I was taking a directed study at school for my final level of Spanish and I just turned in my last assignment. I will never have to take a language course again - unless I want to, of course. If I wasn't KTFU, I would order a margarita at lunch today and go home afterwards. Aw YISS!
I went on a girls weekend with DD, my friend, and her DD....and got a call that the daughter of a friend (of MH and I), had been murdered (along with her boyfriend).....by their roommate. He was then on the run, they did catch him, but they were so young (21 and 18). I am still trying to grasp the whole thing.....its been a hard pill to swallow....
I went on a girls weekend with DD, my friend, and her DD....and got a call that the daughter of a friend (of MH and I), had been murdered (along with her boyfriend).....by their roommate. He was then on the run, they did catch him, but they were so young (21 and 18). I am still trying to grasp the whole thing.....its been a hard pill to swallow....
@PhoebeJune1984 That's really terrible. I'm so sorry. I had a friend whose sister in law was murdered last year. They also caught her killer. It's still just something that is hard to wrap my mind around—how anyone could take another person's life. Hope you're able to give your friend some love and support.
I went on a girls weekend with DD, my friend, and her DD....and got a call that the daughter of a friend (of MH and I), had been murdered (along with her boyfriend).....by their roommate. He was then on the run, they did catch him, but they were so young (21 and 18). I am still trying to grasp the whole thing.....its been a hard pill to swallow....
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I'm so sorry about this! It's just awful. Thoughts and prayers to you.
@PhoebeJune1984 Wow, that's awful. I don't have anything helpful to say besides I'm sorry and do what you need to do to recover. I can't even imagine. Creepy internet hugs for you and your friend.
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So random question. Do you plan on having your partner stay in the hospital with you overnight or is he going home? DH was thinking he'd go home at night (obviously once the baby was born) and I was under the impression that he'd arrive when I did and leave when I do. Jus curious what everyone else is doing.
So random question. Do you plan on having your partner stay in the hospital with you overnight or is he going home? DH was thinking he'd go home at night (obviously once the baby was born) and I was under the impression that he'd arrive when I did and leave when I do. Jus curious what everyone else is doing
My hubby is planning on staying. He already was, but then I reiterated the point... I have serious hospital problems since my husband had a heart attack and spend 6 nights in the CCU and heart attack wing. I spent every night day and night there with him because we weren't sure he'd make it. Now when I go into hospitals, I always have flashbacks and it scares me.
Im sure he'd plan on staying even if it weren't for that though. I have Kaiser and they have comfy cots and chairs for husbands/wives.
@PhoebeJune1984 holy crap! That is awful! I hope they catch the roommate. Sorry about your loss.
@Shelby00519 haven't spoken to the husband about it, but he will be staying at the hospital. I find it odd that your husband thought he could just leave.
@Shelby00519 my husband will definitely be staying. We haven't talked about it but I can't imagine that he would want to leave? And I definitely don't want him to, so in my mind it's a settled decision.
@shelby00519 My husband only left my side two VERY short periods of time when I had my first baby. He went home to feed our dogs and came right back. He was very helpful with diaper changes and handing the baby to me for feedings. It was hard getting in and out of bed and I had just given birth, I needed SOME rest.
@Shelby00519 Like PPs, hubby is staying too. I'll def need the support. Maybe he thinks he's not allowed? You can check with the hospital and see if they'll provide a cot for him
@Shelby00519 my DH stayed with for our first except a few quick trips to get food and things.
However this time I want him to go home after LO is born. I would rather he was with DD than my MIL. Not that there is any wrong with MIL, I just know it will be a lot of chaos for DD and it would make it easier if DH was home with her. But, he disagrees with me, so he will most likely be staying as many nights as I do (2 not including labor last time).
@shelby00519 with my other births he stayed with me the first night and went home the second. I'd be cranky if he left me, especially if this is your first.
Thanks ladies. We aren't going to be seeing our friend until the memorial, as we are sure that they are swamped with calls/text/visitors, and want to give them space to grieve...but it will be hard to see them. @blissylissy86 they did catch the roommate, the following morning. There was a manhunt for him throughout central OR, and they found him the following morning. Last I heard, he has like five (different) counts against him for these murders.
So random question. Do you plan on having your partner stay in the hospital with you overnight or is he going home? DH was thinking he'd go home at night (obviously once the baby was born) and I was under the impression that he'd arrive when I did and leave when I do. Jus curious what everyone else is doing.
