Opinions of the Unpopular Kind (3/31)

missteacherlady16

I almost forgot! My sincerest apologizes! 

So let's hear 'em - who has a new and exciting unpopular opinion! 

duckmay

I really hate the spelling "momma."

missteacherlady16

duckmay said:

I really hate the spelling "momma."

Is that to say you prefer "mama"? (this is how i refer to my MIL)

kmvisioli

duckmay said:

I really hate the spelling "momma."

Me too! Mama all the way.

blaf322

@missteacherlady16 - what does LFAF stand for? I've seen it and tried to figure it out. No.Clue.

missteacherlady16

bnsmith85 said:

@missteacherlady16 - what does LFAF stand for? I've seen it and tried to figure it out. No.Clue.

Lisa Frank and Friends lol

CopperBoom86

I have two:

1. I love looking at things people have peed on... aka positive pregnancy tests. I remember how much of a faux pas it was on the TTGP board (and understandably so in that context), but I stalk the pee stick thread on the 1st tri board all the time. It makes me happy to see other people's positive tests and it's interesting to see how the results vary in intensity. I don't find it gross, at all. 

And 2. I think for the most part, people abuse GoFundMe. I know there are situations where it's truly useful and needed, but I was raised to never ask for handouts and it seems like that's all it is- a bunch of people asking for handouts. I have a friend from high school who created a GoFundMe account for her wedding, not a honeymoon fund, an account to help them pay for the cost of their wedding. They both have full time jobs, they live in a nice apartment, they own nice vehicles, they're constantly checking in at the movies, concerts, and restaurants... in other words, they have money. But instead of saving that money to pay for a wedding, they're asking their guests and other random people to do that for them. NO, just NO.

On the opposite end of that spectrum, I have a friend from college who was diagnosed with PCOS at a young age and after trying for 5 years to have a baby, her and her husband have decided to adopt. Instead of asking for handouts, they WORK. She knits and crochets anything from scarfs to blankets to car seat covers. She has hosted countless bake sales. She wrote her own PCOS diet recipe book. They refurbish and sell old furniture purchased at auctions or yard sales. I have the utmost respect for them and have purchased several of their products because, in my (unpopular) opinion, they're doing it right.  

I think the whole idea of something like GoFundMe is very indicative of America today. Everyone lives with their hands out, expecting things for free and that's just not how it works. If you want something, you work for it.  

Edit: Grammar

ladyshark311

@CopperBoom86 I completely agree with you on the GoFundMe thing!! I liked when it first came out and it was usually someone starting it FOR someone else for a legitimate cause. My cousin who I don't associate with started one for herself for lawyer fees because she lost custody of both of her kids. She's a prior drug addict but is blaming it all on the court of course. Sorry but if the court not only takes away your custody rights but all visitation and ANY contact with your children there is a reason!

Piperella

Even though I have finally gotten pregnant, I still roll my eyes big time at "mommy" posts on facebook.  Who are people trying to prove their super mommy abilities to when posting perfect pictures on facebook?  Maybe my IF brain plays too much a par to this, but I feel the same way about some announcements (birth, wedding, etc.)  Who cares if acquaintances know if you have the cutest announcement in the world.  They didn't support or ask about the struggles, so why just embrace the success?  Now, things could totally change in 6 months and I become one of "those" people, but I really hope not. 

MRSCORKER

Piperella said:

Even though I have finally gotten pregnant, I still roll my eyes big time at "mommy" posts on facebook.  Who are people trying to prove their super mommy abilities to when posting perfect pictures on facebook?  Maybe my IF brain plays too much a par to this, but I feel the same way about some announcements (birth, wedding, etc.)  Who cares if acquaintances know if you have the cutest announcement in the world.  They didn't support or ask about the struggles, so why just embrace the success?  Now, things could totally change in 6 months and I become one of "those" people, but I really hope not. 

