Ok, here's my second FFFC: My boss just gave me his wife's Kate Spade diaper bag from when their son was a baby. I am incredibly grateful, and stoked to use it. But here's how I know we're on two different pages in life - He also told me if I didn't want it, she would just toss it. TOSS A $350 diaper bag?!? Of course the poorer person in me thinks, Why wouldn't you sell it?! As I will be doing when I'm done with it, lol! The second part is as trendy and nice as this bag is, I could never justify spending that kind of money on a diaper bag. All I can think is you just wasted about $250 that could have bought you a few months of diapers!!!! But, I guess if money is no object...
@BostonBaby1I visited my husband on a work trip a month ago and had already begun my love affair with the Snoogle. I was THIS close to doing the same, haha!! I opted to ask for extra pillows and surround myself, but I understand your dilemma!
@TiffRox81 I would feel the same way! I contemplated trying to sell it to my husband why I need one but let's be real, I don't need a designer diaper bag. However, I totally would love to be gifted a Kate Spade diaper bag. I could never toss it after using it, thats crazy! I would definitely sell it on Poshmark or something.
The bigger I get and the more my belly button resists moving (and thus the flatter my bump gets in the front), the weirder I feel about the whole thing. I am SUPER embarrassed that I care so much about the shape of my midsection, but, alas, it's bugging me.
Oh my god this. I was seriously almost in tears last night about my goddamn belly button cavern. I know it's stupid but for some reason it is really bothering me. So I guess my confession is that I am clearly a disaster this week because I cried about my damn belly button.
I have a horrible FFFC, maybe pregnancy brain at its finest.
i was driving DS to daycare today and i was stopped at a red light a block away. DS keeps saying "mama mama look." I turned around and DS is standing up, leaning over the middle console with a banana in his hand. I forgot to buckle him in!
Oops! I did that with one of my nanny kids once. We were at a playdate at someone's house, he was about 5 months old, and colicky. He passed out, so I sat him in his carseat so other kids wouldn't step on him, and then tucked his blanket around him. He was still sleeping when I left, so I just carried the carseat out, clicked it into the base, drove back to the house, and brought all of the kids back inside. By the time I got the car unloaded, all of the kids situated at the table, and lunch put on the table, he woke and I went to get him out of the carseat, only to realize I never buckled him in! I about died! I told his mom about it later that evening, and she was like "WHOOPS!" Well a few days later, she ended up doing the same thing.
I've gotten lax this week on my water intake and started counting anything remotely clearish as water. Iced tea? Yep that's basically water... Lemonade? Eh we'll consider that half water... Cherry 7-up? Hmmm that may be pushing it...
I've gotten lax this week on my water intake and started counting anything remotely clearish as water. Iced tea? Yep that's basically water... Lemonade? Eh we'll consider that half water... Cherry 7-up? Hmmm that may be pushing it...
I'm counting the water/apple juice in my morning smoothie towards my water glass count so I hear you there, but iced tea is (usually) black tea, which is caffeinated. And since diuretics actually dehydrate you, that might be pushing it in the water tally.
@elenabrent I've been doing green tea but I think that has some caffeine in it too? Good call on the juice in the smoothie, I hadn't thought of that. Haha
I was too stressed to eat breakfast, insisted on mac & cheese for lunch (organic but out of a box, so value neutral maybe?), and I don't know if it's just feeling icky from lack of food and sleep or what, but I'm totally not interested in eating anything. By now I've usually had like 4 mini meals and am still starving. Today I just wanna curl up and NOT eat anything.
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I'm so glad we already have a DD and DS because otherwise I feel like having our third and last would always seem like we just wanted to 'complete' our family with a baby of the other sex. Like my sister who has 3 boys and always wanted a girl, it makes me cringe
Summary of my confession: I judge the $hit out of anyone that says they have "sex disappointment"
That's cool. I have no shame. We all judge people for one thing or another.
