@MRSCORKER - Worst case scenario, they can't find the hb with the Doppler, so they do an u/s and you get to see AND hear your little nugget. That wouldn't be too terrible, would it?
OH SWEET. Blake Lively is pregnant again. As I get huger and huger (totally a word), she'll be doing photoshoots with her perfectly tiny bump, raving about her cravings for artisanal pickles and raw honey sourced from Himalayan bees. AWESOME.
OH SWEET. Blake Lively is pregnant again. As I get huger and huger (totally a word), she'll be doing photoshoots with her perfectly tiny bump, raving about her cravings for artisanal pickles and raw honey sourced from Himalayan bees. AWESOME.
I just Googled Himalayan bees and found out some of them produce hallucinogenic honey. I think you're onto something...
OH SWEET. Blake Lively is pregnant again. As I get huger and huger (totally a word), she'll be doing photoshoots with her perfectly tiny bump, raving about her cravings for artisanal pickles and raw honey sourced from Himalayan bees. AWESOME.
I just Googled Himalayan bees and found out some of them produce hallucinogenic honey. I think you're onto something...
OH SWEET. Blake Lively is pregnant again. As I get huger and huger (totally a word), she'll be doing photoshoots with her perfectly tiny bump, raving about her cravings for artisanal pickles and raw honey sourced from Himalayan bees. AWESOME.
Random baby-related question that I asked my sister and she didn't know. Did you have like a moment of overwheleming love for your baby before it was born? And how far along were you?
@agogo1 - I freaking loved that BMB (I had a different screen name back then). I still talk to a huge number of them every day! And yeah, the snark was REAL.
@orangeev if we're being totally honest, no. I was so excited to be pregnant with my first (and now too!), but I honestly never felt that "connection" while pregnant. Honestly, it was even hard for me right after birth. It's hard to explain. I loved her to death but the longer I had her and got to know her, the more I loved her and closer we got. I don't think I'm explaining it well, but maybe I'll think of a way to reword for FFFC tomorrow.
@OrangeEv If I'm being totally honest, I felt kinda disconnected from DD while I carried her. My pregnancy was nothing like I thought it would be and I was miserable almost the entire way through. The only times I ever got excited was when she started kicking and elbowing me and seeing her at ultrasounds. But the minute I got to lay my eyes on her in real life, I felt an immediate sense of love and wanting to protect this little tiny thing and wanting to just hold her and smell her and stare at her. I think they call it being baby drunk. This time, I'm feeling a lot of the same... Excited to have another baby and hoping for a healthy little one, but I just haven't gotten to the overwhelming love yet.
@JamieK1882I know exactly what you mean! I was happy and excited to be pregnant with my first, but when I tried to talk to him or feel love for him, it was just a blank. When he was born, my reaction wasn't a rush of love so much as "WHOAAAAA." It took about 24 hours for love to set in, and even then it felt, I don't know, unearned? There's an episode of Star Trek: The Next Generation where the whole bridge crew loses their memories, and there's this extra guy there in a uniform, so everyone treats him like he's been part of the crew all along, even though we the audience know he's an imposter. It felt like that.
I feel more connected to the current pregnancy because now I know what it's like to give birth to a baby and love that baby. It's not theoretical this time. But love? Not yet.
BTDT Moms, I need opinions. DH and I were supposed to go on a cruise the week after our BFP. We called and got a cruise credit from the cruise line because of Zika concerns in the Caribbean so now we're deciding when to reschedule our trip. We were going to go on a babymoon in June but we're extremely limited in where we can go because of Zika, plus, I wouldn't be able to drink, get in the hot tub, do some of our favorite excursions/activities, etc. and I really want to save all of my paid time off to extend my maternity leave. We found out today that our credit won't expire until 2018. DH wants to schedule a trip for the 2 of us for November 2017... Do you think this LO will be old enough to stay with grandparents for a week at 13 months, or is that too young? My initial thought was too soon but I know nothing and maybe I'm being overly sensitive about it.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
@JamieK1882 I think we were typing at the same time because I didn't see your reply till now! Yeah, it's not like I doubt I will love the baby. I just haven't gotten there yet. When they're actually here and you get to know them, I think that's when the flood of emotions really comes.
@MRSCORKER - it's so hard to know how you'll feel then. My DS is 13 months old right now and I don't think I could leave him for an entire week (even knowing he LOVES my parents and they'd do great for a week with him). I could probably do a weekend, though. That being said, I have friends with kids the same age and some of them would have no issue with it.
If it were me, I'd do the cruise pre-baby. You'll enjoy it more (not going in a hot tub isn't a huge deal) and you'll look back on that time alone with your husband and be glad you did it!
