Ugh. So not sleeping tonight... And definitely need to wait a few days before I start going through the baby stuff. I was fine until I tried doing that and then as soon as I started I definitely ugly cried for a little bit looking at all the clothes (the Daddy's Little Princess one definitely did me in). Then felt like a horrible person and cried more bc I got this stupid feeling the new baby isn't going to feel loved or something bc he's a boy and we were expecting a girl.
So now I'm chilling on the couch about as far away from baby stuff as I can get. I can't even deal right now.
You are allowed to "grieve" the daughter you thought you were having. But I also agree with pps- once you meet your lil boy I am sure you will have all the love for him!!! Before we had our AS I was convinced it was a boy. Tbh I would be pretty upset now if it wasn't a girl, only because I've built up a picture of our family with a girl. We've spent sooooooo much $$ on girl things (at last weeks Gs I asked the tech to check sex again. I told her if the baby grew a penis, I hope he likes pink!). But being able to recognize your feelings of being worried he won't feel loved means you will be an amazing mama since you are putting his feelings before yours! Take a day or too to be upset, then maybe go shopping for some boy things? I think that might make you feel better
Question- for anyone who did the 24 hour urine catch. I feel like I'm going to the bathroom ALL the time (especially at night). Did you put the fluid in the fridge after each single time or can you wait a little? If you can wait, how long?
I started this morning, but last night I used the bathroom every hour on the hour and I'm dreading tonight!
also- I have an appt and hoping I can just hold it for a couple hours bc I don't want to take my container with me :-(
@dsmith211 That's perfectly understandable. For MONTHS you've been thinking you were having a girl and you've been preparing for a girl. I would have cried too, I am sure we all would have. That is such a shock. That doesn't mean you won't love baby boy just as much as you would have a baby girl, it is jut going to take you some time to I guess come to terms with it. You're not a terrible person.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
@dsmith211 Be kind to yourself-- you've had quite a shock! You've had a long time to build up the idea of a baby girl in your head, only to have that suddenly reversed. It's not the same as hoping one way and finding out another like people complained about earlier in -- as far as you and your H knew, you had a girl. I'm sure that you'll love your little boy so completely once he's here!
@AliciaD39 so my first 24 hour collection I got up almost every hour and walked down stairs to get the jug. Made for an extremely long night. My second collection was at the hospital and they had a rubber maid container or tub of ice they left on the bathroom counter to keep the urine in! Wish I had thought of that for the night time collections.
@AliciaD39 like @mcb2016 I fill the bathroom sink with ice at night and set it in there for nighttime bathroom trips. I just move it to the fridge during the day because I'm typically in the living room during the day. I'm going on my fourth catch in about 5 weeks time, I feel like im becoming a pro!
@dsmith211 I agree with PPs.. go easy on yourself. This is definitely a shock, and you're allowed to feel sad about letting go of the picture of your family you'd built in your head for the past few months. I'm betting it won't take long for you to get very excited about meeting your son!
I had my first date smoothie last night and LOVED it! It is definitely as good as any ice cream type treat (ok, somewhat close), IMO. Here's what I mixed up:
6 dates banana peanut butter (I'm fairly generous with the PB) almond milk (I just eyeballed it.. maybe a 1/2 cup?) handful of spinach some chia seeds blend until smooth, then add ice to your liking. I probably added 10 cubes.
@dsmith211- My husband and I had a mini taste of what you're dealing with now back in January. We were told we were having a boy around Christmas. We didn't care either way, but once you hear you're having either a boy or a girl, you start thinking about names, picturing your family with either a girl/boy, etc. When we were told in January that it was actually a girl, my husband and I felt so weird. It's not that we didn't want a girl, but we just spent several weeks picturing our lives with a boy. We announced we were having a boy. Since we were moving, my girlfriends went ahead and threw me an early shower and bought me a whole bunch of boy related onsies. My husband is a pilot, so there were a lot of "Daddy's Wingman" type of things that were so cute. Eventually, the news settled, and we were back to being excited and picturing life with a daughter rather than a boy. Our one saving grace is outside of the shower gifts, we had bought very little since we were about to move. I can't even imagine if we found out this far along that it wasn't a boy. Thank goodness my old OB and new OB perform a routine ultrasound at every visit. When we made it to our new home, I asked the new OB to sneak a peak and confirm it was a girl. Now that we've spent a ton of money on the nursery and baby items that cater to a girl, I'm just waiting for that moment when the baby comes out, and it's actually a boy. It's given us quite a story to tell though, even that early on.
