Not a stranger, but if a certain co-worker says, "Hello, you two" or "and how are you two doing" to me one more time... I know it's not the worst, but that's ALL he's said to me in at least a month! Just drives me NUTS.
After reading all of these I feel pretty grateful that I've been spared the inappropriate comments. The only one that has made me mad so far was when I announced to my Grad School co-hort back in January that I was pregnant. After the announcement one of my classmates (a women in her 50's with two adult children) came up to me and said "It's so nice to see a smile on your face!" WTF does that mean? It bothered me for days. As I reflected on her comment and thought back on my past interactions with her I realized that her and I only interact two days a month, and at that point had only known each other for five months. I also realized I must have a pretty bad resting bitch face when I'm in class. I'm sorry if I don't have a smile on my face all of time. Also, being pregnant, going back to school after 16 years and then finding out there were two babies, but one didn't make it. That's a lot to handle. Again, sorry if I'm not happy go lucky all of the time!
I've been fairly lucky - I even hate to bring this up here but I have the opposite issue from most of y'all - no one believed I was pregnant until about a month ago. So most of my annoying stranger/coworker comments are "Are you sure you're due in May?" I'm 32 weeks and just today at my physical my PCP said "you're 4 months along right?" Uh...more like double that.
I have had 2 doozies of douchie comments though: 1. "You don't even look pregnant, you could just be fat!" - granted that was a couple months ago, but seriously? Why would you tell a hormonal woman that she just looks fat and not pregnant? 2. Customer came into my office and started arguing with me about a project, then when I became agitated (yet still totally professional and calm) he said "Woah, you should calm down! It's not good for someone in your condition." Oh I'll be real calm asshole after my fist goes through your throat.
The only other thing pissing me off a bit is everyone's opinion on leave. DH is very lucky and gets 6 weeks paternity paid - I get nothing but what sick time and vacation I can scrimp together which is closer to 4. Whatever else I take is unpaid (well more like negative since I still need to cover medical insurance premiums that are deducted from my paycheck). I agree this is an important time and I need to respect what my dr says regarding what I medically CAN do depending on delivery method - but why is it so horrifying that I would go back before my husband? People don't even mention the medical aspect when they lecture at me - it's very much just a double standard that I am less of a woman or mother because I would consider going back before the normal 6 weeks so I can provide for my family (I make significantly more than my husband, and if he's paid to stay home it seems selfish to take it off as well when we don't BOTH need to be there). We've been saving so I can stay home if I really want to and will play it by ear depending on how I'm feeling emotionally and physically - but the double standard implications just get under my skin.
I've been fairly lucky - I even hate to bring this up here but I have the opposite issue from most of y'all - no one believed I was pregnant until about a month ago. So most of my annoying stranger/coworker comments are "Are you sure you're due in May?" I'm 32 weeks and just today at my physical my PCP said "you're 4 months along right?" Uh...more like double that.
I have had 2 doozies of douchie comments though: 1. "You don't even look pregnant, you could just be fat!" - granted that was a couple months ago, but seriously? Why would you tell a hormonal woman that she just looks fat and not pregnant? 2. Customer came into my office and started arguing with me about a project, then when I became agitated (yet still totally professional and calm) he said "Woah, you should calm down! It's not good for someone in your condition." Oh I'll be real calm asshole after my fist goes through your throat.
The only other thing pissing me off a bit is everyone's opinion on leave. DH is very lucky and gets 6 weeks paternity paid - I get nothing but what sick time and vacation I can scrimp together which is closer to 4. Whatever else I take is unpaid (well more like negative since I still need to cover medical insurance premiums that are deducted from my paycheck). I agree this is an important time and I need to respect what my dr says regarding what I medically CAN do depending on delivery method - but why is it so horrifying that I would go back before my husband? People don't even mention the medical aspect when they lecture at me - it's very much just a double standard that I am less of a woman or mother because I would consider going back before the normal 6 weeks so I can provide for my family (I make significantly more than my husband, and if he's paid to stay home it seems selfish to take it off as well when we don't BOTH need to be there). We've been saving so I can stay home if I really want to and will play it by ear depending on how I'm feeling emotionally and physically - but the double standard implications just get under my skin.
Honestly tell them to suck it. I'm in Canada and get 12 months that is slightly paid. With my first son, I went back to work after 3 months as my husband wasn't working at the time and it made more sense for him to be with our son for the other 9 months. My son is a perfectly well adjusted 4 year old boy - that's all that matters.