@kmalls Yeah, I'm going back and forth. Right now, I want to go pre-baby but I know I'll be sooooo sad when my maternity leave is over and I know I could have had an extra week if we hadn't gone. If we do decide to save the credit for down the line, we'll still do a little baby moon getaway this summer so we have some time just us before the baby.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
@MRSCORKER - oooh I totally missed the part about your maternity leave. I think you're right, you'd kick yourself if you had a week less at home with the baby. Ugh such a tough spot to be in!
@MRSCORKER - oooh I totally missed the part about your maternity leave. I think you're right, you'd kick yourself if you had a week less at home with the baby. Ugh such a tough spot to be in!
We don't have to go in November '17. The credit won't expire until 2018 so we can wait. Was just curious what BTDT moms thought about leaving the babe at 13 months. We'll see, we have time to decide.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
@mrscorker that's tough. DD is 16 months and the longest I've left her for a work trip was 5 days and I hated it. But she often does sleep overs with the grandparents (even weekend camping trips) and loves it. Harder on me than it is her. Would you be opposed to taking LO on the trip with you?
@mrscorker that's tough. DD is 16 months and the longest I've left her for a work trip was 5 days and I hated it. But she often does sleep overs with the grandparents (even weekend camping trips) and loves it. Harder on me than it is her. Would you be opposed to taking LO on the trip with you?
You know, I hadn't thought of that. I'll have to talk to H and see what he thinks.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
@mrscorker that's tough. DD is 16 months and the longest I've left her for a work trip was 5 days and I hated it. But she often does sleep overs with the grandparents (even weekend camping trips) and loves it. Harder on me than it is her. Would you be opposed to taking LO on the trip with you?
You know, I hadn't thought of that. I'll have to talk to H and see what he thinks.
I'm team take LO with you. We brought DS to Puerto Rico when he was 11 months and it was great (aside from him being a shitty sleeper, but whatever). We had a blast playing at the beach with him and taking him sight seeing with us. I'd do it again. Plus, flights are free when they're that little. Gotta take advantage when you can!
@Mrscorker I didn't want to leave DS for a week, so we brought him on a carribean cruise when he was about 24 months and we had a really good time with him. We went in early December and there weren't many kids on the ship, but all the adults we met seemed to really enjoy him, which was fun. Random people would come up and say "Oh, he's got his yellow hotwheels today! We saw his green one yesterday!" We had a lot of fun taking him on excursions and around the ship too. The cruise line we were on had a pretty good kids program too that we used a couple times and had lunch by ourselves. Of course, it was a very different cruise than just DH and I, and the cruise line made us pay for another adult ticket for our son (they said because he would take up a spot in the life boat!), but overall it was a very good experience.
@MRSCORKER I agree with those who are saying take the baby with you! My DD is 14 months old and I've had to leave her for overnight work trips and I absolutely hate it. I have a 5 day trip coming up and I'm already weepy about it. We took DD to Paris when she was 7 months old and honestly had way more fun with her there than we would have had on our own.
Ok, one more question for the BTDT mamas. H and I are considering a doula. We both feel we need a support person and I'm 100% against having any family or friends present. We have a meeting with a doula next week just to meet and ask questions but from what I have found online, it's going to cost close to 1k. This morning, I found out that a woman I work with is currently in training to become a doula and needs to assist on a certain number of births to become certified. She's offered her services for free. I really like her a lot, she has a very calming, nurturing energy but I'm wondering if it would be weird to have someone I work with at the birth and basically seeing me naked. We don't work closely together, we're in the same department but on different teams so I only see her a couple of times a week but she sits nearby. Would this be too weird or is it worth sucking up the weirdness to save a thousand dollars?
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
@Mrscorker I would say go with the coworker if you feel comfortable with her. With my first son my mom was present and was VERY needed as a calming presence. Labor in general was so overwhelming for both my husband and I and there are always things that don't exactly as planned, that it was really helpful to have someone there that could remain more objective and help me remember the things I wanted. If you don't want family there, I think a outside support person is the way to go. I don't think it would phase me to have a co-worker like yours there. We live in a small town and my midwife goes to my church, works out at my gym, and has her kids in the same school as mine. She's very professional and for me, it's not hard to separate socializing with her outside of the hospital with all the very personal stuff she knows about me inside the hospital.
@MRSCORKER I would say as long as she seems reliable, and not like the type to blab intimate details of your delivery all over your department then go for it
Thanks @AllyTheKid and @ScootsMcG She's very professional and lovely and I think she will be a great doula. I have no concerns about her blabbing around the office. I think my only concern was if it would be weird at work afterwards when I'm like, "Hey, good to see you, you've seen my vag". Ha! You're right though, I think there is definitely a way to compartmentalize and by the time I see her again, it will be 3+ months after the fact so I think any awkwardness will have had time to pass.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
@OrangeEv No. I mean, I loved him and would have done anything in the world to protect him and was scared for him every moment he wasn't moving, but no movie style gushing in love, reading to my stomach etc. I didn't fall madly in love with him until I first saw him in person, and even that faded into a disconnect when we were in the midst of the first month.
