I legit just got upset when I remembered about daylight savings time this coming Sunday. I already don't get enough sleep. Now I get an hour taken away.
So I'm hating the unsolicited advice from certain people. I mentioned on fb the other day that we will probably have our nursery furniture in this coming weekend since we are so very close to finishing having the nursery room cleared out DH had been using it as a storage room -- basically boxes of stuff that we never unpacked when we moved here. So someone asked if we were just emptying or going to paint it. We went to supper with this person tonight and I was like we are not painting. There really isn't a point since the paint has not been messed up or anything in that room. They then were like well you need to wash the walls before baby gets here. WTF? As if I don't have enough to do. There is not point in washing the walls. The room is actually very clean. We closed off the ac/heat vents in the room since we weren't using it at the time. The windows have been shut. The fact that I was able to get a swiffer sweeper thing on the ceiling fan, and moldings around the window and closets and have it come back clean tells me that the room is clean. Washing the walls would just be stupid. I tried telling that person that but they kept insisting that we wash the walls. At one point I wanted to tell her, that if she thought the walls needed to be washed then she could come wash them. I have way too much to do over the course of the next 11 weeks before baby gets here. Turns out all that stuff that was in that room was stuff my DH had hoarded since high school. Now it is all over the rest of the house. We are trying to sort through everything. We have already taken three truckloads full to GoodWill. I'm excited though b/c since his stuff is out of there that allowed us to move the recliner to the nursery and now our bookshelves are in their correct spot and I can start shifting stuff around to get the living room ready. After the living room is ready, we have two stand alone cabinets that need finishing that will go into the kitchen and I will have more storage space to put dishes that don't fit in our current few cabinets that we have.
@nerdymama15 Why on earth would you have to wash the walls? Not saying you should, but is there something about invisibly dirty walls that might be a threat to Baby and that we should know about?
I don't think I've ever washed a wall in my life unless it was mussed up by grubby toddler hands... Is that unusual?
People have started commenting on my swollen feet and ankles...and they're BARELY swollen. I have cankles anyway, thanks to poor genes giving me very poorly defined ankles, so any extra swelling makes them look pretty ugly. But seriously...I know my feet are swollen because I had to change my shoes 3 times in the morning, please don't point it out to me too...just makes me self conscious. I hate people.
I find The Little Couple incredibly boring. My husband loves this show. I'm bored. And slightly annoyed.
I watch it all the time but also find it so boring. I'm just obsessed with Zooey. I said in UO a few weeks back but I hate their parenting skills. They spoil these kids too much and it drives me nuts!!
Warning, post mentions farts!!! I think my belly just shrunk by 2 inches after I farted...not even kidding. All that extra pressure, wow do I feel better!
I legit just got upset when I remembered about daylight savings time this coming Sunday. I already don't get enough sleep. Now I get an hour taken away.
Oh so much this! Daylight savings is such a bitch in the spring. I never know whether to put my son to bed earlier or later and do I plan things the next day or not? I really see no use for it. I am curious what Bumpies from around the US and other countries think of daylight savings. Is it just a weird thing that parts of the US does, like measuring in feet vs. meters or having 400 different names for the same sandwich (is it a hoagie, a sub, a grinder...what?!)?
I legit just got upset when I remembered about daylight savings time this coming Sunday. I already don't get enough sleep. Now I get an hour taken away.
Oh so much this! Daylight savings is such a bitch in the spring. I never know whether to put my son to bed earlier or later and do I plan things the next day or not? I really see no use for it. I am curious what Bumpies from around the US and other countries think of daylight savings. Is it just a weird thing that parts of the US does, like measuring in feet vs. meters or having 400 different names for the same sandwich (is it a hoagie, a sub, a grinder...what?!)?
I forgot that's this weekend. UGH. I hate daylight savings. I don't see the use either. I'm pretty sure the majority of Canada does it, except maybe one province, I'm not sure.
I legit just got upset when I remembered about daylight savings time this coming Sunday. I already don't get enough sleep. Now I get an hour taken away.
Oh so much this! Daylight savings is such a bitch in the spring. I never know whether to put my son to bed earlier or later and do I plan things the next day or not? I really see no use for it. I am curious what Bumpies from around the US and other countries think of daylight savings. Is it just a weird thing that parts of the US does, like measuring in feet vs. meters or having 400 different names for the same sandwich (is it a hoagie, a sub, a grinder...what?!)?
I forgot that's this weekend. UGH. I hate daylight savings. I don't see the use either. I'm pretty sure the majority of Canada does it, except maybe one province, I'm not sure.