With my first, MH was there the whole time (I was there for five days, start to finish), except for leaving once to run home and grab something (we only lived 15min away). This time, if we were delivering at the same hospital, I would have no issues with MH spending most of the day with DD, and being at the hospital at night. But since we aren't delivering at the same hospital, he will most likely stay most of the time, except to maybe go home once a day to shower and get some work done (so he would be gone maybe three hours). He works in sales and has his own company, so he can't really take time off....and this hospital is further away than the other. So it isn't like it would be a quick trip home and back...it is a 30-40min drive (depending on traffic....it could take up to 1.5 hours during rush hour).
Mine will still, with my son he stayed and only left in the morning to shower and then would bring some stuff home with him so we didnt have to haul everything our last day.
His reasons for leaving were because his Dad did with his sister (She's only 6 so it wasn't that long ago) and because he'll need to shower. Knowing my husband he might have been joking to get a reaction from me but then it got me thinking.
So random question. Do you plan on having your partner stay in the hospital with you overnight or is he going home? DH was thinking he'd go home at night (obviously once the baby was born) and I was under the impression that he'd arrive when I did and leave when I do. Jus curious what everyone else is doing.
MH stayed the entire time. My MIL would spend the night at our house to feed and water the dogs. This time around, I'm not sure how it will work. In his previous job, he was salaried and got a week of paternity leave. This time around he's a contractor, so technically he can take off as long as he wants, but when he doesn't work, he doesn't get paid. I'm assuming DS will stay with my parents, and my mom will bring him up to the hospital to meet his little brother during the days.
@Shelby00519 Spouses were not allowed to stay overnight in the hospital I delivered in unless you had a private room. Because DS was in NICU I was not given a private room because I didn't have a baby with me. I was there for 5 days and I cried every night when DH left at 11pm. He was usually back by 7 am but it sucked.
My hubby only left for an hour (scariest hour ever) to go get snacks and shower at home. He totally could have showered at the hospital though. He better stay again this time. I had a c-section so getting out of bed was hard without any assistance. I depending on him for everything.
Shelby00519 My husband stayed with me every night. I had a C-section so there were times in the night I was unable to sit up quickly to get the baby and needed help.
@shelby00519 My husband stuck with me. And I assume he will again. Unless some emergency etc has him needing to do something for the other kids. Although, I'm planning a homebirth. So it's not a hospital stay. Just no running around and leaving me alone.
Speaking of DH... He is having a hard time grasping that this is just how much cloth diapers cost. We are going with one size fitteds so it's not as cheap as prefolds or some diapers that come in varying sizes, but it's more practical and means we don't have to buy more later. So we're going to slowly build the stash. And I'll buy a few cute ones NIP right out after I finish my "job" this month pimping out a friend's business.
My fiance stayed the whole time except to leave for food, see other visitors while baby and I napped, and so on. I'm having a c section this time and though I wish he'd stay someone has to stay at home with our daughter and my future MIL would but I think it'll take 2 people to keep her calm while I'm gone. I'll miss the hospital help. With our first I didn't change a diaper until we got home lol it'll be so different this time.
@shelby00519 My husband will be staying. I did ask him what he wanted to do, just to make sure we are on the same page, and he said he was coming home to toss back a whiskey and play x-box. Then called me a dumbass (in an affectionate way)
With my first he stayed but left early the next morning. With my second and third he went home to help with my older ones. He will probably be going home again this go around.
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@PhoebeJune1984 So sorry for your loss. That's horrible. Glad they caught the guy who did it and I hope you and your friends can find some peace.
@Shelby00519 DH and I will most likely both be leaving 3-6 hours after baby is born since we're planning on birthing at a birthing center and they generally discharge the whole family 3-6 hours PP. If for some reason we end up at a hospital I know DH would refuse to leave my side or LO for a second. I really hope it doesn't come to that because I can't see that scenario playing out peacefully.
@PhoebeJune1984 I am so sorry to hear that. I had two friends murdered in grade school and I still have some issues with it to this day. I hope everyone is doing okay, hang in there.
@Shelby00519 Hubby will be staying with me except for needing to run errands and such. Our hospital has all private rooms with couch-beds for loved ones and I plan on keeping him close for the first baby. We will see though as our dogs are our babies too and will be a wreck without us.
I'm getting super annoyed.. I've been trying to book a hotel or B&B for DH's birthday/our anniversary/babymoon in April, but every place I'm checking requires a 2 night stay. We aren't able to stay the Friday night because we are going to my dad's surprise 50th birthday party, and we both work on Monday so Saturday is the only night we can do it. Dumb hormones made me cry after calling the 5th place we loved that required 2 nights. This one Saturday in April is the only weekend we can do it.. I will probably just give up and we will end up staying home.
