All I'm going to say is I personally am standing by @whaat on this one. And I am a loss mom. The abortion suggestion doesn't offend me in the least. And there is still a such thing as pro-choice in this country. No teenager should PLAN a pregnancy. I don't care who it is. That's the long and short of it. And that's all I have left to say.
Now I want chicken and waffles. I don't think I have pregnancy cravings though; I think I use the pregnancy as an excuse to eat things I try not to typically eat.
*smacks gavel* You're all sentenced to Bump time out. Get in the corner and make your nose touch the wall. Honestly my favorite punishment. I use it on my nephews all the time.
Don't joke about Bump time out It's a real thing. Not to long ago someone in the TTGP board was put in Bump Jail. There were bars on her avatar and she had restrictions on posting.
@BmcD2016 I have an arsenal of ginger things, Preggie chews, jolly ranchers and unlimited Sprite and Ginger Ale at my disposal. I've been suuuuper lucky with limited nausea and I only work 1-3 days a week so it hasn't been too bad. As long as I have something in my stomach pretty consistently (lots of snacking) I'm usually fine. The one thing that's killing me is my Preggie nose. I normally have a terrible sense of smell but right now every little thing is killing me. People are smelly!!
@Little+Tiny I was not part of any earlier thread, but amongst all this negativity, and people feeling the need to give their two cents on your choices, I would like to give you mine also.
My my sister was pregnant at 17, and gave birth at 18. I'm 24 pregnant with our first, and I could only dream of being as great of a mom as she was/is. My niece is very well cared for, always has been, and my sister doesn't receive handouts.
Having a child young is not uncommon. My mother had three of us by the age of 21, and we are all 3 years apart. (Yes, do the math). Although she didn't necessarily plan on having us so young, she did, and she provided for us on her own, also without handouts. You're no different than any other woman having a child, only by a number, and maturity rarely has anything to do with the number. Many of the women on this thread have proved that.
Don't allow any of these bitter women make you feel like you are any less of a woman than them. You absolutely are not!
(Hugs)
Me:23 DH:32 Married 5/14/13 TTC #1 since 5/14 TTC #1 w/ treatments since 5/15 BFN 7/15 BFP 8/15-MMC 9/15 BFP 10/15- Diagnosed BO 12/15 BFP 2/16-EDD 11/18/2016
Thank you I really appreciate that. That's so awesome for your sister and mother.
And c'mon ladies, you gotta admit you've seen at least one bitter lady.
Well I think it's pretty rude to specifically state she wasn't part of the earlier thread and then call all the participants that weren't you, bitter.
I didn't comment on the thread either, but I did follow it. No one was the least bit bitter. They were honest and candid, and maybe they didn't all vomit rainbows and sunshine at you but that's not what we do here on the Bump. You get reality, whether you want it or not. You don't have to agree with it, and I think in the end you seemed to have handled it pretty well...I don't appreciate some white knight galloping in here after the fact and insulting everyone.
@Little+Tiny I was not part of any earlier thread, but amongst all this negativity, and people feeling the need to give their two cents on your choices, I would like to give you mine also.
My my sister was pregnant at 17, and gave birth at 18. I'm 24 pregnant with our first, and I could only dream of being as great of a mom as she was/is. My niece is very well cared for, always has been, and my sister doesn't receive handouts.
Having a child young is not uncommon. My mother had three of us by the age of 21, and we are all 3 years apart. (Yes, do the math). Although she didn't necessarily plan on having us so young, she did, and she provided for us on her own, also without handouts. You're no different than any other woman having a child, only by a number, and maturity rarely has anything to do with the number. Many of the women on this thread have proved that.
Don't allow any of these bitter women make you feel like you are any less of a woman than them. You absolutely are not!
(Hugs)
I liked comment except for the last sentence. I didn't see anyone make her feel less of a woman or anyone being bitter...seems immature to me.
As soon as I saw you, I knew an adventure was going to happen - Winnie the Pooh Married 8/22/09 Pregnancy 1- EDD 11/21/10 NMC @ 6 weeks Pregnancy 2 - Rainbow DS born 1/15/11 Pregnancy 3 - EDD 5/2/14 NMC @ 6 weeks 9/4/13 Pregnancy 4 - EDD 6/11/14 BO @ 9 weeks D&C 11/8/13 AF arrived 12/18/13 BENCH IS BURNED 2/2014 TTA until May/June WOW!!! I'm pregnant!!! BFP 6/8/14 Rainbow on the way EDD 2/14/15
If there ever comes a day where we can't be together, keep me in your heart, I'll stay there forever - Winnie the Pooh
I agree. I didn't think the women were necessarily "bitter" towards me. Some things should not have been said in my opinion, but I really don't care anymore. I think every single one of us are completely past it. I was only saying that I think there is 1 bitter lady on the November board, but I just ignore her since everything she says is pretty negative. I'm sure in a few months we will have all gotten used to the many different personalities. We will learn to love (tolerate?) each other eventually.
