I need some opinions! Our amazing babysitter is moving so we've been trialing a new one. On the day of her scheduled interview she messaged me that she had a death in the family, which of course I expressed my condolences and said of course to reschedule. We finally meet and offer her the job. Since then there have been 5 days to work, she's canceled on me 3 of the 5 days. Random reasons, which normally I would say no problem but all combined seem like she's either having insanely bad luck or she's feeling out another job offer. Also she walked our dog with headphones on, which I'm not a fan of but isn't a huge offense since I never made my opinion know. The latest was today and I had to reschedule my weekly appointment last minute.
Thoughts? Keep trying and see if it gets better or cut our losses? I'm having a baby in a week or two, I want zero drama right now and this is driving me insane. I don't know if I'm over reacting or if my gut is right on this.
I don't think that most people posting on the May arrival thread usually come back and see Mslam's msgs. I find the repeated don't post on this thread message just as annoying because when I see two new notifications I'm hoping at least one is a birth not another don't post anything on the thread announcement. Personally I think it's fighting a loosing battle. People will post things and I agree with letting it go!
This! Repeating the warning over and over again is even more annoying than one person saying congratulations.
I need some opinions! Our amazing babysitter is moving so we've been trialing a new one. On the day of her scheduled interview she messaged me that she had a death in the family, which of course I expressed my condolences and said of course to reschedule. We finally meet and offer her the job. Since then there have been 5 days to work, she's canceled on me 3 of the 5 days. Random reasons, which normally I would say no problem but all combined seem like she's either having insanely bad luck or she's feeling out another job offer. Also she walked our dog with headphones on, which I'm not a fan of but isn't a huge offense since I never made my opinion know. The latest was today and I had to reschedule my weekly appointment last minute.
Thoughts? Keep trying and see if it gets better or cut our losses? I'm having a baby in a week or two, I want zero drama right now and this is driving me insane. I don't know if I'm over reacting or if my gut is right on this.
Trust your gut. I was a nanny on the UWS for three years and so I can compassionately say that I think you should look for a replacement. Being an in-home child care provider takes a certain level of commitment and if she can't even show up during her first week on the job I'd say she most likely can't cut it. With a new baby coming, you really don't have the time to wait and see if she gets better. I'd say cut your losses now and find someone better that will allow you to ease your mind and not add to your stress.
Followed up with midwife this morning. Off of bed rest - it was apparently just a precaution till they could talk to me. Tentatively I can still have the baby at the birth center since pre-eclampsia was ruled out. They're just going to keep a closer eye on my BP.
However they did mention the high level ultrasound again and they're referring me to the children's hospital just a little bit away from here. Of course the way the doctor at the hospital mentioned last night was that the size difference between the head and body was probably just an ultrasound anomaly and was within normal range since nothing ever came up at my anatomy scan and that they just wanted to confirm dating. However my midwife this morning has to go and mention that they just want to make sure it's not hydrocephalus and that baby just has a larger head. Which is entirely possible bc apparently it's a trait of DH and his family. So of course what do I do once I get off the phone? Look up everything about it. And then proceed to freak out which is horrible considering the BP issues.
And of course the hospital is taking its sweet time getting my records from the past 2 days to the birth center so they can send them with the referral so I haven't even gotten a call yet to make the appointment.
My mind is telling me now that if they thought this really was a dire issue I wouldn't be at home right now still waiting on an appointment for next week, but of course I can't help but occasionally have my mind stray to the worst. So now I'm sitting here trying to do anything to keep myself occupied so I don't think about this or to try and think good thoughts.
I DID NOT HAVE THIS MUCH emotional instability last time. Trace Adkin's "you're gonna miss this" was on the radio, and I was just driving along, SOBBING. I am so sentimental, I almost cried at the memory of swollen Kim Kardashian (we were pregnant at the same time). I miss swollen Kim.
