October 2016 Moms

Opinions of the Unpopular Kind (3/31)

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Re: Opinions of the Unpopular Kind (3/31)

  • @CopperBoom86 I totally agree about GoFund Me!  The most ridiculous one I've seen was a highschool classmate asking for people to give money towards his Med School entrance exam and applications...wtf.

    My UO is that I also feel this way about people asking for money to run marathons for charity at vacation destinations.  No I will not give money that inevitably goes towards your plane ticket to Hawaii and paying for fundraising, even if you claim it will go towards curing cancer.  I have a friend who worked for one of these companies, and she got drunk and told us all about how shady it really is.


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  • Soooo as we are chatting about AW FB Moms, my sister sends me a screenshot of a page a coworker created. It's a "fan page"....for the woman's child!! What in the!
  • really I wear workout type stuff on the weekend bc my job at the time didn't allow jeans so I didn't even own any. why buy more clothes? lol

    now they're the only thing that fits soooo
  • Hey man, what you guys are into is your thing. I just still haven't left the 90's haha
  • @LGW2015 It's only fair, right?  Now if only there was a way to have them share in the joys of simultaneously vomiting while pissing yourself. 
     
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  • mrszoess said:
    my UO is that I don't think we should have to coddle the special snowflake common sense posts. if you come here asking us to tell you if something is safe before you even call your doctor or ask us if you're pregnant you sort of deserve it. 

    if you lack the common sense to call your doctor with a medicine or bleeding question I'm afraid for the parenting to follow....
    I guess I just don't consider not responding to a post "coddling".  In fact, the easiest thing a one could do is ignore posts that person finds annoying or irrelevant.  Why would someone go out of their way to make another person's life a little worse when they could just do nothing?  I'm not even saying "be kind."  I'm just saying maybe don't be cruel.
  • I agree @ignoscemihi , I don't see the need to be mean or rude if you don't like something or disagree with something, there's better ways to go about it. I'd hate to think that I purposefully upset someone or made their day worse, as you never know what another person is going through. That said, while there are some unnecessarily harsh posts (in my opinion), there's also some lovely ladies who are welcoming and nicely redirect newbies when needed or manage to disagree respectfully, makes it a much nicer community!
  • @ignoscemihi I don't typically see anyone be rude or mean. most of the ones I see tell the op to search the board or read the intro post and the op gets mad at the people for responding with gifs. 

    when I joined here I didn't just immediately start posting every question or thought I had. the board has rules to run it in some type of order. If every single person posted about their nausea or ultrasounds nobody would ever find relevant info. it's not hard to follow the rules, especially when the post is stickied at the top of the board in all caps. 
  • @annabenanna HA! You took the words right outta my mouth about LA and lululemon!  SO TRUE.
    Right?  They're everywhere!

    You know I must confess I love workout wear.  Ha.  I feel like if I wear them 3x a week and put them through the washer/dryer 3x a week, they need to be quality...Also, I'm finding that one of my go-to leggings with this growing bump.. are my Teeki Pants (which are workout pants). And I wear them everywhere! So I'm sorry @AllyTheKid , I'm totes guilty. 
    I'm guilty, but its because I'm chasing my kids all over playscapes (getting more difficult now), playgrounds and yes, the store if they escape my Eagle Eye. Parenting can be athletics! I own SOME lululemon outfits because they are super comfortable. I wish I was able to work out more, but these days I have absolutely no energy after 2pm. Some days I am lucky to "dress up" and half my clothes don't fit right now. I figure being able to chill in adorable workout clothes has to be one perk of staying home lol.


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  • @missteacherlady16 the unicorn is beautiful
  • clb1984 said:
    I agree @ignoscemihi , I don't see the need to be mean or rude if you don't like something or disagree with something, there's better ways to go about it. I'd hate to think that I purposefully upset someone or made their day worse, as you never know what another person is going through. That said, while there are some unnecessarily harsh posts (in my opinion), there's also some lovely ladies who are welcoming and nicely redirect newbies when needed or manage to disagree respectfully, makes it a much nicer community!
    Sorry but I'm on this board day and night and look at just about every post, I haven't seen a single person be rude or mean. I'm pretty sure you are either saying this from lurking other boards or upset just because people are redirected to lurk and read the stickied threads right at the top of the board. 
  • clb1984 said:
    I agree @ignoscemihi , I don't see the need to be mean or rude if you don't like something or disagree with something, there's better ways to go about it. I'd hate to think that I purposefully upset someone or made their day worse, as you never know what another person is going through. That said, while there are some unnecessarily harsh posts (in my opinion), there's also some lovely ladies who are welcoming and nicely redirect newbies when needed or manage to disagree respectfully, makes it a much nicer community!
    Sorry but I'm on this board day and night and look at just about every post, I haven't seen a single person be rude or mean. I'm pretty sure you are either saying this from lurking other boards or upset just because people are redirected to lurk and read the stickied threads right at the top of the board. 
    I had this moment where I was like, "wait, are we reading the same board?!" because legit, this board is so tame.