I kind of like it? It means spring is coming! Plus because Europe usually switches a week or two after the U.S. it means there's a 4-5 hour time difference from the east coast versus 5-6, so we get to FaceTime with family more. Yay spring!!
DH's aunt told me she had the "secret to get babies to sleep all night."
So, what is it? Keep the baby awake from around 8:30/9:00 p.m. until midnight, then give him a bath and put him to bed. Miraculously, babies sleep "all night" after being kept up until midnight.
Um... no.
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I legit just got upset when I remembered about daylight savings time this coming Sunday. I already don't get enough sleep. Now I get an hour taken away.
Oh so much this! Daylight savings is such a bitch in the spring. I never know whether to put my son to bed earlier or later and do I plan things the next day or not? I really see no use for it. I am curious what Bumpies from around the US and other countries think of daylight savings. Is it just a weird thing that parts of the US does, like measuring in feet vs. meters or having 400 different names for the same sandwich (is it a hoagie, a sub, a grinder...what?!)?
I forgot that's this weekend. UGH. I hate daylight savings. I don't see the use either. I'm pretty sure the majority of Canada does it, except maybe one province, I'm not sure.
I kind of like it? It means spring is coming! Plus because Europe usually switches a week or two after the U.S. it means there's a 4-5 hour time difference from the east coast versus 5-6, so we get to FaceTime with family more. Yay spring!!
I like it too! Not the losing an hour of sleep part but I'm excited that it will be light out later and I'll be more motivated to go for walks and be outside after work. Yay spring!
I legit just got upset when I remembered about daylight savings time this coming Sunday. I already don't get enough sleep. Now I get an hour taken away.
Oh so much this! Daylight savings is such a bitch in the spring. I never know whether to put my son to bed earlier or later and do I plan things the next day or not? I really see no use for it. I am curious what Bumpies from around the US and other countries think of daylight savings. Is it just a weird thing that parts of the US does, like measuring in feet vs. meters or having 400 different names for the same sandwich (is it a hoagie, a sub, a grinder...what?!)?
I forgot that's this weekend. UGH. I hate daylight savings. I don't see the use either. I'm pretty sure the majority of Canada does it, except maybe one province, I'm not sure.
I kind of like it? It means spring is coming! Plus because Europe usually switches a week or two after the U.S. it means there's a 4-5 hour time difference from the east coast versus 5-6, so we get to FaceTime with family more. Yay spring!!
I like it too! Not the losing an hour of sleep part but I'm excited that it will be light out later and I'll be more motivated to go for walks and be outside after work. Yay spring!
I don't really mind DST. I just sleep in later on Sunday, no big deal. The days are longer to enjoy the sunshine and warm (I hope) weather! I'll have more time after work to walk my dogs. I don't have that during the winter.
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Besides peeing twenty times a day, the fatigue has come in and kicked me in the butt. I'm always sleeping, Sunday at church I got so comfortable in the back that I dozed off. I had a doctor's appointment two days ago and now I weigh 199 pounds. I gained this weight in less than seven days. No wonder when I get out of bed to walk to the bathroom I'm breathing like I've ran a marathon.
I legit just got upset when I remembered about daylight savings time this coming Sunday. I already don't get enough sleep. Now I get an hour taken away.
Oh so much this! Daylight savings is such a bitch in the spring. I never know whether to put my son to bed earlier or later and do I plan things the next day or not? I really see no use for it. I am curious what Bumpies from around the US and other countries think of daylight savings. Is it just a weird thing that parts of the US does, like measuring in feet vs. meters or having 400 different names for the same sandwich (is it a hoagie, a sub, a grinder...what?!)?
I forgot that's this weekend. UGH. I hate daylight savings. I don't see the use either. I'm pretty sure the majority of Canada does it, except maybe one province, I'm not sure.
I kind of like it? It means spring is coming! Plus because Europe usually switches a week or two after the U.S. it means there's a 4-5 hour time difference from the east coast versus 5-6, so we get to FaceTime with family more. Yay spring!!
I like it too! Not the losing an hour of sleep part but I'm excited that it will be light out later and I'll be more motivated to go for walks and be outside after work. Yay spring!
I will admit I do like it for this reason, but that's pretty much it. I hate getting home when it's dark.
I legit just got upset when I remembered about daylight savings time this coming Sunday. I already don't get enough sleep. Now I get an hour taken away.
Oh so much this! Daylight savings is such a bitch in the spring. I never know whether to put my son to bed earlier or later and do I plan things the next day or not? I really see no use for it. I am curious what Bumpies from around the US and other countries think of daylight savings. Is it just a weird thing that parts of the US does, like measuring in feet vs. meters or having 400 different names for the same sandwich (is it a hoagie, a sub, a grinder...what?!)?