That damn song gets me every time, pregnant or not. That and "There Goes My Life". ALL THE TEARS!
I need some opinions! Our amazing babysitter is moving so we've been trialing a new one. On the day of her scheduled interview she messaged me that she had a death in the family, which of course I expressed my condolences and said of course to reschedule. We finally meet and offer her the job. Since then there have been 5 days to work, she's canceled on me 3 of the 5 days. Random reasons, which normally I would say no problem but all combined seem like she's either having insanely bad luck or she's feeling out another job offer. Also she walked our dog with headphones on, which I'm not a fan of but isn't a huge offense since I never made my opinion know. The latest was today and I had to reschedule my weekly appointment last minute.
Thoughts? Keep trying and see if it gets better or cut our losses? I'm having a baby in a week or two, I want zero drama right now and this is driving me insane. I don't know if I'm over reacting or if my gut is right on this.
Trust your gut. I was a nanny on the UWS for three years and so I can compassionately say that I think you should look for a replacement. Being an in-home child care provider takes a certain level of commitment and if she can't even show up during her first week on the job I'd say she most likely can't cut it. With a new baby coming, you really don't have the time to wait and see if she gets better. I'd say cut your losses now and find someone better that will allow you to ease your mind and not add to your stress.
Thanks @LadySamLady. It's really hard to find someone amazing, mature, responsible and fun. I interviewed a lovely girl - and I say girl because she turned up and told me her mom is 36 - before this one. Everyone I know is looking for part-time child care in our neighborhood and there's no one out there!
Yes to the emotional instability increase. I cried SO hard the other day because someone mentioned something general about my daughter getting married someday. SHE IS TWO YEARS OLD and I couldn't handle the thought of seeing her walk down the aisle and all of that. I have so long before then but I just couldn't keep myself together. Full ugly cry.
I need some opinions! Our amazing babysitter is moving so we've been trialing a new one. On the day of her scheduled interview she messaged me that she had a death in the family, which of course I expressed my condolences and said of course to reschedule. We finally meet and offer her the job. Since then there have been 5 days to work, she's canceled on me 3 of the 5 days. Random reasons, which normally I would say no problem but all combined seem like she's either having insanely bad luck or she's feeling out another job offer. Also she walked our dog with headphones on, which I'm not a fan of but isn't a huge offense since I never made my opinion know. The latest was today and I had to reschedule my weekly appointment last minute.
Thoughts? Keep trying and see if it gets better or cut our losses? I'm having a baby in a week or two, I want zero drama right now and this is driving me insane. I don't know if I'm over reacting or if my gut is right on this.
Trust your gut. I was a nanny on the UWS for three years and so I can compassionately say that I think you should look for a replacement. Being an in-home child care provider takes a certain level of commitment and if she can't even show up during her first week on the job I'd say she most likely can't cut it. With a new baby coming, you really don't have the time to wait and see if she gets better. I'd say cut your losses now and find someone better that will allow you to ease your mind and not add to your stress.
Thanks @LadySamLady. It's really hard to find someone amazing, mature, responsible and fun. I interviewed a lovely girl - and I say girl because she turned up and told me her mom is 36 - before this one. Everyone I know is looking for part-time child care in our neighborhood and there's no one out there!
I'm sure you've asked around already but the family I worked for found me through a friend of mine that was also a nanny in their building. I started off just babysitting part time but eventually became their full time nanny. Are there any nannies or babysitters that you know that might have a friend or someone they could refer you to? I wish I knew someone in the city I could send your way for an interview but I've been out of the childcare game for 5.5 years now.
I need some opinions! Our amazing babysitter is moving so we've been trialing a new one. On the day of her scheduled interview she messaged me that she had a death in the family, which of course I expressed my condolences and said of course to reschedule. We finally meet and offer her the job. Since then there have been 5 days to work, she's canceled on me 3 of the 5 days. Random reasons, which normally I would say no problem but all combined seem like she's either having insanely bad luck or she's feeling out another job offer. Also she walked our dog with headphones on, which I'm not a fan of but isn't a huge offense since I never made my opinion know. The latest was today and I had to reschedule my weekly appointment last minute.