I kind of feel you here but I also feel like I'm very subjective about it. I have some facebook friends who post their "mommy" stuff and it doesn't phase me. I have other facebook "friends" who post stuff and I roll my eyes so hard. I'm not sure where the line is drawn between normal "I'm just sharing my life on facebook" and "I'm the biggest AW of all time". It's a fine line to me apparently. What I cannot deal with are the posts that subtly or not so subtly imply that people, particularly women, cannot be tired or busy are overwhelmed because they don't have children. I get that kids can make all of those things worse but this isn't the pain olympics and you don't own exhaustion because you have a kid. 

smmatt08

What goes through my mind every time I see a gofundme request... 

kmtz89

CopperBoom86 @ladyshark311
I use youcaring (similar to gofundme) to fundraise from time to time because I am in a support based role here in Tanzania. Getting a paid position here takes away from the Tanzanians and so the NGO I work for does not pay a salary to anyone but Tanzanians. I hate asking people, but I love the work I am able to do here and I have found my niche, so to speak. There would be a hole in the structure of things if I was not there. Does this mean I'm "looking for handouts?"

rebeccuh

@MRSCORKER "What I cannot deal with are the posts that subtly or not so subtly imply that people, particularly women, cannot be tired or busy are overwhelmed because they don't have children. I get that kids can make all of those things worse but this isn't the pain Olympics and you don't own exhaustion because you have a kid. "

I agree with this so much. It's also got hints of "you're not a real woman unless you are a mom" mixed in sometimes too. Just, no. Nobody's life is more valid than another's, especially based on the status of one's uterus.  

AshleyGemini24

I hate seeing all the pregnant women on Facebook who post every single detail of their pregnancy... their daily cravings, their daily cramps, how much they gotta pee. I mean I get it. You want the world to know your pregnant. Your excited, but really do we have to know everything about it. Can't we just be happy for you as you share your milestones? 

CopperBoom86

@kmolleltz - If you read my example, you know your situation is nothing like the situation I sited. I also stated there were situations where it was useful and needed. 

PeggyOlsonFTW

I think most kids clothing with cartoon characters on it is ugly as fuck.

rebeccuh

With rare exception, I hate Disney anything (not Pixar - straight up Disney. Mickey, princesses, all that jazz). I especially hate seeing grown adults waltzing around in Disney character clothing. 

celette482

@PeggyOlsonFTW I'm with you there. I don't mind clothes with things on them (don't have to be solid colors only) but I don't want my kids to be walking billboards. I wasn't dressed like that as a kid....

cd92007

PeggyOlsonFTW said:

I think most kids clothing with cartoon characters on it is ugly as fuck.

Same. DS does not wear anything that has a character, or even words, on it. He is 2 and dresses like my husband haha.

cd92007

Also, similar to @PeggyOlsonFTW's UO, I hate baby clothes that say stuff like "mommy loves me". It's sort of like... duh? 

Piperella

rebeccuh said:

With rare exception, I hate Disney anything (not Pixar - straight up Disney. Mickey, princesses, all that jazz). I especially hate seeing grown adults waltzing around in Disney character clothing. 

This hurt me.  I disneybound from time to time.  Now, I don't want a big tinkerbell on the whole front of my shirt, but I like dressing with more subtle Disney flair.  Pixar is Disney now.  They are the same thing, living, breathing, and working in the same studios.  I've seen some pretty ugly Pixar merchandise, too.

rebeccuh

@piperella You do you.

I understand they are the same company. My knowledge of kid movies in general is, admittedly very limited. However, I’m still pretty confident in my dislike of Mickey and his assorted pals, and princess movies, which is pretty solidly rooted in the Disney end of the universe. 

I haven't seen adults sporting Pixar stuff, but I'd imagine I'd dislike that as well. This attitude also extends to adults in Looney Toons clothes.

nlane0723

PeggyOlsonFTW said:

I think most kids clothing with cartoon characters on it is ugly as fuck.