I keep having this panic of not being ready for two kids. One moment I'm sitting there reading to my 22 month old and the next moment he's being a jerk and I'm wondering what we were thinking having another one close in age.
I apparently had a dream the other day that one of the gifts at our wedding party was a fairly large whisk. While cooking earlier I decided I whisk would work better than a fork and I began to sort through ALL my utensils/shelves looking for said whisk that I dreamed about. Never have I been so confused.
I apparently had a dream the other day that one of the gifts at our wedding party was a fairly large whisk. While cooking earlier I decided I whisk would work better than a fork and I began to sort through ALL my utensils/shelves looking for said whisk that I dreamed about. Never have I been so confused.
That would be so disappointing! Sorry for that haha
Thanks @AllyTheKid and @ScootsMcG She's very professional and lovely and I think she will be a great doula. I have no concerns about her blabbing around the office. I think my only concern was if it would be weird at work afterwards when I'm like, "Hey, good to see you, you've seen my vag". Ha! You're right though, I think there is definitely a way to compartmentalize and by the time I see her again, it will be 3+ months after the fact so I think any awkwardness will have had time to pass.
Honestly, when you're in the moment you probably won't even care if she sees your vag and that will probably carry over to when you see her after too.
Thanks @AllyTheKid and @ScootsMcG She's very professional and lovely and I think she will be a great doula. I have no concerns about her blabbing around the office. I think my only concern was if it would be weird at work afterwards when I'm like, "Hey, good to see you, you've seen my vag". Ha! You're right though, I think there is definitely a way to compartmentalize and by the time I see her again, it will be 3+ months after the fact so I think any awkwardness will have had time to pass.
Honestly, when you're in the moment you probably won't even care if she sees your vag and that will probably carry over to when you see her after too.
I for sure won't care in the moment. Was more thinking about when I come back to work but I think you all are right. We're all adults and this is the profession she is choosing to move into so it comes with the territory. I would rather save the 1k and risk any awkwardness that will probably never manifest anyway.
Thanks for all of the input, everyone!
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
I apparently had a dream the other day that one of the gifts at our wedding party was a fairly large whisk. While cooking earlier I decided I whisk would work better than a fork and I began to sort through ALL my utensils/shelves looking for said whisk that I dreamed about. Never have I been so confused.
I would of had to go buy that whisk. This kind of dream is the worst.
@br0co1ii I'm in SC! What area are you moving to? And where from?
Edit to say I posted this before finishing the thread. Charleston is mine and SO's favorite place during the summer and also where we had to go to get inseminated. You'll love it!!
Lol speaking of weird dreams...I had a dream I was on the Bump or Ovia app and it told me that we were having a girl. I was only confused because I didn't know the app had that feature so it was a surprise to find out when I opened it that time
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LFAF April Siggy: TV/Movie BFFs
BFP #4 1/2016, DD born 10/2016
Did you have like a moment of overwheleming love for your baby before it was born? And how far along were you?
I feel more connected to the current pregnancy because now I know what it's like to give birth to a baby and love that baby. It's not theoretical this time. But love? Not yet.
E born 6/2014
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
If it were me, I'd do the cruise pre-baby. You'll enjoy it more (not going in a hot tub isn't a huge deal) and you'll look back on that time alone with your husband and be glad you did it!
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
LFAF April Siggy: TV/Movie BFFs
BFP #4 1/2016, DD born 10/2016
@Mrscorker I didn't want to leave DS for a week, so we brought him on a carribean cruise when he was about 24 months and we had a really good time with him. We went in early December and there weren't many kids on the ship, but all the adults we met seemed to really enjoy him, which was fun. Random people would come up and say "Oh, he's got his yellow hotwheels today! We saw his green one yesterday!" We had a lot of fun taking him on excursions and around the ship too. The cruise line we were on had a pretty good kids program too that we used a couple times and had lunch by ourselves. Of course, it was a very different cruise than just DH and I, and the cruise line made us pay for another adult ticket for our son (they said because he would take up a spot in the life boat!), but overall it was a very good experience.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
Dating: 10/3/08 | Married: 12/27/14
TTC #1: August 2015 | BFP: 2/3/16 | EDD: 10/7/16
DD: 10/5/16
TTC #2: September 2017 | BFP: 4/28/18 | EDD: 1/7/19
DS: 1/9/19
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
BFP: February 2016 EDD: October 17, 2016
BFP: February 2016 EDD: October 17, 2016
LFAF April Siggy: TV/Movie BFFs
BFP #4 1/2016, DD born 10/2016
Thanks for all of the input, everyone!
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
BFP: February 2016 EDD: October 17, 2016
Edit to say I posted this before finishing the thread. Charleston is mine and SO's favorite place during the summer and also where we had to go to get inseminated. You'll love it!!