@schmooie730 Hang in there, I know how that feels. Also, I hope he's very careful about mosquitoes - I'm hearing that zika is in Costa Rica, and it can be sexually transmitted to you if he gets it.
He will be. Thankfully the resort is sprayed and shouldn't have mosquitos. He will be doing one excursion to a volcano but it shouldn't be too bad. And I'm on pelvic rest anyway so no sex for us most likely for the rest of the pregnancy.
Got chewed out by two different moms tonight at work for overbookings my coworker did that I had to fix. Thankfully both were over the phone so I was able to hang up and go to the back office to calm down. But seriously- your kid's make-up swim lesson got pushed back a half hour, that is nothing to lose your sh!t about.
I was looking at baby clothes online and saw a bodysuit that said "Worth the wait" (we were ttc for five years). Then I started to cry, showed it my husband and he started to cry. Now I'm crying again.
@maddmama I think since I started being able to feel him moving around the fear has been vanishing and my husband and I have become giant balls of mush all the time, haha
My DH, who never remembers his dreams, told me he had one last night where we found out we were having a little girl & that he cried. He is not a crier. He is going to be such a great daddy (regardless of the sex of this bb)!
Anyone else still watch American Idol? Well Kelly Clarkson was on last night and sang a heartbreaking song about her shitty dad ... and she's currently pregnant so add that to why she started crying ... I lost it. Was sobbbbbing. So was everyone else, Keith Urban was crying buckets from the judge table. So at least it wasn't just my pregnant self.
Anyone else still watch American Idol? Well Kelly Clarkson was on last night and sang a heartbreaking song about her shitty dad ... and she's currently pregnant so add that to why she started crying ... I lost it. Was sobbbbbing. So was everyone else, Keith Urban was crying buckets from the judge table. So at least it wasn't just my pregnant self.
OMG no I don't watch it on TV but a friend of mine put it on Facebook and spoke about how much it parallels her personal life and how she's so grateful for a stepfather that took in her, her sister and mom after rejection from her birth father - Then I watched the video and double lost it!
I drove my new car off the lot last night and couldn't figure out how to turn off the dome lights that my husband had been messing with at the dealership. I sobbed for a few miles. F'ing hormones.
My husband was leaving for work and he said "bye baby" (he calls me baby) then stopped, kissed my belly and said "bye baby" to my belly. It was still adorable and I definitely got misty-eyed.
The sheer lack of people we know near us just hit me today. Zero peer friends, and we have no idea how to meet peers without spending money. The shock of the fact that I've exchanged words with pretty much no one besides my husband for a month (save for maybe 5 phone calls) was daunting.
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@RideNRunMomma I feel you on that. All of our college friends are still living the single life with going out every night and living in the cool part of downtown. We have literally one couple who we can talk property taxes, baby gear, house projects, all that kind of stuff with. It can be really lonely...
@theshannondee We just moved cross country and we're trying to save money. We don't have friends here, and until LO arrives, I don't really know how to meet any? I talk to my BFF every week or so and my mom once or twice a month, other than that, I have DH to speak with and see. He at least plays video games with his friends for at least a little while most days. It's still a conversation but there's a little interacting with each other. I just want to hang out with people. So isolated!
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
Watching Forrest Gump while pregnant = a terrible idea unless you need a good ugly cry in which case it's a great idea.
When I was in labor with DS, this movie was on the hospital TV on repeat all night long. I watched it twice in a row and labored before I finally okayed the epidural at 4:30am. So though I love that movie, it will forever remind me of a world of pain in the wee hours of the morning.
Maybe I should bring it with me to the hospital this time around for old time's sake!
Crying today because my doctor told me not to gain any more weight during the rest of this pregnancy. First of all, I think that's impossible and I feel like it's setting me up for failure. And second because now I feel like I've done a terrible thing to my baby before it's even born. Instead of being proactive about this, I am just sitting here feeling sorry for myself.
@sboston06 that does sound completely impossible. Even if your body itself doesn't gain weight, your LO still has 7 ish pounds to go. So unless you lose 7 lbs of your own weight while LO gains theirs AND you don't gain any water weight/swell...it's impossible. That sounds like a bad plan. I'm sorry. Seems like there should be a way to set up a plan for weight that's at least realistic.
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@RideNRunMomma - thank you for your support! I am going to try to reframe and focus on what I can do, whether I gain a little or no more at all. I do want to be in a healthy position to give birth in a few months. I will try to get more vegetables worked into my day (already eat a ton of fruit), drink more water and exercise more especially now that the weather is nicer. I don't think I would have received any sort of weight comments kindly before I was pregnant either, but the hormones made my reaction a little over the top.
