We've decided to wait until we're at the hospital and fully checked in to the labor and delivery room and assured that the whole thing is "a go" before letting anyone know I'm in labor. Then we will avoid any false alarms and people will have less time to wait before baby makes an appearance. Hopefully this will help the in laws remain patient until we invite them to visit (which we might do at the hospital or at home, depending how everything goes).
Last time, I called my mom when my water broke and she was in charge of spreading the word. Then everyone showed up at the hospital like they weren't originally supposed to. This time around, my mom will still be the first to know other than DH since she's watching our son, but I'm going to ask that she not call everyone right away so that we can have more alone time-- or if I happen to go into labor before my cs again, I don't have family sitting in my room with me while I labor. Ultimately, what you decide will probably depend on how well your friends and family can follow directions.
@yogahh Seeing as certain things are up in the air at this point as compared with just a few days ago, we're waiting until I'm in labor for a little bit before we tell people with a few special circumstances that those particular people know about. We don't want to end up being bombarded with people and end up feeling all this pressure to 'perform' and that people are waiting.
@yogahh does Beth Israel have a policy about how many people are allowed in the l&d rooms? I switched from NYU to Columbia and Columbia only allows two support people, which isn't an issue for us because it will just be my DH. Maybe just blame it on the hospital's policy? But either way, can you tell your DH that your labor is something you want to experience just the two of you? You're respecting his feelings by not allowing your mom to stay with you and setting firm ground rules to protect your family, so the same respect should be afforded when you're busy having a baby!
Also most hospitals have quiet hours too once a day while you're recovering. Perhaps tell your nurse that you'd like it enforced?
If someone says, "oh you're so tiny" one more time, I'm going to lose my mind. Would be equally annoying to hear the opposite too. It's like people don't know what to say. Since when is everyone an expert on what we're all supposed to look like during pregnancy?! That's all. Nothing of substance here. Just needed to vent. End rant.
@yogahh does Beth Israel have a policy about how many people are allowed in the l&d rooms? I switched from NYU to Columbia and Columbia only allows two support people, which isn't an issue for us because it will just be my DH. Maybe just blame it on the hospital's policy? But either way, can you tell your DH that your labor is something you want to experience just the two of you? You're respecting his feelings by not allowing your mom to stay with you and setting firm ground rules to protect your family, so the same respect should be afforded when you're busy having a baby!
Also most hospitals have quiet hours too once a day while you're recovering. Perhaps tell your nurse that you'd like it enforced?
I am allowed up to 3 people in the room. That is 2 too many!!! MIL has already said about us calling the MOMENT labor starts. Honestly, I don't even want them in the waiting room. I don't want to worry about them being bored or anything. All I want to worry about is getting this baby outta me!!
This is one of those times I'm glad that we live 750 miles away from my family and 1,250 miles away from my ILs! Even if we tell our families the second I go into labor, it will still be hours (probably even the next day) at the soonest before they could book flights and get here. My mom is planning to come down and stay with us about a week before my due date to help with last minute things, but my dad and ILs aren't planning to come until after they get the call and book flights. Our siblings aren't planning to come until about a week or two later. Fortunately, my ILs have a vacation home in town, so they won't be staying with us, and my parents should be gone before my sister and BIL come about 2 weeks later. Even still, I'm not looking forward to all the people.
On a side note, my Friday started off by arriving to work to find that I was locked out of my office. I've been having trouble with the lock set, and the door apparently locked on its own when I closed it last night. I had to call security to let me in, which (for some unknown reason!) took nearly half an hour. Since I had an early morning conference call that was set to start before security showed up, I had to commandeer my assistant's work station to do it. I felt bad, so I gave her some cash and sent her to Starbucks while I used her phone and desk. I'm finally in my office, and they're changing out my lock set this weekend. I hope the rest of the day is less eventful! Happy Friday, everyone!