Indiana used to not change, so half the year our time was the same as Ohio and the other half it was the same as Illinois. I lived about 15 minutes from the Indiana/Ohio border and it was SO confusing! I'll take DST over that!
Anyone else still surprised when you feel big movements, like rolling and flipping? It still catches me off guard. I feel so dumb because obviously there is a baby in there and she is definitely a lot bigger so her movements will be more intense. But I am still shocked when I see my whole belly move or see a giant lump push out and then slowly roll to the other side. My son did a lot more quick jabs from what I can remember, but Luna is a little more slow and flowy with her dance style.
@nerdymama15 Why on earth would you have to wash the walls? Not saying you should, but is there something about invisibly dirty walls that might be a threat to Baby and that we should know about?
I don't think I've ever washed a wall in my life unless it was mussed up by grubby toddler hands... Is that unusual?
I've never washed a wall either except with a magic eraser to get dirty hand marks off the pantry door, etc. I asked the same thing and she was like dust. I'm like dust??????? Yet I had told her I had ran the swiffter thing around in there and it came up clean. I'm like dust isn't going to hurt a baby. She was like your baby could be allergic to dust. I'm like seriously? If my baby is allergic to dust then we are going to have bigger problems than the nursery. We'd have to freaking move. My mom has said something similar about the walls, but my mom also knew to drop the subject when I got agitated. This lady just likes to bring up some of the most ridiculous sounding stuff such as we need to make all our indoor dogs live outside permanently now. I'm just like that's a whole lot of nope.
DH's aunt told me she had the "secret to get babies to sleep all night."
So, what is it? Keep the baby awake from around 8:30/9:00 p.m. until midnight, then give him a bath and put him to bed. Miraculously, babies sleep "all night" after being kept up until midnight.
Bascially it is about a pregnant masters social work student who was doing an internship at Salvation Army and her supervisor was super inappropriate, asking probing questions about her pregnancy and current relationship, telling her when to drive (?), and saying she needed to wear looser clothes so the men in the rehab program she was working at wouldn't be "turned on" by her pregnant body. WHAT?! The worst part is, apparently her school administrators didn't stand up for her and again told her to wear looser clothes. This is just so bizarre and sad that pregnant women face this kind of discrimination. It really follows in line with what a lot of us have experienced in that people feel entitled to make inappropriate comments about our bodies, lifestyles, and clothing choices just because we have a bun in the oven.
REALLLLYYYYY need to vent about my husband... he is driving me crazy. He is VERY stubborn and pigheaded and doesn't listen to reason.
We got married last April. I finally processed everything with SS and DMV in the last few weeks for a name change. Which I will say I didn't want to do, but he was upset when I said I didn't want to change it due to the hassle, and decided to do it as it seemed like it meant a lot to him.
So now, as anyone that went through this process, there are some hiccups and I need certain things for certain places (like the bank) to complete the change with various organizations. When I bitched about it today he said "maybe you should have done it sooner"???
HELLO?? But what difference would that make? Whether I did it 6 months ago or 6 years from now, there would still be issues. But he thinks that doing it immediately after we got married last Spring it would have made a difference???? And he will fight me on it...
But it is totally ok that he lets shit just pile up until I have to be the one to deal with it. Case in point we were in an accident at Christmas. He has had the past 2 months to submit his police report to Geico. They called last night asking about it, and now he is FLIPPING out about it. Tried to take a picture of it last night to submit (obviously couldn't get the whole thing in a pic) so I said I will take it to work to scan it and email to him. He was flipping out saying "NO, I need to do this NOW". What difference does 24 hours make when you have waited 2 months at this point?
He has hospital bill that needs figured out. They have been coming for months I have been asking him since last year to figure out his pension and how much we would be paid if something happened to him. That is still on the "list" of things to do...
But me waiting a few months to change my name because the only times I could do it is when I am on vacation as I didnt want to take time off work to make the trips to SS office and DMV is world ending? And he makes me feel bad about it? Like I did something wrong and now the reason I am having issues with the bank is because I waited too long.... eff that...
Oh, and to add... he also blamed me for breaking a pipe in the dishwasher I always place knifes point down in the utensil holder so we don't accidentally slice out wrists open when putting dishes away. Well I guess the point was sticking through the bottom, and he was having a hard time closing the drawer. Instead of looking to see what the issue is, he shoved the drawer closed, and the tip of the knife cut open the pipe. He is blaming me... DUDE, how about instead of acting like a caveman, you LOOK to see why the drawer instead closing instead of using all 210 pounds of force you have to slam it shut....