Thoughts? Keep trying and see if it gets better or cut our losses? I'm having a baby in a week or two, I want zero drama right now and this is driving me insane. I don't know if I'm over reacting or if my gut is right on this.
Trust your gut. I was a nanny on the UWS for three years and so I can compassionately say that I think you should look for a replacement. Being an in-home child care provider takes a certain level of commitment and if she can't even show up during her first week on the job I'd say she most likely can't cut it. With a new baby coming, you really don't have the time to wait and see if she gets better. I'd say cut your losses now and find someone better that will allow you to ease your mind and not add to your stress.
Thanks @LadySamLady. It's really hard to find someone amazing, mature, responsible and fun. I interviewed a lovely girl - and I say girl because she turned up and told me her mom is 36 - before this one. Everyone I know is looking for part-time child care in our neighborhood and there's no one out there!
I'm sure you've asked around already but the family I worked for found me through a friend of mine that was also a nanny in their building. I started off just babysitting part time but eventually became their full time nanny. Are there any nannies or babysitters that you know that might have a friend or someone they could refer you to? I wish I knew someone in the city I could send your way for an interview but I've been out of the childcare game for 5.5 years now.
I've asked all of my mom friends. I posted on our neighborhood association too, but I think once school is out and a lot of families leave town there might be more availability. Thank you, that's so sweet. We are basically trying to replace my dream babysitter so it's even more difficult because we all love her so much!
I need some opinions! Our amazing babysitter is moving so we've been trialing a new one. On the day of her scheduled interview she messaged me that she had a death in the family, which of course I expressed my condolences and said of course to reschedule. We finally meet and offer her the job. Since then there have been 5 days to work, she's canceled on me 3 of the 5 days. Random reasons, which normally I would say no problem but all combined seem like she's either having insanely bad luck or she's feeling out another job offer. Also she walked our dog with headphones on, which I'm not a fan of but isn't a huge offense since I never made my opinion know. The latest was today and I had to reschedule my weekly appointment last minute.
Thoughts? Keep trying and see if it gets better or cut our losses? I'm having a baby in a week or two, I want zero drama right now and this is driving me insane. I don't know if I'm over reacting or if my gut is right on this.
I'd say cut losses IMO.
Been married since 2009. Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter) Several MCs DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)
Lol okay okay. If everyone is okay with this inability to follow a simple rule that we actually voted on before all the newbies came, then ill let it go. I personally think it's gonna get out of control when we all start popping out our kids. But honestly whatevs.
@dsmith211 I'm sorry you had another rollercoaster day. Hugs!! Fx that everything's okay with baby. It sounds like they're just being cautious, but I'm sure I'd be on edge, too, especially after everything you've been through in the past few days. Hang in there.
@dsmith211 what an intense week you've had. I'm so sorry that you've got something else to worry about. I'm sure they are just being cautious but that doesn't make it any easier. I really hope you can schedule the appointment ASAP and that the time flies for you until then. Stay strong but be kind to yourself, it is ok to be emotional and to feel down with all of this new information to process. Sending creepy Internet hugs your way. Keep us posted!
My H cannot get over how much toilet paper I'm going through these days. We are down to half a roll and I asked him to please get more tonight because I don't think it will last until morning and the man laughed in my face! I know it's ridiculous but I can't help that I pee every hour all night long.
He has also just realized that I am kind of using him for sex in hopes it will help soften my cervix, but he said he's not complaining. Apparently he thought I was just super horny which couldn't be farther from the truth. I feel like a beached whale and not at all sexy but my OB told me that the best natural way to soften my cervix is sex so that's what I'm doing. Anyone else?