I think the issue is mostly about how teen pregnancy is viewed in our american culture. In american culture just the term "teen pregnancy" is extremely negative, because most of the time they are a mistake and do cause harm. Its demonized in media, pop culture, film etc. That MTV show.... so i can see why many people are very sensistive and emotional about the topic (and passionate! We all watched Juno) Especially if you have personally experienced it in a negative way yourself or in your family. So i understand the frustration thats unfolded on this and on the old thread. That being said, the actual case here isnt an unplanned pregnancy so we need to remove the negative connotation. We might not understand why, but we all made the choice to get pregnant and so did she. So she should be respected for that. Its her choice, she didnt fall victim to shoddy sex education or peer pressure. Yes unplanned teen pregnancies are a serious issue around the world, but if someone chooses to who is both mentally and financially stable then we should respect them and help lift them up. So lets agree to not ever be able to understand why someone else chooses to get pregnant. Also lets not talk about our ages because it makes me feel old and im actually a spring chicken. Peaceee.
I'm sure I'm the "bitter lady" that she doesn't have the balls to call out. I'm always negative? That's funny lol. Since you're throwing stones in your glass house, let me just say, only a kid would refer to the rest of us as "ladies".
Maybe not so much a dead horse, a whole thread was started just to find out what happened the the old one. People are still wound up really tight about this conversation.
I should've chosen my words more carefully, but I did feel like in this specific thread some women were being insensitive. I could care less about the previous thread. New opinions were given, and they didn't seem to be words with offering of support. My apologies if anyone was offended by my name calling. (I was not referring to every person here).
@GreenEyedUnicorn I didn't need to tag you, you seem smart enough to catch on. Good job!
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@GreenEyedUnicorn I'm 26 and refer to the other moms to be as "ladies"... Guess I'm still a kid?
Also... her fiance is a soldier. That makes him more mature and brave than most of us. If he chooses to have a child young, good for him. I'm an Army vet and I can tell you, it's VERY common in the military community for soldiers and their spouse's to have children young. You live every day like it's your last. Not like you still have ten years to do all the things. They have the fianances, a home, and health care. And love, because honestly, no matter your age, you love your child and do your best for them. Whether you're 18 or 40.
MMC 01/26/12
MC 12/25/12, D&C 01/05/13
BFP 03/05/13, EDD 11/12/13. HB 175 @ 9w2d. Its a Girl!
Madeline Lorraine H. Born 11/12/13 @9:10pm, 7lb6oz
DX with EA/TEF Type C & Tracheomalaysia MC @ 13wks 01/15/15
DX Septate Uterus - surgery recommended
BFP 3/18/16, EDD 11/13/16 It's a boy! Clint Kiszonas H. Born 11/21/16 @10:38pm, 9lb11oz
@GreenEyedUnicorn I'm 26 and refer to the other moms to be as "ladies"... Guess I'm still a kid?
Also... her fiance is a soldier. That makes him more mature and brave than most of us. If he chooses to have a child young, good for him. I'm an Army vet and I can tell you, it's VERY common in the military community for soldiers and their spouse's to have children young. You live every day like it's your last. Not like you still have ten years to do all the things. They have the fianances, a home, and health care. And love, because honestly, no matter your age, you love your child and do your best for them. Whether you're 18 or 40.
i think she said he is going to join. So he isn't a soldier yet. Also my DH and 2 close friends went into the military young. I wouldn't say that all soldiers are mature. In fact there are many that are not, and probably should not be a member of the US armed forces (but this is only a small number of people who join)
@GreenEyedUnicorn I'm 26 and refer to the other moms to be as "ladies"... Guess I'm still a kid?