Feels better to vent here than to start WW3 when I get home...
Bascially it is about a pregnant masters social work student who was doing an internship at Salvation Army and her supervisor was super inappropriate, asking probing questions about her pregnancy and current relationship, telling her when to drive (?), and saying she needed to wear looser clothes so the men in the rehab program she was working at wouldn't be "turned on" by her pregnant body. WHAT?! The worst part is, apparently her school administrators didn't stand up for her and again told her to wear looser clothes. This is just so bizarre and sad that pregnant women face this kind of discrimination. It really follows in line with what a lot of us have experienced in that people feel entitled to make inappropriate comments about our bodies, lifestyles, and clothing choices just because we have a bun in the oven.
We all know how men can't control themselves around a giant, protruding belly with a squirming baby in it. That's why so many women nowadays are shelling out thousands of $ to go under the knife and get stomach implants. Personally, I blame Kim Kardashian. The tabloids all went nuts over how sexy she was when she was at her highest weight.....oh, wait.
Why does everything regarding women have to be sexualized?! I'm sure no one ever told a man to wear looser clothes to hide his beer belly because women might be turned on by it.
REALLLLYYYYY need to vent about my husband... he is driving me crazy. He is VERY stubborn and pigheaded and doesn't listen to reason.
We got married last April. I finally processed everything with SS and DMV in the last few weeks for a name change. Which I will say I didn't want to do, but he was upset when I said I didn't want to change it due to the hassle, and decided to do it as it seemed like it meant a lot to him.
So now, as anyone that went through this process, there are some hiccups and I need certain things for certain places (like the bank) to complete the change with various organizations. When I bitched about it today he said "maybe you should have done it sooner"???
HELLO?? But what difference would that make? Whether I did it 6 months ago or 6 years from now, there would still be issues. But he thinks that doing it immediately after we got married last Spring it would have made a difference???? And he will fight me on it...
But it is totally ok that he lets shit just pile up until I have to be the one to deal with it. Case in point we were in an accident at Christmas. He has had the past 2 months to submit his police report to Geico. They called last night asking about it, and now he is FLIPPING out about it. Tried to take a picture of it last night to submit (obviously couldn't get the whole thing in a pic) so I said I will take it to work to scan it and email to him. He was flipping out saying "NO, I need to do this NOW". What difference does 24 hours make when you have waited 2 months at this point?
He has hospital bill that needs figured out. They have been coming for months I have been asking him since last year to figure out his pension and how much we would be paid if something happened to him. That is still on the "list" of things to do...
But me waiting a few months to change my name because the only times I could do it is when I am on vacation as I didnt want to take time off work to make the trips to SS office and DMV is world ending? And he makes me feel bad about it? Like I did something wrong and now the reason I am having issues with the bank is because I waited too long.... eff that...
Oh, and to add... he also blamed me for breaking a pipe in the dishwasher I always place knifes point down in the utensil holder so we don't accidentally slice out wrists open when putting dishes away. Well I guess the point was sticking through the bottom, and he was having a hard time closing the drawer. Instead of looking to see what the issue is, he shoved the drawer closed, and the tip of the knife cut open the pipe. He is blaming me... DUDE, how about instead of acting like a caveman, you LOOK to see why the drawer instead closing instead of using all 210 pounds of force you have to slam it shut....
Feels better to vent here than to start WW3 when I get home...
If it helps your argument, I went to the SS office a week after we got back from our honeymoon, and yeah, I was still dealing with name change fallout for MONTHS afterward. Work, the bank, insurance, the freaking government, etc. It was ridiculous. Getting it done earlier did not save me the headache at all.
In what universe is it ever ok to cut your nails and cuticles in the waiting room of a doctor's office (or anywhere in public really)? I thought that was common knowledge but apparently the woman waiting along with me didn't get that memo?
REALLLLYYYYY need to vent about my husband... he is driving me crazy. He is VERY stubborn and pigheaded and doesn't listen to reason.
We got married last April. I finally processed everything with SS and DMV in the last few weeks for a name change. Which I will say I didn't want to do, but he was upset when I said I didn't want to change it due to the hassle, and decided to do it as it seemed like it meant a lot to him.
So now, as anyone that went through this process, there are some hiccups and I need certain things for certain places (like the bank) to complete the change with various organizations. When I bitched about it today he said "maybe you should have done it sooner"???
HELLO?? But what difference would that make? Whether I did it 6 months ago or 6 years from now, there would still be issues. But he thinks that doing it immediately after we got married last Spring it would have made a difference???? And he will fight me on it...
