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candicek15 · March 2016

@ahernandez16 what show was spoiled?? I need to know before I open the thread!

ahernandez16 · March 2016

candicek15 said:

@ahernandez16 what show was spoiled?? I need to know before I open the thread!

I was bitching because Criminal Minds got spoiled for me before I could watch it today... not in that thread though. It was on my Facebook.

Someone did post a pretty big death in The Walking Dead, though from maybe season 2 or 3 so if you're binge watching it now and you're in the early stages I wouldn't open it. If you're not - you're good!

DeePaddy24 · March 2016

CourtJack said:

parsonsperson said:

HBamama2B said:

It is my personal hypothesis that the humble braggers (who often talk about having eaten whatever crap they like and not exercising), actually haven't gained much in large part Bc the relaxin is causing them to lose muscle mass. Whereas both you ladies are actively focused on staying fit and maintaining power. Muscle tissue weighs way more than fat tissue, so sure, humble braggers, sit on your skinny floppy ass and you'll lose muscle so overall gain will be good and you'll have zero stamina for birth. Great plan!

Honest truth: My weight gain would probably be much higher if I were as active as I should be, so ladies, you rock.

I'm a "big gains" type of lady over here for this pregnancy, too, and I like this theory.

Big gainer here too!! 70 with my first. 60 with my second. This one I'm trying to keep it lower. I'm at 20lbs at 28 weeks and it feels like I'm still on the big end just based on most of weight posts I see on the Bump. I wish more
big gainers would speak up! It's OK TO GAIN WEIGHT!!!!!

Having never been pregnant before, this is something I'm trying so hard to come to terms with. Obviously I know it's supposed to happen & that it's completely natural. But, it's one thing to know it, & an entirely different thing to step on the scale & see those numbers. I love that we have a community here that embraces this...it definitely makes it easier!

starkeyclan · March 2016

@fishwife799 - oh no!! That's the worst

I hope the ice cream remedied that for you real quick!

CourtJack · March 2016

DeePaddy24 said:

CourtJack said:

parsonsperson said:

HBamama2B said:

It is my personal hypothesis that the humble braggers (who often talk about having eaten whatever crap they like and not exercising), actually haven't gained much in large part Bc the relaxin is causing them to lose muscle mass. Whereas both you ladies are actively focused on staying fit and maintaining power. Muscle tissue weighs way more than fat tissue, so sure, humble braggers, sit on your skinny floppy ass and you'll lose muscle so overall gain will be good and you'll have zero stamina for birth. Great plan!

Honest truth: My weight gain would probably be much higher if I were as active as I should be, so ladies, you rock.

I'm a "big gains" type of lady over here for this pregnancy, too, and I like this theory.

Big gainer here too!! 70 with my first. 60 with my second. This one I'm trying to keep it lower. I'm at 20lbs at 28 weeks and it feels like I'm still on the big end just based on most of weight posts I see on the Bump. I wish more
big gainers would speak up! It's OK TO GAIN WEIGHT!!!!!

Having never been pregnant before, this is something I'm trying so hard to come to terms with. Obviously I know it's supposed to happen & that it's completely natural. But, it's one thing to know it, & an entirely different thing to step on the scale & see those numbers. I love that we have a community here that embraces this...it definitely makes it easier!

For sure. And it IS hard to see the numbers go up. It's the opposite mindset of what we're used too. But I hope people feel ok talking about the weight gain they've had especially if it's more than what they thought. It can be really isolating and lonely when you think you've gained too much weight.

ahernandez16 · March 2016

CourtJack said:

DeePaddy24 said:

CourtJack said:

parsonsperson said:

HBamama2B said:

It is my personal hypothesis that the humble braggers (who often talk about having eaten whatever crap they like and not exercising), actually haven't gained much in large part Bc the relaxin is causing them to lose muscle mass. Whereas both you ladies are actively focused on staying fit and maintaining power. Muscle tissue weighs way more than fat tissue, so sure, humble braggers, sit on your skinny floppy ass and you'll lose muscle so overall gain will be good and you'll have zero stamina for birth. Great plan!