Also... her fiance is a soldier. That makes him more mature and brave than most of us. If he chooses to have a child young, good for him. I'm an Army vet and I can tell you, it's VERY common in the military community for soldiers and their spouse's to have children young. You live every day like it's your last. Not like you still have ten years to do all the things. They have the fianances, a home, and health care. And love, because honestly, no matter your age, you love your child and do your best for them. Whether you're 18 or 40.
i think she said he is going to join. So he isn't a soldier yet. Also my DH and 2 close friends went into the military young. I wouldn't say that all soldiers are mature. In fact there are many that are not, and probably should not be a member of the US armed forces (but this is only a small number of people who join)
Being an active duty officer, I can say from experience that being in the military does not equal maturity. Some get permanently stuck at 18 emotionally. Most of my guys spend the majority of their paychecks on video games and booze and I am not just talking about the 21 year olds. But, I have also met a lot of amazing young men who have children and become amazing fathers. I have also seen a lot go through ugly divorces after marrying and having children very young. Most have two or three marriages in the books and most of their check goes to child support and alimony. Marrying a military person is HARD. As I write this I am going on 2.5 years of not living in the same state, country, continent as my husband. We have only been married for 5. But, that being said, if he does enlist, she will be open to a ton of resources and support and some ok health care. For the most part, they are very good at supporting mothers and young families.
Also why did my gif get deleted by the BG? What are they even doing today?
Something in it must have violated TOU.
As soon as I saw you, I knew an adventure was going to happen - Winnie the Pooh Married 8/22/09 Pregnancy 1- EDD 11/21/10 NMC @ 6 weeks Pregnancy 2 - Rainbow DS born 1/15/11 Pregnancy 3 - EDD 5/2/14 NMC @ 6 weeks 9/4/13 Pregnancy 4 - EDD 6/11/14 BO @ 9 weeks D&C 11/8/13 AF arrived 12/18/13 BENCH IS BURNED 2/2014 TTA until May/June WOW!!! I'm pregnant!!! BFP 6/8/14 Rainbow on the way EDD 2/14/15
If there ever comes a day where we can't be together, keep me in your heart, I'll stay there forever - Winnie the Pooh
Also why did my gif get deleted by the BG? What are they even doing today?
Something in it must have violated TOU.
No something in the URL or the like jacked up the site. It made the post hundreds of pages long and unusuable. I know I could not scroll to the bottom.
Me: 30 DH: 32 ~~ TTC #1: Sep 2015 ~~ BFP: Mar 2016 ~~ Daughter: Nov 2016 TTC #2: April 2018 ~~ BFP: May 2018 ~~ EDD: January 2019
Also why did my gif get deleted by the BG? What are they even doing today?
Something in it must have violated TOU.
No something in the URL or the like jacked up the site. It made the post hundreds of pages long and unusuable. I know I could not scroll to the bottom.
Also why did my gif get deleted by the BG? What are they even doing today?Somet or the lik
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I wondered why it was messed up.
As soon as I saw you, I knew an adventure was going to happen - Winnie the Pooh Married 8/22/09 Pregnancy 1- EDD 11/21/10 NMC @ 6 weeks Pregnancy 2 - Rainbow DS born 1/15/11 Pregnancy 3 - EDD 5/2/14 NMC @ 6 weeks 9/4/13 Pregnancy 4 - EDD 6/11/14 BO @ 9 weeks D&C 11/8/13 AF arrived 12/18/13 BENCH IS BURNED 2/2014 TTA until May/June WOW!!! I'm pregnant!!! BFP 6/8/14 Rainbow on the way EDD 2/14/15
If there ever comes a day where we can't be together, keep me in your heart, I'll stay there forever - Winnie the Pooh
I should've chosen my words more carefully, but I did feel like in this specific thread some women were being insensitive. I could care less about the previous thread. New opinions were given, and they didn't seem to be words with offering of support. My apologies if anyone was offended by my name calling. (I was not referring to every person here).
@GreenEyedUnicorn I didn't need to tag you, you seem smart enough to catch on. Good job!
And you are, who, exactly? I couldn't give a fuck less who thinks I'm "bitter". It doesn't even make sense. Bitter about what?! Lol. Smh. Petty ass females.
Re: Where did the DF post go?
@AdmiralKitty fellow Texan?
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019My my sister was pregnant at 17, and gave birth at 18. I'm 24 pregnant with our first, and I could only dream of being as great of a mom as she was/is. My niece is very well cared for, always has been, and my sister doesn't receive handouts.
Having a child young is not uncommon. My mother had three of us by the age of 21, and we are all 3 years apart. (Yes, do the math). Although she didn't necessarily plan on having us so young, she did, and she provided for us on her own, also without handouts.
You're no different than any other woman having a child, only by a number, and maturity rarely has anything to do with the number. Many of the women on this thread have proved that.
Don't allow any of these bitter women make you feel like you are any less of a woman than them. You absolutely are not!