But it is totally ok that he lets shit just pile up until I have to be the one to deal with it. Case in point we were in an accident at Christmas. He has had the past 2 months to submit his police report to Geico. They called last night asking about it, and now he is FLIPPING out about it. Tried to take a picture of it last night to submit (obviously couldn't get the whole thing in a pic) so I said I will take it to work to scan it and email to him. He was flipping out saying "NO, I need to do this NOW". What difference does 24 hours make when you have waited 2 months at this point?
He has hospital bill that needs figured out. They have been coming for months I have been asking him since last year to figure out his pension and how much we would be paid if something happened to him. That is still on the "list" of things to do...
But me waiting a few months to change my name because the only times I could do it is when I am on vacation as I didnt want to take time off work to make the trips to SS office and DMV is world ending? And he makes me feel bad about it? Like I did something wrong and now the reason I am having issues with the bank is because I waited too long.... eff that...
Oh, and to add... he also blamed me for breaking a pipe in the dishwasher I always place knifes point down in the utensil holder so we don't accidentally slice out wrists open when putting dishes away. Well I guess the point was sticking through the bottom, and he was having a hard time closing the drawer. Instead of looking to see what the issue is, he shoved the drawer closed, and the tip of the knife cut open the pipe. He is blaming me... DUDE, how about instead of acting like a caveman, you LOOK to see why the drawer instead closing instead of using all 210 pounds of force you have to slam it shut....
Feels better to vent here than to start WW3 when I get home...
If it helps your argument, I went to the SS office a week after we got back from our honeymoon, and yeah, I was still dealing with name change fallout for MONTHS afterward. Work, the bank, insurance, the freaking government, etc. It was ridiculous. Getting it done earlier did not save me the headache at all.
REALLLLYYYYY need to vent about my husband... he is driving me crazy. He is VERY stubborn and pigheaded and doesn't listen to reason.
We got married last April. I finally processed everything with SS and DMV in the last few weeks for a name change. Which I will say I didn't want to do, but he was upset when I said I didn't want to change it due to the hassle, and decided to do it as it seemed like it meant a lot to him.
So now, as anyone that went through this process, there are some hiccups and I need certain things for certain places (like the bank) to complete the change with various organizations. When I bitched about it today he said "maybe you should have done it sooner"???
HELLO?? But what difference would that make? Whether I did it 6 months ago or 6 years from now, there would still be issues. But he thinks that doing it immediately after we got married last Spring it would have made a difference???? And he will fight me on it...
But it is totally ok that he lets shit just pile up until I have to be the one to deal with it. Case in point we were in an accident at Christmas. He has had the past 2 months to submit his police report to Geico. They called last night asking about it, and now he is FLIPPING out about it. Tried to take a picture of it last night to submit (obviously couldn't get the whole thing in a pic) so I said I will take it to work to scan it and email to him. He was flipping out saying "NO, I need to do this NOW". What difference does 24 hours make when you have waited 2 months at this point?
He has hospital bill that needs figured out. They have been coming for months I have been asking him since last year to figure out his pension and how much we would be paid if something happened to him. That is still on the "list" of things to do...
But me waiting a few months to change my name because the only times I could do it is when I am on vacation as I didnt want to take time off work to make the trips to SS office and DMV is world ending? And he makes me feel bad about it? Like I did something wrong and now the reason I am having issues with the bank is because I waited too long.... eff that...
Oh, and to add... he also blamed me for breaking a pipe in the dishwasher I always place knifes point down in the utensil holder so we don't accidentally slice out wrists open when putting dishes away. Well I guess the point was sticking through the bottom, and he was having a hard time closing the drawer. Instead of looking to see what the issue is, he shoved the drawer closed, and the tip of the knife cut open the pipe. He is blaming me... DUDE, how about instead of acting like a caveman, you LOOK to see why the drawer instead closing instead of using all 210 pounds of force you have to slam it shut....
Feels better to vent here than to start WW3 when I get home...
two and a half years later I'm still updating accounts with my married name.
REALLLLYYYYY need to vent about my husband... he is driving me crazy. He is VERY stubborn and pigheaded and doesn't listen to reason.
We got married last April. I finally processed everything with SS and DMV in the last few weeks for a name change. Which I will say I didn't want to do, but he was upset when I said I didn't want to change it due to the hassle, and decided to do it as it seemed like it meant a lot to him.
So now, as anyone that went through this process, there are some hiccups and I need certain things for certain places (like the bank) to complete the change with various organizations. When I bitched about it today he said "maybe you should have done it sooner"???