@yogahh does Beth Israel have a policy about how many people are allowed in the l&d rooms? I switched from NYU to Columbia and Columbia only allows two support people, which isn't an issue for us because it will just be my DH. Maybe just blame it on the hospital's policy? But either way, can you tell your DH that your labor is something you want to experience just the two of you? You're respecting his feelings by not allowing your mom to stay with you and setting firm ground rules to protect your family, so the same respect should be afforded when you're busy having a baby!
Also most hospitals have quiet hours too once a day while you're recovering. Perhaps tell your nurse that you'd like it enforced?
I am allowed up to 3 people in the room. That is 2 too many!!! MIL has already said about us calling the MOMENT labor starts. Honestly, I don't even want them in the waiting room. I don't want to worry about them being bored or anything. All I want to worry about is getting this baby outta me!!
You're the patient and whatever you say goes. You have the power to have people kicked out, even your DH if he doesn't act right. Let your husband know the plan, and let him know your reasons why you want no visitors during labor. My plan is similar, no visitors during labor and no visitors till 2 or more hours after birth; lets me focus on birth, I don't want to socialize while dilating, and I want to initiate bonding and breastfeeding without interruption or feeling pressured to hurry.
After calmly and rationally explaining your plan and rationales, let him know his ass will get bounced if he is not supportive or fights you on this. Don't fuck with mama.
@dsmith211 I told my Dr yesterday that they'd old you you're having a boy instead of girl and she said its so hard to tell this late and most places won't determine gender this late bcuz there are too many offsetting factors. She said not to get rid of all of your girl clothes until after little one is here. Also, my older sister had this same thing happen to her. She was told at 22 weeks LO was a boy and then The head of the head of the US department told her it was a girl at 34 weeks, needless to say she had a boy. So maybe don't return all of the girl stuff just yet
ETA: I know this is late, I had sooo many appts yesterday I couldn't get on long enough to to type then I was so exhausted I took a nap/woke up to eat and go back to bed haha
I'd also like to chime in that it may not even be logical to have guests in the waiting room from when you go into labor because it could be an extremely long day or night, so maybe you could explain this to DH, in-laws, etc? My water broke with my daughter at 9:30pm at night...she wasn't born until 2:22pm the following day. And my son was similar, although it was slightly shorter. My DH let everyone know once the baby was born, and then we started getting visitors. My hospital also has visiting hours so people will not be able to come and go as they please all hours of the day/night.
yogahh said: What's everyone doing in terms of telling family and friends you are in labor? I really do not want my ILs there until the next day. I've mentioned it to dh and he just says "yeah". He tends to call them immediately about anything in life, so I worry a bit he is going to call them in a panic. I don't want them anywhere near the hospital. But at the same time it's his parents and his day as well. Is it selfish of me to stand my ground on this? I just know how annoying intrusive his mom can be and I don't want to have to deal with it during labor.
We didn't call anyone when I went in to labor Wednesday night. Mine progressed pretty quickly, but even if it didn't, I can't imagine having anyone but DH here. When they wheeled me into the OR when I was ready to push, it was super awkward breathing through contractions while grandfathers-to-be were pacing the hallway. Luckily I gave zero f*cks at that moment.
Granted, my family are all very far away and never even had a thought of being in the delivery room, but with delivering twins in an OR, there were already a million people in the room and I really needed just one person to focus on. DH did great. We did call immediate family only while we were waiting for our babies to get set up in the NICU, and I didn't care in the least that it was 1:30 am. Most of them didn't either.
My SO is going to call my parents and his mother once we are at the hospital since they live a couple hours away. His mom won't come until she has heard that LO is here but my mom will come as soon as she gets the call so she can take care of our animals and hopefully be at the hospital when I start pushing. I have a list of ppl for SO to contact after she makes her debut. My hospital also has set visiting hours so that helps.
At my doctors appt yesterday, my dr asked me what happened because I have gained 8 pounds in 2 weeks, I felt awful! Then she said oh don't even worry about it you've only gained 11 pounds total so far, just watch your salt intake. Salts aren't my problem, sweets are! The last couple of weeks all I want are cookies and blizzards. I can't resist the urge!