I've been fairly lucky - I even hate to bring this up here but I have the opposite issue from most of y'all - no one believed I was pregnant until about a month ago. So most of my annoying stranger/coworker comments are "Are you sure you're due in May?" I'm 32 weeks and just today at my physical my PCP said "you're 4 months along right?" Uh...more like double that.
I have had 2 doozies of douchie comments though: 1. "You don't even look pregnant, you could just be fat!" - granted that was a couple months ago, but seriously? Why would you tell a hormonal woman that she just looks fat and not pregnant? 2. Customer came into my office and started arguing with me about a project, then when I became agitated (yet still totally professional and calm) he said "Woah, you should calm down! It's not good for someone in your condition." Oh I'll be real calm asshole after my fist goes through your throat.
The only other thing pissing me off a bit is everyone's opinion on leave. DH is very lucky and gets 6 weeks paternity paid - I get nothing but what sick time and vacation I can scrimp together which is closer to 4. Whatever else I take is unpaid (well more like negative since I still need to cover medical insurance premiums that are deducted from my paycheck). I agree this is an important time and I need to respect what my dr says regarding what I medically CAN do depending on delivery method - but why is it so horrifying that I would go back before my husband? People don't even mention the medical aspect when they lecture at me - it's very much just a double standard that I am less of a woman or mother because I would consider going back before the normal 6 weeks so I can provide for my family (I make significantly more than my husband, and if he's paid to stay home it seems selfish to take it off as well when we don't BOTH need to be there). We've been saving so I can stay home if I really want to and will play it by ear depending on how I'm feeling emotionally and physically - but the double standard implications just get under my skin.
Honestly tell them to suck it. I'm in Canada and get 12 months that is slightly paid. With my first son, I went back to work after 3 months as my husband wasn't working at the time and it made more sense for him to be with our son for the other 9 months. My son is a perfectly well adjusted 4 year old boy - that's all that matters.
Exactly. Whatever works for your family is what you should do.
This morning I had a coworker from the other side of the building, who I don't think I've ever talked to before, ask me when I would be starting my 3-month vacation (my employer is very generous with 12 weeks paid maternity leave).
I know what he was really asking, but I don't feel guilty at all about answering with "I won't be taking any vacations any time soon."
So these aren't stranger comments, but I'm shocked at the amount of people who have recently asked me if I've felt the baby move. Like women who have had children always ask me this. I am obviously 8 months pregnant and I find this really odd and annoying for some reason. I usually tell them, yes I have felt him move for the past 4-5 months.
That's funny @js8812 , my friend just asked me that same question. Never mind that she is a mother of two. But she's excused cause of being tipsy at the time. I guess I don't look very approachable because strangers don't comment or try to touch me. Though today someone did decide to play guess what I'm having though I started that conversation . Yep you're 50/50 chance guess was accurate. Good job.
My husband's cousin, who I generally adore, is fond of saying "I told you it was twins". No dude you didn't, you teased me near the beginning with "uh oh what if it's twins?" - that does not mean you magically knew.
I really wanted to post this in the Baby Dropped thread, but figured we need to let that one be. BUT, the gym teacher here just popped in for some Tylenol and asked how many weeks along. I said just over 35wks. She said "Oh, good. Two more weeks and you are out of the woods!" I must have had a confused look on my face because she said (and I sh*t you not) "Well, at 37 weeks you are all set, right? Then you can pop that baby out no problem!" I smiled and said "I am hoping to cook this little lady as long as I can and really it is up to her when she comes" and left it at that.
I really wanted to post this in the Baby Dropped thread, but figured we need to let that one be. BUT, the gym teacher here just popped in for some Tylenol and asked how many weeks along. I said just over 35wks. She said "Oh, good. Two more weeks and you are out of the woods!" I must have had a confused look on my face because she said (and I sh*t you not) "Well, at 37 weeks you are all set, right? Then you can pop that baby out no problem!" I smiled and said "I am hoping to cook this little lady as long as I can and really it is up to her when she comes" and left it at that.
I had a similar encounter with a neighbor. She is due 1 day before me. She said, "only 3 weeks to go!" I said, "well more like 6 weeks." She said nope, 3 weeks, she's going to ask her doctor to induce her the day she turns 37w. I didn't have the balls to tell that 39w is considered full term.