On an unrelated note, I saw this on FB and came to this thread to post it.
Thank you everyone for the kind words. DH are still trying to get a grasp on this and are taking things one step at a time. We really appreciate everyones thoughts.
I think one of the hard things will be taking care of all the girl items we just got. It just kinda made it more real and then just days later everything changed. DH saw how upset it made me yesterday and thankfully he volunteered to return, exchange, sell, etc. whatever he can so I don't have to deal with it.
Another thing that is making this a little worse is that I am most likely risked out of delivering at the birth center I was at. I have to go back in to the hospital this afternoon to have my BP monitored again while they run my 24 hour urine labs. They aren't expecting anything horrible from it they said bc I don't really have all the signs of a major issue and I was able to get my BP down to a more normal range while there yesterday, but at the very least they said I'll probably be diagnosed as mild pre-eclamptic since my initial test from yesterday had a small amount of protein. The midwife said if that's the case they'll have to review and see if I can still deliver there or if they can just keep a close eye on it and transfer me at the end if needed. However, regardless of what happens we'll be happy either way as long as everyone is healthy...
@dsmith211 I too have had to come to terms with not having the birth experience I was planning on and hoping for. I am going to be induced at 37 weeks. I'm finally feeling good about my new birth plans. What test showed protein? You may be okay. I've had initial urine samples test for protein twice but both times my 24 hour collection was fine! I don't have the pre-eclampsia diagnosis yet, but I do have Pregnancy Induced Hypertension. I get the feeling with my doctor that they worry I will eventually get pre-eclampsia.
Super random....but my the director who wins as the most socially awkward person in the office, sends out an email about my baby shower and titles the email "Optional meeting -Jen's baby". I am just shaking my head.
@dsmith211 I too have had to come to terms with not having the birth experience I was planning on and hoping for. I am going to be induced at 37 weeks. I'm finally feeling good about my new birth plans. What test showed protein? You may be okay. I've had initial urine samples test for protein twice but both times my 24 hour collection was fine! I don't have the pre-eclampsia diagnosis yet, but I do have Pregnancy Induced Hypertension. I get the feeling with my doctor that they worry I will eventually get pre-eclampsia.
It was my initial urine sample so it is entirely possible my 24 hour collection could come back fine. The doctor at the hospital yesterday said even with a little they may not be too worried bc I'm not really showing any of the other signs besides elevated BP (which I did get to go down to normal limits and could be stress related) and swelling (also within normal limits for 35 weeks).
my rando for the day: when I was up in the middle of the night I started having major buyers remorse over the car seat we picked out. I started researching whether I could return it and get the one that matches our stroller and whether I could apply my registry discount to the new car seat once I returned the old car seat. such a lunatic.
I just realized that I eat like a toddler. My lunch today was left over mac and cheese from last night (homemade with butternut squash puree in the cheese, but still), a package of Annie's Honey Graham Bunny crackers, a package of fruit snack gummies, and diluted apple juice in my water bottle.
I have to share this. A friend of mine just sent me a box of gifts for the baby (she couldn't make it to the shower) and they're all very personalized and thoughtful. This one, however, takes the cake. I'm known as the crazy cat lady of my group, so she had this car seat cover specially made for me LOL. DH hates it, but I am so going to use it!
Does anyone else feel like they have no appetite? Compared to a month or so ago, I feel like I am barely eating.
Yes. I have to remind myself to eat and then I'm not eating very much at one time. I've been losing weight so I'm just making sure to eat high protein foods.
Does anyone else feel like they have no appetite? Compared to a month or so ago, I feel like I am barely eating.
Yes. I have to remind myself to eat and then I'm not eating very much at one time. I've been losing weight so I'm just making sure to eat high protein foods.
I wish I had this problem I'm fighting my urge to eat double, triple, quadruple the amount that I usually eat. I hadn't had much of an appetite my entire pregnancy up until about 5/6 weeks ago when baby dropped and I had room to fit food again. Pretty sure I've gained 12 lbs just in the past 5/6 weeks.
Does anyone else feel like they have no appetite? Compared to a month or so ago, I feel like I am barely eating.
Yes. I have to remind myself to eat and then I'm not eating very much at one time. I've been losing weight so I'm just making sure to eat high protein foods.
I wish I had this problem I'm fighting my urge to eat double, triple, quadruple the amount that I usually eat. I hadn't had much of an appetite my entire pregnancy up until about 5/6 weeks ago when baby dropped and I had room to fit food again. Pretty sure I've gained 12 lbs just in the past 5/6 weeks.