@LadySamLady seriously to the tp thing. I got SO MUCH TP on a trip to the store to load up since going out by myself with a brand new baby is just not going to happen...and it's gone...all of it...already. I'm trying to figure out where the hell I can stash like 150 double rolls to last me a few months because I've legitimately gone through 48 double rolls in 4 weeks. My husband would flip lol.
is there any chance I'm retaining water in my upper arms and thighs but not really in my feet and hands? I kind of think no and it's just fat but I'm really hopeful it's at least partially water weight...
My H cannot get over how much toilet paper I'm going through these days. We are down to half a roll and I asked him to please get more tonight because I don't think it will last until morning and the man laughed in my face! I know it's ridiculous but I can't help that I pee every hour all night long.
He has also just realized that I am kind of using him for sex in hopes it will help soften my cervix, but he said he's not complaining. Apparently he thought I was just super horny which couldn't be farther from the truth. I feel like a beached whale and not at all sexy but my OB told me that the best natural way to soften my cervix is sex so that's what I'm doing. Anyone else?
I think I'm just horny BUT the thought of a softened cervix is in the back of my mind as well. Even though I'm having a c section I'd like to go into labor on my own.
Been married since 2009. Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter) Several MCs DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)
is there any chance I'm retaining water in my upper arms and thighs but not really in my feet and hands? I kind of think no and it's just fat but I'm really hopeful it's at least partially water weight...
I'm holding on (desperately) to the thought that it's water. I'll sit with you in ignorant bliss
Been married since 2009. Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter) Several MCs DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)
Lol okay okay. If everyone is okay with this inability to follow a simple rule that we actually voted on before all the newbies came, then ill let it go. I personally think it's gonna get out of control when we all start popping out our kids. But honestly whatevs.
My H cannot get over how much toilet paper I'm going through these days. We are down to half a roll and I asked him to please get more tonight because I don't think it will last until morning and the man laughed in my face! I know it's ridiculous but I can't help that I pee every hour all night long.
I've been using TP like crazy also! Mostly because of discharge and my frequent (TMI) pregnancy number 2s. I've clogged up our bathrooms, my in laws and my parents.... good thing my work has strong water pressure though LOL
So guys, it happened tonight. DH volunteered to clean up down there for me because I can no longer see it and handicapped from my foot boot... This is all because he went with me today for my GBS swab and pelvic check up. He saw how uncomfortable I was with my overgrown area. I think I'll keep him
How many bomb pops are too many for one sitting...? I want ALL the bomb pops.
I've asked myself this too...only with drumsticks the past few days...and I came to the conclusion that there IS, in fact, such thing as too many drumsticks. Bomb pops though, I don't think there is such thing as too many.
@That1didntcount@dsmith211@ncm0328 I like you. Ha. I decided after having a small DQ blizzard earlier I should stop at two. But they are so good! I bought them the other day along with a box of drumsticks, but I've gone easy on the drumsticks and have been killing the bomb pops.
@ayeshaohara Bomb pops are popsicles that are red white & blue layered and the flavors are cherry, lime & blue raspberry. SO GOOD. If you see them in the store I encourage you to buy them!
@valerie4786 I bought a box of classic drumsticks and a box of butterfinger drumsticks since I've never tried the butterfinger ones before. I had three throughout the day yesterday. I felt so gross...they were good though!
@valerie4786 how do you feel about generic brand bomb pops? Some people are very anti generic brand and have to have the Popsicle brand bomb pop. I'm not particular myself.
@valerie4786 I bought a box of classic drumsticks and a box of butterfinger drumsticks since I've never tried the butterfinger ones before. I had three throughout the day yesterday. I felt so gross...they were good though!