I actually had a pleasant conversation with a stranger today at a play place. She had 2 daughters & noticed my bump and my daughter. After I told her I was having another girl she said, "I feel like I hit the jackpot when I found out I was having another girl. Who wouldn't want a sister?!" Warmed my heart for sure.
I work in a cubicle farm and the location of my cube results in people chatting with me all. the. time. While waiting for print jobs, while making coffee, while heating up food. There I am, so they talk to me- no matter how busy or b*tchy I am at that moment. So today a coworker is small talking to me while little baby is practicing karate. Coworker is watching my belly moving and says "that's really gross." This really ticked me off. I have a VERY active baby and I think it's really cool that anyone can see the baby moving. Basically just shut your mouth, jerkface.
I was walking to the elevator and an older woman was arguing with her middle aged son. He was cursing at her and then he left. She looked at me bent down at my bump and said "never have kids, oops too late"!
I thought it was rude. Her son was cursing up a storm and I feel like she really meant what she was saying.
I was walking to the elevator and an older woman was arguing with her middle aged son. He was cursing at her and then he left. She looked at me bent down at my bump and said "never have kids, oops too late"!
I thought it was rude. Her son was cursing up a storm and I feel like she really meant what she was saying.
Screw that, maybe she shouldn't have had kids. My cousin and his wife told me the same thing because they've got three that constantly call their mom an effing bitch and scream at her. Guess what people?! That's YOUR monster that YOU created, any kid of mine will know damn well that if they even as much as TRY to disrespect me with their words or actions, there will be hell to pay.
@ncm0328 I know! Some people don't actually deal with disciplining their kids or setting any decent rules and then act shocked when their kids treat them horribly.
I hope to set good examples for my LO. I've never cursed at my parents and I know I never will. It's just strange.
My son had a meltdown at the dollar store yesterday because he wanted BOTH of us to get a giant tub of Play Doh. We had already decided that he was getting a small Easter one that was on sale for like 25 cents, but he needed to know that I was getting one too. As he was having his freakout, this woman...A PREGNANT WOMAN NO LESS...looked me up and down and said "Wow, and you're doing it all over again? Not me. One and done, girl. One and done" shook her head and walked away. Bitch, please. I will come check in on you in 2 years and see how perfect your frickin life is!
I work in a cubicle farm and the location of my cube results in people chatting with me all. the. time. While waiting for print jobs, while making coffee, while heating up food. There I am, so they talk to me- no matter how busy or b*tchy I am at that moment. So today a coworker is small talking to me while little baby is practicing karate. Coworker is watching my belly moving and says "that's really gross." This really ticked me off. I have a VERY active baby and I think it's really cool that anyone can see the baby moving. Basically just shut your mouth, jerkface.
Tell that dumbass not to look then. good grief some people.
Ex-client saw me at a job fair this week. She literally squealed, held out both her hands, and said "Let me touch!" *sigh* I let her, cause it's easier that way. Then she spent a good 10 minutes telling me what I need to do. I "have" to get the epidural, and I'm nuts because my hospital bag isn't packed, and all sorts of other things. I forgot how draining she is.
I work in a cubicle farm and the location of my cube results in people chatting with me all. the. time. While waiting for print jobs, while making coffee, while heating up food. There I am, so they talk to me- no matter how busy or b*tchy I am at that moment. So today a coworker is small talking to me while little baby is practicing karate. Coworker is watching my belly moving and says "that's really gross." This really ticked me off. I have a VERY active baby and I think it's really cool that anyone can see the baby moving. Basically just shut your mouth, jerkface.
My coworker who has never had a child, said to another coworker in front of me, "Pregnant bellies DISGUST ME. If I saw a pregnant woman on the beach with a bikini on, I'd have to tell her to cover that up. And don't even get me started on when their belly buttons poke out. It's just disgusting."
Coming from the middle aged woman with an umbilical HERNIA!
I work in a cubicle farm and the location of my cube results in people chatting with me all. the. time. While waiting for print jobs, while making coffee, while heating up food. There I am, so they talk to me- no matter how busy or b*tchy I am at that moment. So today a coworker is small talking to me while little baby is practicing karate. Coworker is watching my belly moving and says "that's really gross." This really ticked me off. I have a VERY active baby and I think it's really cool that anyone can see the baby moving. Basically just shut your mouth, jerkface.
My coworker who has never had a child, said to another coworker in front of me, "Pregnant bellies DISGUST ME. If I saw a pregnant woman on the beach with a bikini on, I'd have to tell her to cover that up. And don't even get me started on when their belly buttons poke out. It's just disgusting."