I actually just texted my mom "I want ice cream and a sandwich for breakfast". Her response? "Have both!"
Does anyone else feel like they have no appetite? Compared to a month or so ago, I feel like I am barely eating.
Yes. I have to remind myself to eat and then I'm not eating very much at one time. I've been losing weight so I'm just making sure to eat high protein foods.
I wish I had this problem I'm fighting my urge to eat double, triple, quadruple the amount that I usually eat. I hadn't had much of an appetite my entire pregnancy up until about 5/6 weeks ago when baby dropped and I had room to fit food again. Pretty sure I've gained 12 lbs just in the past 5/6 weeks.
I actually just texted my mom "I want ice cream and a sandwich for breakfast". Her response? "Have both!"
Does anyone else feel like they have no appetite? Compared to a month or so ago, I feel like I am barely eating.
I have the opposite problem. I've had to remind myself all pregnancy to eat something and have had days where I only ate one meal because I'd completely forgotten about it otherwise. The hunger thing finally kicked in during the last week or so and now I want allllll the food, alllll the time.
@yogahh I'm at almost 34 weeks and was just thinking that. I don't feel like I have a small appetite, but up until a few weeks ago I was SO hungry all the time. Now eating isn't really on my radar, at least not more than usual. I thought this was supposed to be my hungry time!!
I've had a decreased appetite too plus the issue of NOTHING ever sounding good to eat. I wish I had cravings.
Nothing sounds good to me either, though I've learned that I can manage three things: ice cream, cookies and mac n cheese today. So apparently, I am now a 3 yr old.
Does anyone else feel like they have no appetite? Compared to a month or so ago, I feel like I am barely eating.
Mine has definitely decreased. I mean I'm still eating plenty, but I don't want to eat as much as I did before.
TMI update on the date smoothie.... I definitely shouldn't have followed the date smoothie last night with extra fiber oatmeal this morning. I thought I was going to die.
I've had a decreased appetite too plus the issue of NOTHING ever sounding good to eat. I wish I had cravings.
Nothing sounds good to me either, though I've learned that I can manage three things: ice cream, cookies and mac n cheese today. So apparently, I am now a 3 yr old.
I went the mac n cheese route today too. It's the only thing that sounded remotely good. But hey, cheese is protein and there's calcium....right??
Since we are still on this topic...I just ate four tacos. FOUR. IN A ROW. Even pre-pregnancy, two was my limit. It's only been like 45 minutes since I finished the last one, and I'm hungry all over again. Also, I still feel mildly full. But hungry! This is annoying.
@dsmith211 I told DH your story and he said "That's my nightmare!" ... I was kind of shocked- and then he said "Oh, not the sex mixup, I would honestly be happy either way - I meant having to return all that stuff!" I can see how difficult that would be, and I think it's very sweet of your DH to help take care of some of that for you. I hope buying some boy stuff (Think bow ties! Onesies with collars!) helps make it a little easier for you!
I went to Target for my lunch break and on the way out I got a large ICEE. That has been my major craving lately! Went to the machine with my empty cup and ... the light was on! The dreaded "DO NOT USE WHEN LIT" light! I was so disappointed. I literally sat down and stared at that damn ICEE machine for 10 minutes+! Finally I got a refund and left. Then, on a whim, I decided to grab Chick-fil-a on the way back to the office. I ordered nuggets and fries, and got up to the window to pay and she handed me an Ice Cream! Before I could say I didn't order one, she said "We had an extra, would you like it?" ... Duh! Then I had 9 nuggets in my 8 count meal! Guess Kharma made up for the ICEE. Whether you like Chick-fil-a in general or not, they seriously have the BEST ice cream! Mmmm...
Random question- im 36+3 and got voted to be a union rep at a state conference this weekend 2 and a half hours away from where I live. I'd be gone from Friday afternoon until Sunday afternoon. DH and mom are starting to express some anxiety about me being gone that far for that long this late in my pregnancy. I'll admit, I'm tired, struggling to do lot of physical stuff, and I would have to be "on" since it's a voting conference. my question is- would you go or would you stay home?
@dsmith211 I told DH your story and he said "That's my nightmare!" ... I was kind of shocked- and then he said "Oh, not the sex mixup, I would honestly be happy either way - I meant having to return all that stuff!" I can see how difficult that would be, and I think it's very sweet of your DH to help take care of some of that for you. I hope buying some boy stuff (Think bow ties! Onesies with collars!) helps make it a little easier for you!