------------------qbf------------------- Maybe you oughta reconsider your stance on feeling shame. Being disappointed in your unborn child for something they have no control over is pretty shameful.
i'll confess that I'm disappointed that I'm not having a girl this time. disappointment is just disappointment. tragedy is something else altogether, and it's not fair to compare them. I'm disappointed when the grocery store is out of my favorite candy. i get over it, and my disappointment doesn't mean that I don't care about people suffering from malnutrition and hunger. Besides, if it's callous to complain about sex disappointment, why isn't it callous to complain about ms and constipation--shouldn't we feel grateful to have them too?
I'm getting older and this is probably going to be our last child--not having a girl doesn't mean my family won't be complete and perfect, but it does mean that there are certain things i have to accept that i won't experience. right now, I'm a little sad that I won't be able to share my love of dance and gymnastics with a daughter and l'll just have to buy ruffly skirts and lacy dresses for my friends' daughters i suppose. I know that in the future my DS will love having a brother and that both the boys will introduce me to interests that I've never explored before, but I don't think it's terrible to write about the fleeting disappointment I feel now.
@BostonBaby1 Cheaper option: have one shipped to the hotel and return it when you leave. I may or may not have done this before. I also am guilty of using UPS to ship extra things in order to avoid baggage fees.
i'll confess that I'm disappointed that I'm not having a girl this time. disappointment is just disappointment. tragedy is something else altogether, and it's not fair to compare them. I'm disappointed when the grocery store is out of my favorite candy. i get over it, and my disappointment doesn't mean that I don't care about people suffering from malnutrition and hunger. Besides, if it's callous to complain about sex disappointment, why isn't it callous to complain about ms and constipation--shouldn't we feel grateful to have them too?
I'm getting older and this is probably going to be our last child--not having a girl doesn't mean my family won't be complete and perfect, but it does mean that there are certain things i have to accept that i won't experience. right now, I'm a little sad that I won't be able to share my love of dance and gymnastics with a daughter and l'll just have to buy ruffly skirts and lacy dresses for my friends' daughters i suppose. I know that in the future my DS will love having a brother and that both the boys will introduce me to interests that I've never explored before, but I don't think it's terrible to write about the fleeting disappointment I feel now.
Hence why I *usually* don't comment in response. You think you're justified, I think it's ridiculous. You will not change my mind, nor see yourself as doing anything wrong.
I judge the hell out of sex disappointment. I think it's a total dick move. I can understand an oh I'll never experience teaching my son to pee standing up or a daughter how to use a tampon but that's about it. Little girls can play baseball and be all rough and tumble, little boys can take dance and gymnastics. Can you imagine how hurtful it would be to find out a parent was disappointed because you had the wrong pee-hole?
@WevilleI have two family members that have been told their whole life they were supposed to be the other sex. Some people just don't get the long term issues their "disappointment" can cause!
@SparkySunshine I was told by my paternal grandmother my entire childhood I was supposed to be a boy because I'm the eldest child or her only son and my parents had the nerve to conceive me at 18 out of wedlock. It really felt awesome that right out of the gates I had a strike against me
edited to add this isn't an oh poor me moment, I'm really okay with it now but the idea of someone causing those feelings in another kid really pisses me off
@WevilleI've been so sad about this recently. This LO is our second, and when I cut into our reveal cake to find blue icing, I could just see the disappointment in MH's face. I was excited either way and am pumped for DS to have a little brother. It just breaks my heart for this LO because since the reveal, MH has been pretty open about having wanted a girl. Every time he says it, I just want to punch him in the mouth.
Okay. "Disappointment" (for like, a MINUTE) is not the same as shaming your kid their whole life. It is human nature to feel disappointed when you don't get what you want sometimes. So yes, I do feel "justified" but I also am not trying to change your opinion. It's a silly confession on a board full of strangers. Geez.
I have a horrible FFFC, maybe pregnancy brain at its finest.
i was driving DS to daycare today and i was stopped at a red light a block away. DS keeps saying "mama mama look." I turned around and DS is standing up, leaning over the middle console with a banana in his hand. I forgot to buckle him in!