Honest truth: My weight gain would probably be much higher if I were as active as I should be, so ladies, you rock.

I'm a "big gains" type of lady over here for this pregnancy, too, and I like this theory.

Big gainer here too!! 70 with my first. 60 with my second. This one I'm trying to keep it lower. I'm at 20lbs at 28 weeks and it feels like I'm still on the big end just based on most of weight posts I see on the Bump. I wish more
big gainers would speak up! It's OK TO GAIN WEIGHT!!!!!

Having never been pregnant before, this is something I'm trying so hard to come to terms with. Obviously I know it's supposed to happen & that it's completely natural. But, it's one thing to know it, & an entirely different thing to step on the scale & see those numbers. I love that we have a community here that embraces this...it definitely makes it easier!

For sure. And it IS hard to see the numbers go up. It's the opposite mindset of what we're used too. But I hope people feel ok talking about the weight gain they've had especially if it's more than what they thought. It can be really isolating and lonely when you think you've gained too much weight.

Agreed. I FLIPPED at my last appointment because I had shot up 15 pounds in like 6 weeks. It was insane. I only weigh myself at the doctor's office so I wasn't expecting it. I went into the room where they had H waiting and was practically bawling and said, "No but you don't understand. I've never weighed this much in my life" and he responded, "Well you also have never been pregnant before."

It IS hard especially when you've struggled with the scale pre pregnancy to see the numbers creep up to places you were literally fearful of before. My OB never said anything about the weight gain and I only gained 5 lbs over the last month and I'm up about 27 pounds from before pregnancy. I must have just had a crazy growth spurt. I'm glad we don't have any humble braggers in our group of regulars... it makes it so much easier to be okay with the weight gain to know we're all going through it and reacting to it in our own ways and that all of our reactions are okay and don't make us bad people.

MamaNicoleof3 · March 2016

Ladies, you're all beautiful. I've seen pics

and we're growing HUMANS. I know it's so hard to remember when you see those huge jumps on the scale. It'll all be worth it in the end. I promise! I know these all sound SUPER cliche, but once you lay eyes on your baby for the first time, you'll forget everything and fall more in love with someone than you ever thought possible. It's the most incredible thing ever. And you'll (maybe not until "eventually" happens) figure out how to feel comfortable in your new mom bod and no matter how it's changed, remember that it was capable and strong enough to grow, birth and keep another
person safe and healthy. We got this! And we will ROCK IT!!

Mr0616 · March 2016

@mamanicoleof3 that may or may not just made me tear up.

CourtJack · March 2016

MamaNicoleof3 said:

Ladies, you're all beautiful. I've seen pics and we're growing HUMANS. I know it's so hard to remember when you see those huge jumps on the scale. It'll all be worth it in the end. I promise! I know these all sound SUPER cliche, but once you lay eyes on your baby for the first time, you'll forget everything and fall more in love with someone than you ever thought possible. It's the most incredible thing ever. And you'll (maybe not until "eventually" happens) figure out how to feel comfortable in your new mom bod and no matter how it's changed, remember that it was capable and strong enough to grow, birth and keep another
person safe and healthy. We got this! And we will ROCK IT!!

@MamaNicoleof3 - how I feel about you right now.

goldie987 · March 2016

MamaNicoleof3 said:

Ladies, you're all beautiful. I've seen pics and we're growing HUMANS. I know it's so hard to remember when you see those huge jumps on the scale. It'll all be worth it in the end. I promise! I know these all sound SUPER cliche, but once you lay eyes on your baby for the first time, you'll forget everything and fall more in love with someone than you ever thought possible. It's the most incredible thing ever. And you'll (maybe not until "eventually" happens) figure out how to feel comfortable in your new mom bod and no matter how it's changed, remember that it was capable and strong enough to grow, birth and keep another person safe and healthy. We got this! And we will ROCK IT!!