@dsmith211 I told my Dr yesterday that they'd old you you're having a boy instead of girl and she said its so hard to tell this late and most places won't determine gender this late bcuz there are too many offsetting factors. She said not to get rid of all of your girl clothes until after little one is here. Also, my older sister had this same thing happen to her. She was told at 22 weeks LO was a boy and then The head of the head of the US department told her it was a girl at 34 weeks, needless to say she had a boy. So maybe don't return all of the girl stuff just yet
ETA: I know this is late, I had sooo many appts yesterday I couldn't get on long enough to to type then I was so exhausted I took a nap/woke up to eat and go back to bed haha
This is what I worry about that maybe they're wrong this time, but pretty much every doctor we've shown the pictures to has said we had crap luck with the first tech bc the first pictures were pretty crappy in regards to the sex determination and that the new ones are very, very obvious even being this late. They also said in regards to sex determination oops' it's not terribly uncommon to make the mistake of first saying girl then coming back as a boy later. The other way around is not as likely. It would be my luck I got that particular technician. Needless to say... DH repainted the room, but a more neutral color now and we're packing some of the stuff we got away just in case. Other things we're exchanging for more neutral items and anything new we buy we're keeping the receipts for. The pictures this time were pretty obvious though. Baby definitely wasn't shy like last time and everything was out there for the world to see. We are getting one more ultrasound though, a high level one as soon as we get the referral in so we can make the appointment, so DH said he's having them look one more time. Just in case.
If someone says, "oh you're so tiny" one more time, I'm going to lose my mind. Would be equally annoying to hear the opposite too. It's like people don't know what to say. Since when is everyone an expert on what we're all supposed to look like during pregnancy?! That's all. Nothing of substance here. Just needed to vent. End rant.
@aehogan90 I personally love it when people tell me how tiny I am and that "I can't even tell you're pregnant from behind" or "I thought you were maybe 5-6 months along, you look great!" I think they're just trying to give you a compliment. That's how I take it anyway.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
What's everyone doing in terms of telling family and friends you are in labor? I really do not want my ILs there until the next day. I've mentioned it to dh and he just says "yeah". He tends to call them immediately about anything in life, so I worry a bit he is going to call them in a panic. I don't want them anywhere near the hospital. But at the same time it's his parents and his day as well. Is it selfish of me to stand my ground on this? I just know how annoying intrusive his mom can be and I don't want to have to deal with it during labor.
@yogahh You shouldn't feel selfish. It's your body and you're the one giving birth therefore you should get what you want. I plan to have DH, my mom, and my MIL in the room while I am in labor. I want me best friend there too, but she is a teacher and has two toddlers, so it depends on WHEN I go into labor if she'd be able to make it. I don't plan to tell people (and it will only be the ones we want present) until we know for sure that I am in labor or if my water breaks. That is, of course, if I go into labor on my own. I am so scared I'm going to end up being induced.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
@valerie4786 I bought a box of classic drumsticks and a box of butterfinger drumsticks since I've never tried the butterfinger ones before. I had three throughout the day yesterday. I felt so gross...they were good though!
I can totally relate! I went grocery shopping the other night hungry and pregnant and made terrible decisions. I got home and told my husband I should be banned from the store for the rest of my pregnancy and he looked at the groceries I had gotten and was like "YES!!" and started laughing because he was excited about all of my terrible decisions. Then later that night when I was telling him about some of the comments that have been made to me through pregnancy thus far he was like "If you want that second drumstick, then go on and eat that second drumstick! You deserve it." So although I know I shouldn't have the second bomb pop or drumstick...sometimes it's TOTALLY justified.
@valeria4786 I told my husband something similar. I keep telling him he shouldn't let me go to the grocery store without him when I am hungry. lol Today I have to go without him after the gym because we have our nieces play to go to tonight and won't have time to go together. I am going to TRY to make good decisions. MY DH is also the same and tells me to go ahead and eat it. The extra calories won't hurt. (I try to usually eat pretty healthy, so he is probably right but still.)