I've done this before, when DD was a baby and we had the bucket seat that clipped into the stroller. I went into a store and undid her buckles. Then we got back in the car to drive to a nearby coffee shop. When we got there I realized I had never buckled her back in. Cue feeling like the worst mom in the world - I think I cried (these were early days when the mom guilt was especially strong)
My FFFC, lame as it may be.....I think those "family member" stickers people put on the back of their cars are weird and cheesy. What is the point of them?!? All I can think when I see those is, I bet you think you have the PERFECT life. So much so that you want everyone to know exactly what you're towing around in your minivan and who's living in your white picket fence suburban home. I'm also certain I have a few Facebook friends that are a step away from creating their families on the back of their cars judging by all their "Look at me!" posts. Ridiculous!!
Mine is close to this, though I don't like those stickers, either.
I cannot stand the "Baby on Board" suction cup signs. I was totally going to ram into your car but I'll hold off now because you put a caution sign on your window.
Yesterday I put my son (he'll be 3 in June) in his car seat, but didn't buckle him in, while I loaded groceries out of the cart. I drive a truck, so I was loading into the back. He proceeded to jump in the front seat, lock the doors, and pretend to drive. My keys, phone, and purse were also in the front seat with him. I had to yell through the window to him for 10 minutes to convince him to hit the right button on the key. I got a lot of stares from passerbyers in the Costco parking lot. I'm pretty sure they were thinking, "So glad that lady is pregnant again, she's a great mom." I totally knew better...could have prevented it so many ways!
Also, goin with today's theme...I'm pregnant with son number two and my last child. No disappointment here!! I agree...you don't get to pick. You have to want a CHILD.
I get pretty ragey when people make excuses for other people's actions/words. Yea, people make mistakes or say stupid shit, just take accountability. I'm a classic example of chronic "open mouth, insert foot", but I catch it, apologize, learn, and move on. DH and I got into an argument last night about his bro, and he told me "he doesn't know any better". You mean to tell me your 28 year old brother doesn't know any better than to post my US pics on social media without taking off my full name, medical record number, hospital, and baby's full name we haven't publicly shared?? Bullshit. Now go rip him a new one before I do.
@aimz2377 I used to get annoyed by those signs too, but then I learned they weren't for "bragging" per se. They are for emergency responders in case there is an accident where drivers and passengers are incapacitated. They will know to look for a baby that may have been ejected or can't speak up.
@ButterMyBiscuit are you kidding me? Do you have a problem with my FFFC? Do you creep on everything I post and just try to start a fight with me? It's getting pretty comical.
@aimz2377 I used to get annoyed by those signs too, but then I learned they weren't for "bragging" per se. They are for emergency responders in case there is an accident where drivers and passengers are incapacitated. They will know to look for a baby that may have been ejected or can't speak up.
Thank for posting this, I wasn't going to be as nice .
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That's cool. I have no shame. We all judge people for one thing or another.
I'm getting older and this is probably going to be our last child--not having a girl doesn't mean my family won't be complete and perfect, but it does mean that there are certain things i have to accept that i won't experience. right now, I'm a little sad that I won't be able to share my love of dance and gymnastics with a daughter and l'll just have to buy ruffly skirts and lacy dresses for my friends' daughters i suppose. I know that in the future my DS will love having a brother and that both the boys will introduce me to interests that I've never explored before, but I don't think it's terrible to write about the fleeting disappointment I feel now.
Actually, I don't expect a whole lot of flames for that one!
edited to add this isn't an oh poor me moment, I'm really okay with it now but the idea of someone causing those feelings in another kid really pisses me off
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I cannot stand the "Baby on Board" suction cup signs. I was totally going to ram into your car but I'll hold off now because you put a caution sign on your window.
Also, goin with today's theme...I'm pregnant with son number two and my last child. No disappointment here!! I agree...you don't get to pick. You have to want a CHILD.
Married May 16th, 2015
EDD July 1st
July16 May siggy challenge "May the Force be with you"