After the 4 lb jump in 2 days earlier this week (on top of the normal expected inching up of the scale), there is nothing better I could have read. Best BMB ever.

mrsb8244 · March 2016

@MamaNicoleof3 You're amazing. That is all. But seriously, I

you

@DeePaddy24 Exactly what you said. Before getting pregnant I was all "why would a pregnant woman be concerned about weight gain, that's what's supposed to happen." Boy did I get a shock when it was me who it was happening to. I knew, logically, that I would gain weight and I thought I was prepared for that but I definitely wasn't. I don't think anyone who hasn't been pregnant can fully understand, especially if they've never struggled with their weight. This group has helped me through the whole process so much!

hollywoodave531 · March 2016

Thanks @MamaNicoleof3 for the words of inspiration. You rock!

splsmama2016 · March 2016

@MamaNicoleof3 you are amazing

You know exactly what to say to make us all feel a bit better about ourselves. Thank you VERY much for that message!!!

GinnyJ2012 · March 2016

I gained a lot my first pregnancy and it was really hard to be OK with it. My second I paid more attention to eating habits and working out, and I still gained 50 lbs. at 28 weeks I'm up about 30 pounds. It's hard, and learning how to be comfortable in post baby body can be very difficult, especially if this is your first. But everything @MamaNicoleof3 said is spot on, and she's better with words than I am!

DeePaddy24 · March 2016

@MamaNicoleof3 Thank you! You are once again a perfect example of why I love this community...we raise each other up, rather than knock each other down!

You are wonderful.

On an unrelated note, I was just lurking the May BMB & one of the ladies gave birth at the beginning of this week to her twins. MAY! *breathe*

MillerMama13 · March 2016

ahernandez16 said:

MillerMama13 said:

I can't read the UO thread anymore because of the people who supposedly agree with the UO of hating people who spoiling shows like to spoil shows. Wtf..,

I like to talk about shows after I watch them. I'd be fine with discussing them online, even. I just think if you're going to post something that would ruin the whole show within less than a week of it airing you should warn people with a simple SPOILER ALERT before you start typing. I'm pretty sure that's what most of those responses were referring to, or at least I hope so.

Oh I totally agree with that. There were two people who posted that they agree with the UO about at least putting a spoiler alert but then they talked about how someone spoiled a specific event (someone dying in TWD). If someone reading their post hadn't seen that part then it would have totally ruined it. I'm a season behind on TWD and thankfully I've already seen the two events that were mentioned but there was an almost spoiler because someone said something about the current season. They weren't specific enough to ruin it completely luckily but I was like nooooooooooo! Must. Close. Thread.

kwife15 · March 2016

Thank you @mamanicoleof3! You are amazing. I'm shaping up to be one of those other weight gainers and this was so nice to hear.

TNvols27 · March 2016

@fishwife799 omg mint chocolate chip ice cream is my fave!!! Drool

PBear93 · March 2016

@mamanicoleof3 I needed to hear that.

On an unrelated note, it's not even 8 and I'm laying in bed about to go to sleep. I feel a little bad about it, but mostly I'm ok with it.

MamaNicoleof3 · March 2016

dawwww! I'm glad I could help

but for real, building a baby is glorious and amazing and beautiful, but it's still stinkin' HARD and painful. We're doing awesome things!!

fishwife799 · March 2016

@MamaNicoleof3

mkemommy · March 2016

Just had mint chocolate chip frozen custard....of course I had it topped with coconut flakes and cherries to boot...you ladies are the best kind of influence. H tried to steal some and I all but body blocked him from my spoon.

mkemommy · March 2016

@MamaNicoleof3 - I also wanted to say thank you for the positive reminder. I've been very focused on my weight in the last yearbefore getting pregnant...I'm at the same weight now that I was after about 8 months of hard work to lose and that is hard to see sometimes. But then I feel little girl move and I know every freaking ounce is worth it.