I went to Target for my lunch break and on the way out I got a large ICEE. That has been my major craving lately! Went to the machine with my empty cup and ... the light was on! The dreaded "DO NOT USE WHEN LIT" light! I was so disappointed. I literally sat down and stared at that damn ICEE machine for 10 minutes+! Finally I got a refund and left. Then, on a whim, I decided to grab Chick-fil-a on the way back to the office. I ordered nuggets and fries, and got up to the window to pay and she handed me an Ice Cream! Before I could say I didn't order one, she said "We had an extra, would you like it?" ... Duh! Then I had 9 nuggets in my 8 count meal! Guess Kharma made up for the ICEE. Whether you like Chick-fil-a in general or not, they seriously have the BEST ice cream! Mmmm...
Target ICEEs have been my craving too!! And I get pissed because I swear they only have one person who knows how to work the cafe so if I go in at the wrong time or his off day, entire thing is shut down. Then, I have 50/50 shot on the machine working.
Re: **The Everything Random Thread for May 2016**
DS: Born 5-17-16
Anyway, that's what this reminded me of. Because a butt baby would obviously leak amniotic fluid out of your butt.
I started this morning, but last night I used the bathroom every hour on the hour and I'm dreading tonight!
also- I have an appt and hoping I can just hold it for a couple hours bc I don't want to take my container with me :-(
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!becoming a pro!
BFP #1: 9/12/2015
DD: 6/1/2016
BFP #2: 1/16/2018 MC 2/2/2018
6 dates
banana
peanut butter (I'm fairly generous with the PB)
almond milk (I just eyeballed it.. maybe a 1/2 cup?)
handful of spinach
some chia seeds
blend until smooth, then add ice to your liking. I probably added 10 cubes.
your advice made me SO happy. Never would have thought of that!
On an unrelated note, I saw this on FB and came to this thread to post it.
I think one of the hard things will be taking care of all the girl items we just got. It just kinda made it more real and then just days later everything changed. DH saw how upset it made me yesterday and thankfully he volunteered to return, exchange, sell, etc. whatever he can so I don't have to deal with it.
Another thing that is making this a little worse is that I am most likely risked out of delivering at the birth center I was at. I have to go back in to the hospital this afternoon to have my BP monitored again while they run my 24 hour urine labs. They aren't expecting anything horrible from it they said bc I don't really have all the signs of a major issue and I was able to get my BP down to a more normal range while there yesterday, but at the very least they said I'll probably be diagnosed as mild pre-eclamptic since my initial test from yesterday had a small amount of protein. The midwife said if that's the case they'll have to review and see if I can still deliver there or if they can just keep a close eye on it and transfer me at the end if needed. However, regardless of what happens we'll be happy either way as long as everyone is healthy...
I have to share this. A friend of mine just sent me a box of gifts for the baby (she couldn't make it to the shower) and they're all very personalized and thoughtful. This one, however, takes the cake. I'm known as the crazy cat lady of my group, so she had this car seat cover specially made for me LOL. DH hates it, but I am so going to use it!
BFP #1: 9/12/2015
DD: 6/1/2016
BFP #2: 1/16/2018 MC 2/2/2018
TMI update on the date smoothie.... I definitely shouldn't have followed the date smoothie last night with extra fiber oatmeal this morning. I thought I was going to die.
I went to Target for my lunch break and on the way out I got a large ICEE. That has been my major craving lately! Went to the machine with my empty cup and ... the light was on! The dreaded "DO NOT USE WHEN LIT" light! I was so disappointed. I literally sat down and stared at that damn ICEE machine for 10 minutes+! Finally I got a refund and left. Then, on a whim, I decided to grab Chick-fil-a on the way back to the office. I ordered nuggets and fries, and got up to the window to pay and she handed me an Ice Cream! Before I could say I didn't order one, she said "We had an extra, would you like it?" ... Duh! Then I had 9 nuggets in my 8 count meal! Guess Kharma made up for the ICEE. Whether you like Chick-fil-a in general or not, they seriously have the BEST ice cream! Mmmm...
BFP 1: 9/15/2013 | DD 5/23/2014
BFP 2: 9/15/2015 | EDD 5/26/2016
im 36+3 and got voted to be a union rep at a state conference this weekend 2 and a half hours away from where I live. I'd be gone from Friday afternoon until Sunday afternoon. DH and mom are starting to express some anxiety about me being gone that far for that long this late in my pregnancy. I'll admit, I'm tired, struggling to do lot of physical stuff, and I would have to be "on" since it's a voting conference.
my question is- would you go or would you stay home?