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
There's a certain new person that showed up last week on the board that I wanted to go away, but their posts are so random, that I actually find them entertaining now. I can't even believe it's a real person. It's how I imagine I'd post if I were drunk while pregnant.
You need to PM me to tell me who. I think we are thinking of the same person.
@yogahh and @missnc77 I think I know who you guys are thinking of! I have been thinking the same thing.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
I'm lucky - my mom is planning to come into town shortly before baby is born, but I don't want her in the delivery room and she feels the same! Win!
The ILs are 3600 miles away, so no worries there. I'll leave it up to DH as to whether he tells them when I'm in labor, or waits until after she's born.
Maybe I'm a prude, but I REALLY don't want anyone in there with me other than DH and the doc/nurses.
Re: parents/IL's/Labor were going to text my family, who live in the same town as us, and let them know I'm in labor. They're going to come to our house at their leisure to watch the dog and wait for the baby. They asked for a photo once baby is cleaned up and nice. My MIL agreed to wait about 1-2 weeks to come to visit. They live 3 hours away so it just wouldn't work for them to come on LO's birthday.
My parents live a few states away so the plan is to call them when we know it's go time. It'll take them a couple days to get here because they are driving (Mom is so afraid of flying!) My IL's are out of the country on holiday so really unless we call my BIL we really won't have anyone visiting at the hospital until my parents arrive. That should give plenty of time for us to all bond and adjust before going home.
We we will of course do the customary calling family to keep them updated, but it's nice to know we won't have unexpected visitors!
So update to all the crap surrounding me lately. My birthing center just uploaded the notes from my scans at the hospital the other day. They kept telling me the head was up to 2 weeks off in size from the body... So of course it freaks me out. Try closer to a week. The person at the hospital who reviewed the scans also said there was normal interval growth since the last scan at 19 weeks. Meaning the head did not look too big for them in proportion to the abdomen or legs. It essentially just said I have a big baby. Which is common on DH's side of the family. Apparently his grandfather was big. His uncle was big. He was big. So now DH is kinda pissed they said anything and scared us like this.
If I end up being considered high risk then I can't have the baby at the birth center and DH said he kinda feels like they may be trying to give us the boot this late in the game bc they don't want to deal with the 'risk' and tarnish their transfer rate. Honestly I kinda agree with him and it makes me upset. I've kinda had this feeling since my glucose test a few weeks ago. Part of me hopes I get kicked out though... I don't want to deal with it anymore. Another part of me wants to prove them wrong however.
Now just waiting for the call to make the stupid appointment for the next scan that I have to pay for that's going to cost me an arm and a leg and is probably completely unnecessary. At least by the time baby gets here I'll probably have met my deductible... And then I get all my delivery fees back!
We'll be letting our immediate family know when we head to the hospital, just so they're aware. The IL's live three hours away and I'm sure they'll leave as soon as they hear from us, but we've told them about our plan to not have anyone in the room until we've had an hour of alone time with LO and I know they'll respect that.
How do you guys even start the discussion of who will be at the hospital? My ILs live about five minutes away and are super excited for the first grandchild. I feel awkward asking with the language barrier only half of what we discuss gets understood anyway and DH doesn't want to bring it up and risk offending them. He thinks that they won't wait at the hospital while I labor but is too afraid to ask what their expectations are.
@aehogan90 If someone told me I looked tiny at 35 going on 36 weeks pregnant, I'd give them a hug and bake them a cake.
Dont lie. You would bake a cake, but eat it before you could give it to them
If a cake like this exists I need to have it immediately.
@yogahh is there any way your husband wouldn't call his parents if you asked him not to? I can't remember if you're trying to go med-free but if you are, play that up. I would think having less distraction would make that easier to manage. Basically grasping at straws so you're not out right having to say "I don't want your parents anywhere near me" so you avoid that conversation! But seriously, that cake.