HBamama2B · March 2016

MillerMama13 said:

ahernandez16 said:

MillerMama13 said:

I can't read the UO thread anymore because of the people who supposedly agree with the UO of hating people who spoiling shows like to spoil shows. Wtf..,

I like to talk about shows after I watch them. I'd be fine with discussing them online, even. I just think if you're going to post something that would ruin the whole show within less than a week of it airing you should warn people with a simple SPOILER ALERT before you start typing. I'm pretty sure that's what most of those responses were referring to, or at least I hope so.

Oh I totally agree with that. There were two people who posted that they agree with the UO about at least putting a spoiler alert but then they talked about how someone spoiled a specific event (someone dying in TWD). If someone reading their post hadn't seen that part then it would have totally ruined it. I'm a season behind on TWD and thankfully I've already seen the two events that were mentioned but there was an almost spoiler because someone said something about the current season. They weren't specific enough to ruin it completely luckily but I was like nooooooooooo! Must. Close. Thread.

I see what you're saying and I agree with that partially. If it's that behind and it's generic enough to be something people have probably seen on a commercial for the current season (i.e. mention of a character who's been shown in ads) then that's not really a spoiler, you can't expect to avoid all trailer and promo info when you're behind and get upset. Something specific like a death or plot twist, however, even from a season ago, yeah that definitely counts.

MamaNicoleof3 · March 2016

WHERE ARE ALL THE RANDOMS COMING FROM????

fishwife799 · March 2016

Early FFC- I totally stopped at the store and bought more mint chip ice cream. Apparently the cup earlier wasn't enough to satisfy my need. I'm super excited to eat it when the kids go to bed

fishwife799 · March 2016

@MillerMama13 I hope you aren't referring to me. I did say that I was spoiled when a character died a while back but in no way gave reference to what character or how far back it was. I figured with the nature of that show (obviously people will die in a show called TWD) my comment was vague enough to not be a spoiler.

CourtJack · March 2016

H went to the to get pull ups for DD and bought himself chips and got me NOTHING. I actually almost cried.

fishwife799 · March 2016

CourtJack said:

H went to the to get pull ups for DD and bought himself chips and got me NOTHING. I actually almost cried.

Jerk

HBamama2B · March 2016

fishwife799 said:

CourtJack said:

H went to the to get pull ups for DD and bought himself chips and got me NOTHING. I actually almost cried.

Jerk

WSS!

candicek15 · March 2016

HBamama2B said:

fishwife799 said:

CourtJack said:

H went to the to get pull ups for DD and bought himself chips and got me NOTHING. I actually almost cried.

Jerk

WSS!

Divorce seems like the only answer. At least you had a good run.

DeePaddy24 · March 2016

candicek15 said:

HBamama2B said:

fishwife799 said:

CourtJack said:

H went to the to get pull ups for DD and bought himself chips and got me NOTHING. I actually almost cried.

Jerk

WSS!

Divorce seems like the only answer. At least you had a good run.

Hahaha, I was going to say the same thing. Sounds like reasonable grounds for divorce. I'd start looking for the best lawyer around!

lunagrl79 · March 2016

It's been a rough week ladies.

I do feel like I've made some big steps though. Applied for several jobs. Had an interview today. Got myself on a wait list for a cool apartment that I can actually afford on my own without help from the ex. Met with my counselor today.

But it I haven't been sleeping. And I eat but I feel icky. And I am so sad. Not because I miss my ex but just because I feel so alone and have for so long. Then this evening I had a bit of a scare so my doc wanted me to go into l&d just to get everything checked.

Baby is fine. She was just really low in a strange position for a couple hours without moving and it was giving me some weird, intense pressure. I was just so scared because of all the stress.

I think being at the hospital alone for a few hours really got my emotions going.

Sorry for for the long post. Guess I just wanted to get it all off my chest. I feel like I could break down and lose it tonight. Doc said its ok for me to take a Benadryl to make sure I can get a good nights rest. Haven't really since Saturday night.

At least my ex hasn't shown up since Monday. Also trying to figure out if I should have my aunt mail shower invites to his family when she mails everything else this weekend. His mom has been crazy. I haven't heard from her this time around but last time I tried to end things with him she told me I "needed to get rid of it" if I wasn't going to be with her son.