Oh god I hate character clothing. Hate. It.  I loathe the time DD starts having an opinion on how she dresses because it will probably be Frozen everything.

I hate that the term "natural birth" is associated with giving birth vaginally w/out meds.  All birth is natural. Meds. No meds. Vaginal. C-section. Birth is birth. Nobody gets a smarter kid for giving birth without an epidural, via c-section, etc.

DISCLAIMER: I don't judge women whatsoever that have med-free births at all (props to you, I couldn't do it).  I just hate when women compare births and throw "natural" out like their birth story was somehow better.

MRSCORKER

@nlane0723 Agreed! I have a fb friend who posted her birth announcement and specifically mentioned that she gave birth "naturally as God intended". I have no idea how I will end up giving birth as this is my first but it still offended me. I blocked her pretty quickly. 

missteacherlady16

I always feel like you have the best UO @PeggyOlsonFTW

LGW2015

@MRSCORKER WOW. I would've blocked her too. What a jerk!!

zuzu87

@nlane0723 and somehow i thought i was the only one who thought this way about "Natural" births. I'm a FTM and after witnessing my sisters give birth im sure im going to need all the meds i can get lmao

PeggyOlsonFTW

missteacherlady16 said:

I always feel like you have the best UO @PeggyOlsonFTW

Aww, shucks!!

ejmo68

PeggyOlsonFTW said:

I think most kids clothing with cartoon characters on it is ugly as fuck.

I so was on board with this before I had a child...but my DD loves Paw Patrol like insanely loves it so she has a few t-shirt that are Paw Patrol. Most other character clothing we have has been gifted to us and it not my favorite. 

jbal918

GoFundMe drives me nuts!!! I couldn't get $500 for an easel in my classroom yet the guy who wanted to make potato salad got $55,000!!!! 

LizaKate1213

Now that DS is 5, he wants to pick out his own clothes. I'm all about letting him showcase his style...it's Star Wars, the Avengers and DC Comics all day, every day, on every shirt he owns. Superhero central. I was totally anti-characters until he was old enough to stick up for himself. I'm wise enough to choose my battles, and that one is absolutely not worth it. I don't always like it but he is always so happy and proud of his selections, it's worth it. 

My UO: I have no desire to announce my pregnancy on Facebook. Everyone important to us knows, and we aren't hiding it from anyone...I just don't feel like making a big deal about it in fb land.

krzyriver

I'm getting really sick of everyone on FB posting "Baby's First EVERYTHING." Baby's first trip to the park. Baby's first hockey game. I can understand some of them....baby's first visit to grandma's house. I'd post that so family can see. But I don't think my family cares about baby's first time trying carrots. I know I'll take pictures, but I won't post them all. No one cares but me. Lol

ecpdvm

I hate pumpkin spice. 

LGW2015

@ecpdvm

Piperella

ecpdvm said:

I hate pumpkin spice. 

I don't get it either.  Yuck!

freckledlemonade

My UO:  I think guys who claim get sympathy pregnancy symptoms are total weenises (yep, that's totally a word) and I cringe when I hear about it.  If my husband ever complains of morning sickness he will promptly get a punch to the gonads.  No offense to those of you with SOs who have sympathy symptoms...but I sympathize more with you for having to listen to your SO complain about it. 

blaf322

@ecpdvm .... you're crazy
 

sarals24

I hated when doctors called me "mommy" in the hospital last time. I have a name, and this time I am going to tell them they are welcome to use it. 

OrangeEv

ecpdvm said:

I hate pumpkin spice. 

I can't tell if you're being funny. Were you active on TTGP last Sept/Oct? 
This was such a popular UO that popped up every single week. It pretty much turned into a joke.

mrskratt

I hate when people refer to their daughter as their princess. I can't stand it. It irks the shit out of me. 
Or when people say "I love ____ to pieces." Can't stand it. 

jillianpardo

Fb is dumb.  I've been off for months now.  Don't miss the drama or distraction.