HELLO?? But what difference would that make? Whether I did it 6 months ago or 6 years from now, there would still be issues. But he thinks that doing it immediately after we got married last Spring it would have made a difference???? And he will fight me on it...
But it is totally ok that he lets shit just pile up until I have to be the one to deal with it. Case in point we were in an accident at Christmas. He has had the past 2 months to submit his police report to Geico. They called last night asking about it, and now he is FLIPPING out about it. Tried to take a picture of it last night to submit (obviously couldn't get the whole thing in a pic) so I said I will take it to work to scan it and email to him. He was flipping out saying "NO, I need to do this NOW". What difference does 24 hours make when you have waited 2 months at this point?
He has hospital bill that needs figured out. They have been coming for months I have been asking him since last year to figure out his pension and how much we would be paid if something happened to him. That is still on the "list" of things to do...
But me waiting a few months to change my name because the only times I could do it is when I am on vacation as I didnt want to take time off work to make the trips to SS office and DMV is world ending? And he makes me feel bad about it? Like I did something wrong and now the reason I am having issues with the bank is because I waited too long.... eff that...
Oh, and to add... he also blamed me for breaking a pipe in the dishwasher I always place knifes point down in the utensil holder so we don't accidentally slice out wrists open when putting dishes away. Well I guess the point was sticking through the bottom, and he was having a hard time closing the drawer. Instead of looking to see what the issue is, he shoved the drawer closed, and the tip of the knife cut open the pipe. He is blaming me... DUDE, how about instead of acting like a caveman, you LOOK to see why the drawer instead closing instead of using all 210 pounds of force you have to slam it shut....
Feels better to vent here than to start WW3 when I get home...
two and a half years later I'm still updating accounts with my married name.
also, slicing a pipe > slicing your wrist
Same. There are some things that I have just accepted will never be in my married name. They might as well ask for a blood sample! It would be easier to get things done that way.
Also, sorry your H is being hateful! This sounds a lot like my H. He gets on me about doing things in a timely manner but I have to tell him to do something for 6 months before it gets done. Man logic doesn't make sense.
DH just scored a few points. Some wacko in our area is pepper-spraying women. So he wants me to call him the second I get off the train and stay on the phone with him until I get home. I guess I can take away my rage about the pipe... but not about the name change!
@yogahh. Your DH and mine sound very similar. We went 7 rounds over me changing my last name, which I did not want to do, but I finally relented because I didn't want to fight anymore. It's how he often wears me out with big decisions - I just get tired of going back and forth and say FINE and let him have his way.
He also will deliberate and put off things forever but then the minute he is ready to deal with it or talk about it, I better be ready to do so at the exact same moment too, or he will be annoyed. It's incredibly frustrating and I feel your pain. And dude... pointy end down is the only way to go on knives. Anyone who does it differently is wrong.
For a long time whenever he was being a butthead I would tell him "Be nice to me. I changed my name for you." but now the card I play is "Be nice to me. I'm carrying your children."
REALLLLYYYYY need to vent about my husband... he is driving me crazy. He is VERY stubborn and pigheaded and doesn't listen to reason.
We got married last April. I finally processed everything with SS and DMV in the last few weeks for a name change. Which I will say I didn't want to do, but he was upset when I said I didn't want to change it due to the hassle, and decided to do it as it seemed like it meant a lot to him.
So now, as anyone that went through this process, there are some hiccups and I need certain things for certain places (like the bank) to complete the change with various organizations. When I bitched about it today he said "maybe you should have done it sooner"???
HELLO?? But what difference would that make? Whether I did it 6 months ago or 6 years from now, there would still be issues. But he thinks that doing it immediately after we got married last Spring it would have made a difference???? And he will fight me on it...
But it is totally ok that he lets shit just pile up until I have to be the one to deal with it. Case in point we were in an accident at Christmas. He has had the past 2 months to submit his police report to Geico. They called last night asking about it, and now he is FLIPPING out about it. Tried to take a picture of it last night to submit (obviously couldn't get the whole thing in a pic) so I said I will take it to work to scan it and email to him. He was flipping out saying "NO, I need to do this NOW". What difference does 24 hours make when you have waited 2 months at this point?
He has hospital bill that needs figured out. They have been coming for months I have been asking him since last year to figure out his pension and how much we would be paid if something happened to him. That is still on the "list" of things to do...
But me waiting a few months to change my name because the only times I could do it is when I am on vacation as I didnt want to take time off work to make the trips to SS office and DMV is world ending? And he makes me feel bad about it? Like I did something wrong and now the reason I am having issues with the bank is because I waited too long.... eff that...