Coming from the middle aged woman with an umbilical HERNIA!
In both of your cases, I would have responded with "oh yeah? So's your face."
I work in a cubicle farm and the location of my cube results in people chatting with me all. the. time. While waiting for print jobs, while making coffee, while heating up food. There I am, so they talk to me- no matter how busy or b*tchy I am at that moment. So today a coworker is small talking to me while little baby is practicing karate. Coworker is watching my belly moving and says "that's really gross." This really ticked me off. I have a VERY active baby and I think it's really cool that anyone can see the baby moving. Basically just shut your mouth, jerkface.
My coworker who has never had a child, said to another coworker in front of me, "Pregnant bellies DISGUST ME. If I saw a pregnant woman on the beach with a bikini on, I'd have to tell her to cover that up. And don't even get me started on when their belly buttons poke out. It's just disgusting."
Coming from the middle aged woman with an umbilical HERNIA!
In both of your cases, I would have responded with "oh yeah? So's your face."
I work in a cubicle farm and the location of my cube results in people chatting with me all. the. time. While waiting for print jobs, while making coffee, while heating up food. There I am, so they talk to me- no matter how busy or b*tchy I am at that moment. So today a coworker is small talking to me while little baby is practicing karate. Coworker is watching my belly moving and says "that's really gross." This really ticked me off. I have a VERY active baby and I think it's really cool that anyone can see the baby moving. Basically just shut your mouth, jerkface.
My coworker who has never had a child, said to another coworker in front of me, "Pregnant bellies DISGUST ME. If I saw a pregnant woman on the beach with a bikini on, I'd have to tell her to cover that up. And don't even get me started on when their belly buttons poke out. It's just disgusting."
Coming from the middle aged woman with an umbilical HERNIA!
In both of your cases, I would have responded with "oh yeah? So's your face."
Lol. I'll remember that for next time. I thought about saying "Well I invited the baby to be here- can't say the same about you."
Got one at work today from someone I haven't seen in awhile...
"Wow! I knew you were pregnant but you're so big!" to which I said I had about 6 weeks left. They then said, "OMG, I can't imagine how miserable you're going to be."
No worse than you're going to be when I smack you in the face.
On the plus side I did have 2 people tell me today that they thought I looked good, one of them even saying it in front of the stupid person. So it made me feel a little better.
"So, do you have a plan for losing the weight?" hold my earrings. I'm going in.
Oh hell no... heads are full of calories. I wouldn't recommend biting one off if weight loss is your plan.
Oh shit, didn't think of the calories in a head! How many calories could I burn if I just smacked a bitch?
Not sure of the exact amount, but definitely more if you make sure all your power is coming from your hips and not your arm. Plus that twisting motion is good for working your abs.
My favourites from yesterday 'you're def pregnant now' uhhh yup for last 35 weeks... 'So this is the point where you're really going to fill out' just nice !!! I actually have (thankfully) at 35 weeks come to terms with fact me and baby are fine and I no longer care about dumb asses. Took me a while but yup I no longer care what anyone aside from me and medical people think, full stop!! Waddling all the way to the ice cream :-) calcium right?!
I've gotten a few comments beyond the typical, "you're huge!" lately. One was from a worker at Sam's Club who, seeing my son, asked if I was having a girl this time. When my husband and I told her we were having amother boy and our son will be thrilled to have a brother, she said, "Oh, I'm sorry. I guess they can't always be girls." Wtf!? DH steered me away quickly because I was giving her a death stare so all I could manage to say was, "I'm happy to have another boy, thank you very much."
The other comments were when I took DS to the zoo by myself this week. One after another, people seemed straight up shocked that a pregnant woman would take a toddler to the zoo without help. I lost count of how many people told me, "Wow. You're brave! Good luck today." Someone actually gasped when I lifted and held DS on my shoulder for a few minutes to get a better look at the gorillas through the glass. Umm. Really?
Just catching up, but you're getting the two boy comments to my two girl comments. The worker at pancheros today asked if I'm going to keep trying. I asked her what for, and she looked at me like I was stupid and said "a boy".
Last night we had dinner with DH's family including little sister and fiancée. (30&25 but act about 14). SIL treats me now as an incubator greeting and saying good bye to the baby and then most times as well to me as an after thought. At dinner she asked what her man child of a fiancée was looking at everyone looks at him and I realize he is just staring at my bump. Creepy dude!