I I really don't want them there but I don't know what to do. Arghhhhhhhhh.

Thanks for for letting me vent. Sorry again for the rant.

BabyboyS2016 · March 2016

@lunagrl79 get some sleep. You deserve a nice relaxing night. It will all work out because you are so strong. And don't feel bad for venting. What do you think we're here for??

mkemommy · March 2016

@lunagrl79 - Hugs to you. Stay strong, lady, you got this. It sounds like an exhausting day. My advice? Take the benadryl, get a good nights sleep and reevaluate things with a clearer head in the morning. I also wouldn't have your aunt mail shower invites to his family if his mom would say something like that to you...you don't need the stress and the drama. We are here for you.

hollywoodave531 · March 2016

lunagrl79 said:

It's been a rough week ladies.

I do feel like I've made some big steps though. Applied for several jobs. Had an interview today. Got myself on a wait list for a cool apartment that I can actually afford on my own without help from the ex. Met with my counselor today.

But it I haven't been sleeping. And I eat but I feel icky. And I am so sad. Not because I miss my ex but just because I feel so alone and have for so long. Then this evening I had a bit of a scare so my doc wanted me to go into l&d just to get everything checked.

Baby is fine. She was just really low in a strange position for a couple hours without moving and it was giving me some weird, intense pressure. I was just so scared because of all the stress.

I think being at the hospital alone for a few hours really got my emotions going.

Sorry for for the long post. Guess I just wanted to get it all off my chest. I feel like I could break down and lose it tonight. Doc said its ok for me to take a Benadryl to make sure I can get a good nights rest. Haven't really since Saturday night.

At least my ex hasn't shown up since Monday. Also trying to figure out if I should have my aunt mail shower invites to his family when she mails everything else this weekend. His mom has been crazy. I haven't heard from her this time around but last time I tried to end things with him she told me I "needed to get rid of it" if I wasn't going to be with her son.

I I really don't want them there but I don't know what to do. Arghhhhhhhhh.

Thanks for for letting me vent. Sorry again for the rant.

Aww we're here for you! I can't imagine what you are going through but it sounds like you have a very positive outlook and are making progress by taking little steps forward; looking for a job, apartment, etc. Glad the baby is okay. Do you have any family members to lean on or help you out?

HBamama2B · March 2016

DeePaddy24 said:

candicek15 said:

HBamama2B said:

fishwife799 said:

CourtJack said:

H went to the to get pull ups for DD and bought himself chips and got me NOTHING. I actually almost cried.

Jerk

WSS!

Divorce seems like the only answer. At least you had a good run.

Hahaha, I was going to say the same thing. Sounds like reasonable grounds for divorce. I'd start looking for the best lawyer around!

We have one of those on our bmb we can recommend! I'm sure she'd take the case!

HBamama2B · March 2016

@lunagrl79 sorry you're struggling, I hope the Benadryl works and you get a good nights rest. Managing an emotional day like that is difficult even when you are well rested. You're a trooper. Hugs.

PBear93 · March 2016

@lunagrl79 hugs. Take the benedryl, have s good nights sleep, and keep going tomorrow. I wouldn't invite his family if they will respond like that--you need to surround yourself with people who will lift you up, not tear you down. It sounds like you are taking all the right steps.

mkemommy · March 2016

HBamama2B said:

DeePaddy24 said:

candicek15 said:

HBamama2B said:

fishwife799 said:

CourtJack said:

H went to the to get pull ups for DD and bought himself chips and got me NOTHING. I actually almost cried.

Jerk

WSS!

Divorce seems like the only answer. At least you had a good run.

Hahaha, I was going to say the same thing. Sounds like reasonable grounds for divorce. I'd start looking for the best lawyer around!

We have one of those on our bmb we can recommend! I'm sure she'd take the case!

Ha! I have a feeling you are referring to Palisson @HBMama2B ? Nonetheless, I'd take the case pro bono as well.

It IS a worthwhile cause after all.

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