We told my in laws that I was pregnant last night, they were very excited! They are wonderful people and they live out of state. However, I cried this morning when I replayed the conversation in my head and they said that they want to stay at our house for a MONTH after the baby is born. How in the world do I handle that?!
@anne11716 I would cry about that too... I want to cry for you. What's your relationship with them like? Would you be able to tell them that a month is way too long? Could your DH?
@TucknBoom Its a show about people who have incredibly rare medical conditions who get to meet someone like them that has the same medical condition that they do and they get to spend a week together. Basically these people have never met someone else with their same medical condition before and it just looks really heart warming and like a tear-jerker. Here's the link to the trailer: https://www.tlc.com/tv-shows/two-in-a-million/this-season-on-two-in-a-million/
@peachykeen17 right?! Thank you for not making me feel like I'm awful! They really are wonderful people but they always need to be entertained as well and with a new born, there is no way! My hope is that they come to their senses once we really start planning dates and if they don't I'll have to have my husband step in! Hell, by that time I will probably just be moody and tell them no haha. My parents live about 20 minutes away from us so my mom said they can always stay there too if it's longer then a few days. Ah! And I'll be on leave at that time. So I am going to want to bond and figure out all of this! The help will be nice but not for a month!
This morning I was discussing our wknd Easter plans with my husband and got super emotional and actually shed a tear bc we aren't going to my parents for Easter! FYI, we haven't been to my parents house for Easter in at least 4 years! And ive never been emotional about it. I was suddenly feeling nostalgic about hearing little children give Easter speeches and attending sunrise service at my grandmothers church.
@anne11716 don't suppose one of them is allergic to cats? If so, get two. It's been fool proof for us this far.
Honestly though, you're going to have to address that if it isn't going to work for you, and I'd suggest sooner rather than later. It will only get worse if/when they start making arrangements to make that happen. And I totally feel you. I wouldn't be okay with it if my ILs wanted to do that. As is, I expect them to move across the country to be closer to us when we tell them, and I'm sincerely hoping it isn't too close.
Me: 30 DH: 32 ~~ TTC #1: Sep 2015 ~~ BFP: Mar 2016 ~~ Daughter: Nov 2016 TTC #2: April 2018 ~~ BFP: May 2018 ~~ EDD: January 2019
Because Grey's Anatomy has stopped making my cry my mom told me I'm insensitive which made me cry. Because idk if baby's dad is gonna marry me Because I'm hungry Because I have a hemorrhoid Because I miss working and am on bedrest and am missing my performance tonight. I'm a fire dancer Because I'm fat Because my boobs itch and I can't scratch
Right now I'm sitting in the Toyota dealership while my car is getting serviced, reading Ina May's Guide to Childbirth and crying in front of a bunch of strangers
Me: 29, DH: 29 Married 9/27/14 TTC #1 since 8/15/15 BFP: 1/2/16, EDD 9/13/16 - MMC 2/10/16 BFP: 3/17, EDD 11/23/16 November 2016 April Siggy Challenge - April Showers
@MrsDho11 they love them! And we have one, darn! Haha thank you and you are right. It causally came up tonight and I planted a seed. I am sure I am over thinking it because there is no way they can take that much time off work I feel like. Even though she said she wanted to quit her job. I have more faith in them then that, they have to know that's too long. Going to count my blessings that they are wonderful people and hey want to help. I feel comfortable enough to even bring it up to her if my husband would feel better that way too. Thank you for your help!
DD (2yo) said she missed her daddy. We had only ran to the store for 5 minutes but I felt bad that she missed him... how dare I separate those two for sooo long
Engaged 10/2/1202 BFP (a lil quicker than expected) 12/7/2012 Married to my best friend 12/24/2012 Beautiful baby girl arrived 8/15/2013 BFP #2 3/13/2016
My husband ate the leftover fried rice... after I told him to eat the leftover fried rice. As he was eating it I realized that there wasn't anything else in the house that sounded good except for the fried rice but I didn't want him to feel guilty about eating it so I just starting sobbing.
Someone posted video of the US anthem being sung before a hockey game in Canada. When the microphone cut out, the crowd belted out the rest of the song. I sat with tears rolling down my face.
I teared up when this 3-year-old girl said she has a "daddy kiss jar," which is a jar full of Hershey kisses for each day her military dad is away in Korea. I thought they were going to bring him out at the end of the segment and I was prepared to lose it!
FI and I were planning on getting married over the summer... Wedding is postponed now til next year... (reason to cry #1)... Riding in the car, the new song "You should be here" comes on and I start thinking about how my grandmother who has terminal cancer probably won't be at my wedding... que tears and the ugly cry.
MMC 01/26/12
MC 12/25/12, D&C 01/05/13
BFP 03/05/13, EDD 11/12/13. HB 175 @ 9w2d. Its a Girl!