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  • On a related but very different note, when I was new and lurking, I thought QFP stood for "quit f*cking playing." Sometimes, it fit.
    Okay, I'm going to go ahead and be "that girl":

    What does QFP mean? I haven't even seen that one yet.
  • @ladyshark311 I am glad I'm not the only one who was so confused LOL. my UO stands 
  • @AllyTheKid It's okay, I didn't look it up for forever! It means Quoted For Posterity. I've seen it mostly used on the TTC board because they get TONS of drive-bys and therefore a lot of dirty deletes. So usually, the regulars will QFP the OP just in case she deletes (which they do 75% of the time).
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  • @AllyTheKid It's okay, I didn't look it up for forever! It means Quoted For Posterity. I've seen it mostly used on the TTC board because they get TONS of drive-bys and therefore a lot of dirty deletes. So usually, the regulars will QFP the OP just in case she deletes (which they do 75% of the time).
    dang thanks for that knowledge bomb. 
    I totally just assumed it meant "quote full post" which makes no sense now that I think about it
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  • mrszoess said:
    @ignoscemihi I don't typically see anyone be rude or mean. most of the ones I see tell the op to search the board or read the intro post and the op gets mad at the people for responding with gifs. 

    when I joined here I didn't just immediately start posting every question or thought I had. the board has rules to run it in some type of order. If every single person posted about their nausea or ultrasounds nobody would ever find relevant info. it's not hard to follow the rules, especially when the post is stickied at the top of the board in all caps. 
    I'm probably overly sensitive and naive, and I understand order has to be maintained somehow.  I completely agree that the board would be chaos if every introduction or symptom meant a new thread.  But I lurked for a long time before posting and I still don't really know what's acceptable to post because sometimes two posts that seem to be in the same vein get completely different responses (ex. a post about food aversions gets thoughtful responses.  A post about being hungry all the time gets an eye roll gif, a gif about how stupid that story was, and a comment about the OP being a child posting asinine things). 

    I think for the most part, the board is very friendly and welcoming.  And I also understand that there's going to be drama in some threads.  After all, what fun is an unpopular opinions thread without disagreements?  I just cringe when I put myself in place of a new person who is basically told to go away and stop being stupid.  It definitely makes me hesitant to post at times. 

    And now I will try really hard to stop being a wet blanket.  But you kids really should get offa my lawn.
  • @ignoscemihi - I think a lot of it comes down to common sense. New threads that are well-received and get thoughtful responses are generally those asking a sincere question that, most importantly, hasn't already been asked 78 times already. 

    New threads that are basically a random thought (OMG guys I'm sooooo excited to meet my little peanut!!) will get flamed. Seriously, get a Twitter account for that shizz.
  • kmalls said:
    @ignoscemihi - I think a lot of it comes down to common sense. New threads that are well-received and get thoughtful responses are generally those asking a sincere question that, most importantly, hasn't already been asked 78 times already. 

    New threads that are basically a random thought (OMG guys I'm sooooo excited to meet my little peanut!!) will get flamed. Seriously, get a Twitter account for that shizz.
    This.  We don't need "Dear Diary" entries.

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  • @gavzillaxo Right?! You better have an extraordinarily cute or quirky pet and you better have some damn funny commentary or else...no. For instance... if you haven't seen tunameltsmyheart on instagram?  THAT is a funky looking dog that brings a smile to my face every time.
     
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  • @PrimRoseMama I agree, the board is a snoozefest, nothing like the July/August 2013 boards back in the day! THAT was snark and flames everywhere, holy Moses. I have some fun thread ideas but I'm saving them for when we build up a good base of regulars. 

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  • Also, I'm irked that we have FIVE stickied posts that I have to scroll past to get to the real threads (mobile bump-er). I know they generally keep the chaos at bay, but it's an eyesore. 

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  • I'm on mobile too @turtlemomma and I agree. they're not even doing anything for the snowflakes 
  • The birth month board I was in last time around (May 2013) had SO MUCH DRAMA and cattiness and snark, and quite frankly I loved it. I don't think I posted a single time, but I was super entertained by reading what went on. This one is so tame and nice comparatively! I haven't seen anyone be mean or even really snark very much. Not as interesting, (ha) but it does feel more comfortable and less clique-ish. The stuff that went down on the May board was crazy and ended with a mass exodus of 3/4 of the regular posters. 
  • @gavzillaxo HAHAHAHA!!!! YESSSS!  <3
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  • This board has been perfectly civil so far, but I would be a lot more into Bump culture as a whole if people were funnier/more clever when they were being mean. Just posting eyeroll GIFs and calling people speshul snowflakes and AWs isn't interesting or humorous (or any less trouble than replying "Please read the TOU.")
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  • We used a "leash" at Disney and the airport for my 20 month old and I'd do it again. Say what you want, but my kid wasn't one of the ones at the "lost kid stand" at the end of the day. Maybe if he was my only child I would've just dealt with him running around. I didn't envy the parents running around after little Jimmy frantically. 





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  • My UO is that I HATE it when people make Instagram or Facebook accounts for their children or pets. Also when they claim that they just don't want to annoy anyone on their page with pictures.

    No Helen, I don't want to follow your yorkiepoo's instagram page. She doesn't even have thumbs.
    Yeeessss! I was just going to say this. I have a fb friend that started an Instagram for her daughter. I think she is in kindergarten. She posted on fb that she had started the Instagram if anyone wanted to follow her "modeling" journey. I'm pretty sure she isn't modeling yet, she just takes lots of pictures of her in different outfits all the time. Apparently no one cared so she started sending out follow requests for the page. I haven't seen this girl since high school and we rarely speak on fb. Why do I want to follow your 5 year old on Instagram? Just no. 

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  • @TheBeeCharmer That may have been fine for you, in my own personal experience the only time I've ever seen someone using a leash for their child was pure laziness. Only child for example at Wal-Mart acting completely out of control while parents pay no attention because hey the kid is on a leash anyway. They just aren't for me personally and I would never see the need to use one, to each their own.
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