@sboston06 You're allowed to have an initial freak out! Some of our favorite ways to sneak in veg include putting a little spinach in EVERYTHING we made. How much depends on how strong a flavor it has, but I even toss some in the last 60 seconds I'm boiling noodles for mac & cheese. I also specifically try to limit the meat in our dinners a little and sub in broccoli as part of it. Mostly because I know we get enough protein. We will sub in egg for meat in our stir fry dishes, and cut down on all sauces for food. Use plenty of dry seasonings, but take out liquid condiments. It all adds up. Last time I made chili I even did only 1/2 the normal ground beef and made up the other half with eggplant - the texture is OK and in chili it just tastes like chili - I didn't even notice it was there. If you want, I can brain storm and put together more ideas. I also know of a few blogs with veg-heavy recipes featured!
Slowing your weight gain is doable. I think stopping all gain sounds potentially harmful and definitely harsh - regardless of what size you were pre-pregnancy and how much you've gained since!
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@sboston06 hang in there! My doc made comments to me about exercising and watching my carbs and I felt terrible. Don't be so hard on yourself. I agree with @RideNRunMomma 's posts too. I'm trying to watch my weight and I'm goign to implement her tips and try to walk for at least half an hour each night.
Today, my pregnant self is crying because the grouchy ass old manager at Walmart doesn't know WIC stuff like she should, and the other old bat going off shift agreed with her. I have studied meticulously and talked with both different stores (before) and WIC, to know exactly who's right in these situations. I know what I can get, including the things that are vague, but WIC always pays for. All I wanted was the stupid WIC cereal (listed as pre-approved IN my voucher) that I was craving for days. Made DH drive me over 30 minutes (we live WAY in the middle of the country) so I could get my freakin cereal and milk, just to end up in a huge fight with this old bat. And instead, standing in the middle of the cereal aisle crying, as I try to force myself to pick cereal that I don't want because DH and DD are waiting. I am too hormonal for people to not know their shit smh.
my friend implied that I was a shitty mom for scheduling my dissertation defense date before the baby arrives because I'll be putting undue stress on myself and the baby. I want to defend before so that i can graduate, get a job and contribute more to my household which includes taking care of LO. Of course this baby is a priority over everything else but I see nothing wrong with trying to get my Ph.D. before she arrives. I'm totally all in my feelings right now.
@Heathereaddy i have a feeling that us new moms will have a lot of people trying to make us think we're doing things wrong, not to mention ourselves making us think that sometimes too! I'm glad you are doing what you know is best for you and your family - and early congrats on the PhD!!
@HeathereaddyYou should tell your friend that the alternative would be taking time away from your newborn. I worked up until a week before my DS was born, 16-20-hour days, plus a few all-nighters. It was pretty stressful at times, but it never felt physically straining. You know what you can handle, and I think your baby will let you know if it's too much. Good luck on your dissertation!
I had a good cry this morning because I heard the song You Should Be Here by Cole Swindle. BIL passed at 22, I'd give anything for my husband to have his big brother back. Fuck. Here come the tears again!
I'm crying because my little one (2.5 years) is having bad dreams and is taking 2 hours to put to bed, plus waking every 1.5/2 hours all night. It's been going on for weeks and isn't getting better. She's exhausted during the day with red rings around her eyes.
We are now cosleeping with her. She still has the bad dreams but it takes less time to calm her down. It's just so heartbreaking to watch. I know it's normal for her age, but it's sad and I'm TIRED.
I went grocery shopping while hungry, bought a bag of cheddar cheese Combos, and ate the whole thing on the car ride home. Now I'm sobbing because a) poor food choices and b) my stomach feels all gassy and sick.
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July'16 BMB May Siggy Challenge - Star Wars:
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
When I was in labor with DS, this movie was on the hospital TV on repeat all night long. I watched it twice in a row and labored before I finally okayed the epidural at 4:30am. So though I love that movie, it will forever remind me of a world of pain in the wee hours of the morning.
Maybe I should bring it with me to the hospital this time around for old time's sake!
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
Slowing your weight gain is doable. I think stopping all gain sounds potentially harmful and definitely harsh - regardless of what size you were pre-pregnancy and how much you've gained since!
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
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My fiance told her about it and now I find out there's a box full of chocolate heading to the states for me. Crying more.
We are now cosleeping with her. She still has the bad dreams but it takes less time to calm her down. It's just so heartbreaking to watch. I know it's normal for her age, but it's sad and I'm TIRED.