Madeline Lorraine H. Born 11/12/13 @9:10pm, 7lb6oz
DX with EA/TEF Type C & Tracheomalaysia MC @ 13wks 01/15/15
DX Septate Uterus - surgery recommended
BFP 3/18/16, EDD 11/13/16 It's a boy! Clint Kiszonas H. Born 11/21/16 @10:38pm, 9lb11oz
I had to take my dog to the vet this morning, and another girl (who works for the humane society linked to the vet clinic) showed up needing to put her old dog down immediately. The vets refused to squeeze her in to their overbooked schedule until they got a call from the humane society. They were suggesting she take the dog elsewhere because routine appointments and other walk-ins who came in first would get priority. Que the first tears of this pregnancy. I felt so bad for her and can't imagine not being given immediate priority in that situation, especially when you're a fellow employee.
My dog was barking last night and I wanted to sleep.
Me: 31 | H: 32
Married September 2014
TTC #1 December 2014 RE appt 12/2015 CD3 labs normal | HSG 1/8/16 clear | H's SA excellent Dx: Unexplained Infertility February 2016, cycle 16 - cycle #1 with Letrozole 5mg + TI | Progesterone=20.6 BFP 2/24/16 - EDD 11/7/16 It's a girl! Isla Quinn born 10/29/16 at 38w5d via C/S -------- TFAS March 2018 RE consultation 8/2/18 Suprise! BFP 8/8/18 natural cycle | EDD 4/19/19 It's a girl! Afton Noelle born 4/10/19 at 38w5d via natural VBAC
My oldest started crying last night about not wanting to have his cast cut off. He's really upset that they might cut where I wrote 'I love you' on it.
One of my residents at work got me sick. My throat is on fire and every time I cough, I gag on the phlem... and cough drops make me nauseous. I hate being sick and pregnant at the same time
MMC 01/26/12
MC 12/25/12, D&C 01/05/13
BFP 03/05/13, EDD 11/12/13. HB 175 @ 9w2d. Its a Girl!
Madeline Lorraine H. Born 11/12/13 @9:10pm, 7lb6oz
DX with EA/TEF Type C & Tracheomalaysia MC @ 13wks 01/15/15
DX Septate Uterus - surgery recommended
BFP 3/18/16, EDD 11/13/16 It's a boy! Clint Kiszonas H. Born 11/21/16 @10:38pm, 9lb11oz
I just ugly cried watching the Criminal Minds from last week when Morgan left...I can't take it! This is my first excessive show of emotions since my BFP, so at least I made it to 9 weeks
I just ugly cried watching the Criminal Minds from last week when Morgan left...I can't take it! This is my first excessive show of emotions since my BFP, so at least I made it to 9 weeks
I watched it and it pissed me off more than anything. I love Morgan and I don't see how the show will continue without him.
In my clinical skills, we were doing OSCE-style scenarios. Mine was counselling a woman who is being discharged after treatment of injuries potentially related to intimate partner violence.
Even though it was a totally pretend scenario being delivered by my (male) preceptor, I totally got wrapped up to it and just barely stopped myself from crying. I just felt bad that women are dealing with actual intimate partner violence and many feel trapped and I want to help.
K.
Son, K, 9 | Daughter, C, 5 | Daughter, M, expected November 7, 2016
I never watched the last season and a half or so of the West Wing, and I've finally been going through it the last couple days. Lots of crying today because of it, but I'm so close to the end now and I want to know how it ends!!!!!
Me: 30 DH: 32 ~~ TTC #1: Sep 2015 ~~ BFP: Mar 2016 ~~ Daughter: Nov 2016 TTC #2: April 2018 ~~ BFP: May 2018 ~~ EDD: January 2019
My IL's offered to take me and H out to dinner last night. FIL asked me where I wanted to eat at and I started crying. I DON'T KNOW WHERE I WANT TO EAT BECAUSE NOTHING SOUNDS GOOD EVER
Me: 31 | H: 32
Married September 2014
TTC #1 December 2014 RE appt 12/2015 CD3 labs normal | HSG 1/8/16 clear | H's SA excellent Dx: Unexplained Infertility February 2016, cycle 16 - cycle #1 with Letrozole 5mg + TI | Progesterone=20.6 BFP 2/24/16 - EDD 11/7/16 It's a girl! Isla Quinn born 10/29/16 at 38w5d via C/S -------- TFAS March 2018 RE consultation 8/2/18 Suprise! BFP 8/8/18 natural cycle | EDD 4/19/19 It's a girl! Afton Noelle born 4/10/19 at 38w5d via natural VBAC
I just watched the 1993 version of The Secret Garden, which was my favorite movie as a kid. Like thirty minutes into it the floodgates open, because IT'S JUST SO BEAUTIFUL and I want to be Mary Lennox.