Oh, and to add... he also blamed me for breaking a pipe in the dishwasher I always place knifes point down in the utensil holder so we don't accidentally slice out wrists open when putting dishes away. Well I guess the point was sticking through the bottom, and he was having a hard time closing the drawer. Instead of looking to see what the issue is, he shoved the drawer closed, and the tip of the knife cut open the pipe. He is blaming me... DUDE, how about instead of acting like a caveman, you LOOK to see why the drawer instead closing instead of using all 210 pounds of force you have to slam it shut....
Feels better to vent here than to start WW3 when I get home...
two and a half years later I'm still updating accounts with my married name.
also, slicing a pipe > slicing your wrist
Same. There are some things that I have just accepted will never be in my married name. They might as well ask for a blood sample! It would be easier to get things done that way.
Also, sorry your H is being hateful! This sounds a lot like my H. He gets on me about doing things in a timely manner but I have to tell him to do something for 6 months before it gets done. Man logic doesn't make sense.
Man logic DOES NOT MAKE SENSE. Had a similar situation go down last week. Mind you I ask DH to do something I am almost sure it is NOT getting done in a timely manner unless I ask him more than once, even then its dicey. So last week he asked me once to call my mom to see if he could borrow her car for something and it slipped my mind (which really never happens but this time it did), then it was never brought up again. The morning of he told me he was on his way to get the car and I was like oops i Never asked, and he FLIPPED OUT like a crazy person and says NEVERMIND while storming out of the house. I was like wow I am sorry for once in our marriage I forgot to do something for you, remember my pregnant brain????. ARGH. Apparently us wives are supposed to have our shit together 24/7, while DH can slack.
@yogahh. Your DH and mine sound very similar. We went 7 rounds over me changing my last name, which I did not want to do, but I finally relented because I didn't want to fight anymore. It's how he often wears me out with big decisions - I just get tired of going back and forth and say FINE and let him have his way.
He also will deliberate and put off things forever but then the minute he is ready to deal with it or talk about it, I better be ready to do so at the exact same moment too, or he will be annoyed. It's incredibly frustrating and I feel your pain. And dude... pointy end down is the only way to go on knives. Anyone who does it differently is wrong.
For a long time whenever he was being a butthead I would tell him "Be nice to me. I changed my name for you." but now the card I play is "Be nice to me. I'm carrying your children."
@wsgjmw1 It does make me feel better that it's not just my H that acts like that! I thought he was crazy, and apparently he's just a man. Go figure. Although I still stand by the fact that I think he's crazy.
@wsgjmw1 It does make me feel better that it's not just my H that acts like that! I thought he was crazy, and apparently he's just a man. Go figure. Although I still stand by the fact that I think he's crazy.
Ha! I was just thinking this. My H is pretty much the same.
I legit just got upset when I remembered about daylight savings time this coming Sunday. I already don't get enough sleep. Now I get an hour taken away.
Oh so much this! Daylight savings is such a bitch in the spring. I never know whether to put my son to bed earlier or later and do I plan things the next day or not? I really see no use for it. I am curious what Bumpies from around the US and other countries think of daylight savings. Is it just a weird thing that parts of the US does, like measuring in feet vs. meters or having 400 different names for the same sandwich (is it a hoagie, a sub, a grinder...what?!)?
So PP who said most of Canada does daylight savings is correct. I haven't lived here long enough to recall if somewhere doesn't but most of us do. Also back home in Australia every state but 1 does it...the only reason the one doesn't is because they get so much sunlight year round anyhow.
In terms of the imperial vs metric system for measurements, pretty much the US is the only country that didn't convert to metric system. It's quite annoying for the rest of the world I'm sure...or at least it is for me
Re: **The Everything Random Thread for May 2016**
First Pregnancy
Second Pregnancy
- BFP: 09/11/2015
- EDD: 05/25/2016
Baby Born04/15/2016
PGAL
I don't think I've ever washed a wall in my life unless it was mussed up by grubby toddler hands... Is that unusual?
I forgot that's this weekend. UGH. I hate daylight savings. I don't see the use either. I'm pretty sure the majority of Canada does it, except maybe one province, I'm not sure.
BFP #1: 9/12/2015
DD: 6/1/2016
BFP #2: 1/16/2018 MC 2/2/2018
So, what is it? Keep the baby awake from around 8:30/9:00 p.m. until midnight, then give him a bath and put him to bed. Miraculously, babies sleep "all night" after being kept up until midnight.
Um... no.