I can totally relate! I went grocery shopping the other night hungry and pregnant and made terrible decisions. I got home and told my husband I should be banned from the store for the rest of my pregnancy and he looked at the groceries I had gotten and was like "YES!!" and started laughing because he was excited about all of my terrible decisions. Then later that night when I was telling him about some of the comments that have been made to me through pregnancy thus far he was like "If you want that second drumstick, then go on and eat that second drumstick! You deserve it." So although I know I shouldn't have the second bomb pop or drumstick...sometimes it's TOTALLY justified.
@valerie4786 how do you feel about generic brand bomb pops? Some people are very anti generic brand and have to have the Popsicle brand bomb pop. I'm not particular myself.
I've actually never had the generic brand! I've never knew they made a generic brand so I never looked for it and it wasn't sitting right next to the Popsicle brand when I bought them. I'll have to keep an eye out!
Yeah we have bought store brand several times because they're so much cheaper. We have a toddler so a wide variety of frozen treats is a must.
This brings me to share that during my daughter's birth I had 4 lime outshine Popsicles so those are already purchased and ready to go for number two!!!!
If you are trying to type a smiley face ":)" and you are on the letters screen instead of punctuation, then it comes up DH. They are very slightly off, but my fingers type DH.
I like this because when I think of DH I do !!!
how's that for random!?
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What's everyone doing in terms of telling family and friends you are in labor? I really do not want my ILs there until the next day. I've mentioned it to dh and he just says "yeah". He tends to call them immediately about anything in life, so I worry a bit he is going to call them in a panic. I don't want them anywhere near the hospital. But at the same time it's his parents and his day as well. Is it selfish of me to stand my ground on this? I just know how annoying intrusive his mom can be and I don't want to have to deal with it during labor.
@yogahh I'm trying to figure this out, too. We're close with both sides of my family, but I still don't want a group of people sitting in the waiting room. After baby is born, I want at least two hours uninterrupted by guests. I think we will tell them we are going to the hospital, but to sit tight until he is born. They live about 2.5 hours away. I don't want my MIL telling everyone and their dog that I'm in labor though. She has such a big mouth and I just don't want our entire extended family wondering how L&D is going.
If she is insistent on coming earlier, hopefully she will be content with hanging out at our house until we are ready for visitors.
I'm planning to let our immediate families know when we go to the hospital and then again when delivery is complete, BUT:
(1) I have full confidence that nobody is going to show up unannounced or uninvited, because my family lives 500 miles away and my husband's family is very good about respecting boundaries, so I don't have to worry about anybody showing up to the hospital before we tell them it's okay;
AND
(2) My hospital's policy is that nobody is allowed in the delivery room except the laboring mom and one support person, so that takes away any need to explain to people that they can't be there. The hospital wouldn't allow them in anyway. Visitors can only come to see the baby after you've been moved to a recovery room. So we'll just tell them that we're moved whenever we're ready to see visitors, and before that, we'll just say "sorry, hospital policy."
So between those two factors I'm hoping/expecting this to be pretty drama free. I know not everybody gets to have it so easy.
We'll call immediate family when we're headed to the hospital but they all know already that they aren't allowed in the room during delivery or for a few hours after she's born. So it's up to them if they want to sit in the waiting room or wait for a call that she's born. Thankfully they've all been understanding and respectful of our wishes for a couple hours as a family of three before more people come in
Re: **The Everything Random Thread for May 2016**
Thoughts? Keep trying and see if it gets better or cut our losses? I'm having a baby in a week or two, I want zero drama right now and this is driving me insane. I don't know if I'm over reacting or if my gut is right on this.
Trust your gut. I was a nanny on the UWS for three years and so I can compassionately say that I think you should look for a replacement. Being an in-home child care provider takes a certain level of commitment and if she can't even show up during her first week on the job I'd say she most likely can't cut it. With a new baby coming, you really don't have the time to wait and see if she gets better. I'd say cut your losses now and find someone better that will allow you to ease your mind and not add to your stress.