Re: Why my pregnant self is crying.
@TucknBoom Its a show about people who have incredibly rare medical conditions who get to meet someone like them that has the same medical condition that they do and they get to spend a week together. Basically these people have never met someone else with their same medical condition before and it just looks really heart warming and like a tear-jerker. Here's the link to the trailer: https://www.tlc.com/tv-shows/two-in-a-million/this-season-on-two-in-a-million/
Honestly though, you're going to have to address that if it isn't going to work for you, and I'd suggest sooner rather than later. It will only get worse if/when they start making arrangements to make that happen. And I totally feel you. I wouldn't be okay with it if my ILs wanted to do that. As is, I expect them to move across the country to be closer to us when we tell them, and I'm sincerely hoping it isn't too close.
TTC #2: April 2018 ~~ BFP: May 2018 ~~ EDD: January 2019
Because idk if baby's dad is gonna marry me
Because I'm hungry
Because I have a hemorrhoid
Because I miss working and am on bedrest and am missing my performance tonight. I'm a fire dancer
Because I'm fat
Because my boobs itch and I can't scratch
Married 9/27/14
TTC #1 since 8/15/15
BFP: 1/2/16, EDD 9/13/16 - MMC 2/10/16
BFP: 3/17, EDD 11/23/16
November 2016 April Siggy Challenge - April Showers
Engaged 10/2/1202
BFP (a lil quicker than expected) 12/7/2012
Married to my best friend 12/24/2012
Beautiful baby girl arrived 8/15/2013
BFP #2 3/13/2016
edited: typing is hard.
Married 9/27/14
TTC #1 since 8/15/15
BFP: 1/2/16, EDD 9/13/16 - MMC 2/10/16
BFP: 3/17, EDD 11/23/16
November 2016 April Siggy Challenge - April Showers
Me: 26 DH:27
Due: 11/6/2016
https://jezebel.com/can-this-3-year-old-gymnast-not-make-me-feel-pathetic-1767103370
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
MMC 01/26/12
MC 12/25/12, D&C 01/05/13
BFP 03/05/13, EDD 11/12/13. HB 175 @ 9w2d. Its a Girl!
DX with EA/TEF Type C & Tracheomalaysia
MC @ 13wks 01/15/15
BFP 1/11/18, EDD 9/21/18
BFP #1 11/06/15 - EDD 7/14/16 - MMC 12/14/15 - D&C 12/22/15
BFP #2 03/13/16 - EDD 11/26/16
RE appt 12/2015
CD3 labs normal | HSG 1/8/16 clear | H's SA excellent
Dx: Unexplained Infertility
February 2016, cycle 16 - cycle #1 with Letrozole 5mg + TI | Progesterone=20.6
BFP 2/24/16 - EDD 11/7/16
It's a girl!
Isla Quinn born 10/29/16 at 38w5d via C/S
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TFAS March 2018
RE consultation 8/2/18
Suprise! BFP 8/8/18 natural cycle | EDD 4/19/19
It's a girl!
Afton Noelle born 4/10/19 at 38w5d via natural VBAC
the song "Gracie" by Ben Folds-- ugly cried. Just TRY to get through it, i dare you.
TTC #2: April 2018 ~~ BFP: May 2018 ~~ EDD: January 2019
Edited to add: trigger warning. It's a loss story.
https://blogs.babycenter.com/mom_stories/09192013-the-sad-story-behind-i-love-you-forever/
Do not read unless you're ready to start sobbing.
MMC 01/26/12
MC 12/25/12, D&C 01/05/13
BFP 03/05/13, EDD 11/12/13. HB 175 @ 9w2d. Its a Girl!
DX with EA/TEF Type C & Tracheomalaysia
MC @ 13wks 01/15/15
BFP 1/11/18, EDD 9/21/18
Even though it was a totally pretend scenario being delivered by my (male) preceptor, I totally got wrapped up to it and just barely stopped myself from crying. I just felt bad that women are dealing with actual intimate partner violence and many feel trapped and I want to help.
Son, K, 9 | Daughter, C, 5 | Daughter, M, expected November 7, 2016
TTC #2: April 2018 ~~ BFP: May 2018 ~~ EDD: January 2019
RE appt 12/2015
CD3 labs normal | HSG 1/8/16 clear | H's SA excellent
Dx: Unexplained Infertility
February 2016, cycle 16 - cycle #1 with Letrozole 5mg + TI | Progesterone=20.6
BFP 2/24/16 - EDD 11/7/16
It's a girl!
Isla Quinn born 10/29/16 at 38w5d via C/S
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TFAS March 2018
RE consultation 8/2/18
Suprise! BFP 8/8/18 natural cycle | EDD 4/19/19
It's a girl!
Afton Noelle born 4/10/19 at 38w5d via natural VBAC