Annoying lady in church choir: Oh wow! You are definitely not going to make it to the end of the week. You can tell in your face.
I'll tell you what will be in your face in 2 seconds if you don't shut your mouth! Apparently, my uterus isn't the only thing that is feeling super irritable lately...
Annoying lady in church choir: Oh wow! You are definitely not going to make it to the end of the week. You can tell in your face.
I'll tell you what will be in your face in 2 seconds if you don't shut your mouth! Apparently, my uterus isn't the only thing that is feeling super irritable lately...
***QBF*****
Yes. I know people generally mean well when they say things like this, but it's getting very frustrating. Until I'm past the point in which labor would most certainly guarantee NICU time, I'm not going to be happy when people say things like, "Maybe we'll see you at work tomorrow-- if you haven't had that baby yet! I thought you'd pop yesterday for sure!"
Funny twist: My DH just had a comment from a stranger. We're at the hospital for our L&D tour and while I was in the bathroom, a woman walked by him and said "You must be the dad!" he said, "Well, yes..." And she said "You look nervous as hell!" and of course my DH is like "But we aren't delivering today...."
How funny that it happened without me around, too!
Re: Comments from Strangers Thread
I have had 2 doozies of douchie comments though:
1. "You don't even look pregnant, you could just be fat!" - granted that was a couple months ago, but seriously? Why would you tell a hormonal woman that she just looks fat and not pregnant?
2. Customer came into my office and started arguing with me about a project, then when I became agitated (yet still totally professional and calm) he said "Woah, you should calm down! It's not good for someone in your condition." Oh I'll be real calm asshole after my fist goes through your throat.
The only other thing pissing me off a bit is everyone's opinion on leave. DH is very lucky and gets 6 weeks paternity paid - I get nothing but what sick time and vacation I can scrimp together which is closer to 4. Whatever else I take is unpaid (well more like negative since I still need to cover medical insurance premiums that are deducted from my paycheck). I agree this is an important time and I need to respect what my dr says regarding what I medically CAN do depending on delivery method - but why is it so horrifying that I would go back before my husband? People don't even mention the medical aspect when they lecture at me - it's very much just a double standard that I am less of a woman or mother because I would consider going back before the normal 6 weeks so I can provide for my family (I make significantly more than my husband, and if he's paid to stay home it seems selfish to take it off as well when we don't BOTH need to be there). We've been saving so I can stay home if I really want to and will play it by ear depending on how I'm feeling emotionally and physically - but the double standard implications just get under my skin.
I know what he was really asking, but I don't feel guilty at all about answering with "I won't be taking any vacations any time soon."
no. No I'm not.
So today a coworker is small talking to me while little baby is practicing karate. Coworker is watching my belly moving and says "that's really gross." This really ticked me off. I have a VERY active baby and I think it's really cool that anyone can see the baby moving. Basically just shut your mouth, jerkface.
I posed with my husband and then the sales guy told me and a group of people in the dealership when I turned sideways, half the car disappeared.
seriously?
I thought it was rude. Her son was cursing up a storm and I feel like she really meant what she was saying.
I hope to set good examples for my LO. I've never cursed at my parents and I know I never will. It's just strange.
BFP #1: 9/12/2015
DD: 6/1/2016
BFP #2: 1/16/2018 MC 2/2/2018
hold my earrings. I'm going in.
"Wow! I knew you were pregnant but you're so big!" to which I said I had about 6 weeks left. They then said, "OMG, I can't imagine how miserable you're going to be."
No worse than you're going to be when I smack you in the face.
On the plus side I did have 2 people tell me today that they thought I looked good, one of them even saying it in front of the stupid person. So it made me feel a little better.
'you're def pregnant now' uhhh yup for last 35 weeks...
'So this is the point where you're really going to fill out' just nice !!!
I actually have (thankfully) at 35 weeks come to terms with fact me and baby are fine and I no longer care about dumb asses.
Took me a while but yup I no longer care what anyone aside from me and medical people think, full stop!! Waddling all the way to the ice cream
:-) calcium right?!
Bye felicia.
I'll tell you what will be in your face in 2 seconds if you don't shut your mouth! Apparently, my uterus isn't the only thing that is feeling super irritable lately...
BFP #1: 9/12/2015
DD: 6/1/2016
BFP #2: 1/16/2018 MC 2/2/2018
How funny that it happened without me around, too!