolled into one with a weird face) with DS. It went in the thrift store donation box.
@yogahh We were given a pretty creepy looking doll/stuffed animal (it was both rolled into one with a weird face) with DS. It went in the thrift store donation box.
I wish I could do that! It came from DH sister, who has been pretty MIA (I have never met her). He saw it and said how cute it was!! So in the toy box it has to go. I hope baby finds it creepy so I have a reason to toss it.
Re: **The Everything Random Thread for May 2016**
DS: Born 5-17-16
@AdorkablePixie
I'm sure it's just people paying me a compliment. I'm not mad about that. It just gets old hearing it 5 times a day. It's just all the dang pregnancy hormones getting to me. I just want all the cake.
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
At the same time I'm really close to my mother and she has been dreaming of the day for her first grand child to be here and that is a moment I would like to share with her as well.
I want his mom there just because I feel like it'd be unfair to have my mom in there and not his. And I don't mind having her there.
But the main thing is I definitely want him and my mom there. Idk how to explain to it to him though without him getting upset or offended that I don't want it to just be him in there.
His mom already has 2 grandchildren and was in the room with his sister for her first one, so she got to share that experience with one of her children and isn't going to push to be in the room with us.
My mom would respect me if I asked her not to be in there. But not only do I feel like it would hurt her feelings, but I'm also afraid I'll resent SO a little for not allowing her to be in there to share this moment with us. Especially since right after DD is born we are moving away from where we live which is close to my mom and going to be closer to his mom. So I feel like my mom is already going to miss out on a lot of things as DD grows, and I won't have that support system from here that I was hoping since she will be over 4 hrs away now. (Not that his mom isn't great and won't help... it's just that it isn't the same)
Idk.... maybe I'm being irrational and whiny.
Been married since 2009.
Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter)
Several MCs
DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)
It's a lot of detail but I had to make things clear for DH. I didn't want him just giving in to anyone.
DD: 05/14/16
Unless there's some sort of urgent medical reason for it, I don't see a problem with waiting until you've had your time to bond and nurse, especially for the bath. My friend had her baby in September and wanted this exact thing, but she did have to insist firmly when the nurses tried to take the baby for a bath first. Their only reason was that her hair would be harder to wash in an hour. I think it's good that you're getting your husband on board with what you want so he can insist for you.
I'm a FTM though, so hopefully some STMs can share their experience with that part of delivery. Maybe I'm wildly optimistic.
BFP #1: 9/12/2015
DD: 6/1/2016
BFP #2: 1/16/2018 MC 2/2/2018
It just hit me...my EDD is one month from today!!!! 30 day countdown!!!
But, seriously, @TXmamatobe...Do you realize the consequences of your actions?!?!? When people are on the verge of posting pics of their MPs!?!?!? Do you know where you are steering us???
DS: Born 5-17-16
Also, you must watch The Help of you haven't already.
DS: Born 5-17-16
Which brings up the visitor issue - again. I told him in ... maybe December that I would be ok with brief visits from large, local immediate ILs, but maybe extended family would wait until we are home I figured visitors at home would be more fun for our daughters and hopefully they would bring food(!). Two days ago I brought this up again to make sure we are still on the same page, and he says, "it would be nice to have visitors in the hospital and aunts/uncles/cousins will come again when we get home." I kinda wish we could enjoy the 2 days as a family, but it seems he likes the distraction of visitors.
Mama to Three Girls:
Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor
and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!
Been married since 2009.
Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter)
Several MCs
DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)
Anyway, my point is the standard due date is the date of your LMP plus 40 weeks, not 40 weeks +/- 1, 2, 3 days. Until the dating US, then it will be based on the size of your baby at that time, if it is very far off from your LMP.
Also, I'm sorry if I completely misunderstood your question and you can ignore my answer if I did
Honestly, I'm surprised (and glad) there hasn't been more birth announcements for this BMB but yay for keeping babies in longer!
Also, this https://www.cdc.gov/vaccines/adults/find-pay-vaccines.html
Your insurance HAS to cover it!
ETA: Maybe they are going somewhere out-of-network?
My neighbor invited me over for breakfast this morning and when I get there she had this "baby sprinkle" planned for me. I really don't have many friends in the area but there were 6 of us girls total and it was just super sweet, I seriously started tearing up when I saw it.
Then, the other day I was complaining about how the HR Block guy online was messing me up on my taxes (he did) so I was like F*ck it, I'll just go in and pay someone to do it for me. I went to the HR Block in my town and the people there were so rude. All they were concerned about was me paying them the estimated $600+. They mentioned it 3 times in my 15 minutes of being there. I'm like I've been going through HR block (used to be a receptionist at an office) since I was 18 and I know it's going to be expensive because it's a complicated return this year. The tax lady (who seemed pretty new to the tax scene) kept saying I didn't have all my paperwork and I needed to get it together before going in there blah, blah, blah. Ok, I had ALL my paperwork together including the past 3 years of my tax returns with me. I ended up grabbing my paperwork and telling them I'm going to deal with it myself. After researching and discussing it with different online reps, I figured it out (my mom and her friends, ex HR Block ladies, double checked it and said I did it all correctly). So today I find out that my return was accepted and instead of paying $600+, I paid $180. Hell yes!
First Pregnancy
Second Pregnancy
- BFP: 09/11/2015
- EDD: 05/25/2016
Baby Born04/15/2016
PGAL
I wish I could do that! It came from DH sister, who has been pretty MIA (I have never met her). He saw it and said how cute it was!! So in the toy box it has to go. I hope baby finds it creepy so I have a reason to toss it.