(Hugs)
Married 5/14/13
TTC #1 since 5/14
TTC #1 w/ treatments since 5/15
BFN 7/15
BFP 8/15-MMC 9/15
BFP 10/15- Diagnosed BO 12/15
BFP 2/16-EDD 11/18/2016
And c'mon ladies, you gotta admit you've seen at least one bitter lady.
I didn't comment on the thread either, but I did follow it. No one was the least bit bitter. They were honest and candid, and maybe they didn't all vomit rainbows and sunshine at you but that's not what we do here on the Bump. You get reality, whether you want it or not. You don't have to agree with it, and I think in the end you seemed to have handled it pretty well...I don't appreciate some white knight galloping in here after the fact and insulting everyone.
As soon as I saw you, I knew an adventure was going to happen - Winnie the Pooh
Married 8/22/09
Pregnancy 1- EDD 11/21/10 NMC @ 6 weeks
Pregnancy 2 - Rainbow DS born 1/15/11
Pregnancy 3 - EDD 5/2/14 NMC @ 6 weeks 9/4/13
Pregnancy 4 - EDD 6/11/14 BO @ 9 weeks D&C 11/8/13
AF arrived 12/18/13
BENCH IS BURNED 2/2014
TTA until May/June
WOW!!! I'm pregnant!!! BFP 6/8/14 Rainbow on the way EDD 2/14/15
Winnie the Pooh
I'm sure in a few months we will have all gotten used to the many different personalities. We will learn to love (tolerate?) each other eventually.
And move on. Without name calling. Seriously.
TTC #2: April 2018 ~~ BFP: May 2018 ~~ EDD: January 2019
Awesome Kid #2: Due November 2016!
the drama never stops
Just wait, it'll come!
@GreenEyedUnicorn I didn't need to tag you, you seem smart enough to catch on. Good job!
Married 5/14/13
TTC #1 since 5/14
TTC #1 w/ treatments since 5/15
BFN 7/15
BFP 8/15-MMC 9/15
BFP 10/15- Diagnosed BO 12/15
BFP 2/16-EDD 11/18/2016
Also... her fiance is a soldier. That makes him more mature and brave than most of us. If he chooses to have a child young, good for him. I'm an Army vet and I can tell you, it's VERY common in the military community for soldiers and their spouse's to have children young. You live every day like it's your last. Not like you still have ten years to do all the things. They have the fianances, a home, and health care. And love, because honestly, no matter your age, you love your child and do your best for them. Whether you're 18 or 40.
MMC 01/26/12
MC 12/25/12, D&C 01/05/13
BFP 03/05/13, EDD 11/12/13. HB 175 @ 9w2d. Its a Girl!
DX with EA/TEF Type C & Tracheomalaysia
MC @ 13wks 01/15/15
BFP 1/11/18, EDD 9/21/18
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019Yes it goes on and on my friends...
Somebody started posting it, not knowing what it was...
And they'll continue posting here forrrrever just because....
Repeat
:::munches her 7 piece jalapeno poppers smothered in ranch:::
But, that being said, if he does enlist, she will be open to a ton of resources and support and some ok health care. For the most part, they are very good at supporting mothers and young families.
Also why did my gif get deleted by the BG? What are they even doing today?
Awesome Kid #2: Due November 2016!
As soon as I saw you, I knew an adventure was going to happen - Winnie the Pooh
Married 8/22/09
Pregnancy 1- EDD 11/21/10 NMC @ 6 weeks
Pregnancy 2 - Rainbow DS born 1/15/11
Pregnancy 3 - EDD 5/2/14 NMC @ 6 weeks 9/4/13
Pregnancy 4 - EDD 6/11/14 BO @ 9 weeks D&C 11/8/13
AF arrived 12/18/13
BENCH IS BURNED 2/2014
TTA until May/June
WOW!!! I'm pregnant!!! BFP 6/8/14 Rainbow on the way EDD 2/14/15
Winnie the Pooh
TTC #2: April 2018 ~~ BFP: May 2018 ~~ EDD: January 2019
As soon as I saw you, I knew an adventure was going to happen - Winnie the Pooh
Married 8/22/09
Pregnancy 1- EDD 11/21/10 NMC @ 6 weeks
Pregnancy 2 - Rainbow DS born 1/15/11
Pregnancy 3 - EDD 5/2/14 NMC @ 6 weeks 9/4/13
Pregnancy 4 - EDD 6/11/14 BO @ 9 weeks D&C 11/8/13
AF arrived 12/18/13
BENCH IS BURNED 2/2014
TTA until May/June
WOW!!! I'm pregnant!!! BFP 6/8/14 Rainbow on the way EDD 2/14/15
Winnie the Pooh