I did a search to see if there were any other threads on this topic and didn't find one, so please forgive me if this has been discussed already and I missed it! I had my A/S last Wednesday - we got to see our LO moving all about, which is always fantastic! My OB's nurse called this evening with the results saying that everything looked great - that it was the confirmation they were looking for based on my quad screen results. She did note, though, that the baby was breech. I understand that he is still small and has room to swim around, but I am curious - of the BTDT moms out there, if they noted your baby was breech at your A/S, did your LO turn themselves around and get ready to "head" out by the time you were full term and/or at go-time? If my son was breech at his 20-wk scan, I don't recall it being a comment from the doctor. I have an appt with my OB on Wednesday where she'll go back through the results and I will ask my questions, but I was hoping to get some bump-mamas input on their experiences. TIA!
Oh and if anyone has ever seen 30 Rock.. Here is a Leap Day William gif to make this extra day that happened to fall on a Monday maybe a little better. I know I needed it today!
@soberkfell I'm a FTM, but my son was breach at my A/S last week. The ultrasound tech said its really common right now and that just happens to be how he was positioned. I asked if it was ok and she didn't seem at all concerned.
Many OB didn't even bring it up at my follow up appointment.
Maybe I'm naive, but I'm just going with thinking it's all fine and dandy. I figure they'll bring it up if they're concerned at the next ultrasound.
@soberkfell My baby was breech too and I asked and the tech said this early they flip different directions all the time and it doesn't mean anything. They usually turn close to due date and if they're breech in the end it can pose a problem but this early the position didn't matter. Anyone else run into this?
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Im sure he'd plan on staying even if it weren't for that though. I have Kaiser and they have comfy cots and chairs for husbands/wives.
@Shelby00519 haven't spoken to the husband about it, but he will be staying at the hospital. I find it odd that your husband thought he could just leave.
He was very helpful with diaper changes and handing the baby to me for feedings. It was hard getting in and out of bed and I had just given birth, I needed SOME rest.
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@shelby00519 with my other births he stayed with me the first night and went home the second. I'd be cranky if he left me, especially if this is your first.
With my first, MH was there the whole time (I was there for five days, start to finish), except for leaving once to run home and grab something (we only lived 15min away). This time, if we were delivering at the same hospital, I would have no issues with MH spending most of the day with DD, and being at the hospital at night. But since we aren't delivering at the same hospital, he will most likely stay most of the time, except to maybe go home once a day to shower and get some work done (so he would be gone maybe three hours). He works in sales and has his own company, so he can't really take time off....and this hospital is further away than the other. So it isn't like it would be a quick trip home and back...it is a 30-40min drive (depending on traffic....it could take up to 1.5 hours during rush hour).
@Shelby00519 Spouses were not allowed to stay overnight in the hospital I delivered in unless you had a private room. Because DS was in NICU I was not given a private room because I didn't have a baby with me. I was there for 5 days and I cried every night when DH left at 11pm. He was usually back by 7 am but it sucked.
@shelby00519 My husband stuck with me. And I assume he will again. Unless some emergency etc has him needing to do something for the other kids. Although, I'm planning a homebirth. So it's not a hospital stay. Just no running around and leaving me alone.
Speaking of DH... He is having a hard time grasping that this is just how much cloth diapers cost. We are going with one size fitteds so it's not as cheap as prefolds or some diapers that come in varying sizes, but it's more practical and means we don't have to buy more later. So we're going to slowly build the stash. And I'll buy a few cute ones NIP right out after I finish my "job" this month pimping out a friend's business.
@shelby00519 My husband will be staying. I did ask him what he wanted to do, just to make sure we are on the same page, and he said he was coming home to toss back a whiskey and play x-box. Then called me a dumbass (in an affectionate way)
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@Shelby00519 DH and I will most likely both be leaving 3-6 hours after baby is born since we're planning on birthing at a birthing center and they generally discharge the whole family 3-6 hours PP. If for some reason we end up at a hospital I know DH would refuse to leave my side or LO for a second. I really hope it doesn't come to that because I can't see that scenario playing out peacefully.
@Shelby00519 Hubby will be staying with me except for needing to run errands and such. Our hospital has all private rooms with couch-beds for loved ones and I plan on keeping him close for the first baby. We will see though as our dogs are our babies too and will be a wreck without us.
Many OB didn't even bring it up at my follow up appointment.
Maybe I'm naive, but I'm just going with thinking it's all fine and dandy. I figure they'll bring it up if they're concerned at the next ultrasound.