However they did mention the high level ultrasound again and they're referring me to the children's hospital just a little bit away from here. Of course the way the doctor at the hospital mentioned last night was that the size difference between the head and body was probably just an ultrasound anomaly and was within normal range since nothing ever came up at my anatomy scan and that they just wanted to confirm dating. However my midwife this morning has to go and mention that they just want to make sure it's not hydrocephalus and that baby just has a larger head. Which is entirely possible bc apparently it's a trait of DH and his family. So of course what do I do once I get off the phone? Look up everything about it. And then proceed to freak out which is horrible considering the BP issues.
And of course the hospital is taking its sweet time getting my records from the past 2 days to the birth center so they can send them with the referral so I haven't even gotten a call yet to make the appointment.
My mind is telling me now that if they thought this really was a dire issue I wouldn't be at home right now still waiting on an appointment for next week, but of course I can't help but occasionally have my mind stray to the worst. So now I'm sitting here trying to do anything to keep myself occupied so I don't think about this or to try and think good thoughts.
Been married since 2009.
Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter)
Several MCs
DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)
He has also just realized that I am kind of using him for sex in hopes it will help soften my cervix, but he said he's not complaining. Apparently he thought I was just super horny which couldn't be farther from the truth. I feel like a beached whale and not at all sexy but my OB told me that the best natural way to soften my cervix is sex so that's what I'm doing. Anyone else?
Been married since 2009.
Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter)
Several MCs
DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)
Been married since 2009.
Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter)
Several MCs
DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)
So guys, it happened tonight. DH volunteered to clean up down there for me because I can no longer see it and handicapped from my foot boot... This is all because he went with me today for my GBS swab and pelvic check up. He saw how uncomfortable I was with my overgrown area. I think I'll keep him
@That1didntcount @dsmith211 @ncm0328 I like you. Ha. I decided after having a small DQ blizzard earlier I should stop at two. But they are so good! I bought them the other day along with a box of drumsticks, but I've gone easy on the drumsticks and have been killing the bomb pops.
@ayeshaohara Bomb pops are popsicles that are red white & blue layered and the flavors are cherry, lime & blue raspberry. SO GOOD. If you see them in the store I encourage you to buy them!
I can totally relate! I went grocery shopping the other night hungry and pregnant and made terrible decisions. I got home and told my husband I should be banned from the store for the rest of my pregnancy and he looked at the groceries I had gotten and was like "YES!!" and started laughing because he was excited about all of my terrible decisions. Then later that night when I was telling him about some of the comments that have been made to me through pregnancy thus far he was like "If you want that second drumstick, then go on and eat that second drumstick! You deserve it." So although I know I shouldn't have the second bomb pop or drumstick...sometimes it's TOTALLY justified.
I've actually never had the generic brand! I've never knew they made a generic brand so I never looked for it and it wasn't sitting right next to the Popsicle brand when I bought them. I'll have to keep an eye out!
This brings me to share that during my daughter's birth I had 4 lime outshine Popsicles so those are already purchased and ready to go for number two!!!!
If you are trying to type a smiley face ":)" and you are on the letters screen instead of punctuation, then it comes up DH. They are very slightly off, but my fingers type DH.
I like this because when I think of DH I do
how's that for random!?
If she is insistent on coming earlier, hopefully she will be content with hanging out at our house until we are ready for visitors.
(1) I have full confidence that nobody is going to show up unannounced or uninvited, because my family lives 500 miles away and my husband's family is very good about respecting boundaries, so I don't have to worry about anybody showing up to the hospital before we tell them it's okay;
AND
(2) My hospital's policy is that nobody is allowed in the delivery room except the laboring mom and one support person, so that takes away any need to explain to people that they can't be there. The hospital wouldn't allow them in anyway. Visitors can only come to see the baby after you've been moved to a recovery room. So we'll just tell them that we're moved whenever we're ready to see visitors, and before that, we'll just say "sorry, hospital policy."
So between those two factors I'm hoping/expecting this to be pretty drama free. I know not everybody gets to have it so easy.