We will call my parents when I go into labor so that they can get on the road (they live about a 4 hour drive away) because my mom is going to be in the room with me and H. I'm lucky that my mom is very low key and doesn't give me any extra stress, I've already told her that H and I want 2-3 hours after delivery to bond and she is more than happy to accommodate that. My dad will probably pop in to say before I'm in the pushing stage but I'm totally fine with that. I don't want him roaming the streets of NYC unless he wants to. As for my ILs, MIL is close by and I hope she will stay away until after the baby is here but there is always a chance she will come to the hospital while I'm in labor. It ultimately doesn't matter enough to me to put up a fight about it and we will make sure the nurses are aware that no one is to bother is during that 2-3 family bonding time.
No one else in the family is close enough to come by and we will probably text everyone when we're admitted to the hospital and then again to announce the birth.
Speaking of visitors.....what do you plan on doing with your phones? I don't want to deal with a million calls and texts, but I do need access to it for my hypnobabies tracks, so I'm thinking of putting it on airplane mode. And then I'm sure everyone will start calling DH instead, so I may ask him to put his in airplane mode, too.
Speaking of visitors.....what do you plan on doing with your phones? I don't want to deal with a million calls and texts, but I do need access to it for my hypnobabies tracks, so I'm thinking of putting it on airplane mode. And then I'm sure everyone will start calling DH instead, so I may ask him to put his in airplane mode, too.
If you have an iPhone you can also put it on do not disturb- tracks will still play but it won't make noise or send you notifications if you get calls or texts.
Public inquiry: is there really such a thing as TMI on this board anymore? We've talked about poop, pee, blood, sex, varicose veins in terrible places. I vote that no one needs to preface anything with TMI any further.
Public inquiry: is there really such a thing as TMI on this board anymore? We've talked about poop, pee, blood, sex, varicose veins in terrible places. I vote that no one needs to preface anything with TMI any further.
Speaking of visitors.....what do you plan on doing with your phones? I don't want to deal with a million calls and texts, but I do need access to it for my hypnobabies tracks, so I'm thinking of putting it on airplane mode. And then I'm sure everyone will start calling DH instead, so I may ask him to put his in airplane mode, too.
If you have an iPhone you can also put it on do not disturb- tracks will still play but it won't make noise or send you notifications if you get calls or texts.
Crap...what about Samsung? I need to test this out...cuz my husband will call when I'm doing my practice tracks and it always stops them (I always have on silent...guess I'll try do not disturb). Thanks for bringing this up!! I didn't even think of it.
Is anyone else planning on BF before the baby gets the initial bath/vitamin k shot/eye drops?
The hospital I am giving birth at puts baby skin to skin immediately and he/she stays there for an hour to an hour and a half before bath, vitamin K, etc.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Speaking of visitors.....what do you plan on doing with your phones? I don't want to deal with a million calls and texts, but I do need access to it for my hypnobabies tracks, so I'm thinking of putting it on airplane mode. And then I'm sure everyone will start calling DH instead, so I may ask him to put his in airplane mode, too.
I've just been putting mine on silence all and replying when I have time. People will understand you're a little busy.
Re: **The Everything Random Thread for May 2016**
Also most hospitals have quiet hours too once a day while you're recovering. Perhaps tell your nurse that you'd like it enforced?
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
On a side note, my Friday started off by arriving to work to find that I was locked out of my office. I've been having trouble with the lock set, and the door apparently locked on its own when I closed it last night. I had to call security to let me in, which (for some unknown reason!) took nearly half an hour. Since I had an early morning conference call that was set to start before security showed up, I had to commandeer my assistant's work station to do it. I felt bad, so I gave her some cash and sent her to Starbucks while I used her phone and desk. I'm finally in my office, and they're changing out my lock set this weekend. I hope the rest of the day is less eventful! Happy Friday, everyone!
After calmly and rationally explaining your plan and rationales, let him know his ass will get bounced if he is not supportive or fights you on this. Don't fuck with mama.