DS1: May 2016
DS2: Jan 2019
Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
I don't really mind DST. I just sleep in later on Sunday, no big deal. The days are longer to enjoy the sunshine and warm (I hope) weather! I'll have more time after work to walk my dogs. I don't have that during the winter.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!First Pregnancy
Second Pregnancy
- BFP: 09/11/2015
- EDD: 05/25/2016
Baby Born04/15/2016
PGAL
https://thinkprogress.org/education/2016/03/08/3757577/pregnancy-discrimination-graduate-student/
Bascially it is about a pregnant masters social work student who was doing an internship at Salvation Army and her supervisor was super inappropriate, asking probing questions about her pregnancy and current relationship, telling her when to drive (?), and saying she needed to wear looser clothes so the men in the rehab program she was working at wouldn't be "turned on" by her pregnant body. WHAT?! The worst part is, apparently her school administrators didn't stand up for her and again told her to wear looser clothes. This is just so bizarre and sad that pregnant women face this kind of discrimination. It really follows in line with what a lot of us have experienced in that people feel entitled to make inappropriate comments about our bodies, lifestyles, and clothing choices just because we have a bun in the oven.
Mimosas for me!
BFP 1: 9/15/2013 | DD 5/23/2014
BFP 2: 9/15/2015 | EDD 5/26/2016
We got married last April. I finally processed everything with SS and DMV in the last few weeks for a name change. Which I will say I didn't want to do, but he was upset when I said I didn't want to change it due to the hassle, and decided to do it as it seemed like it meant a lot to him.
So now, as anyone that went through this process, there are some hiccups and I need certain things for certain places (like the bank) to complete the change with various organizations. When I bitched about it today he said "maybe you should have done it sooner"???
HELLO?? But what difference would that make? Whether I did it 6 months ago or 6 years from now, there would still be issues. But he thinks that doing it immediately after we got married last Spring it would have made a difference???? And he will fight me on it...
But it is totally ok that he lets shit just pile up until I have to be the one to deal with it. Case in point we were in an accident at Christmas. He has had the past 2 months to submit his police report to Geico. They called last night asking about it, and now he is FLIPPING out about it. Tried to take a picture of it last night to submit (obviously couldn't get the whole thing in a pic) so I said I will take it to work to scan it and email to him. He was flipping out saying "NO, I need to do this NOW". What difference does 24 hours make when you have waited 2 months at this point?
He has hospital bill that needs figured out. They have been coming for months
I have been asking him since last year to figure out his pension and how much we would be paid if something happened to him. That is still on the "list" of things to do...
But me waiting a few months to change my name because the only times I could do it is when I am on vacation as I didnt want to take time off work to make the trips to SS office and DMV is world ending? And he makes me feel bad about it? Like I did something wrong and now the reason I am having issues with the bank is because I waited too long.... eff that...
Oh, and to add... he also blamed me for breaking a pipe in the dishwasher
I always place knifes point down in the utensil holder so we don't accidentally slice out wrists open when putting dishes away.
Well I guess the point was sticking through the bottom, and he was having a hard time closing the drawer. Instead of looking to see what the issue is, he shoved the drawer closed, and the tip of the knife cut open the pipe. He is blaming me... DUDE, how about instead of acting like a caveman, you LOOK to see why the drawer instead closing instead of using all 210 pounds of force you have to slam it shut....
Feels better to vent here than to start WW3 when I get home...
Why does everything regarding women have to be sexualized?! I'm sure no one ever told a man to wear looser clothes to hide his beer belly because women might be turned on by it.
If it helps your argument, I went to the SS office a week after we got back from our honeymoon, and yeah, I was still dealing with name change fallout for MONTHS afterward. Work, the bank, insurance, the freaking government, etc. It was ridiculous. Getting it done earlier did not save me the headache at all.
also, slicing a pipe > slicing your wrist
Also, sorry your H is being hateful! This sounds a lot like my H. He gets on me about doing things in a timely manner but I have to tell him to do something for 6 months before it gets done. Man logic doesn't make sense.
He also will deliberate and put off things forever but then the minute he is ready to deal with it or talk about it, I better be ready to do so at the exact same moment too, or he will be annoyed. It's incredibly frustrating and I feel your pain. And dude... pointy end down is the only way to go on knives. Anyone who does it differently is wrong.
For a long time whenever he was being a butthead I would tell him "Be nice to me. I changed my name for you." but now the card I play is "Be nice to me. I'm carrying your children."
In terms of the imperial vs metric system for measurements, pretty much the US is the only country that didn't convert to metric system. It's quite annoying for the rest of the world I'm sure...or at least it is for me