ETA: I know this is late, I had sooo many appts yesterday I couldn't get on long enough to to type then I was so exhausted I took a nap/woke up to eat and go back to bed haha
We didn't call anyone when I went in to labor Wednesday night. Mine progressed pretty quickly, but even if it didn't, I can't imagine having anyone but DH here. When they wheeled me into the OR when I was ready to push, it was super awkward breathing through contractions while grandfathers-to-be were pacing the hallway. Luckily I gave zero f*cks at that moment.
Granted, my family are all very far away and never even had a thought of being in the delivery room, but with delivering twins in an OR, there were already a million people in the room and I really needed just one person to focus on. DH did great. We did call immediate family only while we were waiting for our babies to get set up in the NICU, and I didn't care in the least that it was 1:30 am. Most of them didn't either.
At my doctors appt yesterday, my dr asked me what happened because I have gained 8 pounds in 2 weeks, I felt awful! Then she said oh don't even worry about it you've only gained 11 pounds total so far, just watch your salt intake. Salts aren't my problem, sweets are! The last couple of weeks all I want are cookies and blizzards. I can't resist the urge!
@aehogan90 I personally love it when people tell me how tiny I am and that "I can't even tell you're pregnant from behind" or "I thought you were maybe 5-6 months along, you look great!" I think they're just trying to give you a compliment. That's how I take it anyway.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!@valeria4786 I told my husband something similar. I keep telling him he shouldn't let me go to the grocery store without him when I am hungry. lol Today I have to go without him after the gym because we have our nieces play to go to tonight and won't have time to go together. I am going to TRY to make good decisions. MY DH is also the same and tells me to go ahead and eat it. The extra calories won't hurt. (I try to usually eat pretty healthy, so he is probably right but still.)
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!@yogahh and @missnc77 I think I know who you guys are thinking of! I have been thinking the same thing.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!HAHAH Oh my goodness. I need to show this to DH.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!The ILs are 3600 miles away, so no worries there. I'll leave it up to DH as to whether he tells them when I'm in labor, or waits until after she's born.
Maybe I'm a prude, but I REALLY don't want anyone in there with me other than DH and the doc/nurses.
were going to text my family, who live in the same town as us, and let them know I'm in labor. They're going to come to our house at their leisure to watch the dog and wait for the baby. They asked for a photo once baby is cleaned up and nice. My MIL agreed to wait about 1-2 weeks to come to visit. They live 3 hours away so it just wouldn't work for them to come on LO's birthday.
We we will of course do the customary calling family to keep them updated, but it's nice to know we won't have unexpected visitors!
If I end up being considered high risk then I can't have the baby at the birth center and DH said he kinda feels like they may be trying to give us the boot this late in the game bc they don't want to deal with the 'risk' and tarnish their transfer rate. Honestly I kinda agree with him and it makes me upset. I've kinda had this feeling since my glucose test a few weeks ago. Part of me hopes I get kicked out though... I don't want to deal with it anymore. Another part of me wants to prove them wrong however.
Now just waiting for the call to make the stupid appointment for the next scan that I have to pay for that's going to cost me an arm and a leg and is probably completely unnecessary. At least by the time baby gets here I'll probably have met my deductible... And then I get all my delivery fees back!
BFP #1: 9/12/2015
DD: 6/1/2016
BFP #2: 1/16/2018 MC 2/2/2018
@yogahh is there any way your husband wouldn't call his parents if you asked him not to? I can't remember if you're trying to go med-free but if you are, play that up. I would think having less distraction would make that easier to manage. Basically grasping at straws so you're not out right having to say "I don't want your parents anywhere near me" so you avoid that conversation! But seriously, that cake.
No one else in the family is close enough to come by and we will probably text everyone when we're admitted to the hospital and then again to announce the birth.
I'm pretty sure Bruster's makes that cake. I didn't realize that's a chain that's everywhere.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!The hospital I am giving birth at puts baby skin to skin immediately and he/she stays there for an hour to an hour and a half before bath, vitamin K, etc.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!Yep, we're planning to do that.
BFP #1: 9/12/2015
DD: 6/1/2016
BFP #2: 1/16/2018 MC 2/2/2018